Tyler Robinson

Ahhhhhhh! Someone finally talked like a man to me. Never had that in a long while. Made me feel cute.

Just being frank. Feeling surprised that it took so long to figure shit out.

That means for so long you did not think of this as a mental asylum. That's what you are telling me. How did that even happen to an intelligent person like you? Gobsmacked.

Then what are you waiting for?

Aka Leo.

Meanwhile in another world, @AMTOwaiting to be banned since eternity and keeps visiting forum to fulfill their dream.

Better dating environment

I dated two virgos. Never again. Manipulative, bossy, controlling, logical, critical, Nagging, phony,, Whiny baby.

If you're hooking up with too many women randomly, then that is shady behavior in my eyes. And shady behavior is a red flag. Slim shady, don't be like that lady.

@petar8p My brief history. I'm very bad at it. My Exposure during school - I didn't talk to anyone for the 12 years of my life. Teachers began to complain about me to my parents. I wouldn't talk. I used to remain completely silent. I don't know the reasons for this. Like I don't know why I didn't talk. It was medically abnormal. I used to talk to my parents though. I talked for the first time to a person when I was 13. I began hanging out with few people when I was 14. I went back into my shell when I was 18 because I developed very high social anxiety. I began taking meds for anxiety and started talking to people and improved my skills a tiny bit. I made boyfriends at the same time. Many boyfriends all toxic. Total boyfriends - 5. I currently don't have friends I think the most number of friends I made in past 4 years is 6. These are just random people I met who I considered friends but they forgot me over time when they moved to other cities. They were mostly either online people or someone I met in university but they disappeared and I lost touch with them. I have no social media. At one time I had Facebook but I made only one friend there who was my boyfriend. Later I deleted Facebook because I used to login once a year there so I figured it was useless. Recently I was diagnosed with autism a few months ago I was diagnosed with social anxiety disorder at the age of 10. That's my complete history. And I had moderate child abuse that caused me childhood trauma from a controlling emotionally unavailable, emotionally abusive, hyper strict, judgemental,gaslighting, selfish, mean punishment oriented parent. I developed lying behavior as a coping mechanism to escape punishment from said parent. The parent had psychotic anger and control issues. That developed a lot of anxiety and shyness in me and contributed to my social anxiety and social withdrawal.

I'm very bad at it. My Exposure during school - I didn't talk to anyone for the 12 years of my life. Teachers began to complain about me to my parents. I wouldn't talk. I used to remain completely silent. I don't know the reasons for this. Like I don't know why I didn't talk. It was medically abnormal. I used to talk to my parents though. I talked for the first time to a person when I was 13. I began hanging out with few people when I was 14. I went back into my shell when I was 18 because I developed very high social anxiety. I began taking meds for anxiety and started talking to people and improved my skills a tiny bit. I made boyfriends at the same time. Many boyfriends all toxic. Total boyfriends - 5. I currently don't have friends I think the most number of friends I made in past 4 years is 6. These are just random people I met who I considered friends but they forgot me over time when they moved to other cities. They were mostly either online people or someone I met in university but they disappeared and I lost touch with them. I have no social media. At one time I had Facebook but I made only one friend there who was my boyfriend. Later I deleted Facebook because I used to login once a year there so I figured it was useless. Recently I was diagnosed with autism a few months ago I was diagnosed with social anxiety disorder at the age of 10. That's my complete history. And I had moderate child abuse that caused me childhood trauma from a controlling emotionally unavailable, emotionally abusive, hyper strict, judgemental,gaslighting, selfish, mean punishment oriented parent. I developed lying behavior as a coping mechanism to escape punishment from said parent. The parent had psychotic anger and control issues. That developed a lot of anxiety and shyness in me and contributed to my social anxiety and social withdrawal.

From the responses above... Still contemplating on the question. So far I gathered this — List of green signs in authentic people List of red signs in phony people Adage - actions speak louder than words. People who are genuine will show in action, not just words, would actually be people of fewer words Genuine emotion.. Existence of emotional language in some form. Intuition will guide. Sometimes intuition can fail or give false positives. Intuition is only partly reliable as a result. Golden litmus test - elaborate on golden litmus test What is their motivation in doing what they are doing ? What is their intent behind coming into my life? Whats motivating them in this moment? What are they gaining from this? What are they seeking? Empathy Synchronicity - a natural sync develops Low IQ - genuine people are low IQ... My observation has shown that genuine people are surprisingly low IQ because they don't use brain but heart intelligence. But they are high EQ since they mostly operate using emotion. But sometimes they can be low EQ assholes with low social calibration.

Ok I'm getting bits and pieces of information List of green signs in authentic people List of red signs in phony people Adage - actions speak louder than words. People who are genuine will show in action, not just words, would actually be people of fewer words Genuine emotion.. Existence of emotional language in some form. Intuition will guide. Sometimes intuition can fail or give false positives. Intuition is only partly reliable as a result. Golden litmus test - elaborate on golden litmus test What is their motivation in doing what they are doing ? What is their intent behind coming into my life? Whats motivating them in this moment? What are they gaining from this? What are they seeking? Trauma work, primal therapy, shadow work, parts work Empathy Synchronicity - a natural sync develops Low IQ - genuine people are low IQ... My observation has shown that genuine people are surprisingly low IQ because they don't use brain but heart intelligence. But they are high EQ since they mostly operate using emotion. But sometimes they can be low EQ assholes with low social calibration.

@Osaid there is one idea that popped up in my mind in the last hour that I had been pondering on this question. I had to contemplate hard. This idea is this - What if I placed myself in the shoes of the other person and then asked myself - will I. Do what they are doing if I were them? For example, last year I had been dealing with someone who was constantly gossiping about their lover to me behind their lover's back. I thought this person was genuine. Turned out they were phony as hell. One way I could have known this is simply asking myself - will I ever bitch about my partner behind their back to others? And my instant answer to that question was - Absolutely No. But that person had been engaging in this behavior. So this meant they were doing something I would never see myself doing as an authentic person. And this is a clue to not take that person as authentic. This is like a litmus test I came up with. Not greatly helpful but somewhat helpful.

This is okayish. I'll keep this in mind. Actually these people are surprisingly good at treating waiters. Since they like to pretend to look nice.....

Absolutely zero idea what this is. Never even heard of it until right this moment when you mentioned it

@flowboy it's okay you have a good one. You can always respond at your own ease. Thank you for taking the time to read my stuff, I highly appreciate.

Ok I have been working on my trauma a lot. I have done shadow work as well. But I really don't know If I'm making much progress.

@flowboy while pondering over the question in the last few hours I made a list of what I would see as important differences between genuine and phony people. These aren't tools or strategies but these are just broad descriptions of how genuine and phony people will differ from each other. Just general pointers. Tell me if you find my observations interesting or if you have anything to add to it. Genuine They will not play social games They will ask you back after you have reported something to them They will show emotion in their eyes while you tell them how bad you feel.. Like they will cry with you. They will mirror your emotions back to you. This will be the biggest difference between someone who is phony and someone who is genuine. Genuine people will show a lot of emotion. They will cry. They won't be cold at all. Even if the genuine person is emotional, they might not be too vocal about it. They might have deep emotions. Maybe they went hungry to bed. They didn't turn up to work on that day. They won't kiss ass They will be bold and brave They will not be sweet They won't flatter They will always do a follow up They will be intensely loyal almost like a dog These people won't look attractive They won't be diplomatic They will be a bit harsh. Very politically incorrect as a result of this they will be in lot of trouble socially. People will boycott them because people will not appreciate their bluntness They will be a bit autistic They will also be naive and gullible easily trusting Others They will be Empathetic They will have zero agenda They will be frank about their flaws They will be vulnerable to their partners They won't play victim They won't be interested in public impressions. They will fail to attract people They will be courageous They will mostly be honest They will do what they said they will do They will keep their word They will have high moral integrity These people will be considerate PHONY PHONY people will be very icy cold distant ... They will not show much emotion at all. PHONY people will flatter, play social games, people pleaser, extroverted Phony people will be shallow, fake, superficial, charming, sweet, flattering, love bombing, narcissist These people look attractive They will be diplomatic Always playing victim because they want social attention. They will be smart, clever, intelligent with a lot of foresight. . They will be manipulative They will operate from egoic place . They will be hypocrite . They will be predatory . They will be two faced They will people please They will praise publicly and apologize privately They will have cult leader attributes Their spirituality will be fake and designed to impress. Very grand. Elaborate. They will say big things. Nothing will be simplistic about their spirituality. Much of which they will never practice or follow. They will be the literal definition of "never practice what you preach." They won't like you for your heart, they will like you for your looks or status They will try to be the center of attention They will act like groupies They will have low self worth They will have fatal self esteem They will prefer to be in groups.. A tight knit group

I felt like you wrote everything about me word to word like a psychic. I'm actually really good with intuition. But..... I guess with people who manipulate me emotionally, my intuition shuts off temporarily. And or I numb it down subconsciously so that I don't have to believe it. My intuition is very acute and has often saved my life. I frequently get psychic premonitions about people I deeply care about where I wake up in the middle of the night realizing I should do something to avoid an unwanted outcome. But if I'm feeling very empathetic towards a person, it will shut off my judgement chamber of my intuition. Btw I'm myself a big liar, so it's hard for me to be a lie detector since I give a green pass to most lies. I don't see a liar as a problem, I easily forgive them since I have myself been one growing up, I used to lie an awful lot to my parents, my entire childhood was learning how to lie, to the point that I became such an expert at lying that nobody would be able to tell the difference between when I was saying the truth versus when I was lying, I got bolder at it with time and much more skilful at lying effortlessly and lying almost became my second language. At the same time, I had no moral inhibitions with lying, I did not suffer guilt or remorse nor did I judge other liars as bad. I don't judge anyone who lies to me. My brain is wired differently so I don't think my brain would ever see lying as a problem. It doesn't bother me at all if anyone is lying to me. I simply don't see any problem with it. But there's an important difference. Although I lie an awful lot, I never lie about my intent or emotion or sentiment. I'm emotionally always completely honest. That is, my heart is always pure, it's never phony or inauthentic. I will never tell someone that I like them without actually liking them. I don't do that shit.. My heart is always in the right place, even when I'm lying. I'm not phony. I am not able to tell if someone is being phony. I easily get manipulated believing that someone has my best interests in their mind, later realizing that they were simply bullshitting me.

Sexuality compatibility. Both should climax at the same time. Mutually seducing each other.