Tyler Robinson

That's your projection sorry. But for me it serves as a healing place. I'm going to do what serves my best purpose. If journaling helps me then I'll do that. Trauma takes years to heal and sometimes decades. Read online on how journaling helps people and you'll have a better idea. And public journaling has great benefits. But this website has ruined this important healing function by not providing adequate autonomy to users on who can comment and who can't.

I'm asking for the ability to control who can comment. I didn't say absolutely zero commenting. There are some who might want feedback. There are others who don't. If we are given the power to delete comments in our own journals, isn't that helpful? It serves both purposes. People who wish to interact with other users can do so as much as they please. But those who don't want will be able to stop such intrusions either by deleting those comments or by switching off those who they don't want to be commenting on the journal. I did not say that nobody should be able to comment on any journal at all. I said to give us some sort of autonomy to control our own content and who can comment. Heck if you start a YouTube channel even there you have control over who can comment on your channel and delete bad negative comments. Why should this place be different? Also it is incredibly annoying and cumbersome that everytime someone leaves a toxic comment, we have to run to mods to stop the user. Are we children? It's an incredibly childish to constantly complain to mods about every little thing. Some new user comes to the forum and then starts commenting on journals. This happens every week.. Why can't we be a bit more matured and be given some autonomy over our content so we don't have to run around like children complaining to mods for our privacy. Sorry but this is incredibly childish and annoying

I already stated how public journaling is much more helpful to me than private journaling. I would have done private journaling if that was helpful. I have to do what's helpful to me versus what is helpful to the general population. I'm not holding mods accountable. I'm asking them to improve the place for mentally ill people. Otherwise it feels like this place has zero empathy for mentally ill people, no wonder this place saw a bunch of suicides in the past. I'm not asking for therapy. It is so unusual. Even in real life, people are automatically expected to show empathy to mentally ill people, then why should this place be exempt from such obligations? Every community is supposed to be safe. No one is asking for therapy. I'm asking for privacy and space and not therapy. The journaling itself is the therapy for me. Even my therapist actually advised me to journal long term because even they are not fully equipped to deal with the burden of my problems.. This website claims self help. So when I am asking for tools that will contribute to my self help which is as simple as asking for space and privacy, why I'm being constantly denied this basic tool and constantly being gaslighted instead as though I'm demanding for something huge? Is this really such a big deal that this simple basic demand cannot be fulfilled? Please ask others if this is such a big demand.

@LastThursday I request you to make everyone on this thread understand why the journal function is important to us and how Intrusive comments can ruin our healing experience. Thanks.

As you can see above I'm not the only dealing with this endemic problem that is a big source of our misery on the forum. Other journalers too. Let me tell you. A few days ago a user called Mighty Dao was being followed by the user @thisintegrated. They followed their journal. The user felt nervous and threatened and left soon after that. That user has also been a victim of trauma. It is users like us who are being chased out of the forum. Now the user hasn't come back in days since the incident. Because they obviously feel intruded on, threatened and anxious. We feel very insecure. We are a minority on the forum and this is the place we rely on. This user has also deleted their journals on several occasions after they were followed by people trying to bug them It takes a lot of effort to write and maintain a journal. It's a place where we're most vulnerable about our problems. And when someone follows or comments on the journal, we can feel anxious and end up deleting entire journals and losing all our effort that we had been putting in for months. This is a harrowing experience.

I'm awkwardly surprised when someone says that - We've already put in a lot of work catering to protect you, Really where is the effort? Please show me. All I have been begging for through the years is a way to stop people from commenting on journals so journalers can get some peace of mind. When was the last time this was properly addressed? If the issue is not an endemic issue on this forum, then why was another mod speaking about it here, This mod has clearly stated that this is a regular problem so I'm not the only one experiencing this, although I'm more vulnerable to it than others but others are frustrated too, so I'm not the only one. The mod states - I think a little bit of phone user experience optimisation when tagging users. That function misbehaves often on a phone and tagged names usually cannot be deleted. Maybe quick tips section for new users including some key navigation points. Or maybe a short intro video for new users made by you? A button "Privatise" in journal section that will lock the journal from ability to comment but can still be modded if the user shit talks about other members. OR The ability for journal owner to delete comments from other users. And if that wasn't enough than what about this comment from another user - ..... For the forum at least by balancing out the demographic (I know, easier said than done). Of course the ideal being a one to one female to male ratio, and a wider spread of ages. More female mods maybe? Banning the use of the word "Leo" in forum topic titles. Banning the use of the phrase "I became enlightened" or the like in titles (boo! hiss! I know yeah yeah). And for the love of god being able to control who can post in your journal or even blocking everyone from posting in your journal. Personally I don't care about this, but others do very much. ... Because they have a desire to be "seen" and express themselves in a public space for their own satisfaction, but they just don't want the interaction. Imagine going to a park because you like open spaces and fresh air, but you don't want strangers coming up to you all the time asking who you are. As for features maybe certain folks don't want a theme park, just basic grass. Then why is this user Akashic complaining about the same - Thank you for all the work you've done on self improvement and spirituality Leo. And also, for this forum in general. They're all high quality and there's nothing else like them on YouTube really. Anyway, I'm wondering if you can add an option for the journal section to lock it from being commented or followed. It would be really helpful to prevent vandalizers and trolls from harassing the members. I hope you get to read this, and keep being amazing! @Leo Gura So much for putting great effort in catering to protect me that you mods cannot even implement a simple way of preventing Intrusive journal comments when me and other users have repeatedly been requesting this for years here. Still not a single thing implemented by you mods. Yet you are going to tell me that you put in effort to protect people. You cannot do just one thing a member (and others too) has been begging for for years. How do you even say that you are protecting people? In what way exactly? Even the most basic request is not being implemented. I'm gobsmacked. How many times have you sent a PSA in the journal section to not comment on journals and give warnings to people who comment. I haven't seen a single comment from mods about this.

You have to understand male containment. Read Teal Swan on male containment. A woman with fearful attachment style is probably traumatized. Their trust levels are significantly lower(than other females and the rest of the population) . They're very complicated to deal with. They hide their scars out of shame. They are wounded people. To have a proper relationship with them is going to be a 24/7 job. This does not mean that you can't be happy with them. But you have to put in extra hard work to reach a happy state with them. They will not express themselves openly. You will have to be extremely extremely extremely gentle with your communication with them and significantly lower your own inhibition and biases. Be extremely non judgemental with them. Cultivate trust. Extreme trust. You have to keep a solid bond. Such a relationship comes with huge responsibility. Since you cultivate such an enormously solid bond with that woman, you are automatically placed with the moral responsibility of not betraying the person or abusing this trust in any way. Not following this obligation can actually drive that person suicidal or insane because they are going to be totally dependent on you. They are going to be like emotional parasites and for you it will be an exhausting experience. But since you sign on the dotted line, you must take full responsibility going into a relationship with such a person. You have to be somewhat of a therapist along with being a partner to such people. If you aren't fully ready for such risk, then politely leave them. These are emotionally broken individuals. They are fearful, paranoid and neurotic. Either you help them all the way or simply leave them to their condition to deal on their own. But don't break trust and leave midway. It will do them more harm. A lot of men are attracted to broken emotional women. For valid reasons. It gives a sense of heroism and purpose to a man. It activates the man's saviour or protector instinct. Actually most men aren't able to handle such women but they find them very attractive. It does the woman disservice. She feels trapped because she is not getting what she exactly wants and yet she can't leave a guy she is addicted to My advice is that if there is no harmony in the relationship, it's best to leave, such relationships don't serve anyone and does the woman a lot of harm. Either put a ton of hard work in establishing proper communication with her or just dump her so that she can be liberated from the mess.

Thanks for understanding.

Dogmatic thinking. Black and white thinking. It's a kind of neurosis that most people aren't aware of, the self bias prevents it from showing up. The mind needs resolution of conflict, the mind desperately seeks closure and it doesn't want to entertain nuances because the mind seeks relief in conflict resolution. Knowing what's good, what's bad, what's right, what's wrong, is the nature of human deception since the mind wants it all laid out with no piece left indecipherable. This need causes dogmatic thinking. This is never more so relevant than when it comes to some acute and inflammatory political debates and subjects. The mind wants to pick sides. There's cognitive dissonance if it doesn't. The middle road is too difficult to stick to because it offers no clear cut destination. There's one way to calm yourself. By telling yourself that it's okay to be conflicted. Don't be upset. It's okay. Calm the voice of self bias. Objectivity lies in not judging things and not knowing the whole truth.

Please stop with the emotional blackmail I only asked you to leave me alone. I did not ask you to leave the forum. This is where I said I have a problem with your communication. You're constantly engaging in some form of psychological manipulative behavior to set me up and make me look like a bad person. That's what is making me anxious. You don't speak from good faith and cry victim when I raise a genuine concern The level of emotional aggression you're displaying towards me is just tremendously high and I can't handle it. Your behavior is out of line and abnormal. You need psychological help. Please seek treatment. I wish you the best.

@Tahuti I'm not asking you to leave the forum. You can enjoy talking to others. Just leave me out. Thanks.

It's one thing to argue with someone or make counter arguments and it's completely different to constantly follow a person's every post and keep sending negativity and moral judgement their way. The forum guidelines also does not allow constant criticism. Remember that. You're engaging in constant destructive criticism and it's impacting me mentally. You're not acting normal. Why am I not complaining about others? Why only you? Please reflect on your behavior.

I'm not having a problem with the entire forum as most people are empathetic, they care, they listen, they understand and then they immediately leave when requested. It's some stubborn persistent users whose behavior is very alarming and obsessive. Any normal human being might feel anxious by such obsession. Even normal folks complain about stalking. Here I'm mentally ill, obviously I'm going to feel much more panicky than normal folks. This is a spiritual forum. Spiritual folks are expected to show empathy and care. That's why I come here. I don't have problems with 99% of the people, just few users who I feel like are being very aggressive and insensitive to me.

The only thing I wish is that you should stop communicating with me on the forum and you're not doing that. You are not giving me that assurance. That is making me feel threatened. You're not having good intentions towards me.. You're constantly gaslighting me. This is psychological abuse.. You're purposely playing games with my mind. Leave me

Do not post your number. It is against forum guidelines. And please stop stalking me. I don't like talking to you you are the reason I made the thread. You have zero empathy for me. You are driving me insane with anxiety. Leave me alone please. I'm feeling stalked. I don't want to talk to you.

@Thought Art my problem is not about resting. My problem is that I just don't wish to be bothered on this forum, especially in my journal. That is all I request for. Thanks.

You're free to talk to others on the forum. But stop making me uncomfortable. I told you that I have anxiety and your posting style and tone of communication makes me anxious. Now stop mentioning me and I'm not going to reply to you. If you keep going on and on and disrespect me, I'll talk to mods. I'm sorry you leave me no option Treat others with care and stop with the gaslighting.

@Judy2 when I say I feel nervous tension, these are the kind of conversations that are driving me anxious. These kind of persistent aggressive behavior from some users who don't stop despite frequently requesting. They have zero respect for others boundaries. And keep defending themselves endlessly. Watch the conversation.

I don't want you following my every post on the forum, it produces anxiety in me. I ask you to leave me alone. By acting persistent, you are being aggressive.

You're gaslighting me. That's abusive. If I told a gentleman that he is making me feel nervous, he would instantly leave me alone for good instead of writing out paragraphs arguing with me. That's why I said you're persistent which makes me feel even more anxious. Please let me go. Please respect me and let me go

I'm not here to argue with you or anyone. And I do get along with lots of folks here who treat me very gently because they are more empathetic on average. I like to debate ideas with people who know how to argue without raising my anxiety but you aren't like that. Others don't treat me the way you do. I'm fine with 99% of the forum, look at the empathetic responses I got in the mental health section. That should tell you that others look at me empathetically. It's only these 1% users like you that make me feel uncomfortable and anxious. And ignoring doesn't work because you'll keep going on and on. You have zero understanding of my struggles. So I don't like talking to you, it feels stressful to having to explain you every little thing. Just leave me alone and be done with the bullshit.

Look im a hypersensitive woman who is mentally ill. I do not like how you talk to me. It feels very shallow, lacking in empathy and insensitive. You make it sound like I have a huge Ego, when it's not a matter of ego but anxiety. Do you understand someone who is battling depression, trauma and mental illness? If not then you don't have the right to judge me and call it Ego. I feel panicky after reading your posts. It makes me uncomfortable and gives out a toxic vibe. Very aggressive, insensitive and unempathetic towards my situation. It creates discomfort in me. I feel like I'm talking to someone who is completely misreading me and I'm not here to constantly justify my character to you. I feel like I have been put on some kind of a character test and it makes me uncomfortable because I am a good person at heart but I don't want to keep justifying myself against you who is trying to make it sound like I'm someone who is asking to be placed on a pedestal when all I'm asking for is to show some human consideration towards my sensitivity and you are constantly taking it as ego. That's not the thing. I don't like negativity. There is way too much negativity in my life because of my family already. I don't wish to become the target of character attacks from you. Whatever may be your bias, it's your bad judgement and just forgive me and let me go because I feel very stressed out trying to defend myself to you every time. I'm almost feeling suicidal because of you because you don't understand my mental health struggles. You are taking it as ego but I'm not doing it out of ego, I'm feeling genuine anxiety and panic when someone obsessively follows whatever I do You're a very persistent person from the nature of posts and that increases my panic 10 times. I'm feeling suicidal because of you. There is always a character accusatory tone to your posts directed at me and it makes me feel judged, scrutinized constantly and unsafe as though someone is watching my every word I type. Can you imagine how that would feel? It makes me extremely uncomfortable. Now you'll think I'm being ridiculous. But what you're not understanding is that I'm mentally ill and I'll not behave like other normal people. I will overeact and this is not on purpose. It's my brain producing anxiety after sensing negativity and judgement coming in my direction.. So please show some mercy and empathy and leave me alone and don't feed on my weaknesses and oversensitivity.

@Tahuti I think if you just leave me alone I will feel much better instead of arguing with me. A man who tells me that I'm his entertainment cannot exactly have good intentions because I'm not wishing to be your punching bag for your entertainment, sorry it feels threatening/bullying. Please don't use me for your perverse entertainment. Find better things to do.

@Carl-Richard do you think it's different from google