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@jimrich did your 12 step group specialize in codependency/ relationships? Id like to find a group of that nature but not sure how to go about that. Thanks for sharing your story.

@Annetta it's comforting to know someone else understands this situation. Thank you.

@egoeimai thank you so much

I'm a 25 year old female. I've been in two dysfunctional relationships and have a troubled childhood (daddy issues). This year 2017, I decided to change my life around. I broke up with my verbally, emotionally, and at times physically abusive boyfriend of almost 3 years and moved to a new state for a fresh start. I've made amazing progress in a short amount of time. Although I'm much happier without the relationship, at times it still haunts me. I've contacted my ex a few times since the break up, and it's always resulted in my disappointment. Part of me cannot let go, forgive, and forget, which to me is crucial in moving on. I have a past of attachment hunger in relationships and have learned that I subconsciously chase a approval from men that I feel rejected by (daddy issues). My ex is and always will be very manipulative and intelligent, a very dangerous combination. He plays on my emotions and uses it against me when given the opportunity, I'm aware of this yet I still periodically have temptations to contact him which is so frustrating to me. It's basically self infliction. I've gotten much better about dealing with my own issues but I've yet to find a focus point for self development on filling this void that lies within me from childhood and resurfaces today in my attachment to unhealthy relationships. Below is just one example of the past manipulative tactics my ex used prior to our breakup. We've been separated for about 5 months now