Tyler Robinson

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I'm saying that women that panic....that's not healthy or natural for them, they are out of balance....and men don't want that or are they attracted to that....they want a woman that is light-hearted and relaxed.... a balanced woman.... Relaxation, calmness, meditation....that's masculine. When a woman has those qualities that balance their feminine energy it gives them emotional control....and that is extremely attractive. Men don't want the drama, or the manipulation, or wild swinging emotions....but the balance in a healthy emotional woman...will not be like that.

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So you think that testosterone has no role to play?

I'm not saying everything is in all black and white here and that all women and men are like this because that isn't true. I'm referring to feminine and masculine energy. The Yin and Yang. Feminine energy in general is very much in the present moment. It consists of laughter, fun, humor, being spontaneous, adventurous....these are present moment qualities. Masculine is logic, structured, thinking, and planning, integrity.......these are future qualities. Feminine and masculine are POLAR opposites. No person is completely feminine or completely masculine. But I'm saying that the women out there that are too much in the present moment (obviously this is not all women)....and don't plan their life out....have a life purpose...learn to have emotional control (which is a masculine quality) are going to have issues. And the men (not all men) that are very goal oriented, and continuously planning, focusing on the future....but aren't in the present moment (a feminine quality) aren't really going to be enjoying life either. I'm saying that relationships that are based on polarity can be successful and loving relationships. The natural good qualities that each sex possesses (when they are their best selves) can enhance and bring harmony to the relationship.

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Much of the stuff was in relation to workplace politics in terms of male female dynamics. And men are usually favored more over women by industry leaders since men churn out more profit than women. This forum is also a good example. Leo's demograph is mostly male, his profit maker, so everything here, even the dating section is mostly catering to men and their needs. Even if women said something, which they rarely do, they're usually shut down or not taken seriously, the reason women don't feel like posting here or they stop positing after a while. The forum is a small microcosm of the world.

No single quality or attribute can definitively categorise a man as a man, or as powerful. Rather, it is the collection of such that provides the complete image that allows an instinctive judgement to be made. But I will try my best to elaborate. A man knows what he wants from life and can steadfastly hold to that through thick and thin until he deliberately changes his mind. He will pursue that thing and let nobody stand in his way, which gives him tremendous personal power that is perceived by other men, commanding respect as a result. He is assertive. Respect is also a good indicator. A man who doesn’t respect himself cannot be respected by others- his ideas, desires, input, boundaries, resources, rules etc. are all insecure when he cannot enforce his will on them. He will let others, men and women, make decisions for him regarding the things he should have agency over. Good with women and has high sexual energy. This doesn’t mean he’s a pickup artist or walks around in a sweat all day. It means he brings energy to a room. He get people’s attention in a non-needy way. We feel comfortable around a guy like this and feel like there’s something to be learned from him. His energy comes from a grounded place that is in touch with his biology and genetic makeup as a man. He is a complete person in touch with his sexuality. Doesn’t whinge, whine or complain, doesn’t gossip or put others down to make himself better, but can give shit to others in a fun way that is endearing to both parties and at the same time subtly establishes himself as the more dominant one in the relationship. Never affected by what others think of him or say to him. Non-reactive with an air of joviality. Most men these days aren't like this. It is a sad reality and I fear it’s only getting worse. Society, pop culture, the media, hardcore feminists, academia and even men themselves continue to dishonour and discredit masculinity. They are taught that masculinity is all in the mind, nurture not nature, that men are inherently violent and sex obsessed. So from a young age the desire to grow out of boy thinking and into a man is psychologically beaten out of them. They avoid being assertive for fear of offending, they expect good things to come their way without putting in the hard work, they cut themselves off sexually, they whinge, whine and complain and act like little boys, they are listless and apathetic to the world around them, their motivations around money vs contribution are all skewed, i could go on and on… I don’t think much is going to change until as a collective species we recognise the innate differences between men and women, that masculinity and femininity are biological and psychologically hard wired, and that men and women are complimentary to one another, not competitors. We need to return to that understanding that our ancestors so naturally perceived and start celebrating our differences. Men need to be honoured for their manhood and supported in their journey towards full expression of it.

Proserpina is mentally ill. I'm mentally ill. Loba is mentally ill.. But look at us. We do better than 99% of the forum. We work hard, we have great insights to offer and we are liked by people and nobody can say we don't have brains. In fact we are in the top 10 geniuses of the forum. It's a shame that Leo and others look down on mentally ill people when mentally ill people literally run this forum and make it a beautiful place Aww shucks

This forum is not a place that can help you because this is online. Words can only do so much. If being on this forum for so long hasn't caused any positive change in you, chances are that being here long term might not help either. You need psychiatric help. Only you can help yourself, nobody can. You need serious treatment because you're very unstable. Real world help not some online words. But you don't like to be challenged or confronted with the truth, it hurts your pride/ego. Soon you'll delete this thread like you delete others.

I think maybe a confident man who is not afraid to pose interesting questions would make me feel really high, because he would be allowing me insight into alternative realities that I had never thought of before. But there is a very fine line here! If you question a woman too much she will begin to become consumed by self-doubt, and resent you for yanking the carpet out from under her (especially if you come across as insulting her on the very ground upon which she is standing). I really have to wonder about this whole phenomenon, because I want to find a partner who causes me to be the best me possible, but I have to admit, this might be kind of tricky if you don't know what my best me looks like. I suppose I would prefer a guy who is not afraid to pose alternative understandings, but also is willing to back the f off, and let me have my space to weave together both of our conceptualizations.

Someone who can laugh at themselves, is open minded about others, who seeks to understand, tries to be non-judgmental, is thoughtful of others, encourages others to be better at who they are, can appreciate all the wonders this life has to offer, and a willingness to share on a level where they are willing to expose their vulnerability. I want to see strength and peace from within - contentment perhaps.

Attractive traits in men: Ability to write and communicate. Intellectually curious: Reads, researches problems, and teaches me new things. Mature appreciation of women: Doesn't talk about women like they're cars, rating them 1-10. Creative, wacky sense of humor: Sex is great but sex jokes are annoying because they're formulaic and predictable. Strong: Follows through on what he says. Says what he means. Productive outlook on life: A healthy, kind lifestyle so he doesn't lead me into Hell. There are no achievements that I really value, except that I have finally learned not to date someone less educated. It just doesn't work out in the real world. I don't care about how much money he makes. People say that and don't mean it, but I really don't. I also try to cultivate these things in myself and understand that I will attract what I deserve. This includes a mature outlook on men. I love men, what they give to me, what they give to society, and how they balance us. They are different from me and that's ok. That's good. I try to respect them for that.

Most relationships are built on selfish desires, because the ego wants to feel safe, it wants to have comfort, it wants to use people, it wants its needs met, it wants to trade and make business to achieve sth and so on. No need to lose trust in people because of this. It is in peoples nature, so forgive them. Forgive their ego, for they don't know what they are doing. They only want to survive and get the most out of life for themselves and they are running on autopilot. It's human. You as a wise man can be better tho, you can use relationships to spread love and make everyone feel better because they have come in contact with you. Without wanting anything back, you can be independend and completely detached. But please don't become a victim and a doormat and a people pleaser. Don't let people abuse you and leech off of you

Ultimately, every motive a person (or any lifeform) has is in some way self-serving. Othewise, what would be the reason to act? Every action benefits the 'self'. Whether it is breathing, eating, walking from a to b, earning money, buying material things, having sex or entering a realtionship. 'Relationship', incidentaly, is just a label. Take the label away and consider what it really is. And do the same with 'love'. We attribute a whole framework of beliefs and protocols around these labels. Most of which are self-serving. We attribute more to the frameworks of these concepts than we do to the reality of what is actually going on. What they really mean. People don't really pursue a 'relationship', they persue the conceptual framework that we attribute to the label. A framework that comes loaded with self-serving benefits. Why do you think that relationships cause so much pain and suffering throughout our species and are inherently unreliable? Because when people aren't getting what they want out of it, it starts to become an ego battle. Just ask yourself why you want a relationship, what you expect out of it. What is it you want from a partner? What you are looking for. These are the self-serving motives that drive people to do it. And for anyone who is already in a relationship, consider what you will lose if the realtionship ended. Right there are your self-serving motives. But self-agenda is an inevitable, inehrent, part of life. You can't escape it. But it isn't something to be condemned. It is something to be accepted. As once you accept that this is how everyone is living their lives you become instantly more loving and authentic towards them as you can no longer judge or criticise another being. From this paradigm, people can stop the ego battles and have more authentic relationships. We are conditioned to belief that selfish interests are a 'bad' thing. But this entire paradigm comes from a selfish self-interest. The concept of selfishness is supposed to be perceived this way as it is self-serving by its very nature. However it is unavoidable. Provided that noone is harming another, self-interest is a natural, inevitable and healthy motivation.

What will you call a guy who wants to have sex with you forever? I don't know. I saw him in my dreams. He wanted to snatch me from my boyfriend He wanted me to belong to him. I'm not sure if I would be happy with such men.

Maybe they just want to debate you. What's your problem though?

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I've wondered this for a very long time and it makes sense and seems pretty obvious when I think about it, that everything that everyone does is in the belief that they will gain something out of it. But then when it comes to thinking about relationships i can only think that its for the same reason, people only seek relationships with people in the belief that they will gain something out of it wealth, sex, emotional comfort, status and etc but people just call that love, it kind of makes me wonder what love really is. And if people stop providing what the other person seeks then they have problems and break up. It makes you wonder whether love and relationships are just built on selfish beliefs of what people are gaining from them, and for that reason surely that's something that could be feeding your own egos. And not just relationships in terms of sexual relationships, but also in terms of friends and family too. And if you stopped providing for them emotionally or physically somehow I'm sure they would think less of you? Is there another way of looking at what relationships really are besides that? Because it kind of bastardises my trust in people when you think about it

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We see the "badboy" getting women and assume that "okay, this is how I must have to act". When in reality, there are underlying behaviors that the badboy might exhibit from time to time that make him attractive, but the entire strategy isn't what is winning him women. Vulnerability or "being nice" will make you crush it with women. So it's useless advice even if it's true. Here's some: When you meet a woman, she wants a man who she feels simultaneously wants her, yet doesn't NEED her at all. It's kind of attitude you usually have when you're just having fun with your friends. Things are good, and nothing necessarily needs to happen for you to have a nice time. Fall too far to one side of not giving a shit, and you're an asshole. Fall too far to one side of wanting her, and you come across as a needy pathetic nice guy. The badboy isn't needy, and that's why he does well when he does. But actually, most guys are complete assholes are not at all doing the best with women because the girl eventually feels like this guy just doesn't care at all. Guys THINK that material things like money, looks etc are what causing the girl to like you. So we spend our lives trying to manipulate our circumstances to meet what we think women want. But the reality is that when these things work, it's really because you psychologically allowed yourself to act in the way described. And you can alter your identity to where acting like this is just feels completely natural. It's just "who you are". What sort of behaviors does a man who is in this mental head space tend to exhibit? 1) He's RELAXED and AT EASE WITH HIMSELF 2) He's not afraid to offend someone if deemed necessary 3) GIVING good emotions to other people 4) Laughter, having fun 5) Other women around him or seeking his approval 6) Being a leader 7) Knows how to make himself feel good 8) Not afraid to put their full personality and desires out there 9) Knows what he wants And I could go on and on. Don't get me wrong, I'm just presenting a model here. There will be lots of nuances and special cases. For instance, some women are more validation hungry than others and so will often go after guys who withhold validation more. But, generally this is how it's done. Now let's circle back to our original thesis, which was that being vulnerable is effective with women. Notice that many of the traits I listed could be defined as "being vulnerable". BUT it's being vulnerable in a very different way. We've pulled away false assumptions, like that you need to be afraid of rejection. So vulnerability takes on a much different meaning.

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I was listening to a talk by Alain de Botton on romanticism and I realized how deep this goes . We think that the romantic way is the only healthy way to love , yet we never question it . We have been deeply influenced by media ( songs , movies , novels ) and society . I'm not saying that it is wrong / evil I just started to question the idea . Romanticism has several key features like : " Somewhere out there , we will find our true love " , " True love means understanding w/o the need to use words , and if you don't understand me you don't love me " , " When we will meet our true love , we will not be alone anymore ". Such fatalistic ideas lol . This guy is brilliant .

I like dummy guys. They are so simple and I value simplicity which is a hard commodity these days. Also my father worked in construction and factory work. Maybe that's why I am so attracted to Blue Collar factory guys. They are loyal to their wives, just like my dad was loyal to my mom till the end of his life. And they have a lot of compassion. They are not like Eckhart Tolle. But a different kind of stage BLUE compassion. It's not like they don't have expectations. I don't have a problem with a man wanting authority in a relationship with me. I'm extremely subservient in a relationship and I can give all the authority to a man in a relationship, though I won't act like that around other men, they are not my husbands so zero obligation. But I would make a docile wife. I really want the man to take charge and own me. However most men these days are very feminine both in appearance and behavior, I'm no longer attracted to such men, they want a dominating career oriented woman and I don't fit that bill. So it's kinda hard to find matured, independent, dominant men The world stopped producing them long ago because of technology and easy life. Death of masculinity. Death of femininity. Where there is no master, there is no follower.