Tyler Robinson

Not necessarily. This is a huge myth. I've been with tough men. They did not beat me. They were protective of me in fact. Some guys who are physically strong can be abusive. The woman has a choice to drop such men. But there are men who are tough on the out but gentle in their hearts. And what about mental abuse? I had been with a beta guy. He would regularly bug me with his insecurities to the point I couldn't work. He would constantly make up stories that weren't true. He was extremely stressful to deal with. He would compare himself to other men and keep telling me how he never liked himself. It became a headache because he began to be very negative and there was no happiness in the relationship with his constant complaints. He would never take action to change himself. Always bitter, whiny and never sharing a laugh. It drains you at some point. I broke up with him and he began stalking me at my workplace. He would call me in the middle of the night when I was dog tired. At last he forgot me and left me for good. That relationship was a nightmare. He wasn't a caveman and he was good at technology like your software guys, but his constant negativity and complaining was driving me insane. You're wrong about many things. Alpha men take responsibility which makes matters easier for women. Saying that all alpha men are abusive is a cop out that most guys use as a way to avoid working on themselves. It's like saying all successful people are cheaters.

Sex is important to me. I didn't say it's important to all women. Software developers are the strongest men? Maybe our definitions of strong differ a bit. I don't associate strength with social status. I would much prefer a caveman. He will know how to take care of stuff. At least he will protect me from rape.

Sex is important to me. I never dated a software engineer. If I interacted with them, I found that they couldn't say romantic things or couldn't tickle me. Conversations with them got boring very quickly. Keeping things interesting is important in a relationship or else feelings never develop in the first place or people lose interest. A guy who is sexy is always interesting.

@mr_engineer yea a sense of humor is good. But who would want someone who laughs all the time. Not me. I like serious men who also know when to laugh. Like I said, everything has a time and place.

I don't know why strength and humor cannot go together. Of course they can. A woman will always admire strength at the end of the day, ask any woman. A man can be bold, strong and humorous at the same time. I don't know why one should exclude the other. Physically strong means he is tall (6 ft) and has a tough body. Mentally strong means someone who can face situations in life and doesn't make a mountain out of a molehill, knows how to support the woman if she is feeling lonely or hurt instead of running away from situations and is able to guide her when she needs him. That's the kind of man she is attracted to. You can't dictate attraction.

Humour has its own place and timing. I wouldn't appreciate a guy being humorous when the situation is sad or uncalled for. It shows a lack of social calibration. For women social acceptance is valuable, having a guy who is lacking in social calibration can be a headache to deal with. Even humorous men can be strong men. Weak men take offense at everything and no woman wants to deal with a whiny guy women have enough drama of their own. They want to come back home to a peaceful secure non whiny strong man.

You shouldn't have to worry about the family. Do what you like. You like the girl and the girl likes you, I don't see why there should be a problem.

I think you got it wrong. Women like a man who is exciting. Not boring. Being a simp and constantly acting slavish to her doesn't stimulate her. Neither being rude. It's made to look like women like cold hearted guys. But the reality is that they see a guy who is reserved as serious and masculine, not cold, someone who doesn't take shit and knows what he wants. Girls like a well put together guy who is determined, decisive, bold, confident and a pillar of strength. A ruthless guy exudes these qualities. At the same time she doesn't want him to be rude to her, just direct, serious, masculine and authentic. Simps don't exude such qualities, they show dependency on the woman, which is a big turn off since women like a man who is dependable rather than dependent. Women are attracted to strong personalities in men. Weakness drives them away. Much of what women are attracted to is based on biology, brain wiring, conditioning and evolution. Attraction is an unconscious unintentional involuntary process.

Sometimes he can be a bit deluded. Letting him know that serves a good purpose. And if it doesn't, no loss.

@Leo Gura you're making me laugh now. Cmon.

Pedophilia = love for kids.

Oof. Go ahead. No girl is gonna like it. But to each his own. I am glad my partner is too dirty. he gives me insane orgasms. I'm happy.

Anyway my point was that I began to love my abuser.. I'm out of this discussion. It's getting personal and going into the area of "sensitive." Bye.

I was going to say this.

I can't imagine something like that. Are you not interested in giving the other person orgasms? What if they want orgasms?

Yea I was sexually abused by my mom

@CARDOZZO nice list.

@Chives99 yea.

I felt like they loved me even when they were being violent with me. Even when they were hurting me. Because they would protect me sometimes. Feed me. Clothe me. Pay for me. If they wanted to destroy me then why didn't they just let me die? I began to consider their abuse as love. It was complex. Because on one hand they would beat me or want to sexually assault me but on the other hand they also wanted to make sure that I didn't die. It felt like love. They would often choke me during sex.

@Chives99 I'm not talking about pedophilia.. I'm talking about rape. My boyfriend was my rapist.

Pikachu face.

I loved my abuser and rapist. Twisted.

If you lead in a way that makes it look like she doesn't have a say in the relationship, it won't work for too long. Lead in a coaching guiding loving kind of way and always communicate why your approach is superior to hers or let her know why she should follow your lead or advice. This makes her more comfortable knowing that you always have her best interests in mind.

Yes of course. But the conversation needs to involve foreplay pre-sex. Define love. Love and sex are not the same thing although sex can be a biological way of showing love. Very much. The physical intimacy gets stronger with mutual arousals.

Yea it's vanilla sex. But when you truly love a partner at least in the moment, you want to give them maximum pleasure. You not only want them to orgasm you want them to orgasm multiple times. Personally I won't be satisfied until I see my partner orgasming to the max and orgasming even more. It makes me crazy happy to see the guy orgasm multiple times.