Tyler Robinson

@Something Funny ok.

I think the user Something Funny needed an accountability partner. You could be an accountability partner to him and in return he could be an accountability partner to you. Both can help each other and keep each other accountable. This guy @Something Funny

@Illusory Self can I know your zodiac sign?

@Razard86 well then, that's a compromise. I'm not going to compromise on my survival. If I had to opt between spirituality and survival, I choose Survival. I can't afford to lose my life.

@Razard86 isn't that obvious that how you view the world is contingent on how you are experiencing it first hand? That goes without saying and I don't see anything wrong with it. If people treated you well, you would have no Reason to complain and vice versa. It's called trauma for a reason - because it traumatizes you. The only problem however is when you excessively judge the world as negative and blame someone without reason, that's when you're entering the territory of bias, projection, dissonance and prejudice and I agree that this unreasonable perspective is rather unhealthy.

@Razard86 I'm not talking about treating others badly. And I don't believe in moralizing and moral shaming others. But when you're dealing with someone that could be life threatening, you can't afford to be saintly and Empathetic. You have to do whatever to get your ass out of that place far away from that person to avoid trouble It's called Self preservation. At that point its not even about evil or good anymore. I don't blame people who steal. They could be hungry or not having enough money. A lot of evil/harmful action happens because of deprivation and a stressful environment. I am compassionate towards criminals. But regardless you can choose to show love from a distance. You don't need to be friends with criminals.

@Razard86 some people are genuinely toxic and get into trouble. These people won't necessarily always be rude on the outside. They could be sweet and still cause a ton of harm. They could poison your food or steal your money. Happened to me. I was living in the dorm once. There was a couple living there. I had left my keys with them. They were extremely cordial and sweet with me and that made me trust them. I went to the store one day and when I returned back I saw that several items were missing including my backpack, shoes, expensive champagne glasses, a trench coat etc. They even poisoned my food with sedatives so that they could steal more while I slept. I changed the lock and key to the door and they somehow figured a way to break the door open when I wasn't around and stole again. I was too frustrated and I packed my bags and left the place for good. You can't change every toxic person. Sometimes you gotta cut them off from your life and be practical and do what's necessary to save your life. Spiritual advice in such matters can prove fatal. Spirituality is fine. But in real life, you gotta be practical while dealing with life threatening situations You can't afford to act spiritual if your life is on the line. It's just being human

@Razard86 you cannot let people walk all over you. How long would you allow that?

I can't thank you enough for this post. Your post is full of wisdom that will be of great help. I'm very thankful that you took the time to write such a thoughtful post. I'm going to be implementing a lot of the generous wisdom you offered in your post. I will be posting my own experience with motivation and my progress here. Thanks again. Incredibly helpful.

Do you have social anxiety? Have you been to a doctor?

I did. Garlic. And exposure to sunshine and lots of Vit D.

Nice share.

You need to push her actually.

Meh, I got ghosted after a six month relationship. Poof went my heart and burst like a balloon!

This is easier said than done, of course I'm going to be ghosting them in any case, either way if I don't intend to carry anything forward with a gentle guy, yet it leaves me with a sour feeling. I've always felt bad rejecting even if rejecting is the bad thing to do, and as you said, better than leading someone on. On the flip side, I have been dumped by text or ghosted (much worse) and it hurts like crazy. Maybe that's why I always felt bad turning people down.

@eos_nyxia and sometimes the reason why a person, generally women, ghost a guy is because the sense a lack of authenticity from the dude. A very long detailed response can sometimes come off as too much rambling and inauthentic.

Drink water before meditation. You could be pressuring yourself during the meditation. Be relaxed and let go any anxiety. Gag reflex is a general symptom of anxiety.

@eos_nyxia I would actually feel kinda bad to ghost a guy who was being very gentle and nice.. If I'm turning someone down or just generally ghosting a dude, it often has to be him acting like a total punk and testing the limits of my patience till I reach my breaking point and at that point the thought process is generally along the lines of - what's even the point of such a conversation anyway, it's best to cut it out right there. I mean I can already sense that it could be going towards a conflict. So I kinda just save myself some unnecessary trouble much ahead of that conversation. But he gotta be a real dick for me to come to that point.

@eos_nyxia I think it also comes down to social tact. Like being genuinely confused about what and how to respond and the anxiety associated with it all. Can be a bit of an emotional burden so the easier way out looks like it's best to just escape it all.

A lot of girls are flakey because they aren't sure if they would want to continue with the date. This is not such a bad thing because you wouldn't like to have a relationship who isn't that interested to begin with so it's sort of an auto eliminating process. You could wait for a girl who is more compatible and aligned to your style of communication and personal nature. Don't take their flaking too personally. It could be them rather than you. If you're good at game, then continue doing that, and wait for those who really wish to stick around. Dating can be a very tiring process and often you don't meet the one who really want to be with right away.

Women don't like conflict.

Can we brainstorm on what an ideal life should look like? An all-round productive life.

Can you mix lsd with the list of stuffs Vodka Wine Beer Yogurt Diet Coke Cold latte SSRI

@NoSelfSelf of course.

I was telling him to open up so that he can get rid of his fears. The fear comes from dependency on judgement. When he will open up he will no longer what the other person thinks. He will free himself from that fear. It doesn't matter what the other person thinks but it's important to communicate to build confidence.