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I didn't even think about language barriers and technology. That's a really great point. I can see this come up in a big way in the coming years.

I've only seen a Blue person do that so far, with the argument that we should go back to more traditional social orders. People who are in Green would probably take issue more-so with the objectification factor of pick-up, which is a fair point. It almost always is. That said, thinking that society should put the cat back in the bag is the wrong idea. We need a society that is both sex positive, and engages in subjectification of women instead of objectification of women... which Blue Traditionalists and Orange Pick-Up artists are both woefully horrible at.

It's a good thing that the birth rate is shrinking. It means that we will pose less of a burden to the Earth. We're over-populated to begin with and humanity's over-expansion (particularly industrial and post-industrial societies) are creating an enormous strain on the planet... especially in regard ot climate change. Also, communities only become so insular and absolutist through disintegration with the whole of humanity. That makes them believe that their society is the best and that everyone else's society is ridden with degeneracy. Similar to the mindset you have now. But once a society has access to the internet, international travel, and collective media, the values of the most powerful countries will eventually take hold... for better and for worse. On one hand, cultural norms in less powerful societies will not hold up very well, which creates some issues with power structures for them as collective identity is one way to fight against inequality. But on the more positive side, it will also make us more integrated as a species and on the same wavelength. Extreme conservative values in any culture... whether it be hyper-traditionalists, reactionaries, theocrats, or absolutists of any kind have a hard time surviving integration and the presence of more knowledge. Which is why many conservative minded people become reactionary. They fear living in a society that they no longer understand. But they also are too afraid to let go of old and dead social orders. So, they thrash against the changes and fear-monger to other people that other cultures are going to take over or that everything's going to shit now. And they desperately cry to bring it all back. So, they will resist it. But their grand-children will see the limitations of the old orders. And if they don't their children certainly will. And that's how change happens. Hardly anyone old ever changes their minds. But they all die eventually. And they leave behind children whose natural set-point tends toward the cutting edge of new social orders. All places evolve with integration. If you see corruption in other societies that we don't have, that's because of lack of integration on their part. Now, you may not see the corruption in our society because... lack of integration on our part. So, save the fear-mongering and actually have the vision to notice the beautiful seeds that are sprouting from the chaos.

The process of human evolution bends toward integration. So, that's very unlikely that the order that will emerge is that of an Islamic Theocracy, as that's an older form of social structure that doesn't work very well in a world that's rational/post-rational. Theocracies grow out of agrarian patriarchal society... not industrial patriarchal societies, and not post-industrial semi-patriarchal societies like all the first world nations of today are. Western society as we know it will dissolve... but it's already so far away from Western society as its historically described. The fact of the matter is the Western values have yielded us lots of growth and lots of degeneration. But it has reached a point of diminishing returns, which is why there are so many structures dissolving. So it will and is and always has been evolving the whole time. It's not as though you can look at Western society 100 years ago and Western society now and see the same society. Things are different. So, Western society has already dissolved and regrown and dissolved and regrown many times. And it will continue to do so because everything in this world is in constant flux. And those that are unable to evolve will thrash against these natural changes and cling feverishly and desperately to the dead orders of the past. But if your battle is against nature, you will lose and just waste a ton of energy in the process. The wave is coming. You can surf it or be swept up and drown in it. Those are the two options.

@Dumuzzi "It is most demonstrably not a better situation. Society as a whole is collapsing before our eyes, not least through crashing birth rates and the current situation does not benefit anyone, except, ironically, pick-up artists. You really have to live in and experience different cultures, with very different social and sexual mores to understand why this is. I have lived in many different cultures throughout my life, such as Poland, Hungary, Ireland, the UK, Singapore, India and Thailand as well as travelled extensively, which gives me a unique insight into what works and what doesn't and what the differences actually do to people and society in practice. It would take several books to explain." Currently, there is a lot of dissolution of old social norms and mores. And though this can create issues, it's actually a sign of positive change. You have to break some eggs to make an omelette. And right now, the right eggs are being broken for us to create a fabulous omelette that more people prefer. Raw eggs are not good for most people. It is the nature of the relationship between order and chaos. Order emerges from chaos which is the primordial soup. And then, once that order no longer works, it dissolves yet again into chaos... the same chaos from which more expansive order will emerge. So, we're always in flux between order and chaos. This is why the dissolution of old social norms and structures is wonderful news, even if its uncomfortable for those that the old order has worked for in the past. So, it will be more difficult for those who liked the old order. So, reactionary views that seek to resurrect old and dead structures... are trying to put the goldfish back into a bowl that it's already outgrown. I liken the way that order and chaos works together as being like the life-cycle of a butterfly. First they start out with a simpler order as a caterpillar. Then, once the caterpillar has reached its point of maximum expansion and enters the cocoon, that's where the chaos begins. Inside the cocoon, the caterpillar is dissolved into primordial soup. And then, from that primordial soup, new order constellates and a butterfly begins to grow from the soup. And it eventually emerges from the cocoon an entirely different being. The same thing is happening now on the societal level. And so many people, especially those that the old order (caterpillar phase), worked for are urging everyone to go back to being a caterpillar. But it won't work... because it is against nature to resist the evolving social order of humanity. It is time for us to be a butterfly. So, old sexual mores have to go out the window. And we can create new mores that are more conscious and make more sense. Allow entropy to do its work, so that new things can grow.

@Baotrader Clearly this young woman has some really huge issues. She has been used as an object of beauty, giving full grown men sexual favors since she was a kid. So, it's not a wonder that she comes to use men for their money. That's all she knows. She knows that men use you for you beauty and sex, so why not use them for their money. And she probably fundamentally doubts that men have the capacity to fully care about her because she's never experienced it. She is in a position of powerlessness, and she has come to grasp power in whatever limited way she can. So, she uses her sexuality to retaliate toward "evil" men who see her as nothing but a place to put their dicks. Maybe don't call victims of human trafficking evil... unless you're willing to look at why and consider what you're contributing to that pattern.

I have contemplated quite a lot on the topic actually since I was a little kid. The human mind creates a lot of false dichotomies, which includes the masculine and feminine dichotomy in terms of label and even firsthand perception. So, if you take a Yin and Yang sign for what it stands for metaphorically. You can basically keep zooming in and and in and in and out and out and out. And if, for example, you Zoom into the Yin of the the Yin and Yang sign (or vice versa)... you will find still more Yin and Yang signs. And you can keep zooming in (and out) forever. So, there is a broad strokes layer to which you can say some things are masculine and some things are feminine. But if you zoom in, you realize that there's ever more of those polar energies. So, you could say that everything is infinitely masculine and infinitely feminine OR infinitely Yang and infinitely Yin. Or you could say that because of this, there is not true Yin and Yang at all. The mind can't get it right because the mind doesn't work that way. It is similar to the concepts of Big and Small. Once you zoom in and continue zooming in, you pick up on different levels of bigness and smallness... until you realize that the idea is just a relative truth of the human perspective. And it's not that everything is infinitely big or everything is infinitely small. But that bigness and smallness is a false dichotomy that only exists for practical purposes to be used by the limited human mind. Big and small is only a lens for describing the practical human experience of the relative phenomena that that some objects are 'bigger' than others. But in the absolute no such distinction exists. It is the same way with any false dichotomy... masculine/feminine, big/small, up/down, internal/external, beginning/end, finite/infinite, free will/determinism, etc. etc. There are a zillion of these false dichotomies. Now, false dichotomies exist for a reason. And that's that it makes thing comprehensible to the human mind... which is inherently limited. And this is why paradox happens... because false dichotomies are false. But damn if they aren't useful in the practical arena. It's useful in the sense that you literally can't go through life in a functional way without adopting the perspective that big/small, up/down... and even masculine/feminine are relatively true. Life won't function well without the ability to adopt the lenses of certain false dichotomies. Reality become an abstraction and a wash without these relative truths but absolute falsehoods. And my primary goal in communicating with people is to meet them where they are, and give them new tools in their arsenal to deal with the challenges of life... specifically challenges of the psyche. Edit: Also, relative to the differences between a Kangaroo and a BMW... that exists on the relative level in terms of practical differences. But there are many other relative perspectives (and the absolute perspective) where there is no such distinction. So, in terms of raw perception of the visuals that are interpreted as Kangaroo and BMW... from the more scientific and materialistic level of truth, it's all just different frequencies that the eye picks up on because of light reflecting upon form. So, it's all just pixels on a screen. There is no separation or true distinction. If you take the absolute perspective, and you remove the assumption that there are eyeballs and brains and perceptions from sensory organs. And you remove the assumption that there is light and form and a phenomenal world that is separate from the individual you think of yourself as... it's all just experience. Experience playing out within consciousness. Just like everything within a dream is just dream-stuff. Everything within our reality is just God-stuff. If you could experience the Kangaroo and BMW in terms of sensation only and we had no inherent capacity for sight or sound, then we would recognize that within the sensory field the experience of the Kangaroo and BMW are just pure sensation. So, as somatic experience everything is the prima materia.

I do understand what you're saying. Mostly, what I've been doing in terms of practice has to do with experiencing the sensory field and the emotions that play out upon it in their full depth and breadth. So, I don't use the labels then, I just feel into my emotions and other bodily sensations. Just like, when I'm going to draw something realistically I detach from labels in order to see what's actually going on in front of me. Otherwise my depiction will be distorted by the ideas within the mind. So, my personal practice is about allowing and observation. Mind you, I'm no longer looking for the absolute because the attachment to that will keep me from it. Perhaps it will or won't happen in this lifetime, and that's okay. I am just seeking to cultivate deeper and more subtle levels of awareness, nothing more. Also, I figured that from the perspective of 'that which is', everything is perfect. So, accepting that permanent awakening may not be in the cards and seeing it as equally valid, puts me more into alignment with how 'that which is' orients toward everything. But in terms of how I teach, I try to give people the next right thing that they need to get out of certain traps or mindsets. And most people's next right thing is related to Masculine and Feminine integration as society is really at a crossroads in relation to these energies. Just like you might use the framework of Spiral Dynamics to give people the next right thing, I do the same with these insights. Basically, what I share in this moment is not necessarily what I'm focused on in particular as my form of inner work.

Have you ever had an experience of Divine Masculine or Divine Feminine? Years ago, I experienced the latter from the standpoint of being someone who was adamant that gender was a social construct. And the only word that felt anywhere near correct was to describe it as feminine. I understand that this is a metaphor. But the experience is empirically observable and it's a damn good metaphor. You'd know it if you experienced it. So, while you may be correct on the absolute. I'm not really talking about the absolute perspective. I'm talking about an empirical experience based in the phenomenal world. These subtle energies can be experienced with enough sensitivity. And it has just the same amount to do with mind as experiencing the wind blowing on a cold day or the burning sensation of putting your hand on a hot stovetop. So, your admonition to me sounds like you're saying something akin to, "There is no sun or ocean... only God. And if you're labelling something as sun and ocean, it is you (as God) who put that there." And while that's true on the absolute, that top shelf paradigm is woefully unhelpful to those who I was replying to. In fact, there's little to no efficacy about talking about the absolute at all. It just confuses and misleads those that aren't anywhere close to it. So, understand that I express this relative truth (based in empirical experience) in order to help those who resist their Feminine sides... as it is very common (especially among young men). And it puts them in a world of psychological hurt... as well as the women who experience the aftermath. So, the absolute paradigm isn't really helpful in this case. I recommend trying to get in touch with the Divine Feminine. It was beautiful, and I felt very connected to nature. I'm sure the Divine Masculine is amazing too. So, be careful not to invalidate relative truths, using your memory of experiencing absolute Truth in the past. The absolute Truth crystalized into an insight can cover over many important relative truths... as I'm sure you've experienced with your platform being what it is.

@Leo Gura This will explain what I'm referring to.

On the absolute level nothing has gender. But it is so, on the relative, that there are two subtle polar energies that imbue all things. And this is experienceable with enough sensitivity. So, you definitely didn't put it there either way. On the absolute level it isn't there and neither are you. So, you didn't put it there. On the relative level it is an empirically observable energetic phenomenon for those sensitive enough to pick up on the subtle energies. So, you didn't put it there. Now, the words masculine and feminine are metaphors (and the most accurate human metaphors) for the nature of those polar energies. But that label is you putting it there. So, in terms of semantics and labels you are correct. But you can also use Yin and Yang. Have you ever had an experience of Divine Feminine or Divine Masculine?

You mean the Hermetic Principle of gender... which states that everything has gender. That means that the masculine and feminine exist in everything... including rocks and stars and popsicles. So, this is why everyone is psychologically and energetically androgynous and has both masculine and feminine within themselves. And to be an integrated and highly developed person, we must accept both of our polarities. Thus, harkening to the Hermetic Principle of Gender within All actually goes against your interpretation of 100% binary gender and not for it. Integrate your Feminine side or face some serious psychological consequences.

It's a nice sentiment. But it concerns me. Be careful not to sacralize women. Women are human beings, capable of both positive and negative things, just as men are. My fear is that you may be projecting the idealized form of your Anima onto women... which also means that you'd be (at times) projecting the demonized form of the Anima onto women because that is just the natural outgrowth of sacralization. And this can be happening in the Shadow as well. So, you wouldn't necessarily be conscious of it. But it's the natural rubber band effect of female sacralization. And from there stems many of the problems that women face in society, as there are always men trying to compete with women and drag the sacralized female down off of some imaginary pedestal that they perceive... but it actually isn't there. It will also be very bad for your psychological well-being because it would make you susceptible to Anima disintegration and possession. Women in all their facets, are rendered invisible in society because of these positive and negative filters. And your compliment has my spidey senses tingling... thought I'm not 100% sure. A good litmus test to see if this message is integrative is to question whether you're referring to only the women you find attractive... as they resemble your image of the idealized/sacralized female. Are you also referring to octogenarians? Are you also referring to women you don't find attractive? Are you also referring to women that the collective would deem as "ugly"? If not, your compliment is just an outgrowth of female sacralization, and it points to some deep issues.

I've always been uncomfortable with the abortion debate because it's all very difficult to reconcile. I think both sides really suck, and there is no part of the issue that doesn't. That said, I'm very pro-choice. And I always had this intuition that it would be really dystopian and oppressive if the government came in and banned abortion. You'd see a rise in back-alley abortions, suicide, infanticide, and child abuse to force women to carry a child and give birth. And it would also lead to lots of abandoned children and children given up for adoption, which would add further weight to the foster care system which is already packed with unadopted kids. So, even though I agree that a fetus is a life in the general sense of the word, I think it's a much better solution to let women make their own decisions with their bodies. And that's because death really isn't the worst thing in the world. Suffering is. So, I think banning abortion would lead to more suffering... and likely just as many, if not more, deaths.

I'm a life-coach and I would say that one of the most helpful skills to have is the ability to intuitively come up with probing questions that leads the client down further into the obstacles to their goals. You should also understand a lot about human nature, be able to listen deeply (receptivity), and have the ability to read small cues from the other person intuitively. Now, generally, the ICF frowns upon advice giving and it's against their code of ethics. I personally think this simply exists for fear of being misconstrued as some other profession... as opposed to having to do with genuinely helping a client. Also, they probably expect that, since life-coaching is so broad, that the coach's advice wouldn't be based in expertise. That said, if you have an intuitive knowing about people through cultivating self-awareness and empathy, I think it can be helpful to share certain insights to show the client new platforms to look from that they probably wouldn't have considered on their own. But the most important thing in coaching is the ability to intuitively respond to clients' answers. So, it's something like this... Coach: So, what would you like to focus on in this session? Client: I've been having some trouble at work recently with my boss. Coach: What's the issue? Client: I feel like my boss isn't noticing my contributions. Coach: What makes you feel that way? Client: He never really acknowledges when I've done well? Coach: Is it your perception that he acknowledges others when they do well? Client: Yes. Coach: And how does that make you feel? Client: It makes me feel uneasy and like he doesn't want me working there. I'm afraid of getting fired. Coach: Do you think your assessment is accurate? Or do you think this fear arises for other reasons? Client: I'm not sure. Sometimes I think it's accurate and sometimes I think it might be my insecurities. Coach: Can you name for me another time in your life when you experienced similar insecurities? etc. Then, once the client has found some new conclusion that they weren't previously aware of, you and the client create an appropriate action step to address the obstacle or goal.

@Patrick Lynam Sexual energy can be experienced in any part of the body... the heart included. And with an open heart, it feels like bliss and love... usually directed to one's partner, as it is an expression of love instead of just pleasure. For men in general, there is a particular challenge because their sexual energy goes from the bottom up. So, it starts in the loins and then travels upward, where women's sexual energy begins in the head and travels downward. But the loins have the most gravity. So, a woman's sexuality begins in her mind travels to the heart and then to the loins. For a man, his sexual energy has the opposite path... starting in the loins, traveling to the heart, and then to the head. So, the energy works against "gravity" to reach the heart and head. What it may be is that your sexual energy is trying to move to the heart, but that there is either too much density to your energy... so "gravity" brings it down. Or the sexual energy could be beginning to reach your heart, and the discomfort you feel is a symptom of the heart opening... and the experiencing residual traumas from past events.

Firm disagree with Eckhart Tolle on this one. We are still very much Yang dominated.... which is why climate change as well as many inqualities still exist. The sixties saw an uprising of Yin in its negative form in terms of hedonism, and then those same people snapped back and retreated back into Yang. Also, the Feminist movement and other movements like that are still very much Yang. They have to be to actually make room for the rise of the divine feminine. Otherwise, we have an excess of corrupt Yang order that leads to an excess of Yin dissolution and chaos. But the current chaos exists for a very good reason, and that's so that new order can emerge. So, Eckhart is way off base in terms of his view on this particular subject. He's focused too narrowly to see the big picture of what's happening.

Fascism specifically refers to a group of people that think they're the superior people and deserve more than other ethnic/racial groups. That's definitely Red/Blue.

What I've found is that being able to both relax and contract is really helpful for climaxing. The problem before was that I'd just contract and contract and contract and contract, and there wouldn't be any opportunity for release without losing the build up and starting at ground zero. It can be difficult to learn to relax, especially when it's necessary to contract to feel enough pleasure for anything to happen. So, that's where I would start is just physically making yourself oscillate back and forth between tension and relaxation. And slow down a little bit. And from there really focus on the energy... building it up and relaxing.

Would you say that you clench up or hyper-focus on one spot (usually the clitoris). The thing that enables all these other types of orgasms is similar to what allows birth... contraction and relaxation. The difference is that, instead of passing a baby, you're passing energy. So, if the image is functioning as a way to hyper-focus and you have all your attention fixed upon one spot... then that's probably the issue. The key is to relax and become more diffuse and focus... and ebb and flow between tension (to build up the energy) and relaxation (to release the energy and let it flow).

I recommend finding lost of healthy replacements for things that you already enjoy. I'm doing a whole food plant based diet, so I eat everything that I would normally eat. I just use whole, plant-based ingredients which include fruits, vegetables, beans, legumes, and tubers. And then, I type it all into Cronometer to make sure that I'm hitting my macronutrient (carbs, proteins, fats) and micronutrient (vitamins and minerals) targets with my diet. Also, I don't really think Leo's soup is that healthy... unless you add a protein to it (like lentils, beans, or split peas) and a LOT less oil... ideally none.

As a life-coach myself, I recommend reading a few books on the topic first to get the general idea. Now, certification is not required because it's a new profession. But you'll want to be sure to mind the boundaries between life-coaching and psychology. So, it's important to know the distinction. But the certification and all that is not so important. There are only two things that are really important: Can you do the job well? Can you ask questions intuitively to promote self-exploration? Can you find clients on a consistent basis? The latter is the real killer for most coaches. Now, I make my living as a life-coach, ONLY because I had already created an international platform to find clients. I have a YouTube channel with over 30k subscribers. So, all I have to do is mention that I do life-coaching at the end of my videos to find clients. So, you'll want to set yourself up a social media presence through YouTube, Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter (or ideally all four) so that you can give away a BUNCH of free content. Give it for the sake of putting value out into the world. But also know that it's your bait and your net for getting clients. Use it as an opportunity to show your skills. Life-coaching is not an easy sell anywhere. Very few make a living in the profession because they don't have a way to acquire clients. But if you build it, they will come.

Were you doing a guided breathwork? If so, which one?

This is the same as saying it's because of kind-hearted robbers deciding not to take your stuff, that you have your stuff in the first place. Therefore, thank the robbers for all the stuff you have.

@Dingo The way I fathom of my life purpose is to integrate all aspects of myself (on the individual level) and to use my knowledge of this integration to help there be more integration on the collective level. Metaphorically, in terms of Femininity, I view my role as to be a conduit for the Great Mother and to encourage the integration of the feminine (Yin), which has been suppressed from integration for many thousands of years... leaving society in a space of pain and aridity. And I try to heal and water this garden through cultivating a deep understanding of human nature and how consciousness grows. And then nurturing and teaching people from exactly where they are. This includes helping people (men and women) understand the nature of the feminine energy beyond the limited societal conscriptions around the feminine... which is the biggest obstacle to feminine integration. So, most people's association with the feminine is based around very few things... mostly beauty, sex, and motherhood. But these things are a drop in the gallon bucket of what femininity actually is. The inside view of feminine energy is all about connection, nature, integration, emotional awareness, stillness, darkness, mystery, compassion, relationship, the subconscious mind, and care for the Earth and all the creatures that crawl upon it. And I see it as my purpose to hold space for, understand, and nurture others and recognizing that all people are just as vulnerable as small children. So, the world is my baby, and I'm going to do my best to help it grow up healthy and strong. But I know I can only do this well in-so-far as all of myself is coming to the table. And it also depends on my masculine side to carve out space in the world for my feminine side. So, it is also my duty to integrate and nurture all aspects of myself, AND to develop my communication skills and forward moving energy as well. Ultimately, all well-developed people who have a life's purpose will need to integrate both their masculine and feminine aspects. Someone who only has their masculine side integrated will be able to express but won't have anything to express. Someone who has only their feminine side integrated will have things to express but won't be able to. The feminine is substance without movement. The masculine is movement without substance. You need both to develop yourself and to impact the world in a positive way.