Noname

I can't seem to stop focusing on my breath mainly in meditation but not only, I don't know how long or deep to breathe and I feel short of breath and then like I need more oxygen. It's driving me crazy. How do I forget about breathing

@ajasatya I've got a book about breathing techniques, that's when I started thinking about it too much since reading it. It's that I keep thinking I'm doing it wrong and I have to keep controlling it. I thought I can just watch it without controlling it all the time. It's so annoying ?

@Richard Alpert I think you're making a wrong impact now. Looks like you want to confront 2 perspectives to prove who's right. It's not up to you to arrange their meeting like you're their marriage counsellor or something. I'm sure if Leo wants to ever meet him, he'll do that himself ☺ Why don't you put in the work yourself, then you'll come up with your own truth.

Hi, I know a someone, He is a nice guy, has a lot going for him (I've heard), good looking, worked his ares off to get his car at 18 and is still a virgin and spends all his time thinking of his little sad life all his free time in his parents house bedroom. Oh and he is now 19. Yeah it's bit sad, he has ZERO confidence. He doesn't even think it's possible for him to talk to a girl or find friends. He won't even try, the thought of it makes him go red and sweaty face. And his so conscious of his body reaction it's a fucking hell. This guy he lived a normal quite naughty life at 9, then he moved to England and it was bit hard for him there without the language. Yeah he felt a little bit left out, always kept to himself, at one point he couldn't take the embarrassing feeling of hanging on his own in school he spent all his lunch breaks eating in the schools toilet. He feels really awkward now around people, he feels lost and that there isn't a personality in him any more. He doesn't know how to be himself around people. And that's all his life situation. He got into this deep depression now and Nothing makes him stop thinking even a for a second about something else over than wtf is his issue. Soo how do I help this friend of mine? He also mentioned he has masturbated daily for 7 years, smokes cigarettes and has is few months in recovery from ampehtamines addiction. (He said speed helped him find himself and be him). How much would it help him to quit all this ? And basically how do I help this friend ?

Great man! You're not alone I am trying it + stopping smoking from today as well. Come back to this thread in a month and say how you got on yeah ?

@Ryan_047 @5driedgrams @Toby Yes it is me, I was afraid of being called a loser and wanted to get it out in 3rd person. I'm a bit drunk now so can admit. But honestly I hate myself and my life. I don't know what I did to get to where I am. I don't know how to help myself. What hurts me the most is all this potential that I aperently have and still I have trouble going to s supermarket let alone doing anything social. I will quit all these stupid addictions/quick fixes, will life than just happen to me? Will I have the courage to live? I am desperate for help, I have seen malt teal swan videos but they are soo confusing, I feel like I don't feel like anything, I used to be able to cry about how shitty my life is/was but I can't do it anymore, i Just can't cry i judge mysf to much. Crying used to feel so good to me, soo real. thank you for all the replies

Yes he does recognise this problem, he really wants help. He has been trying to get out Tod that for last couple of years. And I just don't know what advice to give him, I will let him know about the vitamins and to let go of all the addictions do some excercise but will that be enough? He doesn't believe in god. He wants help and I want to help him

@jimrich he's been seeing counsellors for a while now, but said they are not able to help him. They keep asking him what's he's problem but he himself is not sure. They're useless. And he can't really afford to see a professional. Shit

I'm like he's only friend but I don't like him and he makes me feel embarrassed when I see how insecure he is.

@pluto I see ? @Nahm yes I can't say I know exactly how they feel but I do think about it @Nahm What's with the chocolate ? ?

Does everybody have it? I heared Leo talk about it how's he had it. It's like you always know what you're doing how you looking and how people perceive it. Always there in the back of your mind you are thinking how you're perceived With me it got to the point in where I'm controlling it all the time, it's not free to do what it wants I'm holding it in a fixed posture and like blocking it.

@Nahm yeah I think I am, though it's hard to tell as I'm quite isolated and don't have a lot of human contact ? but I do often think how others feel and won't do or say something to not upset them.

This morning I felt something, I've only felt once before. It felt like I had a choice. Didn't matter where I was and was has happened to me or even how I felt. It was just like Wow I'm so free obviously it was gone it a second but Wow

Anyone knows what is this stage and how to move forward? I don't have a monkey mind quite the opposite it's still and empty, no words just awareness. My palms and feet are red and sweating throughout the day constantly, very uncomfortable feeling. Some kind of body-anxiety,trauma ? I don't feel anything else and nothing else is on my mind. This is my whole life. im thinking now I may have abondoned my body? And just won't accept it the way it feels. But why is the mind so empty? I'm only looking through these eyes of mine which I'm thinking is awereness ?

My question is: will learning psychology and how humans operate will hinder or limit the enlightenment or self actualisation ? im asking this because in psychology you're a human a physical body. And the work we do here is about the awareness and that we're not necessarily just the mind or body that there is something else (or nothing) there as well. The thing that's aware.

Thanks guys, that's what I wanted to hear ? I will spend my time wisely

After reading how to become enlightened by Leo I went up to the roof of the car park I work at. after 30 mins of thinking what the fuck is this world I'm loooking at. i closed my eyes, opened and was thinking where the world disappears and then it HIT me. Everything had more depth in it like more 3D. I had this sensation through my body and tears dripping from my eyes. I was felt scared and I did not want to me experience it or go that direction. I was thinking no no no get the fuck away from me whatever this is, after the wow moment. it was gone in seconds, I pushed it away and was frustrated at myself afterwards and gave up this experiment after another 10mins. As this "thing" didn't want to come back. anyone else can relate ?

@Paintballer so it was an awakening? I want more of it now. It just felt so frightening when it happened ??

Okay I see. Now do I become aware of the things I'm not aware of or just do what I'm doing staying in silence and it will fade away ?

So I started mediating and I I'm thinking it's pretty much the same as trying to fall asleep for me. i might have a few thought poping up but 85% of the time it's empty, there are no thoughts. how does this differ from falling asleep ? And what should happen to me, eventually ? A kind of realisation? Its just so dead when I meditate, I kind of like the peace but it's gone soon as I open my eyes.

Yes you should make a habit of it everyday for at least 20 mins. A day Leo reccomends. i would suggest more if you're up for it and you want results fast. thats what I'm doing with general/social anxiety. only done it for a week or so but can see that I'm NOT my thoughts now. I still struggle pretty much the same but something's changing I feel it ☺️ Put in the work it's worth it