J. M. Wigglesworth

It probably wouldn't hurt to open your third eye. I engage my third eye when I do image training/visualizations and it does seem to help vivify the images I'm creating. I'm also a writer and deal with a lot of intangible things so for me, using the third eye is pretty useful. Otherwise, just do what you want, I don't know to much about the third eye and I certainly haven't opened mine yet(although I'm working on it) but i does seem to have a good few benefits for the things I'm doing in my life. Be careful about these 'power dimensions' in spirituality they tend to be pretty whack, they can have some side effects if you force it too much or go in unguided/uninformed. and even worse, distracting from the more important aspects of seeking. To me, I'm still interested in it but more as a side quest. Ps. If anyone has any personal recommendations for opening and utilizing the third eye let me know. There's a lot of fluff around third eye knowledge and I'd like a better representation of it.

Even Leo admits to spending tens of thousands of dollars a year on education and I know Rsdtyler also spends vast amounts on education as well. Keep learning. It's true many things must be learned by oneself, as the dao te ching put it "the eternal dao is nameless" meaning for certain bits of profundity, no sage can 'tell' you what it is really and that you must learn it on your own (or that's my interpretation). Do both. External learning is a tremendous resource which can assemble the most potent bits of experience and wisdom collected over millenia from the most wise and accomplished and pursuit of the 'dao' is endlessly profound and enjoyable. You are going to be learning your whole life. You'll be able to sort things out eventually, as your mind becomes more and more capable of rendering complexity and paradox coherently. Start simple and work you way up from there.

The concept of marriage is heavily centered on societal stability and protection(more so in older times) so yes, given the right man, marriage is a fine option. I would suggest looking less at the security you can find in a relationship as this can go hand in hand with codependency and in our modern era, unless you live in a rather dangerous area, you're already reasonably secure. Don't forget about the value of chemistry, being able to have fun with him and developing a deep connection.

I've had experiences of no-self before but I'm definitely not enlightened. Also, what you are referring to is definitely not enlightenment. Never mind that. You say you'd be willing to do anything to feel peace of mind/happiness again but if you're so hell bent then you're wasting your effort. Focus your intent on simply being at peace. No need to 'do' when you're seeking an internal state. It may be fleeting but feeling by it's nature is fleeting. On the other hand, if you want to rewire your brain to have that damn near all the time that'll take some work but you can experience what you want right now. Start simple. Keenly feel your intent to create a sensation of peace within yourself and allow it to come in. It's quite simple, if a tad ephemeral. At the end of the day, don't be too frustrated that you've 'lost it'. It's there whenever you want it. All you can do is moving in deeper alignemt with it or even beyond that and you already have a foundation in place for experiencing peace somewhere in you. There's no reason you can't make it back to your previous levels.

A timer to maintain consistent length sessions, a reminder thingy to tell you to meditate everyday and a big ol' bottom to sit on.

The number one tool to self-actualize, open your third eye and make your kundalini do the harlem shake! Nice troll man but not really...

Masochism can have a wide variety of allures and it may be difficult to pinpoint the precise mechanism which leads you toward it but I can rattle off a few. Subconsciously you think you're shit/scum/unworthy and therefore when cuckholded that part of your self-image is confirmed and therefore you experience a more integrated self. There's no expectations of society or peers on you while being degraded so you can drop your mental guard and 'submit' fully. These things are actually pretty good( the results at least) however the results to achieve them seem to be out of alignment with your sexual polarity (or what you believe to be your sexual polarity) and therefore this causes you dismay and also some of the social stigma puts you off of it. This may also cause issues with not being congruent to your self-image. Not understanding or properly pursuing your sexual polarity can cause intense anxiety ie. trans people with high rates of suicide. Therefore, in alignment with the goal of self-actualization, you must seek to understand yourself. My advice: Get sex. Hot, nasty sex with plenty of girls. Be dominant with some and let others be dominant with you. This will ground your understanding of your sexual polarity in reality and not in whatever the internet pick-up videos tell you. You should still move away from intense femdom as it often relies on overstimulation and unproductive image programming but be aware and accepting of this general tendency you have. It's cool bro. I think some dommes are kinda hot in porn and I'm fine with that. At the end of the day, you've gotta do what feels right, the things in alignment with your highest self- don't be swayed by stimulation, rationalization or social conditioning.

I think you guys are uneccessarily complicating things. Here's the real deal: humans have an innate need for the validation of others. Your need for validation is simply a little bit stronger. That said, If you want to reduce this desire for validation it will be a very long process, at least a couple years and even then you'll probably still want validation in some shape or form(not necessarily a bad thing) However if all you want to do is say no then say "No. Sorry, I've got other plans." Just say it. Nobody but you is preventing you from saying it. Nobody will beat you up or shun you forever(some might) if you say no. Develop strong boundaries and don't allow bullshit into your life.

I remember Rsd Tyler mentioning that he has some sort of light autism and he still does incredible with women. Check out Real Social Dynamics on youtube, they have incredible, nuanced advice on how to get success with women.

Speaking generally, massive action is good for a few things. 1. Grounding yourself in reality instead of being high up in your theory tower or Lala Land wishing things would sprout into existence. You'll have a lot of ideas about how things should work out but putting them in practice, will sift out the delusions. Also, Leo has mentioned time and again about the virulence of not trying to see and experience reality as it is. 2. Actually achieving your goals (or anything really). If accomplishing your goals matter to more than just saying you have goals then work is neccessary. 3.Flow state. This occurs when you balance the challenge of your work and your competency to where the challenge is a more difficult than what you can comfortably manage. At this point it's like child's play- not whooping, rambuctious stampeding but serious, subtle and incredibly engrossing. As for your 'why now 'question, there's nothing else but now. Our future and past are as much fiction as Harry Potter.

It seems you want both the chance to see what the experience of sex is like and also on a more unconscious level so you won't get disapproval from girls who are more experienced then yourself or even locker room talk. You're probably pretty open minded(being on this forum and all) which is why you're willing to consider using a hooker without shame or disappointment in yourself but you're still holding back. Yet you came here to have us answer this question instead of answering yourself. I think in some form or the other, you realize this isn't in alignment with the highest you that is pursuing dreams and self-mastery and came here in order to have us represent that more clearly and dissuade you from this. Or I'm full of bullshit. Just ask yourself these three questions while being present with yourself: Is this in alignment with my highest self? Is this choice completely in energetic alignment with where I am RIGHT NOW? Is this moving me closer to my most important goals? Make your choice on the answers to these questions. One last thing, women like sex just as much as men. Approach a lot of girls with a strong frame and good social calibration while being congruent to yourself. You'll get plenty of sex( it'll take at least six weeks to really develop a baseline and skill-set if you have no experience so be mindful of that.) Edit: Clarity

It's possible a combination of weak stabilizing muscles(Lower abs, suboccipitals, and back) and poor sitting posture can cause this. When we shift our positions in day to day life, it's often to relieve muscle fatigue in certain areas. However, there is another possibility. You may unconsciously repress subtle energies in your body during the day and when you sit down to meditate you release the blockages and this is just the natural course of the energy re-circulating through your body. Twitchy kids with ADD can be considered a more extreme version of this. I'd reccomend trying simple tai chi or yoga practice as they can help with both of those problems,

Try looking at the nutritional plans of some vegan bodybuilders. They seem to be able keep a fair amount of mass although if you want to become a giant muscle balloon, it may be a little more difficult gaining weight as a vegan.

The narrative is that to have a good diet you need a better bank balance. Eating certain healthy food may be expensive. Acai berries, kale, chia seeds or triple-double-organic-whatever-leaf etc will definitely take plenty out of your pocket. But there are so many cheap options available: Cabbage, potatoes, beans, onions, carrots, lentils, legumes for your main dishes. Bananas, sweet potatoes and oranges for snacks. Use plenty of spices to get your micronutrients( I take turmeric with pepper daily). Learn to make dishes around cheap, wholesome food. Make sure to get rid of any unhealthy food in your kitchen otherwise you make the decision of eating healthy much harder whereas if you cleanse your home of junk you won't even have to make a decision, you'll just eat healthy by default. Regarding exercise, it's fine to start slow. Try walking twenty minutes a day. Do some jumping jacks. Dance a little funky dance. Also, I've heard of this one way of exercising where you just shake your body and sort of flail about for fifteen minutes and apparently it's considered an extremely efficient way of exercising if you're just looking for the benefits(no guarantees though) Keep at it. Changing multiple habits at a time isn't easy.

Ooh. How very nice. Always wanted one of these. Public accountability works pretty well for me and I often feel clearer after laying down my thoughts. This is the start of my journal on my personal growth in the field of writing and self-actualization. As for now I'll put the goals i'm working toward. Main goals: 30 min of daily meditation. Writing 1000 words of fiction a day.(no this journal doesn't count) Mastering the craft of Writing Building tremendous Macro-momentum in writing and Self-actualization. Minor Goals: Starting my days off stronger. Turning my somewhat flat stomach into a somewhat ab stomach(like a four pack) Spend a little more time studying for my classes (but not too much more) 2/14/16: Today was pretty solid. Could've done with a better start. Woke up at ten. Bullshitted in bed till eleven. Ate Breakfast. Bullshitted till twelve. Showed my parents around town. Got to the important stuff around three. For the first half of the day, ideally, I would have liked to have done a little more meditation and exercise, as welling as some psychological priming to help me later in the day(eg. affirmations). Wasting less time would also be nice. Side note: does anyone know a good way to not wake up with dry mouth? Afternoon was where I started to shine. Admittedly, my earlier bullshitting momentum was causing me to bullshit more. After wasting a solid half hour, I started up my meditation. Great session. I visualized myself steadily walking down a smooth golden path in the darkness and with each step I felt myself achieving the things I wanted in my writing and fitness and travel destination etc. Would've liked it to last longer than fifteen minutes but I came out refreshed and ready to work. When I started writing I managed to incorporate my voice much better into my work thanks to remembering a certain quote from an author on voice(it went something like "One day you'll realize that the way you write isn't how you write and you'll start putting your own words on the page. This is how to find your voice.") I wrote about 500 words in my main work. Then, later I wrote 300 in freewriting for 800 total, pretty good overall, I'll probably go back later tonight to edit and add a little bit more so I'll 1000 words . Great work in writing today. Would like to learn to write an exhilarating, heart-pounding action scene. I want to identify some more important elements to making this possible. Keep up the progress in developing voice. Keeping working on the element of showing in fiction. Make sure to edit today's words properly and reflect. Looking ahead, I'll need to finish up a few school things and keep reading "Immediate Fiction."

Oh boy, where to begin... how about the heart of the issue. I, to some extent, did it. I stayed connected to my true self/consciousness/presence for quite a long period of time yesterday(at least two hours although I admit my sense of time was distorted). I managed such a long connection. Honestly It's far more than I'd hoped for spending such a short time. But my ego is going through some violent death throes. No, not death throes but it's scared for its life that's for damn sure. My ego is putting a much stronger fight than before revealing all my attachments like valuing experience and plenty of lower-consciousness activities I engage in as well, like masturbation or reading too much(not good quality stuff, although I read quality material as well.) It's like Leo said: "The hardest part about enlightenment is removing your mental blocks." or something like that. While this is very disconcerting and admittedly has shaken me(ego) quite a lot, it's also comforting to know I've finally reached this stage where "True North is the direction of greatest resistance." Honestly, the road ahead is quite murky but I do know my first step. Matt Kahn talked about it his video called 'energy upgrade' when he discussed about practicing high-consciousness behaviors for a long time and integrating them into the self to let lower consciousness behaviors and wants fall away. For my next step, I believe what I've outlined earlier in this journal will be sufficient, to charge forward relentlessly in my meditation and writing practice to remove mental blocks but not to stop my enlightenment work either. Tl; dr Leo said it required an iron will to pursue a path of enlightenment and I'm starting to feel the burn. Therefore, It's time to jump in the fire.

Ack! Missed basically the whole week! Well, I suppose a reflection on the week will work fine. This week was a storm of development, especially regarding enlightenment work. I remember putting off enlightenment work when I first heard of it from Leo, although I did try it out a little, I was largely skeptical. But better late than never, this stuff is seriously potent! I feel like it's providing me with a really strong platform to self-actualize, pursue goals and simple feel incredible. Moojiji said there are two paths in self-dev: "One is the road of hell and the other is the road of heaven." And i can hear Seraphim, faintly in the distance. Regarding enlightenment, I can feel both the practice and the conceptual are quite difficult to get a hold of, especially the conceptual. I've also noticed I've been able to control my mind very well, almost like zen-buddhist kind of level. My mind will just shut up when I start practicing, although that's not necessarily better than having thoughts. At the very least, my presence isn't getting drowned by my mind as much. Been experimenting a lot of different kinds of meditation: Strong-sitting, box-breathing, extremely slow walks, guided meditation with enlightened folk. I don't know what to settle on really, but I'm enjoying the process. Writing, comparatively, is going a little bit slower. Some of the reason is because I was so immersed and excited by enlightenment that writing just fell away(kind of like writing this journal...), but I think I could've still reached my goal of 1000 words a day. I wrote around 400-800 words a day, while missing one day to study for impending tests and projects. It's not my ideal outcome. Certainly, it's better than how much I wrote a year ago, but I still need to produce more. While quantity may not be as high as I want, quality is increasing. I'm getting around to read a lot of the meta-writing on writing craft that I've been putting off for awhile. My writing foundations are solidifying. A vague feel for what works and what doesn't and how to improve my writing is starting to come(at last!). Also, my transitions are getting smoother and smoother, despite not getting easier to write. I feel like it's tied to this one concept I learned which is to "Make everything you write worth showing" Showing, being the 'show don't tell' kind of 'show'. My planning on the Macro-level is quite strong, I believe in my ability to weave a strong, gripping story. However, I have a lot of work left to do at the scene-level. If I can understand what scenes are the best to write and am able to connect them better with less fluff, then my writing will skyrocket. I really want to develop a strong feel for the scene-level of writing. Five pages? Damn. That's around 2500-3000 words. I know a person who writes roughly that much but I never get any less surprised when I hear about how many books she pumps out a year. Keep hustling!

Hey, vegan of two years here, currently weighing in at 6'1, 140 lbs and am, by my measure, fairly healthy. Glad to see somebody making the transition, however there are a few things you should bear in mind the most. Going vegan will not effect your weight and health so much as eating mostly plant-based and largely unprocessed food. As for the nay-sayers, well, food is very personal and a great many people have tremendous misunderstandings about nutrition. Try reading Dr. Joel Fuhrman's, "Eat to Live". It's jammed packed with study after study of the benefits of a plant-based diet and the disadvantages of a processed, animal product heavy diet. Refute them with knowledge. I guarantee there is more than enough of it to shoot them down on nearly every matter. They'll still try to offer you animal products and junk and try to convince you that you're going to suffer eating vegan. Let me share with you what I did to overcome both. For the first, you're going to have to just deny them effortlessly. Don't even really view the junk they're offering as food but as this odd sort of pseudo-organic vaguely edible material that isn't in resonance with your values( of course if they serve proper food don't reject it). Second, make them provide evidence for their claims. Ask to see multiple sources for each claim they make, then ask to see how good the sources are. They'll tire of asking you these things and eventually only bother you every once in awhile about it. Hope this helps.

Well, you're right in calling it a holy grail. Information isn't everything but if it can be at your fingertips so easily... monstrous. I can imagine I'd get my story research and self-help books through a lot faster. Not only that, but having such a vast repository of events and experience- especially for an author- is quite alluring. Back to reality. You seem to have a fair bit of experience in this area of savants and learning these kinds of hyper-mental skills. And you seemed to have caught on to something even if it's not the elusive and holy eidetic memory. So I I have a bit of advice for you. Get another light. I mean , can you really let something this cool go? Report back to us after another three weeks. I must admit I am a bit skeptical, but if your telling the truth, even a minor improvement could be pretty cool. Especially considering how much of our lives are spent committing text to memory.

The grind. I think the problem is in part with what you've chosen to call your path. Why not call it a magnificent adventure? You claim to be intensely passionate about music so how could you possibly be in energetic alignment with something as dull as "the grind". Don't be mistaken. You still need to take massive, consistent and deliberate mastery building action but why make it so boring. Remember, even in a magnificent adventure, you still have to walk every step of the way and experience wonderful and difficult things. Also-if you feel like your wasting your time- you should try to remember that this particular leg in your journey is just a little bit long. Otherwise, if you're truly committed, keep deepening your roots and your skill and try to love every second of it. Progress isn't always evident but that can't stop us from trying to progress. What choice do we really have? To throw away our dreams and get a 9-5? You gotta push through to true north, where all the trials, resistance and frustrations lay. The reason they say you've gotta love the grind(once again, I don't prefer this term), is because you're going to do it anyway so you might as well like doing it. I'm an aspiring author so you can say I've been through this a bit. Heck, I still feel this way most days. Oh well...

Try switching to audiobooks. If all you want is the juicy information tucked inside the covers of the book then try finding an audiobook. You can listen to it while doing an activity another and you'll be sure to not fall asleep. However, your retention may be lowered. I've done this for several months now and have never experienced the slightest drowsiness when reading(or should that be listening?).

Curiosity may kill the cat (RIP me) but it vitalizes the student. My curiosity has always enhanced my ability to learn and the enjoyment I derive from it. In fact, some people enjoy this so much they'll spend years of their lives on a subject or a question. Try learning to tap into your latent curiosity. Exercise it. Weave it into the way you pursue knowledge. Curiosity can set the dead, dry pages of a book on fire and make your mind and heart race like a little girl in love for the first time. It doesn't necessarily happen every class nor every day or even every other day but... if it's excitement you're looking for then you should seriously cultivate your curiosity.

Name: J. M. Thomas Age: 19 Gender: Male Location: Dallas, TX Relationship Status: Single Occupation: Full-time student and Apprentice writer. Hobbies: Reading, Writing, Long walks at night, playing Osu!, butterfly knife tricks, deep introspection. Summer four years ago. I was a freshman but believe me when I say I didn't feel the slightest bit fresh. My depression was better than it used to be but still lingered like slugs in a salt shortage. I didn't really talk to people about this, in fact I didn't even know where to begin. That was a lie. I knew where to begin: the Internet. First it was binaural beats. Then hypnosis and subliminal messaging. I discovered the infamous 'documentary' "The Secret". It perked me up alright, the Law of Attraction shindig but it made me neurotic. I dropped it looking for something else. I found it in the form of Owen Cook from Real Social Dynamics, Eliot Hulse. Infinite Waters. Tony Robbins. ET the hip-hop preacher. Brian Tracy. And finally... our beloved Overlord: Leo Gura! I watched video after video. Hours, days, weeks, months immersed in theory. Then I dipped my toe into the water, rolled it around in my mouth. Smelt it. Tasted it. Then I dove in. And then I jumped right back out. After a year or so of dithering. I solidified my convictions and started really embarking on my journey. Challenges Overcome: A typical, terrible western diet to eating vegan for two years sans junk and junk that pretends to be decent food. Awkward, stumbling teen to socially aware and unhinged from societal pressures. Took a wild child of a mind and relentlessly trained it in creativity and self-introspection and understanding complexity. Seriously started on the journey of becoming the person who can fulfill his dreams. Beat out a lot of pointless negativity and a mild depression from my brain. Works in Progress: Mastering the Writing Craft. Shoring up my lackluster meditation routine. Finally starting to exercise again. Trying to master the application of yin and yang in regards to my energy levels and achieving sustained flow states. Becoming much more deliberate and consistent travelling my paths of mastery. Trying to achieve higher quality sleep.

I work a lot of fine motor skills: butterfly knife tricks, playing osu!, practicing liquid(dance style). I also read a lot of novels and manga to get ideas for my own writing.