Tyler Robinson

@Ulax thanks.

A good article on how to dump someone without hurting the other party too much. Although I don't support text message dumping. https://www.wikihow.com/Dump-Your-Boyfriend-over-Text#step-id-22

Golden line!!!!!!! ? Made a lot of sense.

Ahh I see, gotcha!!

@Kksd74628 thank you so much Joni.

I actually really appreciate this idea. I think relationships should be this way. It should be like "why care about what the world thinks," right?

@Kksd74628 but then everywhere I read about it, people say that it's a red flag and unhealthy behavior on his end, even on this thread. This is the reason why I was prompted to ask. Can you explain me the reason behind this reaction?

He does make me feel loved and secure. He can be a bit strict sometimes. Like he wouldn't want my hair a certain way. But he is protective.

I'm his third. He doesn't have tattoos of his exes.

Can you explain why? I want to know what his behavior means specifically!

Why do you think that?

That was so sweet haha.

@DefinitelyNotARobot it wasn't a joke. He seriously wanted it Shouldn't it mean that he is attached to me?

I was generally talking about unattractive males. I mean think about it. Who do you think is really going to struggle getting laid? Why will an attractive guy struggle unless he has terrible game and zero charm? A lot of guys who struggle due to obvious reasons that are mentioned will continue to struggle. I don't want to discourage them. But being alone and focusing on a career is better than being suicidal. Build self worth. Dying alone is kinda harsh way of putting it. We all die alone in a way. People get divorced, people break up. Very rarely do you have some company when you are too old, chances are your partner has already by then. So don't worry about dying alone. Enjoy the years you already have instead of worrying about the last days. We don't relationships just because we don't want to die alone, that's incredibly myopic. We have relationships in order to have a fulfilling life as long as we are living. But you need to calculate the cost of this fulfillment.. I wouldn't expect a guy to waste 5 years worth time just hunting for a partner. He also has a career right? I wasn't necessarily talking about being alone when you have the option to date, especially with little effort. I was only attacking the mentality of social validation which keeps men feeling depressed and frustrated and I think that's destructive.. Like I said in the above post, If you can burn your karma then do it, fulfill your desires, my only gripe was that don't make that desire your life. If you can't achieve something in that direction despite trying then focus on other areas of life where you can grow. In short, relationships aren't the be all end all. There's more to life.

That's a pretty balanced take on my take. I actually wanted to put it the way you put it. I just missed out on including the last part of your post. That's exactly what I meant. Not to give into validation needs. Not to minimize the desire for sex to the point of sexual repression/suppression. And to burn through it if necessary as and when it's possible depending on circumstances, yet never basing your entire life and self worth on it. Am I right?

Psychedelic section.

It's ok. I don't think like you. I would cut the losses wherever I can. Time and money are more important to me than stupid chases. Call me greedy

Yea I get this part. I wasn't being superficial with my advice though, I really meant it in the most serious manner. It's always good to go out there, work hard and get good with dating, all that jazz. But you forgot that I was responding to the guy who made it appear as though his whole life depended on a woman Validating his desire for her and making him feel better. This sounds awfully weak, obsessive, and very depowering to me. It's like hinging your whole life on relationships. I don't think anyone serious with personal development will ever support this sort of a stance. It's worrisome because it means that if you don't get what you want with the opposite sex, you're essentially close to Giving up on your life, that's a defeatist mentality.

I wouldn't go as far as telling someone to overcome the desire for sex. My point was limited only to seeking validation which looks cruel to me. Isn't being alone better than being constantly rejected and tossed over? How long will a person waste their time chasing? Things feel better when they come effortlessly and naturally, of course I never mean to say a man should just sit around waiting for a woman to fall on his lap, but if you consider all the logistics and the effort that goes into it(not if you're a cool handsome hunk, I'm talking about unattractive struggling males), it's sometimes better to not fan the flames of fantasy and come back to reality, understand how dysfunctional the world is and not become a slave to the social validation game, only if we didn't constantly add more buzz to the idea that a man's self worth depended on the kind and the number of women he could get, then maybe a lot of men out there could rest a bit lazy and consequently less suicides too, it's a win win.

I can't stop laughing. This is too funny.

Very much agree with you. Nothing better than learning more and broadening ones horizon. Never saw that as a waste of time, if anything at all, it was perhaps the most fruitful use of time.

@Devin but sex also involves fetishes too. I just don't get you. There's also sex without fetishes. There's food with garnishing and without garnishing. I'm missing your point entirely or you're being comically vague.

You're being too vague. What does this even mean? Any elaboration? Any example? Any structure? How do you express yourself sexually (I'm talking about you in the person)? (BTW I already knew you would be vague)

Then I'm waiting for you to explain what sexuality is. Please go ahead.

@Devin you fulfill yourself your way, I fulfill myself my way. Don't see why there is a problem here. Just that I was never aware of your way. It sounded too unnatural to me.