J. M. Wigglesworth

Nope. A life purpose cannot be accomplished but only pursued. Enlightenment can be a major long-term goal but not a life purpose. If you want something similar, your purpose could achieving mastery on the spiritual path. On an unrelated note, twelve hours a week of a $10/hour work is $480 a month which is not enough to live in an apartment and eat food. I don't look down on living a frugal life- I've even gone homeless myself for a month and a half living in my car (just to experiment)- but put a little more consideration into how you will arrange your lifestyle based on your finances. Perhaps you could work five years in accounting and move to some foreign country where living costs are a fifth of the US? You could try living off the grid, make your own food/ house or whatnot. Hell, you could even save up for a trip to China or japan and join one of the monastic traditions and then you'd have both your living situation handled and enlightened masters to guide you(although you'd have to learn the language first). In the grand scheme of things, your lifestyle isn't very important but don't let it hinder your inner work.

@Orange Not really. I'm telling you that your current line of inquiry isn't going to get you what you want. It's a dead-end. Give up on it and try a different approach. The world of self-dev and spirituality is immense. There are many paths and many traps. You are in a trap. It's a trap because you won't go any further if you insist on sticking with it. There is emptiness in life. So what? There are also penguins. Are you disillusioned knowing there are penguins in the universe. Will you fixate on penguins to the bitter end and become jaded because of their horrid flippers and awkward squawking? Or will you realize something? Something like this: I'm here. Reality is here as well. Some parts of reality make me uncomfortable because my brain is not wired to accept reality unconditionally. Oh well. Oh fucking well. Ooh look! I'm here and I'm uncomfortable. Oh well. Let me just enjoy the moment and take steps to ensure that I can deepen my enjoyment of the moment. In case I wasn't clear. You're are focusing on one aspect of reality. You've somehow become more aware of it and are fixating on it. You are uncomfortable with it and you are making a problem of it. But there is no problem. There never was and there never will. Stop making the problem and start enjoying yourself right now.

But you're already doing things. You're still doing things. Are you literally doing nothing right now? Are you the donkey from the parable who doesn't know whether to drink or eat and plans to die of doing nothing? We don't have to do anything. Should is not must but merely an inclination. Welcome to the universe. This is how it works. Irrelevant to what? To the agony of a tortured soul? Try again. Yes there is emptiness. There is also form. There is also the divine. You've got 1 for 3. Or is it 1 for one because they are one and the same? Try reconstructing your perception of reality. TL; DR: Ask a higher quality of question. A question is a quest. This seems like a shitty quest to go on that won't really lead you to anything that would satisfy you on any level except for the part of your ego that is validated by you expressing of how bleak and empty the world is.

Don't buy alcohol or ask the girl to buy you a drink. Change your sleeping schedule. Also wear earplugs to prevent hearing damage. Boom. Problem solved. But I also agree with @Skopulis on going to events an meeting people. Women are 50% of the population. If you can find a place where there is a high volume of people, chances are you'll be just fine.

You want specifics? Specifics for what? What are you trying to accomplish? The list I gave you were some key points to hit if you want to build a foundation that would enable you to pursue the more potent dimensions of self-actualization. I recommend this to you because you said yourself you didn't know what you wanted. If you figure out what you want, we can recommend you tools to get it and you can build your own schedule far better than we can. The domain of self-actualization is vast, even if you can't find settle on some ultimate pursuit, you should at least pick out something worth your time. Judging from what you're currently doing, how about... Life purpose? Reading three high-quality books/videos a week to flesh out your understanding. Infusing yourself with a deep satisfaction. Pick something. Anything. When people go to a nutrition specialist, the dietician asks them what they want before they design the diet. There are things which are good to do regardless of what you want(meditation and reading) but tailor-made requires a clear vision. If you can pick something that really excites you, something that stirs your core I'll give you three things you can do to reach it and you can work out your own schedule.

@Lorcan There's a lot of things we can recommend you. I see people are already leading to dissolve your ego and rid yourself of addictions. Good advice, good perspective to have and even better to pursue. But I wouldn't recommend you start on those yet. Dozens of things. And each of those dozens of things could add tremendous value to your life. A better question is what do I want more of? This will naturally answer your titular question: Why should I be doing right now? Do you actually want to be fulfilled? A lot of people say it but their actions don't match. How much your actions are fulfilling to you? If it's not a significant percentage then it's no mystery why you aren't fulfilled. Do draw your state from within aka. do you specifically create fulfillment within yourself and let it overflow from every pore of your being. My guess is no. Fulfillment won't drop from the skies just cause you did a few 'higher consciousness' activities for a few months. You've got to clearly summon it into your life with actions and intention. I'd like to say I'm glad you're getting into personal dev. at such a young age but I think this is more important: give yourself time to grow and the patience to persevere through the growth process. If you wanted a to-do list, I'm giving it to you now. Build your ability to tolerate complexity and nuance. Clean up your diet. Learn to manage your focus and awareness. Build up work ethic and nourishing habits. Don't stagnate in circle-jerk, rationalizations, delusion and pointless categorization. Do it slowly, thouroughly. Do those things so you can become somebody who can do the hard hitting inner work that many people rarely touch. Life purpose, dissolving ego, embodying true love and peace, knowing Truth. That's real shit. It can be in your life. It can be your very existence. But if you aren't even capable of understanding the concepts, being open-minded enough to tolerate them,disciplined enough to pursue them, aware/sensitive enough to experience them... let me put this another way. If this is a self-development baseball game, your job right now is to get yourself and a bat onto that first plate. Forget swinging, the guys in the outfield, the way the pitcher is fiddling with the ball. Forget it. You're fourteen years old. Don't be discouraged by that either. Lay down the fundamentals.

Understand that the body needs a certain amount of stressors for optimal function and that most dangerous spooky 'health hazards' are just fine as stressors. Minor bacterial exposure will let you body produce a wider range of antibodies to travel your bloodstream and it will decrease the tendency for the immune system to randomly lash out with allergies or even be more susceptible to auto-immune diseases. Remember your body is a product of millions of years of evolution: it may not be the most resilient, but little things won't take it down unless they're given a good deal of time, repitition/ quantity. Along with evolution is the fact, that our bodies are not designed to last forever, but long enough to mate for a good few years and take care of offspring for a little bit longer. The body, health and wellness are all worthy pursuits but they will fade as surely as your life and if you can accept that fully, then you can still be health-conscious as opposed to neurotically trying to maintain Form/mortality.

Hiya! Spiritual being from the universe here!

I glad you're back on your groove. Eventually, your persistent efforts toward self-actualization will burn the annoyances away but I can offer some short-term fixes. This one is easy. When you feel tension, lift up your shoulder's as much as you can and then drop them. Repeat ten times. Give yourself a shoulder self-massage from time to time and focus on the kneading quality in the massage, as if you are reforming the muscles into a new fresh part of you. Not so sure about curing nightmares but better quality of sleep is well within reach. There are two pressure points near your ankle bones which help with sleep if you press and hold for about 30 seconds. A minute of inversion(standing upside down) is known to improve sleep. Make sure you sleep in a perfectly dark room, don't eat three hours before bed and don't look at bright screens two hours before bed. As for supplements, I've heard very good things about refined He Shou Wu two hours before bed. Make a conscious effort to be fully awake throughout your day. To me, it feels like a subtle surge of energy and awareness between my eyes and at the base of the back of my skull. Perhaps your mind is cluttered with various random bullshit, one way to clear this is via an intense experience. Go out and run screaming through a field shirtless. Mindblowing sex. Uproarious good times with your friends(tone down the alcohol and drugs of course). I take turmeric and apple cider vinegar in water and I find this always gives me a mental boost and the same for coconut oil. You can even take it a step further and try taking nootropics(smart drugs) or shen tonics(reishi for example). You've made your comeback. . Build your foundation nice and strong again, no need to be in too much of a hurry. Do it right. Be well

I'm going to break down your post. I'll agree with @Lynnel , watch Leo's vid on morality. Misleading? So what you're saying was you misinterpreted what they discuss and are blaming them for a choice you made? Try watching Leo's vid on victim mentality. Also re-watch their videos for nuance. Do you want to know one of the major things RSD promotes? Social awareness and calibration. Something you are probably lacking. Cool down that ego/pain-body whatever is making you think like this. You are projecting the backlash of a negative reaction onto RSD instead of critically examining yourself. If you were a cooler, more grounded, fun-creating guy with better social acuity do you think she would've reacted the same way? Questions questions.... If she does, apologize and say you were drunk. She probably won't care enough to hunt you down, honestly. More importantly, stop freaking out over this little thing. You shouldn't scream everytime you get your finger pricked. Move on with your life and do whatever you want to do and don't blame others for your actions. Sidenote: As for why RSD is banned, RSDJulien released some edgy videos which could be construed as mysogynistic and racist a few years ago(context shows that he was only being edgy and maybe trying to do silly things to impress his fanbase) and that provoked an enormous feminist backlash which certain government officials noticed and immediately banned Rsd for brownie points.

Hoo boy. You need some RSD in your life. You're going to either hate them or love them as you tear through every single one of their videos But first a few disclaimers. Do not expect this to happen. Social mastery will not change this because the vast majority of times you are talking to trivial people. It's who they are rather than what you're doing. If you want to go deep with somebody they also need to be able to go deep and expect for you not to judge them otherwise they will not open up. Nope. Get rid of that thinking. There's nothing wrong with social calibration but you need understand that if you are trying to communicate you are and what you believe on a core level or even just make deep connections you are going to polarize people. You can become more savvy and you can start to understand the general flow of conversations. That's about it. Let me share some vids with you. Quick warning: rsd is a pickup company. If you are somehow disgusted with PUA, then... watch it anyways... they lay out very powerful principles and advice about the reality of 'social dynamics'. Also these are pretty long. Here's a good place to start.

@JimAqua There's a very simple answer to this. Too simple, actually, but sometimes that's how things break. Go through whatever ceremony you need to 'become a whatever', get hitched and don't even touch the stuff from then on. Answer number 2: Don't get married. What will marriage give you? A nice party? Some cool legal documents? If you want the girl and she wants you and if nobody's forcibly trying to break you apart, just enjoy living together. In my opinion, marriage is as silly a social construct as caste or religion. If you're afraid of what the neighbors say, do some more self-actualization. If she's afraid of what the neighbors say, let her go. Of course, the first option is less confrontational but they both work. Remember that people who don't work on themselves are naturally full of silly problems that really don't matter and that you should not look down on them nor entangle yourself with their problems.

You want to restart your life? How about you re-create your reality first? Despite tremendous flaws in the method, there is a certain power residing in the 'law of attraction'. Yes, it's largely bullshit but hidden within the bullshit is a nugget of gold which, after a shit ton of personal dev/ research and contemplation, I managed to comprehend recently Creating your reality. Before we delve into what this means we need to understand some 'good news and bad news'. Bad news: the labels and associations you attributed to everything you know are meaningless bullshit. Beyond incredible news: Because that's true, you can literally create reality however you want it in your mind. Not in the I'm-Superman-fuck-you-gravity kind of way. You cannot bend the nature of the universe with just your will/ thoughts. But you can do something that is arguably, even better. You can create your reality. Let me explain. Your thoughts create reality because everything you see is interpereted by you and given a certain meaning. Without that action by your self there is no 'personal' reality (whichis the only reality that will ever matter to you unless you pursue enlightenment ). Do you understand what this means? You are already creating your own reality but you aren't taking charge of it! Do yourself the biggest favor of a lifetime and take charge of the the way you create your reality: your thoughts and intention are sacred. Carefully choose the ones you want in your head and discard the rest. Don't be neurotic about this. We cannot control your thoughts(I mean, technically you don't even think them). You cannot stop a thought. Please do not try to. However, thoughts can be given power and life through our own choice and that is what we absolutely must master. Feed the useful/ empowering thoughts. Starve the disempowering/limiting/bullshit thoughts. I'll tell you how to do this. It's your focus.The thoughts you are focusing on become your reality. Thoughts are fed primarily by your focus. Any exercise to shift your reality(visualizations, affiramations etc) all center around manipulating your focus so that it is trained on the best thoughts you have. Make this into a consistent mental pattern. It's very difficult. It's a radically different way of going through your daily life then probably anything you've done up to this point. But if you practice it seriously, it will rock your world and upend your reality. And that'll only be in the first week. What this can do for you: Limiting beliefs dramatically weakened Self-esteem improved Awareness improved Resistance to moving towards self-actualization dramatically weakened Ability to not get caught in the traps/bullshit of others who aren't helping you vastly improved Feel like reality is magical/ beautiful again. If you're sincere, try this. The capacity of this to change lives is absurdly overpowered. I cannot overstate this. I myself use it and thousands of successful people use it in some way or the other in a powerful way to great effect. If you let it slip and don't give it a proper shot you'll only be chasing shadows when the object casting the shadow is already in your hands. Change your reality to change your life.

Absolutely. Why wouldn't a deep emotional reserve be of use to someone who is hard at work day in and out?

Here's an interesting exercise: The inverse question. Why shouldn't you? If you can be happy just like that, does it even matter that you're working? In Eckhart Tolle's New Earth there is this concept called the three modalities of awakened doing and one of the is joy. Leo tells you that you can be happy in a box and, in true green-eggs-and-ham-style, you can be happy anywhere. Also you ask why you should attempt anything in the end if it is only fleeting. Guess what? Happiness is EPHEMERAL! Guess what else? There is literally no meaning to anything you do unless you chose to instill it with some meaning. Life is a sandbox and you should appreciate it as it is. What I do is enjoy the fact that I'm in a short human experience and try to live it as if it were an adventure. What's happening to us right now, this is pretty unique and it'll only be here for so long: my only suggestion would be that you "squeeze deeply the marrow of life", as Thoreau said. Or fuck it all and pursue enlightenment/self-realization. Two perfectly valid options and neither are mutually exclusive. Make your move @Pablo Neirotti

@Mary You don't need an 'anything' to be happy. Happiness is drawn from within. A good man can bolster this and is a worthwhile pursuit for other reasons as well, such as being a mirror for your own issues, enhancing femininity and offering company and support. That said, getting and having are not happiness but titillation. If you're truly looking for happiness, set aside time to deeply contemplate what having a core satisfaction with life is. Start unwiring the limiting beliefs that say you have to feel a certain way or have a certain thing. Happiness is really quite simple. All you have to do is answer yes to one question: "Will I create and interpret my reality so that I feel a deep, joyous satisfaction upwelling from me?" That's all you have to do, every day for the rest of your life if you want to be happy. Don't fall into these traps along the way- relationships, money, stimulation- they are cool but those are shitty side dishes to a main course.

Yes, this must eventually be discarded/lessened as well. For instance, our overlord Leo mentioned that he was planning on becoming a lot more yogi/hermit-like. Even Mr. Actualized himself is starting to move past it. Yet still, he supports the self-actualization platform by maintaining and responding on the forums, releasing new vids and coaching. Here's the reason: Self-actualization is a structurally superior crutch compared to the the vast majority of crutches out there. Provided you don't fall into the various 'traps' in it, self-actualization can evolve you to the point where you don't need it or at least pretty damn close. Back to the metaphor of the cripple, would you rather be disabled and do nothing, use a crutch the rest of your life as a shadow of what you could really do or slowly build up your strength and reach your true self even if it requires a lot of exercises and supports? Self-actualization is most closely the last one.

People generally want to understand the world to a certain degree of comfort. An Idealogy is a psycholgical framework which allows them to feel understanding, to making sense of the world in respect to their psychological development and ability to tolerate nuance and paradox. There is also plenty to be said about using it to manipulate people and ensure that the 'dumb ones' don't do stupid shit. It has some uses but obviously its use is as a crutch. Nothing wrong with being psychologically/spirtually crippled- lots of people I know and like are- but if you're on this forum you probably don't want to be one of them. Also, check out this vid for an interesting take on belief systems. Rsd Tyler also has some good videos on the power of social condition which may intrigue you.

Somewhere between Earl Nightinggale and David Deida, I learned of a very interesting concept: Make Love to your Work. Essentially, it's the conversion of sexual energy into productive, creative energy for your purpose. I'm a young man, with plenty of sex drive to fuel self-actualization and hustling. I'd love to know of some practical, actionable steps I can take right now to fuel this sort of 'transmutation'. Is there an exercise? Paradigm shift? Am I misunderstanding the concept? I've heard of 'jing' and tantra before but nothing precisely like this. If you have relevant knowledge or experiences, please share.

I'm not too well-read of governance and politics, but I do know enough about them to say that it shouldn't be posted in the "Meditation, Consciousness, Enlightenment, Spirituality" board. I'd move this to philosophy for a better discussion.

If you don't want to pickup chicks then don't. Especially if it's deeply out of energetic alignment with you. But since you also seemed fairly insecure, understand that your exceptional reluctance towards pickup may also be a response of self-preservation from your mind to not go through so much emotional labor. Be very clear on this. Getting good with women will be an emotionally rigorous process, regardless of which path you take, if you aren't good already. My advice is to go hard on dating but use the most powerful principles pickup artists have found over the years: Grounded, on-your-purpose, socially-calibrated, fun-creating, non-judgmental and non-supplicating. Internalize these principles and learn a little bit of technique to let them shine through.. Embody masculine energy and develop a deep understanding over attraction and human nature Honestly, all of that above, is a little bit far off right now. Here's what you need to be doing: Go out on 5 dates by next week. Does this sound any easier than game? It shouldn't. The work is unavoidable. Since you considered using a prostitute for your v-card, you probably aren't around that many women in your daily life, so I presume finding that many dates may prove difficult. If you can't get that kind of volume/intensity then I'd try 'Day game'. Basically, you find venues during the day(coffee shop, streets downtown, malls) and you chat up girls. Honestly, this is the best compromise I can think of. There won't be as many girls or any anonymity while you screw up but they'll be nicer than the ones at clubs(if only for prudence) and you won't have to mess up your sleep. If it still isn't clear, I'll say it again. Interact with as many women as physically possible with man-to-woman communication. Expect awkwardness and have fun with the whole process.

Are you really taking? Aren't they offering the money of their own will- the price of playing, is it not?Consider professional fighters/athletes. Are they 'taking' from another or are they competing. These kinds of games are engineered for one winner and they take the cake. If you want to make it "high-consciousness" then focus on developing mastery in it like pro athletes do and less on how your opponents feel. Also, if what @Yukise99 said is true(about you needing capital), then I insist you try your hand at something else. Professional gambling requires an initially high capital to pad the losses before the statistics kick in and you get your cash. Also it tends to put you in a fairly frenetic area(casinos) around vice(smoke is the air and booze is water) and low consciousness people(blowing money around to get dopamine hits). This may impede your self-actualization if the tables become your workplace.

Let's actually address his question. You can have goals and higher aspirations but the truth is you are emotionally addicted to where you are right now and this addiction will prevent you from going all out on your hustle toward said goal. Additionally, your mind fundamentally doesn't want you to do any more than necessary to get by thanks to evolution. Self-actualization, especially in the beginning, is a path going against the current and you better believe the current is pushing even when it's not obvious.

Do you deserve happiness and success? Actually, nobody technically deserves either one. They are experienced and earned, respectively. When you have them, that is when you deserve them and not a moment sooner. Confusing? I'll tell it to you straight. It doesn't matter if you think you deserve it or not. What matters is if on a core level, you want these things in your life and if you take action to get them. That's it. If you do, then you need to overhaul your self-image. I mean a serious, life-altering identity shift that may take months and years that will allow you to be in alignment with what you really want. This is much more powerful than simple deserving. This is becoming success and happiness. Do you want that? Honestly, that's not a rhetorical question( hard to tell from the tone of your post). If so, you have work to being doing. If not, you should still clear up that guilt using a core identity shift. Move from "Bringer of catastrophe" to "Just trying to live the best I can" After all, that's all you really can do. Could a lady who told young Hitler his paintings were garbage be responsible for the holocaust? No. Because it was Hitler who created the Third Reich that fed off of anti-semitism, not an opinionated art teacher.

Glad to see you want in. Here's a very simple model of what you should be doing right now. 1. Find your life purpose. You have vague feelings and intent. You must distill a purpose out of that haze. Achieving incredible results requires a concentration of force into a particular area(I assume you want kickass results). Find that area. Furthermore, the feeling of fulfillment is most clear when achieving/ working toward a goal and fulfillment is the antithesis to the regret you wish to avoid so much. As Leo put it "If you don't have a life purpose, then your purpose is to find a life purpose." 2.Build your foundation. Form a routine that will strengthen the core of your personal development: you. There's a lot of things you can do which if practiced well and consistently can turn into massive benefits for you. Don't try to take on too many at a time(3 is the max, don't push it, consistency above all else.) Here are a few. Meditation. Self-image reprogramming. Cleaning up diet. Exercise Rhythmic deep breathing. Reading/listening to high quality self-help content. One last thing... stick around for the long haul. You're eager to jump into to the exciting world of self-help. I get it. I really do. Know it's going to take some time. Just stick with this stuff. It will blow your mind open, implode it, rejigger your neural networks and launch you back into the darkness again, only a little bit wiser. It's awesome . Become a self-help junky like us forum-goers here and in a few years, after you've developed some traction with powerful habits and clear life purpose(a supportive environment helps too), you can skyrocket.