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One comment that I would make is that it feels like the vibe of Psych-to-Go and even has a similar voice. But what you would need is to have a short breakdown of Spiral Dynamics to preface what you're teaching. Most people don't know what Spiral Dynamics is and haven't heard of it. So, you'll need to take some time to explain that in every video. So, I would prepare a 20-30 second blurb at the beginning of each video... including "and we'll you can use this model to understand how to find a compatible partner." I do the same thing in each of my videos about Shadow Work where I explain what Shadow Work is in about 30 seconds for people who've never heard of Shadow Work before. And it's a good practice to always define all the terms you're going to be using in the video in the first part of the video before you get into the meat of things. That gives people a sense of what the video is going to be about and clue them into what kind of vocabulary you'll be using. I like to organize my videos this way... Intro - ie "Hi I'm ____ and this video is about how to use Spiral Dynamics to find a compatible partner." Define all words and phrases people aren't generally familiar with The main points Action steps Outro And I would do some work to make your sound and sharing style a bit different from Psych-to-Go. It's important to find your own voice and to find your personal edge that makes you different from everyone else.. Those are my main notes. Keep up the great work!

There can be several reasons why this arises. And it's case specific to the individual. But one practice you can use is to ask yourself "How am I trying to protect or serve myself by holding onto the belief that I'm unworthy?" Sometimes we hold onto that belief to give ourselves the illusion of power over powerless situations because we can tell ourself "If I would have just been better, then it wouldn't have happened." In this case, the belief in unworthiness serves a protective purpose of keeping you from facing with the powerlessness of a situation (usually a childhood situation). Another reason we can hold onto this belief is to police ourselves before other people can judge us or ridicule us. And the belief in unworthiness acts as a gag to keep us from expressing ourselves and being judged. Yet another reason we can hold that belief is that we have a loved one that hates us... and we begin hating ourselves to ally ourselves with that loved on. And the belief in unworthiness can just be an extension of that self-hate that we adopted to keep connection to loved one (usually a parent). These are the main three that come to mind. But there may be others as well. But just keep contemplating into the question, "How am I trying to protect or serve myself by holding onto the belief that I'm unworthy?" And eventually the answer will reveal itself. And at that point you have spotted the root cause and you can work directly on the root cause of the problem as opposed to trying to change the symptom (aka the belief in unworthiness).

Women who are overtly flexible just tend to be women who don't really know who they are and who don't have a very high self-esteem. And women with this tendency tend to compromise and settle for less in relationships and don't get "beloved" treatment like they really want. The thing is that, if a woman isn't clear on her boundaries. And she trades 'WHAT she wants in a relationship' for 'WHO she wants in a relationship', she's not going to be happy with that relationship because her boundaries alarm bells will be constantly going off. So, if a woman stays with a guy because she likes him despite glaring incompatibilities (in this case, the guy wants to be poly), she probably has some self-love issues she needs to work through. But a lot of men tend to bank on women liking them so much that they'll compromise those boundaries. So, it's common that the man will try to get the woman to fall in love with them first before springing ethical non-monogamy onto them. That's why I think that conversation should happen way before any feelings arise and before any major relationship bonding happens.

Thank you It helps me keep my sword sharp.

I tend to be kind of on and off on here over the years, and just come back when it resonates. So, I don't really want any responsibilities on here. I just come here to get into little intellectual debates for fun.

Thank you for the nomination, but no thank you. I just like to come here every in my off times to goof around.

There's a transactional element to relationships. But that's not all there is to a relationship. And if you don't see that, your ideology is clouding you and holding you back from making deep connections with people.

I see. I didn't know it was a Blackpill thing.

That's true. There's a great video that Innuendo Studios came out with 5 or so years ago called "How to Radicalize a Normie." And it goes into the process that a lot of people who end up as Nazis end up going through.

The term normie has been around a long time before Blackpill. I probably first heard it in high school or college. (early 2000s) But I think it came from much earlier than that, like 60s and 70s... hippie times.

Didn't you know that fruitcakes that wear make-up, dyed hair, and shiny ostentatious suits are the alpha-ist of males? Example one... Example two...

Do you mean that the word "normie" is often used in the Blackpill online spaces? Or are you just saying that my use of the word "normie" is blackpilling you about life?

My favorite qualities in men.... and favorite Masculine qualities in general are encouragement and the desire to help. My experience has been that a lot of men will go out of their way to support you and help you do what you're trying to do. There's also this really "into it" kind of way that a lot of men are with their passions. And this is one is one that I've always aspired to. Like, when my son gets into something... he get WAY into it and wants to know everything about it. I see the same kind of quality with my dad and my husband with their respective interests. And there's this specific orientation to it that's hard to put into words. It's got frenzied mad scientist energy to it.

They've actually been really effective at convincing their target audience. And they were under the radar of most people for the longest time. Neo-Nazis have been rising in popularity since around 2015. That's when I started to learn about them. But back then, if you called them out on it, the average person would be like "You're a crazy paranoid SJW. They're obviously not Nazis." And you'd get accused of crying wolf if you tried to tell people about it. It's only in recent years that people are starting to wake up to it. So, unfortunately, their games have been quite effective.

To the average person definitely. But it becomes easier to spot when you know what the common dog whistles and symbols are... and the way that they talk about things. Secret Nazis are always using symbols to communicate with one another and signal that they're also Nazis. The main difficulty is that Neo-Nazis are pretty effective at spreading their talking points. So, normies can also pick up on those and start using them.

It's more like 10% of them are serious about White Nationalism and Neo-Nazism from the start... and those 10% radicalize the other 90%. But that 10% "hide their power level" from normies, which is what Neo-Nazis and White Nationalists call strategically hiding the fact that they're secret Nazis in order to maximize their impact on normies. And then these secret Nazis start making "ironic" edgy jokes about women, minorities, immigrants, gay, and trans people in a way that has plausible deniability. Like, "Come on guys. He's obviously joking. Why do you have to be such a woke scold? Everyone gets canceled for everything now-a-days. Comedy is under attack." And because the Nazi rhetoric is couched in a joke, the normies don't think the people who started them are really Nazis and will assume they're joking... and they begin joking along with them. Then, you have a bunch of Nazis and non-Nazis telling the same jokes. And it muddies the waters further because it is ACTUALLY true that some of them are joking. And over time, these online space just become Neo-Nazi spaces... and the veneer of the jokes are only there to pull in unsuspecting normies.

Nope! Also incorrect.

And this is the example you use to show me that political behaviors aren't psychological?

It seems to me that it is you who doesn't know which game you're playing. 80%+ of people's political behaviors are purely emotional and psychological.

I'm sure that he knows what he was doing. First off, apparently Twitter has been a pretty Neo-Nazi-friendly space since he took over. Also, you can't be a megalomaniac that's rubbing elbows with the far right and do a Nazi salute... and also be given the benefit of the doubt that it wasn't intentional. Clearly it was. I think people can excuse it and do mental gymnastics about it because they still hold the idea that being a Neo-Nazi is a rare thing. But it really isn't that rare... it's quite common and banal. That's especially true in this current era since mainstream Conservatism and Fascism have been becoming more and more indistinguishable from one another over the past 10 years or so. I think people need to realize how common and prevalent Fascism is. And gaslighting ourselves out of recognizing it isn't doing us any favors. It didn't do us any favors 10 years ago. And it doesn't do us any favors today.

The issue is that you're seeing human relationships through the lens of an ideology... but you believe that you're seeing the truth because Social Darwinism has a scientific veneer. But Social Darwinism is not science. It's a pseudoscientific ideology. And the more you can deconstruct the Blackpill Social Darwinian ideology, you can allow yourself to love and be loved without this feeling like it's all empty transaction. So, you actually don't know how the magic trick is done. Your ideology just convinces you that you do.

Yes, definitely. There are certainly some external factors that can influence things. But only insofar as they set off internal psychological factors that are more deep-seated. For example, lots of people were bringing up inflation. And inflation is bound to create distress for people. But if people aren't willing to face into the vulnerabilities that they feel about that inflation, they will go into the process of externalization and blame. And they will be susceptible to scapegoating narratives about blaming people of certain groups. But if they're willing to face into the vulnerability, they will be less susceptible to that kind of propaganda. And they'll be more likely to think critically and realistically about these issues. Intelligence is another factor, because many people have some limitations about how complex their understandings of politics can be. But I even suspect that lower levels of political intelligence alone doesn't necessarily make a person that much more susceptible to scapegoating propaganda. There would likewise need to be underlying psychological dynamics that would cause a resonance with that kind of propaganda. So, it's really all about the emotions and facing into what's going on psychologically. And the lack of that can make someone susceptible to falling for victim narratives.

You're welcome. Thank you for sharing a bit more about the dynamic. There are probably different blocks to allowing connection in... at least partially because of trust issues. But IFS therapy is a good way to go about it. But even moreso Somatic therapy can be an excellent path to helping you with IFS. I had a relationship mirage dynamic since I was 3 that I resolved a few years ago on a medicine journey. And it all began with facing into and processing repressed emotions of terror. And through facing with this terror, it enabled me to "click into" a state of embodiment of a three year old 'part' of myself. And in that embodiment, it enabled me to move past a traumatic moment that I had been stuck in for 30 years... and al the mindsets and understandings that I had at that time. It's really in the process of turning inward that the issue will be resolved... even though it feels like it's an external issue. And you may even find yourself attracted to women that won't work for a longterm relationship because you're selecting for what that part of you wants... and not what would really work out longterm. Or there could just be general blocks to connected because of chronically unmet connection needs.

Yes, it would be case specific.

Yes, it can feel hopeless at first because it really recognizes the collective human fragility. And it puts the more fortunate humans on edge because there is a sense of being at the mercy of those vulnerable masses. But it also leads to compassion... which is where truth and love meet as one. And in the state unconditional absolute compassion, an accurate diagnosis arises... and with it, the cure.