Socialization makes you stupid
Leo' video on socialization.
I will give you an example of destructive socializing.
So a year ago, I was approached by a dude who wanted help on his family issues. At first he would constantly send me friend requests and I would deny it because I didn't really know him. Then he began crying victim to me about how I didn't care about his feelings. So I accepted his friend request. Everyday he would tell me about his family. And I would guide and comfort him, I thought this was going to be a great friendship. Then it got darker over time. After 2 months of texting him, he told me one day that he wanted to place a bomb in a place and kill many people. I was terrified and I told him that it wasn't okay to do that. I begged him not to. Because of his admission, I couldn't sleep for several nights. I was very anxious everyday and I lost sleep. I thought of calling the cops but before that I asked him again and he told me that he was being flippant about it. He did not really plan it. I told him that I can't take such things flippantly and that I was too stressed out over this. Later he told me how he had harassed someone with distressing phone calls more than 50 times. I was like wtf dude. That guy who was being harassed had quit their position.. At the same time I was being harassed as well. The style of communication used by the harassing person was similar to this guy so I became suspicious. After some days of thinking and stressing over this person, I decided to cut everything with them. I did not ghost him.. I politely told him that I didn't want such friendship and blocked him after that.
It's a perfect example of how someone tried to exploit by acting like they wanted my help.
I have reached the conclusion that you can trust nobody. People who are trying to help you or people who are begging for help, anybody can exploit your trust and betray you.
It's just destructive socializing. I've found that when you trust people, you can invite all sorts of messed up people into your life. I had no idea he was harboring harmful intent.
Hindsight it's hard to tell what to expect and what not to expect. It's all blunder and illusion, smoke and mirrors and a tad bit difficult to decide who to trust. It's a gamble you take.
I could have easily trusted this guy and he could have invited me and taken me to a hidden basement and put a bullet to my head. How would have I known.
Then I sat down with paper and pen and decided to map out the most common denominator in these vulture like people. And I found that it was low IQ as well as low EQ. But mostly low IQ. And that's how I began to avoid these people. There's a legitimate reason whether you like it or not. You have to cut out such people from your life.
