Tyler Robinson

Sometimes I feel good because my husband is here. It makes me feel better. Supported. Although he does not talk to me That's the bad part. But I at least get to see him.

Mastering the employer employee relationship.

I have been a victim of narcissistic abuse. Dealt with it throughout my childhood. This video made a ton of sense why I was so self destructive for so long. It perfectly describes whatever happened to me. I escaped a narcissistic relationship and I barely survived. But made through. The recovery long. Important video for anyone dealing with narcissistic abuse.

The philosophy of toxic positivity.

Thanks Doctor.

Thanks Doctor.

Thanks Doctor. ......... https://www.patheos.com/blogs/tempest/2020/11/a-collection-of-12-sigils-for-the-pandemic.html

This cheered me up

How will you define normalcy? Should life be an adventure or a very structured formulaic normal existence? I see people living normal monotonous lives and I think that there is a certain selfishness to it. They don't want to contribute too much to the world. They want to sit and watch TV and never be proactive to actively change society. I see their normalcy as a sign of cultural narcissism and the need to fill life with shallow things in order to escape the deeper realities of life. What are your thoughts on the normal-ness of life?

The bad of it - It encourages group think A strong stage Blue element of conformity Anything different is hated. Any form of stress is hated Critical thinking is ignored No chance for adventure Sacrifice is considered stupidity It births selfish lazy mentality. Resists change Traditionalist mindset Discourages empathy Creates oppressive redundant bureaucracy Encourages victim blaming mentality Little social responsibility Encourages gaslighting Leads to stagnant societies Shuns hard work Lack of responsibility and avoidance People live with a false sense of security

So what's the good and the bad of it? First The good of it. It's important to have a sense of normalcy. You can feel demotivated if you don't There's machiavellian wisdom in it which is self serving It's a very me me me survival based philosophy. Only and only MAH survival. That's it. Too much chaos and failure to maintain normalcy can lead to degradation and devastation through a chain reaction of complexities It brings a lot of mental peace and feel good states. It can feel quite cozy. It takes away the burden of thinking for oneself. You do what others do and you're safe. You don't have to think too much in a stage Blue environment. Everything is already structured. Just follow the structure. Don't think. You cannot achieve much else if your mind is not feeling stable, if your life is all chaotic all the time, you'll be left with very little resources and time to achieve your big picture idealistic dreams. This point is emphasized at minute 24 in the video - https://youtu.be/fzQ3SSpiQvQ It protects you from chaotic situations and the resulting stress of cognitive conflicts It definitely makes life easier while making everything else shittier. . It places priority on self and personal happiness and leaves little room for anything else. It can stop the cycle of chaos in life and maintain order. It makes it easier to make decisions. Just do things that look beneficial and maintain the status quo in the moment. It takes away the anxiety of the future. Everything is pre planned It blocks negativity that comes from ruminating over the tragedies of the world. It fulfills basic needs on the Maslow's Hierarchy. It keeps you in good shape and well prepared for anything. It frees up the mind to do other things. Although it simultaneously also takes away the motivation to do these other things. It's invigorating and makes life more enjoyable and improves the zest for living. Inherently makes you want to appreciate life more since you become addicted to maintaining this normalcy at all times, feeding you dopamine through relaxation. It's the most basic happiness in life.

Meanwhile there's a certain worth and Wisdom in a conformist safety oriented normalcy mindset (the "HOUSEHOLD" mindset). When looked at positively it might be rooted simply in wanting peace and equanimity(the spiritual significance of this mindset). When looked at negatively, it is simply people being unempathetic, shrewd, cold and close minded, lazy and wanting to coddle their false sense of security they find in living this sense of normalcy.

Some of this normalcy based thinking is also rooted in nihilism. They don't want to think they can deserve better or just want to make peace with their situation, seeing their own "not wanting better things" as some sort of sacrificial humility and a sense of compromise. So there are many things that influence this normalcy mentality Fear of change. Resistance to change Stage Blue elements Fear of Drama, conflict Not enough trust in change. Nihilism Contrived Humility Narcissism(contrived victimhood /fake Humility - see I'm a victim yet I'm not complaining so I must be better than those who complain. Lack of real concern for the world, feeling comfort in an escapist mentality. Cold indifference - why should I care as long as I can watch TV. I'll only fight when I have personal privileges to lose. If it's not bothering me, I won't bother, it's happening to someone else, so I will just turn a blind eye to it since I don't want to feel emotionally pressured to take responsibility. I feel better as long as I am conforming to society, so I must be doing something right as long as I am on the same page as others around me. I will see shallow things to satisfy my mind like some boring show and this way I don't have to worry aspects of reality. I can just turn it off and not worry about it. I will hate anyone who is trying to question the system. That takes away my sense of peace. It means stress and tension that I wish to avoid. So I'll stereotype such rebellious people as drama creators. They are nothing but drama in my eyes but I fail to see the positive aspects of why they are pushing for change. I hate all activists because they are doing everything for either ego, fame, attention, controversy, clout. They can't be genuine. They are simply riling things up and wasting everyone's time I don't see meaning in life. There is no deep meaning to anything. I'm clueless when asked about meaning. I am happy if I have a marriage, kids, work, pets, white picket fence and a social standing. Once my needs are satisfied I won't care about anything else. I'm only striving to achieve those particular things just mentioned. I don't even want to know what change can lead to because in my little self righteous mind, all these changes are going to be proved meaningless. Any person wanting change is imprudent. I want security. I want to feel safe. As long as I don't have to work too hard for anything and everything is going well for me, I'm safe even if someone in my neighborhood is dying. When someone suffers, I'll victim blame instead of asking for change. I will put it all on them. This way I have zero responsibility for social change. My side is cleared. Let them suffer. Let them suffer and die, how does it matter? It was their fate probably. The world is irrelevant to me. I should just trying to get along with it so I can survive better and I can feel safe. I seek solace and joy in my normalcy so I don't have to worry about anything else. Everything will look perfect to me and this is my ideal world. Anything uncomfortable or difficult, I don't want to know about it. Trying anything new is scary to my sense of security. I just won't trust anybody I look at everything with suspicion I get paranoid only when my own sense of security is threatened. Nothing else about others scares me. Everything is right only when it's right in my eyes. Any other justification will be rubbished. My life is normal. See? It gives me a sense of safety. I must be doing everything right. .

Here I'm finding myself stuck in a dilemma. Between the "HOUSEHOLD" mindset on one side of the pendulum where any change, creativity, rebellion, drama,chaos,conflict, adventure, "other purpose than the status quo" is shunned and frowned upon. I also see this mindset as rooted in either fear or selfishness. Fear since the people are just afraid of change and very insecure and resistant to it. Or it's rooted in selfishness and cold indifference where any concern about social welfare is deemed stupid or unnecessary or a waste of time. And on the other side of the pendulum what I see and what I would call the activist mindset. This mindset is always ready for chaos, always wanting and demanding change, is too concerned about the world, cherishes creativity, finds meaning in adventure, doesn't regret bad decisions, honors every kind of purpose, even the one that is outside the ambit of status quo.

I don't see chaos as a problem. Normalcy loving people see chaos as a huge problem or pain in the ass. But I see chaos as a thrust. Something that breaks monotony and brings in new changes even if these new changes meant some drama, conflict, stress. It is worth it in my eyes as I see it as a road to change. Yet too much chaos can cause living in chaos 24/7 and never having a sense of closure, even degradation if the chaos keeps piling up leading to more complications and then just more trouble creating a chain reaction where one thing leads to another and then everything becomes hyper chaotic and futile in the end. Where normalcy is completely neglected causing the whole process to collapse under the tension of its own weight and complications leading to nothing but further injury and then a downward spiral. This is obviously relying too much on idealism and neglecting aspects of reality.

This dilemma is a bit dualistic. On one hand stage blue normalcy is something we all chase for in the end. We all want problems gone. We all want peace. We all want a structure. Yet, life is not so simple. Life has to vary and oscillate between simplicity and complexity. If everything is simple, then there's stagnation. I call the need to have normalcy the "HOUSEHOLD" mentality. Small people small minds. All you care about is breakfast,lunch, dinner and your safety, security and your bank account and your TV and your girlfriend for regular sex. But not everyone lives this way. Some people want to think beyond bread and butter, beyond "what's for breakfast" and their favorite comic show on TV. They want to explore the world, they want to fall in love and experience a heartbreak, they want to know pain, they want to participate in a civil war, they want to be in politics, they want to try a new psychedelic, they want an unconventional relationship. To a stage Blue normalcy loving person these things can look quite threatening. But for someone who has higher needs, they look beyond their usual existence. They want to contribute actively. They want to see what more they can bring to their life and the world.

If you are having a deeply chaotic existence then you will never be able to do anything in life. This is not divine wisdom. This is just common sense. If you are able to have a basic sense of normalcy in your life, that's where things will get less overwhelming and the resulting discipline, order and peace that comes with such ordinary normalcy is going to motivate you to think beyond. And so correcting aspects of your life that are chaotic or cause chaos need to be taken seriously, should not be taken for granted. Because your basic motivation levels are tied to that. This is solid psychological advice and that's why having a sense of normalcy in life has deep wisdom associated with it and it makes perfect sense because if you can't have your shit together, it will be tough to dream of bigger things, an idealistic trap that many people fall into, a sense of adventure and excitement causes them to pursue and relentlessly chase things in the end resulting into nothing, but just having things normal will do so much good at least short term. Yea this is not divine wisdom, it's just common sense that if something disturbs your sense of normalcy, most likely it's not good for you as it is taking you away from your core. Most people are stage Blue, conformist and abide by this principle where they just want everything to be normal and seek solace in it. Any form of change or adventure like a new relationship looks threatening to such people. They just aren't ready for it. But what's the flip side? The flip side is general complacency. The flip side is never taking that dive, never having things change as a sacrifice to maintain a normalcy or status quo. Just resisting change as much as possible. Seeing anything different as bad or imprudent. Close mindedness and justification of selfishness where if you only care about yourselves, that's good enough. This leads to stagnation. So you see a lot of stage Blue societies are stagnant for this love of normalcy.

Found the video after some searching. It starts at minute 24 of the video

Where's Leo's video on stage green related to Jordan Peterson where he says that stage Green people don't even get out of bed/clean your room.

Common reality traps Common cognitive traps

Things to be aware of.

The internet can be a very toxic place in general. Narcissistic abusive relationships Trolls and haters online. Junk food obviously. Cults and spiritual communities

@Raphael meanwhile I agree with some of the stuff you're saying, you're basically pointing out the toxic stage Orange success obsessed society but this is the other side of the pendulum. This side of the pendulum that I'm referring to, is where being complacent will create a bad society, unproductive one. Because nobody wants to take any risk and any form of struggle and heroism is demonized or even considered stupid. Narcissistic people generally do this, they don't see value in struggles. They don't see value in bad. They don't see value in a good fight. That's why I called it cultural narcissism.

Creating a solid emotional support system.