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Thanks!

@SageModeAustin I'm glad that it was helpful.

I used to be on the forum quite a bit when Leo first opened it up a couple years back. It really helped me get more traffic to my channel. Then, I didn't go on for about a year. But in recent months, I come on a couple times a day for a few minutes a piece... maybe longer if I answer to people's questions. But not that often, honestly. Most of my posts were made like two years ago. But you can laugh all you want. What I'm saying is true.

I don't care if you're turned off by what I say. It's not meant to be arousing... it's meant to snap you out of your worldview so that you can see the distortion that you're mired in, which is very obvious by the talking points that you're sold on and the level of bitterness behind the way you speak of women. It's a huge epidemic actually, so there are thousands of guys who are stuck in this same prison. So, if you can look with true detachment and pay attention, you'll see a lot of people mired in the same distortion, and you will already be able to see the distortion before they are even remotely aware of it. This is why I am already picking up on what your issue is before you even realize that you have an issue. So many men are suffering from Anima possession, and their energy gives it away by even just reading a little bit of what they've written. Because of their Anima possession, they are over-whelmed by the Shadow Feminine qualities that the repressed Anima infuses into their personality: bitterness, passive aggressiveness, bitchiness, blaming others instead of taking personal responsibility, pettiness, lack of acceptance of reality, etc. These Shadow Feminine qualities can be found in most men who are sold on the Red Pill philosophies and worldview, despite their desire to be more masculine. So, by your original post, it seemed as though you were interested in self-actualization. And I won't sugar-coat it for you... You will never become self-actualized if you're at war with women. The Anima will not let you. And if you don't think you're at war with women, dig a little deeper and be a little more honest.

This post shows me that you have no idea what I said in my post. This post is the paragon of the very resistance to women that will keep you ever entrenched in your attachment to women and their validation. So, "unplugging" right now is literally impossible for you. You are not capable of detachment if you harbor so much hate and resistance to the Feminine that you can't even make a post without insulting women as a whole group. And it's quite clear that you don't appreciate Femininity at all... not by a long shot. In fact, you have no clue what the feminine actually is. And your resistance to the Feminine is palpable. And your Anima will punish you at every turn for this hatred of the Feminine. Resistance to women equals resistance to self. And you will never self-actualize if you hate such a major part of yourself. You will just be stuck judging those "land whales" with their "frappy drinks" and all of that judgment will boomerang right back at you. You'll be like a dog chasing its tail. And whenever you catch your tail and bite yourself, you will think it's women who have bitten it. And it will only cause you to chase your tail faster and with more vehemence. If you really want to detach, stop judging and let go of your delusional beliefs about yourself, women, and reality. You're stuck in a pool of acid and it's eating you alive a little bit every day. Detachment is necessary for you. But at present, you're so attached to your beliefs about women that you'd be obsessed with women even if you never spoke to a woman again. How many times a day do you think about women in anger? Does ever a day go by that you're not bitter toward women? Probably not. How much brain space do you waste?

It's normal to be more attracted to more attractive people and to value them more in a romantic sense. But it's not normal to think of more attractive women as being inherently more valuable than less attractive women. That is a learned behavior based in a distorted contracted worldview. So, the main problem I see here is the central importance you're giving to sexual attractiveness as the SOLE or CENTRAL conveyor of worth. This is a mindset that many people struggle under because sex becomes the entire underlying context for life. And the effects of this are both subtle and pervasive. It's like a virus, where all of the thoughts in your mind all center around sex in some way shape or form. This will come back to bite you HARD, because you will unconsciously think that your value rests with women's opinions about your value in the sexual marketplace. So, you will be constantly feeling low in yourself, and then seeking sex with women to validate your own worth to yourself. And you will think women are doing the same thing to you as you are to them. And it will become projected onto women as a whole group, who will look like horrible demons who only exist to suck you dry and validate/invalidate you. I see this ALL the time. So, you definitely should see that value itself is just a practical tool of the human mind. So, in the context of dating, it's fine to value people more in that sense. But if you put sex as the entire purpose and context for everything in life, then it's a given that you will come to relate everyone's sexual value to their inherent existential value. If sexuality is life, then you will only see value in those with sexual value to you. And if you don't qualify... you'll get left out of your own worldview.

The thing you're talking about is what I thought he was talking about at first, and why I thought it could be positive. But yeah... it seems like MGTOW guys are always trying to convince themselves that they don't live and die by the opinions of women, when it's really obvious that they do. And then they're like, "Well we just won't talk to women then." (metaphorically runs upstairs like a teenager and slams the door in hopes that a woman will care enough to talk them out of it). If they really wanted to sever themselves from the indoctrinations of society by distancing themselves from relationships, they would just do it and not care much what women do and don't do. They would worry about themselves during that process of exploration and shadow work... but not in relation to women. But given that they label themselves as MGTOWs, they definitely want people (women especially) to KNOW that they're MGTOWs and are often really obsessed with hating women. This shows that they really care a tremendous amount what women think. And they're trying really hard to convince themselves and others (especially women) that they "really really really REALLY don't care (times infiity plus one... Men made this society and you live by THEIR rules!!!! How do you like that? huh? I bet you're pretty upset? huh?....(ten years later)... that's why you're NOTHING! NOTHING! How dare you take Feminism and oppress men with it you bitc.... (25 years later).... go ride on the cock carousel with your ugly cu.... (in the grave).... just know that I don't care not one bit if you EVER talk to me again." And the whole time that guys just been going over that same script in his head. So, even if he never said it, it took up so much of his brain space that he'd only ever use a fraction of his potential. He may never interact with a woman again in life... but women would still be taking up 95% of his time and be to blame for all of his problems.

"It's not about fear or running away, rather it is about simply being content with yourself and accepting the reality that yes, all women are fundamentally deceitful and self serving, and that the usual checks and balances that were in place to keep them in line have been destroyed by introduction of feminism, birth control, tinder, and social media. Its about surrendering to reality regarding men's place in western society today." Until this point, you seemed to be being pretty reasonable. And I was thinking, "Well, if he doesn't harbor resistance toward women, then perhaps severing himself from the social matrix for a while might be of help. It may help him unwire his distorted worldview about how women and men are and should be." But the above quote shows me that your severance from the social matrix will only lead to you becoming more entrenched in your own ideas about the way reality works, and further severing yourself from your own feminine side. A person who is in resistance to an entire gender will be unable to self-actualize. There is an aspect of you that is female. And that part of yourself hates you because you hate it. And as long as you think this way, you will always suffer from a feminine terror that appears to be coming from the outside... but is actually coming from the inside.

I've done a little bit of mindfulness practice with my daughter, but she wasn't extremely interested in it at the time. So, I didn't force it. But now that she's getting to be a bigger kid, she might be more ready for it. So, I will try again at some point to see if it's something she's into.

Thank you! It's definitely what makes it all worthwhile.

He's got some good advice in there. And he seemed to be mindful of the potential problems with putting too much personal development onto them. That said, I would still take it with a grain of salt. A person doesn't know what parenting is like until they are a parent. I would particularly warn against the mindset of parenting as a project. I feel like this is a pretty widespread epidemic of a mindset that causes a lot of issues. Not saying Leo was advocating for that in that video, but because many people who are into his channel are into the idea of self-optimization, it can be easy to accidentally transfer this mindset onto our relationships with our children, which is very harmful.

I had my children when I was quite young... my first at 22 and my second at 25. Our first child, we weren't expecting and we worried about the free time thing at first. But afterward, we realized that life would essentially be the same either way. We have less free time, but we still do essentially the same things... only we do them with our kids there. And if we didn't have kids, we wouldn't really know about the amazing things we'd be missing. Now, I've never been much of a bar-fly or a partier. So, that change of dialing that back wasn't difficult for me. I didn't go out a lot prior to having kids because it was kind of boring. So, when I had kids, I didn't much miss it. But if you enjoy going out on weekends or something, that would probably only be a possibility once or twice a month max if you're being fair to your children and partner. Now, there is one thing that I care about that I've had to hold off on since my kids are both still little. That's meditation retreats. I just can't spend multiple days away from my kids... especially not 10+ days. When they get a bit older, I may do some retreats here and there. But that potential is currently on hold, having a 7 year old and a 3 year old. But when the youngest gets to be around 8 or 9, I'll probably start being able to do some shorter retreats. But everything else is possible. In fact, my husband and I are both working on big projects for what we want to do for our lives. So, none of that goes on hold because there's no reason to put it on hold. And it shows our kids that they can be self-motivated and do things that they're interested in. And having kids is a lot of fun. Our kids have really awesome personalities and cool interests. They go through interesting phases. They're real people with complex personalities. I feel like people who don't have kids, tend to think of kids in the abstract because they don't have the personality aspect clear in their minds. So, they think about the benefits of having kiddos in a quantifiable way (as a milestone, as a responsibility, as a blank slate, as the image of the idea of children in general, etc.) and miss the qualitative aspects of the relationship. But I wouldn't look at this area of life from a personal development standpoint. Just figure out if it's right for you. And if it is... don't treat it like a personal development venture. Treat it more like a close friendship. If the task of having children is made into a project all about milestones and producing the best children, it loses the heart of what's most important about parenting. It becomes objectifying.

@kieranperez Awesome!

Oops! I misunderstood what the link was for. I'll check it out later at some point.

Thank you for the link. I am really interested in the topic of sustainability.

Not only this... the field deaths are so high BECAUSE raising animals for slaughter is so prevalent. We could cut down on over 1/2 of grain agriculture (7/10 of the top crops in America are grains) if we didn't grow it for animals to eat so that we can eat them. Also, cows, pigs, and chickens aren't really being fed the right diets with all that grain. So even if there were remaining cows, pigs, and chickens due to not slaughtering, they would be fed their natural diets because there's no impetus to grow livestock cheaply and quickly like grains do.

Exactly. I agree with you about the unfortunate nature of field deaths. So, why continue advocating for the slaughter of animals (even more than usual if everyone did the diet you're doing), when the majority of field crops are growth to feed those animals for slaughter? If you want to cut back on agriculture (and that's your genuine agenda... which it isn't. You don't care about that AT ALL) then you should be Vegan too and/or advocating for Veganism. But you aren't. You're just using field deaths as a way to discredit Veganism so that you can push your own dietary agenda... despite the fact that the 'field deaths' argument runs counter to your dietary agenda. There are 300 million people in America. There are 160 million cows and pigs raised for slaughter in America. There are also like a billion chickens that are raised for slaughter in America. And they all consume copious amounts of grain... far more than the 300 million people consume. Most U.S. agriculture is done for the purpose of feeding animals who will be slaughtered for meat and raised for milk and eggs. So, even if human beings replaced their animal product consumption with plant consumption, there would still be significantly fewer crops needed if Veganism were simply the way of things... thus cutting down on field deaths as well.

He doesn't care about that. His mind is made up already, and his heart is closed to this issue. He prioritizes (supposed) optimization of his own health over all animal lives and well-being... and he does so consciously because he thinks that's a good thing, unlike most people who do so unconsciously just because it's a folkway and the reality is uncomfortable to face. And it doesn't matter if you show him that his original argument that "Veganism is a scam" because of field deaths actually works in favor of Veganism... he's going to keep on believing it and trying to find things that already confirm or seem to confirm his pre-existing ideology around an all-meat diet. Just look at our exchange earlier on in the thread. So, he's not the type of the type of person you can even get through to. He's all closed up around his ideology. But it doesn't matter anyway in this regard. Animal welfare is a long-range goal. It won't be solved completely in our lifetime. It will require a growing number of Vegans, Vegetarians, etc. to create a demand for cheaply produced lab-grown meat. And as soon as that becomes cheaper to produce than raising an actual animal for slaughter, you'll start actually seeing huge progress made on this issue. And animal product consumers who genuinely care about animals will also stop needing to repress the unpleasant emotions that come along with engaging in an everyday activity for them that's harms the animals that they actually do care about. This double think creates a lot of repression and unconsciousness. Until then, it will be just 1% to 5% of the population who create the demand for that technology to be produced in the first place.

Hi all! Does anyone here with experience and success with driving traffic to a site, have any suggestions for building backlinks? I have been dabbling in it a bit recently, by finding blogs with that relate to my channel's niche and commenting on them. Then I fill out the Name/URL option, so that when people click on my name it links to my channel. That said, I've seen a lot of other methods in my research, and I'm not sure which are the best ones to focus on and which ones won't yield that much or are just unadvisable. So, if there is anyone who has recommendations, I would definitely appreciate it. @Leo Gura I don't know if you'd want to share your method for creating backlinks or point me to some reputable resources since our niche is similar. But if you did, that would be awesome.

All the more reason to go Vegan and take a small chip out of the Grain Cartels' profits.

That's true. I normally title my videos to pop up at the top of search results but not really use clickbait to entice people to click. And I do okay with this. Perhaps I should start doing more of this attention grabbing titling since I already have quite a few subs, and try to get the ones I already have to watch my videos more as I release them. I have 16k subs and I normally get between 1500 and 2500 views after the video is a month or so out from its release, with about 60% of the views coming from my subscribers. But I was more-so inquiring with Leo about backlinks because he was talking about them in his first video he ever released. He was talking about them in relation to his old business and how successful it became because of backlinks. So I just figured that's what he did to get so many views on his videos with Actualized.org as well... in fact I'm pretty sure it is.

Having an ethic of hard work is a double edged sword when it comes to the enlightenment seeking process. Ideally, you'd have enough work ethic and tenacity to actually do the inner work. But you'd also have enough ability to let go of work ethic and tenacity once they become a hinderance. I think that most enlightened people know this, and see the fact that having a strong work ethic can actually work against the ability to experience ego transcendence.

If we have an excess of grain, then the solution is for farmers to stop planting as much grain... which they would already do if it weren't profitable for them to plant more due to the high demand for cheap animal food. It doesn't make sense to say that we should raise more animals to eat that grain to be slaughtered. The reason why we're planting so much grain is not an accident. It's because grain is in high demand for feeding humans, the animals we eat, and sometimes for fuel and other things like that. So, I don't really think that this particular issue is very complicated like you said. It seems quite simple. Unless of course, there's some angle that I'm not considering. It seems like cutting down on breeding animals for slaughter would also cut down on the need for so much grain to be produced and harvested, thus eliminating a large portion of field deaths as well as the deaths that come from the slaughter of animals in the factory farming industry. I really don't see a downside to Veganism here. Now, off course, society is not ready yet to give up animal agriculture because lab-grown meat (dairy and eggs as well) is not widespread yet. But Vegans, Vegetarians, Reducitarains, Pescatarians, Flexatarians, and others that are cutting back meat and dairy consumption are creating a growing demand for such innovations and taking small chips out of the profits of the meat and dairy industry.

That might be true if most agriculture wasn't done for sole the purpose of feeding the animals we eat... 7.3 billion animals is a lot of mouths to feed, especially when 160 million of them are cows and pigs. That's half the U.S. population, but cows and pigs eat WAY more crops than we could ever dream of eating. Not to mention the chickens and other farm animals that are slaughtered that are also fed crops. So, either way you slice it, Veganism cuts down significantly on the suffering of animals... not only because of not slaughtering them... but because we could cut back on agriculture that might harm animals in the process.

There's a whole niche of writers whom many are either now passed or very old, who focus specifically on Jungian psychology and the rise of the Divine Feminine. Most of them were involved in 2nd wave Feminism and became successful in "the man's world", but then found that there was something still off. And they came to realize that it was not just women who had been oppressed for many millennia, but the Feminine Principle itself and the Divine Feminine had been repressed from collective consciousness. My favorite is Jean Raffa. I also like Maureen Murdoch, Jean Shinoda Bolen, June Singer, Robert Johnson, John Sanford, and Monica Wikman. I've also heard that Marion Woodman's work is wonderful as well as Merlin Stone... I've only read snippets from their work though.