Emerald

Haha! I guess I let the cat out of the bag. Every woman is all about Genghis Kahn. ? But it’s usually based around something contextual for me if it’s a more heart-centered fantasy. Like, I have a crush on a guy. And then I imagine some scenario where things start off platonic and then there’s a sexual shift, where the context flips in a moment. These fantasies are all about the guy and the exchange of passionate feelings through the medium of sex. But the there are more loins-centered fantasies that are like the categories on a porn site. It’s not personal... just about the sexual urge. This one’s a bit more draining... like having a male orgasm is said to be.

The ‘racism-capacity for racism’ and ‘barbarism-capacity for barbarism’ parallel doesn’t track. That’s a false equivalency. The reason why is because the ‘capacity for barbarism’ is an expression of masculinity in both its healthy and unhealthy forms. And it is very useful in its healthy expression. And racism (along with having no pro-social use in modern society) is just an expression of Shadow Masculinity. There’s no Divine Masculine racism. The unhealthy masculine is the untamed barbarism and the lack of self-control and narcissism that comes with it. It’s indiscriminate barbarism. Where a man in his healthy masculine will have a lot of discipline and will be in control of his capacity for barbarism... and will use that capacity for the greater good. But don’t take my use of the word barbarism as referring directly to Barbarians. Protecting your family at all costs is important if you have attackers from the outside. That’s Divine Masculine... which necessitates the capacity for barbarism. This is why that capacity is so attractive. But a man who is indiscriminately barbaric is a liability. And it’s the exact opposite of an aphrodisiac. It lacks the Divine Masculine capacities of responsibility, strength of character, strong will, discipline, stability, etc. There’s a lot more to being an attractive man than being a ravenous beast. The beast without the tamer is gross at best and genuinely dangerous at worst.

If you want to take the Vegan logic and ideology to its extremes, sure. That’s what PETA does. They run animal shelters and kill like 80% of the animals. And there are quotes that suggest the founder is against pet ownership... and thus believes it’s more ethical to euthanize than rehome. Luckily, my reason for Veganism has nothing to do with logic at all. I have no investment in following the Vegan ideology to its extremes. I just listen to what feels viscerally wrong to me... and then I don’t do those things that evoke that reaction. Have you watched Earthlings yet like I recommended?

I did say “apparently”. I heard that mentioned somewhere a long time ago that humans and dolphins are the only species that have sex for pleasure. Not sure if it’s true. Now, perhaps I add on a human taboo that doesn’t exist there for animals. But (and call me crazy with this zany opinion) I’m just not cool with bestiality. I don’t think you should do anything sexual to anyone without very clear consent. And since animals can’t verbally consent... probably don’t jack off your dog or cat. And on the Vegan side of things... probably don’t kill them and eat them either.

Only humans and dolphins have sex for pleasure apparently. So, there is no need to set up that experience for your pet. Also, this should go without saying... don't give your pet an orgasm.

I had my first sexual experience at age 6, and I also enjoyed it. I had a big crush on the boy (6 years older than me) who did it. But I realized years later, that even though I consented to it and enjoyed it, it doesn't make it untraumatic. It's too much for a child to handle. It's really integral to healing to realize the mark that situation has left.

I remember as a little girl, I used to imagine I was a beautiful princess locked away in a tower awaiting my savior. And in the end it was alway Genghis Kahn and his barbarian hordes coming to put my captor’s head on a pike and forcibly steal my maiden hood from me. Sigh!

Yes, it is true. And again, consider the mindset a person has to have about themselves, relationships, and the world to idolize such a person.

And think about what kind of understanding those women have about relationships and themselves to idolize such a person.

Nah! He got all his followers to do his dirty work. I prefer Jeffrey Dahmer because he had the balls to eat his victims... That’s what you call big dick energy.

Yes, it’s very difficult to get most men to understand what ACTUALLY makes them attractive for this very reason. A man without his feminine side integrated will get it distorted every time. Most men prefer their user-friendly narratives to the actual truth.

Women are attracted to signals of strength and the CAPACITY for barbarism if the situation calls for it. If a woman is attracted to actual unfettered barbarism in a man, then there are issues because she is attracted to men who aren’t displaying pro-social behavior and who fundamentally aren’t good for her survival. Actual barbarism denotes weakness of character, lack of discipline, and a litany of other issues.

Yes, that’s my point. Too many men hold the misconception that it’s a feminine instinct to be attracted to men who are barbaric. And they think this because there are so many women dealing with trauma and as a result are prone to attracting/ being attracted to these barbaric kind of guys. My point is to encourage men to parse the difference between nature and nurture. And to parse the difference between what will give them success with traumatized women and what’s genuinely a reflection of the Divine Masculine... which is the real aphrodisiac.

It's mostly because the image most people have in their mind about an authentically spiritual person is that they live a meager life. There is the image in collective consciousness of the ascetic yogi that lives on the street and wears rags. And anything that's more affluent feels to most people like it's not authentic. Or there's a thought that spiritual people SHOULD be above human needs, and if they aren't then they're not that spiritual. But of course, human beings all have the need for food, water, shelter, etc. Money currently is the means to get these things.

I know my channel is quite a bit smaller than yours as I only have 49k subs at this point. But I'd love to do a collaboration with you. Let me know if you'd be interested.

Just no. That would be super creepy.

You’d be wisest to be the one to reach out since you’re the avoidant one.

The first thing I’d recommend looking into is the 5 love languages if you haven’t already. Also, intimacy is all about understanding the other person deeply and being understood. So, learning to communicate and listen thoroughly is an important skill to learn.

When I began the discussion, I had assumed you to be around my age and I was primarily trying to show you how the assumption on the original post is incorrect in my experience. And I will often post on posts that are discouraging of female empowerment for the sake of any girls/women who might be passing through who might have low self-esteem and stuff like that... who might actually suppress their interests fearing it will make them less attractive. That was the original intention. But then I read through and realized your age and lack of relationship experience. And I also heard you say something to the effect that you avoid relationship because you want to stay together with the first person you’re in a relationship with. And this is a losing strategy. You have to find out what you actually want in a relationship. And that’s not something that you can discover in the abstract. You might believe you like this dynamic in your mind. But often, the reality doesn’t give you what you were expecting in the ideal. Basically, you’re sacrificing personal experience of reality and the ability to learn about yourself and grow in favor of an ideal that you may end up finding unfulfilling anyway. This is a sexual example that I’m using as an analogy, but it holds up. When I was a teenager before I had had sex or a relationship, I had certain ideas in my head about what I would like sexually. And it was mostly based on the references I’d seen to certain positions and stuff like that. And then, in the experience of my first sexual relationship, I discovered that I liked totally different things from what I thought I would. And this was also true in all the non-sexual aspects of relationship too. This was just the example that was easiest to illustrate. You learn these things about yourself in relationship in ways you could never do without the experience. And that initial charge you get in the beginning of an attraction is just a flash in the pan, and it won’t tell you about what you really want in a full-fledged relationship.

Thank you for the kind words! ?

I do think it’s most common for college educated men to seek out college educated women. There tends to be congruence among partners. So, even at that, parity of education level tends to be valued. I find that, in being cold approached, it’s anyone. But I’ve never been open to that type of interaction, so I don’t know. The way attractions tend to work for me is that I’ll be involved in some social context where I interact with the same people very often. Then, after 2 or 3 months, I’ll develop feelings for one of the men in the group. And we either spark something up or we don’t. So, I wouldn’t typically be finding myself attracted to men who are worlds different from me. But what I notice is that men project their own dating concerns into women. It’s men’s challenge to attract women and have mass appeal. And so they’re trying to tell women how to attract men... assuming this is even an issue we come up against. But women’s issue isn’t attracting... its filtering and sorting... and knowing what you want and don’t want. So, giving women a “How to attract men” advice comes off as silly. Be however you are and the men will sort themselves. And you’ll be more likely to find your match. Try to be a certain way to attract men, and you’ll end up with the wrong kind of man.

Yeah, that’s really the paradigm it grows from. And the only advice they have to give is for women to conform to stage blue standards. But all that would do is guarantee that you could attract a stage blue guy which most women on here don’t resonate with in the first place.