Emerald

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  1. This isn't advisable for women. Intermittent fasting has shown positive results for men. But for women, it can actually cause Amenorrhea, hormonal imbalance, and infertility. The sources that I've read recommend that if a woman wants to do intermittent fasting that they skip a day or two in between each intermittent fasting day.
  2. It's difficult to have a fully integrated masculine and feminine side because of society's level of awareness relative to these topics. I've been working at it for a decade, and I still have a ways to go. So, it can be easy to deceive one's self into thinking that there is no issue of Anima dis-integration, in general. It takes a considerable amount of time to be able to recognize and remove barriers to integration that most people see as neutral. It takes a while to develop discernment with regard to the internal landscape. Also, I've noticed that you're quite attached to the idea of being a good person. Every conversation that we've had has included a lot of worries about being seen in a negative light. So, it can be especially difficult for someone who identifies so strongly with goodness to actually see things about themselves that might contradict that image. And this causes blindspots in awareness, when there are things that you just don't want to see about yourself. Perhaps, underneath the desire to see yourself as a good person and be seen by others as a good person, is a subtle belief. Something like, bad people are worthless or bad people don't deserve love. Some idea that makes you react against it and cling to a "good person" self image. So, I would actually work on detaching your self image from identification with "goodness" first. This will enable you to see more of your internal world. Right now, there is probably a smaller space that your consciousness is occupying within the internal world. The problem with ego and identification is that we learn to keep our consciousness concentrated in one specific area of the internal world. So, we don't see what's going on in the other parts. But the internal world is just as big and diverse as the external world. It's infinite. I hate to bombard you with videos, but I have a few more that are very relevant to this conversation. And again, I've posted them in order of relevance.
  3. @billiesimon There is a lot of projection going on with your relationships. And this problem probably can't be properly addressed on the level of relationships with women. That's ultimately just a symptom of a deeper cause. It probably does have something to do with your relationship to your mom. But that may just be one of many catalysts. But you'll probably find that the issue originates with your relationship to your Anima, which is much closer to you than any Earthly woman. Basically, the Anima is a Jungian archetype, that is the part of every man that is a woman. Likewise, the Animus is the part of every woman that is a man. So, there is a quite literally an aspect of yourself that is feminine. And that aspect, when dis-integrated and unconscious is like a fragmented aspect of yourself that has its own needs and desires. So, the problem that I see many men having issues with is disconnection from the Anima, which creates a disconnection with other people and insulates them from wisdom. It is only when the Anima is integrated that a person can have access to wisdom. But when a man has a dis-integrated Anima, the Anima will actively try to become reintegrated. And it does this, by projecting its image onto women as individuals and women as a whole group. So, it is very common for men who have a disintegrated Anima to project both the ideal feminine image onto all women as well as the shadow feminine. The result of this is to see women as being an incredibly powerful force that are bent on either confirming or denying your validity as a human being. Now, this is not true. Women aren't thinking about this. It's just a projection of the spurned Anima. The spurned Anima likes to torment, because it's been rejected by you. So, it wants to make you feel rejected by it. So, it sets up that dichotomy where women are conveyors of your worth as a human being if they accept you but are deniers of your worth as a human being if they reject you. So, the solution is actually to integrate the Anima. This may be difficult. Society tends to punish men for expressing anything non-masculine. This is why so many men have the issue of dis-integrated Anima and Anima possession. So, you want to start looking toward any knee-jerk reactions against things in the feminine principle, and working on letting go of those resistances. I'll leave a few videos here that may help. But if you're only going to watch one of them, watch the one on the Anima and Animus.
  4. I don't necessarily think so. I think Green can be a very difficult jump to make for everyone because there is so much widespread demonization of Green. Probably the majority of people look down upon it. So, men and women alike might want to save face and avoid association with Green, because the society is Orange and hates Green with a vengeance. That said, there are a few boons of staying in Orange for men that women can never fully reach. Orange society is usually designed around a lot of male-centric narratives of complete optimization of the self, lovers, lifestyle, etc that are tailored to the male gender. And the best most women (and feminine oriented men) can really hope for in Orange is to identify with their non-dominant energy and climb in corporate hierarchies or embody a miniscule fraction of their dominant energy and be the attractive love interest of a powerful man. Or some Frankensteinish combo of the two. Either way, a woman (or feminine man) will have to check most (or all) of their feminine energy at the door, disallowing them from being in alignment with their dominant energy. Point being, it just doesn't give the illusion of fulfilliment in quite the same way as it would for a man in Orange. So, a woman might get bored there before a man does. Having said that, there is usually more social scorn for men moving up to Green because all the Red, Blue, and Orange people will attack their masculinity and see them as lowering themselves, even though they're actually elevating themselves. So, it can be harder for men to leave Orange and make the jump to Green, because they are self-conscious about seeming like a woman or lowering their status to women's level within Orange society. So, women who are seeking to move from Orange to Green won't get as much flack for it, as long as we do it without rocking the boat too much or looking 'ugly' while we do it or being outspoken about political stances. But I don't really think having an easier time moving to Green is something inherent to men and women. If there is some inherent difference, I'm sure that it's a lot more subtle than society lets on. It almost always is. I relate it more to social pressures and society being a bunch of crabs in the bucket when it comes to progress.
  5. The way to do this is to gain skills with being able to function in the opposite way. That way, you'll be more well-rounded. So, you'd be trying to develop skills in the areas of ESTJ. Now, I'm not saying that you should forget your natural way of being as an INFP. But gaining skills in ESTJ will help you function better. So, be able to function like an extrovert when you need to. Develop skills with sensing and focus more toward the perceivable world instead of relying only on intuition and internal phenomena. Develop your intellect so that you can understand your feelings better, as well as other things. And probably most important, develop the ability to judge, limit, and create rules and boundaries. The reason why the 'J' is so important is because people have a hard time functioning without being able to create a clear context. 'J' is like being able to set down a solid structure for yourself to be successful in and determine that you've actually been successful by your own definition. Without boundaries, rules, and limitations, there is no ability to create friction and traction within the world. So, your goals won't be able to come to fruition because you won't be able to create the requisite amount of meaning needed for sustained focus on a particular desired outcome. And if you want success, you have to define what it means using judgment. So, use the 'J' to create context, rules, meaning, and boundaries for yourself. It's probably the main reason why you're having difficulties as an INFP. I'm an INFJ (borderline INFP), and when I function more like an INFP I am a lot less able to execute on things. I'm likely to get lost in the idea world and be unable to bring it forth into reality.
  6. Unfortunately, there is no way to lose weight from one particular area of the body. Fat cells are different than most other types of cells, because they shrink and grow. So, when you lose weight, you don't actually lose any fat cells. They just shrink. So, the only way to lose weight from a particular area is plastic surgery.
  7. Well, there will sometimes be a need to create meaning for practical functioning. For example, if you're reading a book, you will still need to be able to translate the squiggles on the page into words. And you will still need to be able to function as an individual self in the world, just like everyone else. The mind and its meaning-making functions exist for these practical functions. But there will be no need to apply the intellect's tools of meaning, purpose, value, worth, etc. to existential concerns of the self and of reality itself. You will be okay with things just being as they are without needing to define their significance or contextualize it in a greater and more valuable system. Basically, you will see meaning for what it is... just a tool for the human mind to use for certain functions in life.
  8. Activism is useful for advancing society. It is part of what makes us move up on the spiral as a whole species. That said, activism has its limits and can often lead to unintended consequences. But even those unintended consequences are a valid aspect of human evolution. It's how the whole system unfolds.
  9. I think that anything past Turquoise, is just grasping at straws a bit. I feel like the model is getting a bit theoretical and trying to map things that don't really exist yet. I can notice and accept everything up to stage Turquoise. But Coral and beyond just seem a bit extra.
  10. When I had my experiences beyond the ego (which both lasted a few hours a piece), I didn't need any meaning. I just did things because a deep sense of knowing was guiding me. And I could do things for the pure enjoyment of just existing. There was no need to process the meaning of things through the ego to derive motivation. Motivation came from a deeper place. So, if my experiences are any indicator of what enlightenment is like, there won't be any "point" in doing anything. You will transcend the need for "points", meaning, value, worth, significance, and utilitarian context... and truly context of any kind. These empty words were just the measuring sticks of the ego, which are designed to define the world only through what the mind can understand, quantify, measure, and contextualize in some greater more meaningful system. But in that state, there exist NO greater more meaningful system to contextualize value/worth/significance/meaning/etc. It simply is what there is. So, for those who aren't beyond ego, they freak out because all they know is their measuring tools and how to determine the value of things through contextualization and relativity within their world. But in that state, all contexts drop away as does all ability to buy into falsehoods like having a "point". And they lose the ability to buy into falsehoods like the flip side of belief in a "point", which would be a belief in "pointlessness". But neither "point" nor "pointlessness" actually exist. Neither "worth" nor "worthlessness". These are just the measuring tools of the human mind that cannot fathom of the depth of validity and being-ness that is their own existence.
  11. I've experienced ego transcendence, and I can't think of any cons to being that way... other than "losing it" and not knowing how to function thereafter. And knowing what you're missing out on because you've truly tasted freedom. That's the part that sucks. Being in a prison where you realize that you're in a prison because you once found a way out. And knowing that the key is right in front of you but you just can't see it. From your post, in accordance with my (limited) experiences of being beyond ego, it seems like you take the "losing your life" thing to mean something that it doesn't. When I lost "Emerald", it wasn't like reality actually changed. It was all the same, but I was 10,000 times more 'there.' Not only was I in life, I was connected with life itself. The main thing that happened, was that I was just freed from the chains of believing in an "Emerald" that didn't exist. So, I didn't have to act like an "Emerald", and I didn't have to preserve an "Emerald." I didn't need to do the bidding of "Emerald." "Emerald" was just an idea floating around in my head, and had never actually existed. "Emerald" was just an idea that I came up with, and it was a really heavy burden to carry around. I had built a prison out of "Emerald." After I let go of "Emerald", I could just be. And that was more than enough. I didn't need to be enslaved to ideas like "Emerald" that never had anything to do with anything. I was already unshakably valid; always had been and always would be. And I was more fully embodied than I had been in my entire life. So, the only thing that ego transcendence makes you lose is something that was never there to begin with. But this "nothing" is a really heavy "nothing" that we feel like we need to protect at all costs. But it's literally nothing. You lose NOTHING when you transcend the ego. But in losing that "nothing", you set down that heavy invisible burden and become receptive to experiencing what you actually are.
  12. Generally speaking, it isn't rude by itself. It just matters what you say, how you say it, when you say it, and the vibe you give off. So, there are some contexts when it could be rude. As a woman, there are a few contexts that I don't liked to be approached under. I'll give the main ones and the reason why they're uncomfortable situations and how to avoid them. 1. If I'm in the middle of trying to accomplish something in a focused way - Think about when you're walking through the mall and one of the sale's people at the mall tries to get your attention to talk to you about their product. But you really just wanted to do your own thing. Then, you have to have this weird conversation and be nice to that person. All the while, you just want to be on your way to do the thing that you ACTUALLY wanted to do. That's what it feels like when a guy approaches you when you're in the middle of something. It's frustrating to be interrupted. And she will probably associate you, from the get-go, with the feeling of being annoyed. So, to avoid this, I recommend looking for body language cues. If you see a woman walking briskly in a focused way, she is probably going to a specific place to get something done. So, it's a bad idea to stop her in her tracks just to talk to her. But if you see a woman who is just hanging out and not particularly focused on something, you can try to spark up a conversation. 2. If I'm in a huge crowd of people by myself (unless it's a club or concert something like that) - Women who are by themselves in a crowded place are often bombarded by guys trying to approach them. Now, one guy approaching isn't annoying by itself, as long as he's respectful and positive. But the high frequency of men approaching can be quite annoying. For example, if you've ever played the Gameboy Pokemon game, you walk through the tall grass hoping that a Pokemon won't pop up on you. But then it does, and you're like "UGH! Not again!" So, to avoid this, don't approach women on busy pedestrian streets where she's probably already gotten six approaches that day from random guys. Use some social acuity, and ask yourself "How likely is it that she's already been approached a ton of times already today?" Now, you can still spark up a conversation if the situation is appropriate and natural, but keep it platonic at first. Women appreciate slow courtship and wondering "Is he interested or not?". So, she will appreciate you opening with normal banter. 3. If I'm all alone (especially a night) and the only other person around is the man that's trying to talk to me- This one is pretty self-explanatory. She'll probably be scared because she knows she's vulnerable in that situation. So, making a point to not interact, will be appreciated. I used to have to walk home alone in the middle of the night back when I was in college. So, I did a lot of late night lonely walking. And I've had men try to follow me home and all kinds of other vaguely threatening situations. Then, one night, I was walking alone on a dark road and there was a man behind me about twenty feet back. So, I was afraid of what might occur, and I looked back at him. Then, he said, "Sorry" and averted his eyes. And I immediately felt so much more comfortable because I could tell that he was aware of how I might feel in the situation. Now, I didn't bring him home with me or anything. So, don't think I'm saying that. But exercise that same kind of awareness of the incongruence of the situation. It will be appreciated. You're a man and are most likely stronger than the woman you'd be approaching. And she will be acutely aware of that, and start running through "What if"s in here mind. So, if you're in a situation like that, be considerate of her vulnerability and approach another time. 4. If I'm trying to talk to other people- No one likes to be interrupted or have someone intrude on a conversation or change the subject. So, if a woman is deeply engrossed in a conversation with someone else, don't try to squeeze in there. Just wait until she is done talking to them. Read the body language in the situation. If she looks disengaged you can approach, but if she is listening or talking to another person, then wait. Plus, it opens all kinds of doors for you to be awkward. It will make you look needy and like a third wheel. So, instead, try sparking up a conversation when she's disengaged from other people conversation-wise.
  13. @Zweistein @Sockrattes Thank you!
  14. There is forum for people who suffer from what's called "Maladaptive Daydreaming". It's called Wild Minds. I used to have an issue with it myself, and it was good to hear things from others who had the same problem. But that was just a small step in the right direction. Ultimately, what really helped me let go of it was listening to various spiritual teachers that helped me open my mind up for certain issues to be processed. That was what was causing my Maladaptive Daydreaming because I kept trying to resolve things on a level they couldn't be resolved from my previous level of consciousness. And once I let go of certain non-truths that I was clinging to, the need to disassociate and be in my head all the time naturally fell away.
  15. Generally speaking, there are common patterns of behavior that men tend to gravitate more to and common patterns that women tend to gravitate more to. Some of this comes as a result of social constructs, which often don't have very much to do with our natural feminine and masculine energies at all. And some of it comes as a result of a natural differences between people with more feminine energy (Yin) and people with more masculine energy (Yang). And sometimes it's difficult to separate the wheat from the chaff. Now, there are a ton of exceptions to the rule. There are women who are naturally more masculine and men who are naturally more feminine. But most people are relatively polar with regard to their energy. So, the average man will likely be like 80% masculine and 20% feminine. And the average woman would be like 80% feminine and 20% masculine. It's less common to be more androgynous than that, and it's also less common to be more polar than that. So, there's a small percentage of women who are 90%+ feminine, and a small percentage of men who are 90%+ masculine. There is also a relatively small percentage of people who are more androgynous. And there's a small percentage of people who have significantly more of the opposite energy to their sex. Basically, it all happens on a bell curve, where the middle of the bell curve is where relatively polar people are. So, it's a very complex topic to talk about, because there are a lot of different factors coming into play. But my advice is always to own and exalt whatever happens to be there. So, if you're a man, own, integrate, and exalt both your masculine and feminine energies. But don't contrive something that isn't already there. Also, it's important to realize that you can't change your masculine/feminine ratio, because it is the bedrock pre-conditioned state of your personality. You must simply accept whatever happens to be there, and exalt it to its highest and its deepest.
  16. The video, that I just posted like an hour ago, is all about Spiral Dynamics in relation to the Divine Feminine. But as a woman, I had a very I-centric Orange stage in high school and early college. So, I would imagine that the individualistic focus and collective focuses, will apply to everyone in that phase regardless of gender.
  17. @seaneyboyjazz Nice!
  18. Uncannily, all of my most recent videos are highly related to this topic. I'm releasing one tomorrow about Spiral Dynamics and the integration of the Divine Feminine. And in relation to that, trying to shift our mostly Orange society over to Green. Then, I did three before it on Yin and Yang, Systems Thinking, and the Reintegration of the Divine Feminine. They're all part of a loosely related series for individual and societal growth.
  19. "I was up above it... now I'm down in it." All the lyrics are so accurate to the changes in my orientation to life over the course of the past decade.
  20. You're welcome woman. In a sense, yes. But not exactly. Basically, by the way you wrote your post, it seems to me like you might be into a self-optimization focused life, where you define everything through the lens of self-optimization. I was like this when I was in my late teens. So, you were mentioning that you feel like you need to seek the love of a woman IN ORDER TO give your gift fully. Meaning, that you feel obligated to find love in order to optimally do another thing... which is the thing you really want to do (aka give your gift). So, finding love is just the means to a relatively unrelated end. So, I was saying that if you look for love as the means to another end, then you won't actually be able to find love. You'll just be looking for someone to fill in the missing piece to your master plan.
  21. I think you have my meaning mistaken. What I'm saying is NOT that faith will attract a woman to you. Attracting a partner is totally different ball-game from this conversation. What I am saying, is that if you see the 'love of a woman' as being the means to an end of something else, instead of as something you genuinely want for what it is, then you won't find love. You'll always be looking for the perfect relationship to be the thing that simply adds to whatever you have going on in your career-oriented ambitions. A relationship will just be an outgrowth of your ambitions, and it won't really be love at all. It'll just be another achievement to add to the list.