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@Elisabeth Yes, I could choose a goal and go for it if I have this 'spark' which says: yes, this fascinates me.

I got stuck in the course (and in life?) and I cannot move as I simply do not know what satisfies me, I do all the exercises but I cannot move forward (I am on 60 video). 2 years ago, I was burned out at work, I worked as HR dealing with recruitment (9 to 5 work). After 3 years of working my job stopped being fun for me, I did not enjoy my working environment and structure changed and a few my responsibilities. I quit, I travelled a bit, I worked remotely part-time for over 1,5 year. I had time for everything I did not have before but this work was not developing me, I also worked on my own in my house so no friends from work, no social interactions and only 2-3 hours per day of work (it was just a boss and me at this company). Money not so good. But it was not the most important. In the meantime, I started to help part-time my boyfriend in HR area as he has two companies (each around 10 ppl). I do not know why but I have to force myself to do anything there, I do not feel it. As a result, I do not do anything related to work. He told me that I can do whatever I want in the company what makes me happy but still – I do not know what. I consider coming back to 5 to 9 work as I want to have structure, friends from work and be paid according to my education and experience. On the other hand, I quit the work as I believe we were not born to spend 8-10 hour at work every single day and do not have time for cooking, for your family, for reading books and exercise. I do not feel like working on my own (I do not want to start a business). I started a therapy 1 month ago as I come to a conclusion that I do not understand myself, I do not know what I need what frustrates me (I am a person who likes finding solutions and improvements fast). It turns out that I get bored very easily. Right not I have 100% freedom, no job satisfaction (and satisfaction in life as a result) and no direction I would like to go. Any ideas how to find me in this situation? Leo asks in the exercises about finding your purpose but I do not know what it is. I feel powerless.

@Space thanky you. and how to work on my attitude? any ideas?;)

@pluto good to hear your experience. It only shows that the dog is a reflection of the owner;)

@pluto Thank you for sharing your experince. Have you ever had any behavioral challenges/hard situations with your dog? What was your attitude?

Hi there, I wanted to ask you about your perspective of having a dog. I adopted a dog 3 months ago (the fist dog in my life). He is awesome, in the meantime I feel stressed that he can bite someone on the street, he will not come back when he runs freely, that he is dangerous for all people on the bike (yes, we are on the leash, yes, we train etc.). I would like to firstly work on my attitude because I want to enjoy the time together more, even the challenges but I am stressed. In comparison my boyfriend do not care and he is happy when it comes to a dog. Please note that my dog is sometimes aggresive when it comes to drunk people when we go for a walk, he does not like bikes and all fast moving objects Maybe it is because he is my first dog. Maybe it is because I would like to see results of our trainings right away. Maybe it is because I create black scenarios. I do not know. Please advise me.

@gogoladze1929 great question. I am curiuos as well. At this point I can say that what is good for one person, it might not be good for someone else. For example one doctor will tell you to eat 5 meals per day, and someone else will tell you that he/she feels incredibly good while having only 3. And in my opiniom whey are both right because they can give you proofs for that.

Thank you all so much. It is a privilage to talk to you and see your perspective!

@LauritzLife is too short to sit long hours in the job you do not like. Make a reasonable decision. Whatever you decide it is good Listen to your intuition.

@Dantas Thank you for your support. I know I will deal with everything but at the same time, I struggle to solve these problems as I go to extremes. I have a feeling that I am a master at that..

I used to struggle with this rat race as well. I woke up, went to work, go to the gym, spend some time with my boyfriend, cooked healthy meals and at the end of the day I wanted to cry because I asked myself: is this my life? where can I find time for socialising with others, my hobbies etc. I quit my job and I find the new one which is more flexible and help me to combine travelling and working. Yes, I earn less but it was worth it. The question you need to ask yourself are your values. There is nothing wrong with e.g. 9 to 5 job but you need to observe the relationship with this. If you do not feel comfortable with that and you want to have more time for your family you need to change something. I keep repeating myself: if you change nothing, nothing will change. Another example: last year I went for workaway to UK and I lived in a camper with one family. They told me: listen, we do not have a beautiful apartment as our friends have, frankly speaking, we sometimes have cold water and if we want to use the toilet we need to go for a few minutes to get to the place but we have time to see how our children grow because we do not have to work long hours as our costs of living are quite low. They valued that and it was their way to get to the point. The question is: what is yours? Good luck with finding your balance.

Life gives us challenges. In my understanding, if you want to become a better version of it is an ongoing process of self-improvement, day by day. I know at the end of the day that the effort is worth it. But at the same time, I feel frustrated, tired and overwhelmed because I have a feeling that it is a never-ending story - I solve one problem/face one challenge/improve one aspect in my life and there will be NEXT one. Is there any problem with my understanding this? Maybe I attract the problems? Maybe it is all about system thinking – if I change one thing in my life it will influence others? How can I find myself while struggling with that? What do you think?