Tyler Robinson

Well let me break it to you. He bans them lol. And no that's not the definition. Tolerating abuse is never love. Correcting abuse is love. If someone is given a warning point for disrespecting someone's journal, it's good place for them to reflect on their behavior and improve. If someone is never told that their behavior is hurtful, they will never have an opportunity to understand how they are hurting others.. Unity is created through understanding and lessening other's suffering and not by telling people to not have boundaries. You might as well say forgive all rapists and rape will end. By your logic, there would be no civil war and slavery of black people would have continued. Fighting against someone who is violating your personal boundaries is giving them a great chance to learn how to respect personal boundaries.

Let me tell you something - 1. This forum had a reputation point system. Leo removed that because people used to create bias and discrimination and elitism. 2. The forum did not have a politics section. The funny part is plenty of members got warning points whenever they discussed political issues and Leo used to warn them that the website wasn't meant for political debates. Yet today we have a politics section after many users demanded for such a section. 3. We had the ability to change our usernames before. But people began misusing it so Leo stopped that. 4. People used to register and the accounts would be verified quickly. Leo made the registration stricter and slower. 5. We have the philosophy section. 6. We also have an entertainment section now.. 7. We have a separate psychedelics section. We didn't have that before. I can go on and on. You catch my drift. Things can change. Many years ago mentally ill people were dehumanized, treated like trash, thrown to rot away in asylums and treated like criminals. Today we treat them humanely and softly, we accommodate them and show them care and empathy. Yea things can change. Nothing is written in stone.

@Michael569 Leo has already told he can't do anything. I don't know. I'm just throwing my hands in the air. There is literally no way.

This is like the most unexpected thing. Nobody would come online, especially vulnerable people if they thought this. I don't find it right. I never came online thinking like that. Especially with this forum, I really trusted it to be a great place, I thought this would be the last place where I would get trolled or stalked. Because I thought this place would attract the best highly conscious qualified decent people. I'm surprised you have such low expectations. With that attitude we can never have a safe internet. That's like agreeing to never want an improvement. It's a dangerous attitude that keeps us from wanting a better world. Think from the aspect of LOVE. Think that you would want your kids to see a better safer internet in the future and you can give them that. They will have it only if you think they deserve it. We all deserve a better safer internet and that's going to happen in the future. Also one big thing. If there was a forum out there exactly like this and it gave me an option to control the commenting and much safer, I would have left this place in a heartbeat.

If I truly desired negative attention then I wouldn't be fighting so hard to have no comment option. I would have been happy getting all the negative attention? Why would I complain so much? I'm complaining so much because journaling really helps except the commenting part. I'm surprised that im having to defend so much for such simple things that should have been fixed long long ago. If I had created a forum, this would have been the very first option I would have given to journalers.. It's so logical and sensible. I don't know how it didn't occur to forum creators that this is so basic and fundamental to journaling. Especially given the toxic nature of the internet. In fact telling me that there are psychopaths, pedos, unstable people actually pretty much bolsters my argument that we need such a system of protection 100%. When we already know that something is/can be dangerous, shouldn't we have additional functionality in place already so that exploitative trolls cannot take advantage of the User Interface. I mean what about cyber security really? Safe spaces are created for the very reason that there's danger and bad people online.

All I want is this - I don't desire negative attention I promise you. I simply want the feeling that I'm publicly journaling but minus the comment part. If someone reads my content, that doesn't bother me. But if someone comments, it makes me feel alert/anxious or intruded on. It's the feeling of being intruded that bothers me. I have already explained that private journaling doesn't really help. I want public venting but not the commenting or some sort of control over the commenting.

@Michael569 I hope that you remember your own comment from a few days ago - I think a little bit of phone user experience optimisation when tagging users. That function misbehaves often on a phone and tagged names usually cannot be deleted. Maybe quick tips section for new users including some key navigation points. Or maybe a short intro video for new users made by you? A button "Privatise" in journal section that will lock the journal from ability to comment but can still be modded if the user shit talks about other members. OR The ability for journal owner to delete comments from other users.

I'm sorry but you talk like a saint. Maybe it suits you. Maybe sitting there in your chair, you can't connect with my emotions or understand how I feel. This is exactly the problem I have with therapists. They talk as though everything is perfect. Well, maybe for them because they are in a psychologically healthy state Let me remind you of my signature then. Be careful being too demanding in relationships. Relate to the person at the level they are at, not where you need them to be. You're expecting way too much from a trauma ridden person. You are not relating to me, just expecting out of me. You need to relate to be at the level I'm at, not where you need me to be. You're simply expecting that I should magically become like you. But my circumstances and brain wiring are different from yours. Everyone needs a different solution depending on their psyche and level of growth. Maybe I'm not at your level of saintliness. But I can't jump at your level. I need to heal completely before I can feel the way you do. But for that healing I need space. You have to meet people where they are. We are not vibing. Your solution is not working for me, but it could be good for you. I'm not like you at all. My life and world is different. It's like we are on two different emotional scales. Its like nothing can trigger you but that's you. Even small things can trigger me. There are special needs people in this world. Everyone has to live in the same world and feel safe. That's why we have disability parking space. Because you can't expect someone who is mentally ill to act like healthy people because then they won't be mentally ill in the first place. I feel like your solution lacks consideration for others condition. At its extreme, it sounds like spiritual bypassing. Reminds me of Nahm.

@Gesundheit2 you're a professional software developer right? Why can't you help Leo with this functionality? You can work for free and help Leo to design this? No?

No I'm just talking about this forum. I have nothing to do with any other place online and it has nothing to do with this forum. I'm just talking about this forum only. I don't want other alternatives. My journals are here. This is where I journal, this is the place which has a strong journaling community. This is the place where I come regularly. This is where my main friends are. And so I want the solution right here.

Leo doesn't even bother to read regular user messages. Most messages are left unread. How about mods send him a message since he will be more likely to read them? Please some mod, send these two options to Leo and see what he thinks about this. Please. My last request on this forum I'm asking for this request, either of these can be given to journalers as an option - Option A - Allow journalers to delete comments they see and don't appreciate on their journals. Option B - Make a rule that lets users to comment only after obtaining permission from the journaler, give the journaler a notification every time a user wants to comment asking for a permission. That is anytime a user wants to comment on a journal, they are automatically asked to take permission from journaler before the comment can be posted. Once the journaler gives the permission by clicking "yes" then the comment will be posted. Do this for every comment every time. Give any of the above options to journalers. So both parties are satisfied. People who want to comment can still comment. At the same time if the journaler does not appreciate how a user comments they can either delete or not give the permission to comment. This way we will have more autonomy over our personal content. It will be great if either Option is alloted to journalers.

Facebook does not have a journaling functionality. It's wall style posting. It's very difficult to search and sort through. This place has journaling in which you can flip through pages. Plus I already mentioned how journaling here is more motivating than anywhere else. If people could mentally block then why was @Loba freaking out when people were commenting on her journal. Why was user Mighty Dao feeling threatened when her journal was followed. It's difficult to ignore (even mentally) when someone is directly posting in your personal space. That's why there are so many users asking for this function. I'm not the only one.

But that's not what I'm complaining about. Focus on what I'm complaining about. I'm solely complaining about journal comments. You're intentionally diverting the issue. If I run into trouble in other sections, that's my own responsibility and I can look into it. But this is something beyond my control because I can't decide who is going to be commenting on my journal.

All of that happens exactly because this solution is not implemented. I won't feel the need to talk to mods in the first place if this option was given long ago. I don't even like complaining to them but like children we have to, because we can't delete comments on our own. I simply don't want disturbance in my journal. I want my journal clean. That's not much to ask. And if it's too much for you then this topic is not relevant to you.

Absolutely not. You get warning points if you are engaging in behavior that mods don't find okay. Don't put on that on me though. If I genuinely wanted drama, then I wouldn't be asking an option to control commenting. That's the opposite of wanting drama.. The reason I'm doing this is because commenting on journals is where the drama actually begins. If there's more control given to journalers then ironically there's less drama. Calling me drama when I'm asking for a genuine solution is pure gaslighting and shutting me down. It's ridiculous

That would be so nice. If the ignore option comes with an additional box for blocking a user from posting on journal. You not only get to ignore their posts but they are automatically not allowed on journals too. That functionality will be great to have. It will definitely solve the annoying problem of toxic commenting. Thanks for the idea. That's a great idea/suggestion

Yea exactly.

Also I got a ton of support from the journaling community here. I don't feel so hostile towards them. They just give me a feeling of happiness by default. There's a loving presence created in the journaling community. Even if they vent in their journals and occasionally say something rude about me or someone in their journals, it doesn't feel so threatening. It's all in the family kind of a thing. I feel much better and more connected to the journaling community here. I remember times when someone would write rude things. But we would easily patch up and make up and get back together again. There's an automatic sense of love created in the journaling community That further helps me in feeling grounded and connected. I'm not good at social skills and even if I was making friends is not a long term source of connection. Most friends get bored after a while. I don't suffer those limitations with this community.

On the blog I feel very alone. Here I feel a sense of security. I see other people journaling. If nobody was journaling, once again I would feel alone and insecure. Here I'm a part of a journaling group.. I have social anxiety. I rarely go to the gym, whenever I go to the gym I go with some friend. I don't go alone. Gyming alone makes me nervous. Similarly journaling alone makes me nervous. Here I'm mixed and assimilated in the journalers crowd so I don't feel so nervous. I feel motivated to journal along with them. It's my daily routine here. It's like going to a morning jog with friends The journaling community are like my friends. When I feel like going jogging with friends, it's a better feeling versus going alone. Journaling keeps me mentally sane everyday. Without it I would be extremely alone and suicidal. Here I feel connected to my journaling friends and everyday without fail I make my daily entries and I feel better. It is looked at as an addiction. But for me it's like a regular routine for my mental health, the way people exercise everyday. Journaling connects me to myself from time to time and having my journaling community here is a friendly boost and motivation. It gives me a blanket of protection and security. That's why out of all places I come here. It's my mental equivalent of going to Gym with friends. I hope you get the idea of how public journaling inside a close knit journaling community is motivating and relieving to me.

Even YouTube allows users to control their comment section. That is also a public platform right? This is also a public platform. Every social media and public platform like Facebook, Twitter has the ability to control who can comment. If I write on Facebook post and if someone writes something I don't like to read as a response or feedback, I can easily delete their comment. Then why this forum should be different? Why can't such options exist here when every public platform has the option to do so?

I already have a blog I set up a few months ago. I even posted a couple of stuff there. Then I lost motivation because I did not feel like I'm posting to the public. Once again it felt like I'm talking to a wall. Zero impact emotionally. I quit the blog and came back to the forum

Leo doesn't even bother to read regular user messages. Most messages are left unread. How about mods send him a message since he will be more likely to read them? Please some mod, send these two options to Leo and see what he thinks about this. Please. My last request on this forum I'm asking for this request, either of these can be given to journalers as an option - Option A - Allow journalers to delete comments they see and don't appreciate on their journals. Option B - Make a rule that lets users to comment only after obtaining permission from the journaler, give the journaler a notification every time a user wants to comment asking for a permission. That is anytime a user wants to comment on a journal, they are automatically asked to take permission from journaler before the comment can be posted. Once the journaler gives the permission by clicking "yes" then the comment will be posted. Do this for every comment every time. Give any of the above options to journalers. So both parties are satisfied. People who want to comment can still comment. At the same time if the journaler does not appreciate how a user comments they can either delete or not give the permission to comment. This way we will have more autonomy over our personal content. It will be great if either Option is alloted to journalers. This is probably my last comment.

These requests have relentlessly been made over the years, you simply have to look around, the examples I stated previously. My question is - how many mods have approached Leo with such requests? Maybe if mods tell Leo, he will take it more seriously. At least try. Whats the harm in trying? You guys must be having meetings with Leo or private discussions. You're the staff. You can bring it up to Leo and then let everyone know. I'm tired of telling Leo. He gives zero response

@Roy can you at least agree that being able to delete toxic comments on the journal can be helpful? This does not take away someone's ability to comment but it gives some control to the journaler to delete something they don't want to wake up to?

@Proserpina can you please explain to these mods that this is a common need for all journalers and I'm not the only one demanding this? They think that I'm asking for privileged treatment when I'm simply asking for space.