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There's probably a good reason why these kinds of unusual positions are unpopular... things like the wheel barrel and stuff like that. I honestly can't imagine that feeling very good, as it would be in at an awkward angle that he couldn't go very deep and would easily slip out. And the spinning would probably just be awkward and cause chafing from weird angles. And the angle might put pressure on her public bone. That's what I imagine it feeling like when I look at this image. I also can't imagine that the man would be properly stimulated here... and he'd have to do a tons of work for not a lot of return for him or his partner.

@Joshe's advice is a lot more realistic and helpful for guys who are struggling with dating, as it will teach them how to be a normal social guy and to cultivate a warm social circle. The crisis affecting young men isn't that they aren't getting the hottest women. The crisis is that they're isolated and not connecting with any women (or people) at all. And pick-up artistry can't solve that issue... and will likely exacerbate it because it doesn't teach socializing under normal circumstances. Pick-up is fine as a supplement for men who already have a warm social circle and who have already developed socialization skills. But young guys now aren't developing a warm social circle as easily because the social landscape has changed to where people aren't interacting in person as often. Consider that, being a millennial, you have a lot of those needs already met. So, you can afford to dabble around with pick-up. But these younger guys don't have such a luxury, as their social support systems for interacting with women have worn thin. And they have to learn to initiate community for themselves if they want to be able to have sex, have a girlfriend, wife, children, etc.

Oh definitely, it was VERY dangerous what I was doing. If I were doing it consciously and deliberately and with full acceptance (without slut-shaming myself), I would have been more selective about the targets of my escapades and would have actually enjoyed them more with men who I knew and was attracted to. But because I was unconscious and repressing my sexuality for years before that, it was like I just kept rationalizing myself into agreeing to hang out with random guys that I wasn't particularly attracted to... and then having no ability to resist the dynamic going into sexual territory. It was like depriving myself of a needs (like food) for years because I believed that eating food and wanting variety with food was shameful. So, then (from a state of starvation) I just "binged" on whatever was in front of me... like eating poison apples because I'm starving. And now, I think having some variety of sexual experiences is very important for people to understand themselves. I just had too much of a purity mindset about sex and romance that I had baked into my identity. And it put me in the position for a binge and restrict relationship with my sexuality. And once I was out of that relationship and the restrictions that I placed on myself, I binged in a way that I didn't feel like I could stop or control. But it sounds like you and your partner have been having important discussions about it. It's a tricky situation to navigate for sure. But if you're both on the same page, you could try an open relationship. It is challenging if he's not quite feeling as strongly about it as you are. So, that's definitely something to consider. But one thing that I would say is that, those experiences did satisfy my curiosities. And I recognized that the experiences of hooking up are not that interesting. If I hadn't had those experiences, it would certainly have made it harder to settle down with someone.

@Schizophonia I really wasn't being bitchy to you. I really do mean that it's normal for someone your age to not have experience yet. That probably describes at least 1/3 of guys in their early 20s. I was just saying that you'll need some more experience before you're able to speak on what men (ages 18-90) generally enjoy (and what it implies about their level of Masculinity and psychological state). And you'll even need more experience to know what you like specifically. Once you have some experience, you'll find that a lot of what you think about and fantasize about now may not actually be the experiences you'd like to have, in real life. It's best to not get too bogged down in extrapolating theories based on your current fantasies before you have the actual experience. That's the point that I'm making. But it also makes sense that you'd want to have that experience with a woman who has similar levels of experience to yours. Like I said, people tend to want to have experiences with others who are on the same page.

Sure, I'll share some insights first... and then a personal anecdote. One thing I would say is that, I found that (when I was younger) the guys who I had found attractive on paper don't necessarily feel satisfying to sleep with. It's more about the chemistry and bonding. So, I wouldn't say that sleeping with your physical type would put you off your partner. That very likely won't happen. But I would tend to advise you to get everything out of your system and explore yourself sexually. That's the advice I'd give to my younger self. Yet again, that's difficult because you'd have to break up to have those experiences. It's truly a difficult bind to be in. But I find that it's important to let the bull run until it becomes content because you only have one life. And I want to share a personal anecdote to give a sense of why this is my perspective... -- When I was with my first serious boyfriend who I lost my virginity to, I was so attached to him that I thought we would marry and that he would be the only person I'd ever be with for my entire life. I was with him from the time I was 16 until I was 20. And I would try to deny to myself that the idea that being with him for life bothered me and that I wanted to have other sexual and romantic experiences, because I was very attached to the relationship. I feared that wanting these things meant that I wasn't valuing the relationship enough, so I tried to put those thoughts out of my mind. Now, the relationship was bad... so it really needed to end. That should have been like a yearlong relationships MAX. And this is where things are very different than your example. But even if it were an amazing relationship, I feel like I needed to have those sexual experiences with different partners to feel like I wasn't depriving myself of knowing myself that way for my entire life. And the reality (that I was suppressing and repressing) was that I wanted to have other sexual experiences and to explore my sexuality more openly and freely. But I was in denial of this... because I was attached to him... and I was highly identified with being the "chaste woman who will only have sex with one man for her whole life." And I had a bunch of slut-shamy narratives at the time where I felt like my value went down with every guy I slept with... and I had judgments towards promiscuous women that I would compare myself to to inflate my ego as the "chaste woman who's only been with one man and will only be with one man for life". And I wouldn't even allow myself to admit to myself that I found other guys attractive the whole 4 years that I was with my ex-boyfriend. So, I was deeply repressing my sexuality to maintain that relationship... and to maintain the identities associated with reserving my sexuality only for him for my whole life. So, when the relationship finally ended... I unconsciously "sleepwalked" my way into having sex with 4 random guys in the span of two weeks. Like, I'd meet a guy and he'd invite me over. I wasn't even that attracted to them. But I'd rationalize my way into saying yes. And I'd tell myself, "If he tries to sleep with me, I'll just say no". And then, I just wouldn't say no. Or if I did say no and the guy didn't take the first no, I just wasn't able to resist it. The reality was that I wanted to. But I wasn't conscious that I wanted to. But I would put myself in positions where it was bound to happen. And I would even shave off all my body hair from the neck down before I met them... and rationalize that away too. And in just a couple weeks, I dashed my "chaste woman" identity on the rocks... which made me feel like I was losing my value and my identity. And I was super confused because I didn't consciously want to have sex with these guys... except for one of them who I deliberately sought out to have a sexual placeholder to stop myself from sleeping with random guys to avoid upping my number. Like I was having a huge problem. And I wasn't even admitting to myself that I wanted to have hook-ups. And I had no boundaries or defenses against sleeping with random guys. After that two weeks, I pretty much isolated myself as I felt like I had just come down with a hardcore sex addiction that I had no control over. And because all of this was as a result of my deeply repressed sexuality, I wasn't consciously choosing who to sleep with. I was just agreeing to hang out with random guys and letting it happen to me. If I were to go back and time and talk to my 20 year old self, I would have urged her to admit to herself that she just wants to have some random sexual experiences... but that she should admit that to herself, so that she chooses to do it with guys she actually wants to. But I really repressed my sexuality hardcore to preserve my relationship and my identity... and it came back with a vengeance as soon as that relationship ended where it just took ahold of me. And it was SUPER confusing to me at the time, as to why I was doing that. So, I tend to recommend to young people to get these experiences out of their system for this reason.

Exactly... it's just precisely what he drew.

It looks like a four-armed woman man-handling a limbless man and turning him upside down and cracking his head open on her knee.

Best and most realistic dating advice for guys that I've seen on this entire forum.

I just watched the video. How does it help you with your goal to get better with women? Is it just like, "Haha. Yeah, women are delusional." while feeling validated and everything else stays the same. Or does it actually concretely help you meet women?

That's been my experience too that it's a continuation of other non-sexual forms of communication.

Yes, that's an important point. Men tend to like to feel like they're having a powerful positive effect towards their partner. So, open emotional expression shows him his impact on you. And there's also the vicarious enjoyment of experiencing a woman who's in touch with her emotions and body.

100%

He's said so himself that he doesn't have a wife or children.

Definitely 100% bad faith from the beginning... but more convincing back then. Also, that's surprising that these Jubilee videos are actually doing something positive. I had always chalked them up to just being a way to "both sides" some really cut and dried issue. Like, I would only be slightly surprised to see a Jubilee video that's like "Child murderers versus Parents" where both sides share the "merits" of their arguments. But it's good to know that this format is actually exposing the weaknesses and inconsistencies of the paradigms that these right wing pundits operate off of. Perhaps this format really does throw some light on the realities of what these pundits believe, for political normies.

There's more to it than that. Remember... there is good and bad sex... and both involve penetration and going back and forth. Good sex is more like a communicative dance. And it usually takes a while to learn how to stay in sync with one another... and to keep the communication going throughout the experience. And there's a learning curve that newbies (male and female) have to go through to get to that point.