Tyler Robinson

@Razard86 I guess it would be incredibly hard to get female role models. It's already hard with men. For the present moment, it would be enough to follow a healthy male role model. Women can follow him too I guess.

So flaking on guys is like abusing them. Am I missing something? I always thought rejecting a guy was much worse than flaking on him. I just can't reject a guy, it's hard to do that. So I just prefer to flake on him I guess those girls are probably using the same reasoning with them. You guys are hurt when a girl rejects you. You guys are hurt when a girl flakes on you. I don't see how a girl can win in this situation. Either way she is bad and hurtful, no matter what she does. Sad emoji.

@Max_V you do have a point and i somewhat agree with you although the female perspective is rarely taken into consideration in male centered discussions. And I'll leave it to that.

The problem is that the flaking is not because I want to give them a bad treatment. It's form of a spiral - - what goes around comes around. So when guys give you a shitty treatment, it becomes like a wound and stays inside you and then this deep seated makes the mind not trust the next guy that comes along. It's an automatic process, not something done on purpose. So meanwhile the guy might have the best intentions, when he is asking me out, my heart wants to find a reason to resist him or not be able to trust. I would expect him to step up and make me trust him, not to break my heart again but to show me that he truly does care about me and this cannot happen over a meagre amount of text conversations, this can only happen through bonding. I'm scared to give this kind of advice because I don't want to see another woman broken.

To be totally honest, I would flake on 98% guys who approached me. Why not. Even guys manipulate a woman, gain her trust and then dump her. Even guys dump women for stupid reasons. What will you say to that?

Girls flake for all kinds of stupid reasons. Most reasons are rooted in insecurity They don't think they have enough to go on with a guy. Give them enough to want you.

I would actually love to have an extremely deep, intimate, passionate and loving relationship with a man, not just flirting. Intimacy is important to me.

@Carl-Richard that's because kiwi and cholesterol. And this. https://www.seattletimes.com/life/wellness/does-kiwifruit-raise-good-hdl-cholesterol/

Okay I'm being frank(pun) for a minute. This one is mine - If you want an education,go to YouTube. ~Tyler being Zappa.

You being an adventurer might also have something to do with you being a saggi, just saying.

You either felt shy or unsure or scared or all at the same time. Get rid of your underlying fears.

You might have to watch Leo's burning through karma video. You want all of that because you haven't fully burned through your karma yet. Once you do that and exhaust all your desires you won't feel these urges. For spiritual reasons, you have to give up these things at some point. They serve as a distraction and leave very little room for spiritual growth or practice.

Because it's the only time when you can actually look back. All other times life wantonly keeps you busy.

Glad to hear that you are safe.

@Razard86 I recognize certain consistent behavior patterns in you after reading almost 20 posts of yours. A recurring pattern, I see it as a problem that might be evading you a bit and I just thought that must let you know because it seems like nobody is telling you this probably because they are not able to see it the way I do. This could either be a part of your personality or it could be a summation of coping behaviors that you had to learn along the way. Either way I thought it was necessary for me to bring this up, again I'm not sure if this resonates with you or not. If it does, I'll be glad that I was of some use to you. If not, you can gladly ignore it at your will. So this is my observation about you. You seem to be very passionate about people. Nothing wrong with it. What I sense is a deep need to help people and empathize with their situation. This can be very harmful to you as this very quality in you will attract a lot of vultures, predatory people to you who will take direct advantage of you. This is a form of self harm and you are disguising it as a spiritual growth mechanism. But you're exposing yourself to be abused by people. This also leads me to the conclusion that you might have been abused in relationships in some manner, either in your childhood, by a lack of love or in adulthood as in partner abuse. It shows that you have a certain savior Samaritan complex, be careful to not stretch it too far, because (psychopath) people smell that on you and will feed on your generosity. The other part I observed is that you seem to enjoy your own suffering and pain. This is not normally seen in others. This could be a sign of self sabotage and extreme self destructive behavior. Maybe my words don't resonate with you right now but few years down the line, you might remember what I said here right now. I'm just being a good Samaritan dropping a message so that you incorporate my advice. We tend to attract what we like. The idea of looking at pain and suffering as something good or even pleasurable arises out of masochistic tendencies and self abuse. It's seeking pleasure out of wanting to be abused. This needs serious psychotherapy and I suggest you seek treatment instead of using spiritual bypassing and thinking that this might be something spiritual that you're getting into, it's classic self delusion that is taking right and deep into the rabbit hole. My mom was like you in her younger years and she has attracted major health problems over the years because of her awful tendency to self neglect always Perceiving a life of hardships as something as a badge of honor, it attracted her a lot of health issues. I see similar patterns of self destruction in you where you equate pain and suffering to some sort of spiritual exaltation. No. It's not. It's a recipe to attract more tragic outcomes and situations. It's one thing to not be impacted by suffering and holding resilience and another to wallow or even assume that it's some sort of a sacrificial requisite that you must endure to make it through the gates of heaven. Don't abuse yourself. Don't attract vultures Seek your wellbeing and honor your body which is the temple of your soul.. Self destruction means you don't value yourself enough. Your body and mind is sacred and so is your life and to squander it through self torture is less about Humility and more about delusion and psychological disorder. You might have to focus on your own sovereignty before you focus on the sovereignty of others. Be in charge of your well being. And you must under any circumstances want your own well being and a good life. There's nothing selfish about it. (maybe slightly selfish but that's survival). You will get restless overtime if you don't fix this tendency. Remember that your need to survive through and against all odds is very innate and you simply cannot escape it nor should you try to. Be in alignment with what your body is asking for from you, don't be a rebel. I hope you receive my message positively. It is constructive feedback and an honest one. I have no agenda

First you were talking about sovereignty. What's the final stance may I ask?

@Carl-Richard you know what. Now it shows as "edited by Carl Richard." your Moderator privileges are gone. Leo kinda removed the double standards Lmao.

Sir, I'll incorporate this advice. Thank you. Noted. (owned me haha). You almost gave me a beating on my head, but it was good.

Baby you're already awaken.. Please rise and walk.

The bright side would be to not look at socializing as an absolute bad thing necessarily and this is coming from an introvert like me. I lived in isolation for years since my childhood and majority of my teenage years to the point I was barely able to talk to anyone. I gained a few more brain cells through socializing. I give it some credit for helping me with situations. Although I'm not supportive of heavy socializing, it can be distracting from true growth and sometimes you run the risk of meeting some really awful people who could literally turn your whole world upside down. Besides that the time and energy spent in socializing is extensive and can turn into a massive cope or addiction.

But there's poverty still. You're only showing a trend not a current state. Doesn't mean that people aren't poor. They are yet there might be a gradual decline, but they still are. This is like the argument on population. Saying that the world population is on the decline. But we still have a whopping 7 billion.

How Will you make money in isolation? Almost everything needs social media if you want money and career.

You are acting as though people aren't poor these days. Covid has got millions of people out of jobs. I don't know which world you're living in, but I see an awful lot of poverty because of the economic crises and there's just more to come.

Being a caveman is more like an escapist mentality. One thing it brings - peace of mind. You gotta decide the tradeoffs, not upto anyone. Personally I like the intellectual engagement of being around humans. But apart from that, there is not much I gain from anything at all, so maybe those yogis were always right. Peace of mind is the most important commodity, to lose it is worse than gaining anything else in return.

These are occasional incidents. I'm talking about everyday distractions the moment you wake up in the mornings like emails, deadlines and phone calls.