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@reez As Coach Corey Wayne puts it, there are three phases in a relationship : the attraction phase, the dating phase, and then the relationship itself. I want to develop myself to be good at all three. What I'm really looking for is a resource that will change my psychology, and help me be more attractive, romantic, loving, sexual, etc. I thought about hiring Corey as a coach, but the payment's 1000$, and I wondered if I could find some great resources for 200-500$, that's why I started this topic. I am going to read the books about relationships in Leo's book list, that's mandatory, but I want to go one step farther. It can be about anything related to relationships, except for PUA stuff, I don't want to do that, I have a purpose, this should be attractive enough.

You don't need a website, just use youtube if you're doing only video. However you do need to know what you want to do. Even if it's not a full-blown life purpose, you still need to try to make a change in people, whatever that might be.

Tiny Success : Work I actually sat down and did the work. I designed the video that I am going to shoot tomorrow. I see myself working 1 hr/day, spending the first 30 minutes designing the video, and then shooting it. That would happen when I am creating a course, but I think I could easily find a new course to make and hence always be making courses. Tiny Failure : Thoughts I spend 60-90 minutes coming home from school, that's a long time. I could be thinking great thoughts, but instead all I'm doing right now is just basically meditation, not caring about my thoughts. I think that the best thing I could do would just consider it as free time, no strings attached, do whatever is on my mind. Okay deal, I can vision if I want to, I can listen to music if I want to, I can listen to an audio book if I want to, I can read a book if I want to, I can meditate if I want to. Habits Meditation : I sat like the old days, and like yesterday, it's great. Visualisation : I visualised myself feeling great in various situations and I kept going on the contemplation series that's been happening recently. I wanted to visualise myself having sex with Zoé, the girl in my class, I didn't because I'm not pursuing that, but still... *having an emotional reaction to that* *no thoughts occurring* Journaling : When I do my habits, I remember what I told myself the previous day, and hence get better really quickly, that's great.

Tiny Success : Judgement The amount of Judging I did today was almost nothing compared to recently. It re-iterates what I have been saying recently but there’s something more today. I am friends with a girl in my class and she invited me to go party with her. I told her I would, even though I might not. I even considered going, even though I don’t party. This is huge. Normally, I would have been all critical and judging and would have basically used that in order to avoid work, but today I didn’t. This is big progress here, I also realised I was being a victim about others being victims. *laughing at myself right now* Tiny Failure : Food I haven’t done that one in a while, but I want to do it today. I am not really doing food well. I have big impulses, I’ve been eating a lot of chocolate, and I need to re-think my fruit-intake schedule. I am going to eat 1 for breakfast, 2 for lunch, and 2 when I come home at 5:30. Starting with less sugar is better because it curbs my appetite, and not having sugar too late is better because sugar prevents from sleeping. Also I’ve been considering eating my 6-egg omelette for breakfast rather than lunch, this curb my appetite even more, but on the other hand, I wouldn’t eat lunch. Habits Meditation : I went back to the old days of meditation by sitting like I used to when I first started. It’s much better. Visualisation : It went really well, I’m really good. I even know what I’m going to contemplate and visualise tomorrow. Journaling : This new way of doing it is perfect. There’s the 20% of effort that gives me the 80% of the results that I want. I’m going to keep it that way. My ultimate vision for journalling would be posting it on my social network on Ning, as well as following those of my community on Ning.

@hi guys First of all Congratulations ! You're aware of it ! It's the first step. Here's how I dealt with the issue. First, I simply noticed myself in my "cycle" whenever I would get there. Then, I would keep going while paying attention to my body and my thoughts while doing it, this step is critical, it creates mindfulness, and it makes me happy. And then lastly I would just stop and re-direct my attention to something I want to pay attention to, like my vision of the future, or something I just read about, or whatever is important right now. Over time, the amount of daydreaming I had been doing greatly reduced.

Visioning : Social Conditioning Wherever people place their attention and their trust is whatever is going to influence their world view. This right here is huge, it’s powerful, it blows me away. I love it. On the one hand, it can be severely limiting. On the other hand, it can be extremely uplifting. I want to put my attention and my trust on people who I admire, on people like Arnold Schwarzenegger, like Leo Gura, or like Seth Godin. Basically, on people who achieved goals that I want to achieve. And this includes lots of people. Let’s say I’ve been so good at helping others create an extraordinary life for themselves and now I find myself meeting people who I’ve influenced who are now better than me at something I want to do; that’d be cool. I also want others to put their attention and their trust on me ! Because I want to help them grow themselves so that they can live the life that they want. I’m not some weird manipulative guy who’s building himself an army, I’m just trying to help you create the great life. If I can just earn your trust and your attention, you and I will accomplish great things together. If you can just earn my trust and my attention, you and I will accomplish great things together. I want to read thank-you emails of people telling me “You’ve helped me so much. I transformed my life with your work”. When that happens, I’ll know the good kind of social conditioning will have happened on that person. I want to surround myself with people who are much better than me at what I do. I am not good at what I do. I want to be with people who not only are good, or even great, or even amazing, but actually incredibly awesome at what I do. And I want to pick their brains, I want them to share with me their best advice. Tiny Success : Detachment If you put a bunch of crabs in a bucket, not a single one of them will come out. Because as soon as one of them tries to, all others are going to pull it back. I love this metaphor. Also, opinions and truth are two different things. People can look at an accordion of thoughts, emotions, and behaviours, and call that bad work when it isn’t, it’s just an accordion of thoughts, emotions, and behaviours. I was detached from Resistance coming from the people around me. Opinions only have power over you when you agree with them. I have a Life Purpose and I actually let some douchebag’s opinion prevent me from doing great work. That’s because I don’t want to do great work, because of the resistance. Tiny Failure : Work I want to buy myself a good microphone. As soon as that happens, I can just start shooting my courses. I need to do this, I’ve been procrastinating for way too long, it’s been exhausting. I really need to get off my ass and get to work. I want to feel Flow. And I want to feel the ecstasy of functioning at one’s prime. And I don’t want to just lose myself in dreamer land where I imagine myself shooting a video when I’m really not. They say you can do deliberate practice for up to 5 hours every day, that’s huge. On the next 90-day project, I’ll be starting with mandatory 0.5 hours a day, that’s tiny. Right now I just do it once in a while. Habits Meditation : Here’s my plan, I’ll be fulfilling my life purpose, saving 10% of my salary and investing it in indexed funds, as soon as I have enough money to support myself while not working for a while, retire and get enlightened, then we’ll see what happens. Visualisation : A commitment is all I needed. I love trying to feel how great I will feel once I’m fully realising my life purpose. Dinner : I’ve already touched on this, but I’ll go deeper. So I told my sisters the Crabs in a Bucket analogy and my little sister actually acknowledged that “Tancrède is trying to leave the bucket, and we’re pulling him down”. This made me feel amazing, because it’s the first time they acknowledged that I was doing great work.

Four months ago, I finished the Life Purpose Course. I've been working on making it real ever since, it's been a lot of fun. I haven't made much progress, which is normal because people don't change the world in 4 months, and also because I wasn't 100% clear about what it was, only 90% clear. Now I am. What I'm working on specifically is this : I am creating a course that I called "The Lazy High Achiever", which is going to teach people how to achieve great goals (like fulfilling one's life purpose, or attaining enlightenment) with the amount of effort that's necessary and sufficient (aka. not too much, not too little, just the right amount). I think it's important for people who are just starting out and need some clearance about it. I am also creating a course that I called "The Atoms of Self-Actualization", in which I am going to talk about the fundamental principles of Self-Actualization. Leo has something similar, but I intend to spin it into my own style, for my particular audience. I'm still putting the pieces of my vision together but I think I want to create my own social network on Ning, it will allow my community to connect and support each other, kind of like this forum, except with my style. Also I've been increasing the amount of attention I put into being mindful of my emotions and thoughts. I've been having great results from that, it's been a lot of fun. I'm going to keep going.

Visioning : Strategic Thinking Looking at the world with a purpose in mind. Imagining some great version of the future, setting out to accomplish it. That is the first step, the one I love most, because it makes me feel like a little child, playing around, being naive, doing whatever I want. Then comes reading, gathering intelligence. Going and finding important information. Information that we need in order to succeed. I like this step as well, it’s relaxing. We start studying great principles, understanding deep truths, combining sources. And we also start to change the inner circumstances of our lives, we start preparing ourselves against adversity, we grow ourselves to thrive in an unpredictable and uncontrollable world, we become fit. And finally come execution and adaptability. We start putting in the habit, and we start to error-correct, we take action toward our goals. This one is cool too because we derive deep bliss from functioning at our prime. This whole concept of strategic thinking is amazing. I love it because it allows for serious long term goals to happen. Huge goals like fulfilling one’s life purpose, transforming one’s entire way of life, those do not happen overnight, but they’re amazing to pursue. It also allows for action to be taken now, today, every day until the intent is realised. And that’s cool because it makes us feel so amazing, like “Oh yeah I’ve got this outrageous goal and I’m working on accomplishing it now”. This activity is one of the most valuable activity anybody can undertake. Thinking about the future and planning consciously to take the right action toward that future really does make you happy. Tiny Success : Bad shit. This morning, I just forced myself to do work that matters. Also something I’ve been feeling recently is that I feel bad about doing bad habits, so it’s really easy for me to dismiss them. I can’t trick myself into thinking that watching a video about personal development is going to help me, because I am fully aware that it’s not. This allows for great work to happen. And this also allows for my happiness levels to go up. This morning I just got happy. I was walking down the street and suddenly I was happy, like really happy, not stimulation happy. The abundance pleasure Maslow defines as the ecstasy of functioning at one’s prime. This was the first time I ever experienced that in my whole life. Tiny Failure : Lazied out On Friday afternoons, I don’t have school. Which is a great opportunity to do work that matters. But today I didn’t. I did a lot of other little things for the family, not for myself. I don’t see myself doing so much of that stuff in the future. I see myself having lots of free time, doing whatever I want. And I can be there because I’m a good executor. I know I won’t do too much of bad habits, and I know I will do enough good work. I’d lazy out at times but not too much, in fact I have a ritual for it; engage in a Feed Your Muse activity to get myself back on track. Habits Meditation : I feel like I’ve been having diminished results ever since I cut it down from 1h to 30min. I’ll try to find a way to do more of it even when I’m still going to school. Visualisation : I realised that my mind spends lots of its imaginative energy into really stupid shit. Sometimes I talk to myself as if I was talking to somebody in a scene from my recent past. Dinner : I was dining alone with my brother tonight, no one else was there. We talked a bit about Self-Actualization work. It was useless. Although it is going to be interesting to see what he’s going to do regarding this.

Visioning : Great Principles The study of great principles. What an amazing activity to engage in. It allows the light of awareness shine in the previously darkened places. It makes us feel more at home in the world. Going back to the fundamentals is also a great use of our resources. It kicks us in the ass. It makes us question whether we have really absorbed them. It’s also wonderful to welcome beginners with great principles, because it makes us remember when we were just starting out, not knowing anything, and makes us laugh at ourselves. It also reaffirms our experience. Sometimes, it even makes us jealous of them — “I wish somebody had laid it all out in front of me just like that”. Most importantly, great principles make deep changes in ourselves. They are to be used forever. We are not suddenly going to go back to not knowing them, because they’re imprinted in our self-image, our psychology changed. Great principles are to be studied, not just agreed on. We ought to imagine them unfolding in action, we ought to check them against our intuition, we ought to cross-reference them with others, we ought to feel the change happening inside of us. If we do that, we become aware, not just knowledgeable, really aware. Tiny Success : Excellence I had an amazing idea today. It’s related to today’s visioning. This, in and of itself, is not a part of my vision for a typical day, I just want to celebrate the win. I truly feel like I’m getting great results from my visualising and my journalling. These kinds of things don’t just pop up, they swim around in the subconscious mind, and then sometimes a bubble comes out. I’m so happy about my habits, they’re really powerful. Your habits greatly influence your subconscious mind, and hence powerful habits create excellence. Tiny Failure : Resistance The Resistance prevented me from sitting down in front of my computer and actually working on making my idea real. I just slacked off and read The War of Art, which talks about the Resistance. That’s good news ! Because it means that I really need to work on this project ! If I had attained my vision, I would have been aware of the Resistance happening in the moment of it unfolding, acknowledged that it was good news right there, and would have gone through my ritual to get myself to work, and end up beating the Resistance. Habits Meditation : I feel more and more grounded, thanks to this journalling. I’m going to keep this going, it’ll go really far Visualisation : I think that I was encountering Resistance before. Good ! I found that a great question I can ask myself is “What do I most want to see happen in my life ?”. And then I can picture it. Dinner : I practised Being cognition tonight. This is how I’m going to deal with the flow of life, just non-judgemental, being cognition. I don’t need for the flow to be favourable to me. I can see myself dancing with it, running around like a little kid in it.

Visioning : Habits Habits are like clothes for the mind. They reflect who you are. They shape the trajectory of your life. They influence your happiness levels. They influence your mood. They are part of your identity. You can determine someone’s current character just by looking at their habits. So when someone sleeps for 8 hours, eats healthy, reads a lot, journals, meditates, exercises, visualises, and has a strong work ethic, you know that they accomplish great things in their lives, and that they have been doing personal development for a long time. I can see myself contemplating my life and look at how my habits are bringing toward my goals, and how much I am not really putting in that much effort, it’s mostly habitual. I’d get this feeling of joy, something like “those habits are so powerful !!”. I can see myself being in those habits, but being completely fully in them, like I’d enter this bubble, and once I’m inside, I’m just completely immersed. Like a child who runs around being so happy, and I’d get to do all kinds of cool stuff in it. And I’d also have lots of free time, where I don’t have any commitments. Where I can do whatever I want, I can spend more time doing my habits, I can hang out with my girlfriend, I can read more, I can work more, I can meditate more, or whatever makes me happy. As long as it’s not some time I feel I need to fill up with addiction or whatever. Tiny Success : Awareness I was aware of my thought patterns. I didn’t get too lost in thought, I was more present, more in the moment. It was interesting. I felt better. Meditation is really helping me out with this stuff. I can feel awareness as an emotion. I have an image of this. I’m leaning into the moment, looking around, feeling, and hearing everything, just having this scene perfectly imprinted in me. Tiny Failure : Critical Let’s just acknowledge that I was critical of the world today. I just was, I was. I see myself being present. So, I might get critical at times, but I’d be completely aware of it, simply noticing, fully experiencing it, and then moving on. By “fully experiencing it” I mean keeping the criticism going while feeling my physiology during that period. Really feel the criticism as a whole experience. Being completely vulnerable in this process. Allowing whatever wants to come up show its ugly face, maybe even visualise it. Habits Meditation : My brother started meditation today. He’s going to do it for 5 minutes every day. That’s a good start. Also I was able to feel my blood circulation today, that was awesome, I want to get more of that. Visualisation : All it takes for me to perform well in this is commitment. I just need to really want it, and it’ll come. This is cool because it takes the pressure off, I guess I was a victim for a little while. I really see myself dreaming up great things here, playing like a little child, being so happy. Dinner : I did well today. Parents weren’t here. I ate a lot. That was good. I didn’t drink to much infusions. I didn’t eat too much fruit. I just ate a lot of chicken.

Visioning : Morning and Meditation When I wake up in the morning, I’m slow. I feel the sensations in my body, how my sleep affected my physiology. I use my mantra “I’m fulfilling my life purpose”, I repeat it, each time adding more eloquence. I breathe fully, multiple times, and then I smile. This wakes me up, and, more importantly, this wakes up my emotional body. I get excited, I get this feeling, the one we get when we’re really passionate about something we do, we really feel ready to go do something in the world, we’re really fully completely in it. Then, I go get breakfast. A giant fresh salad, with a lot of raw vegetables, some herbs, a nice dressing. A big omelette, made up of 6 eggs, salt and pepper, and some more herbs and spices. And a green vegetable juice, that tastes amazing, and that brings that feeling of freshness inside my abdomen. When I meditate, I get this sense of being really connected to my Self, I’m grounded in the present moment, completely detached from thoughts and action, I feel like I’m this giant impending force on the world, something heavy. And at the same time I feel this sense of impending doom on me, like I’m just about to die. I accept that death, and I use it to detach myself from the earthlings, from the outcome of my work, from everything really, except for my Self. And at the same time, this amplifies my willingness to do great work, I’m so detached that I feel I need to perform at my best. I need to feel the greatest life I can live. Tiny Success : Time I was able to do the things I needed to do today. More importantly, I was in a state of mind where I could take right action. I always feel stressed out about time, but today, my relationship with time was great. I think this is due to the Lifestyle Minimalism video Leo just released. Right now is a turning point. The whole direction of my life changed. This video just got a big piece of my vision puzzle in place : my typical day. I used to try to imagine what my typical day would look like, but I couldn’t do it. Now I can. It’s got a lot of free time, where I can just do whatever I want. It’s true that I have habits, but still, lots of free time. Tiny Failure : Lost in Thought I spend most of my time in thought. I add meaning to it, I get out of the present moment, I’m not aware of anything, just in my thoughts. I want to feel stuff, not think it. I want to have more experience, more fulfilment, more mindfulness, more awareness. I want to feel the wind blowing on my face, I want the fresh air to fill my body, I want to feel my body walking, I want to feel the depth of my kisses, I want to feel the aliveness of the fresh food in my mouth. And I also want to be mindful of when I get into my thought-world, and of the physiological responses of my emotions. Habits Meditation : I want to get this sense of heaviness on the world, and I want to feel the blood circulating in my body. I didn’t do either of these things today. I’ll remember to do that tomorrow, and I’ll do that every time I meditate. Visualisation : I need to agree with myself on something really meaningful to visualise about. I want to really feel the scene I’m visualising, but that can’t work unless it means something to me. Dinner : I basically need to be alive at dinner. Really calm and enjoy my food, my family’s company. Also I realised I do much better when there’s 4 people or less around me. When there’s more, I just shut myself down and let others run the show. I am that introverted !

Visioning : Impact I would get up in the morning, and I’d work on my current work project. It’d be something really cool. Something that would allow me to deepen, and strengthen, my relationship with my buddies; with the people who want to live an extraordinary life, who dream up grand visions every day, and who are happy to share it with the rest of us. And I’d get to imprint my mind with their dreams. I would also learn more about how I can make a change in someone, someone who really wants me to change them, because to them it’s a really effective solution to their problem, and because they trust me. I see people who enrol themselves in my community, and just get completely immersed in this universe, they start to get a lot of clarity about who they are, how they and the people around them work, how money works. And they just develop skills that only the top 1% of the top 1% have, stuff like high emotional intelligence, which allows them to sacrifice the short term for the long term, and to recognise emotions in people. And also stuff like mindfulness, being in the present moment, being aware and conscious of their own emotions, feelings, behaviours, and thoughts, as well as those of others. Stuff like achieving great goals, goals that everybody considers really hard, but that they now know are actually pretty easy, they just take time, and conscious effort. I see my buddies just doing their thing, being happy, feeling fulfilled, having a sense of understanding life on such a deep level, feeling at home in the world, because they understand literally everything they need to understand about life. I see the world being a brighter place, a shinier place, running more smoothly, with less friction. I see the Millennial generation leading the world into a whole new stage of consciousness, the green stage of the graves model; where it’s taken for granted that people do things that make change, that improve the world on a deep level, everybody fulfilling their life purpose. Tiny Success : Slow I was sloowwww today. I was grounded in my being rather than on my doing. I felt into my self. That visioning was 20 minutes long, it feels better. I meditated for an hour, and then was deliriously happy, this was cool. But more importantly, I was really in touch with my authentic self. I cleaned up the bathroom, but I was mostly doing it as a meditative practice, I was just in touch with my being. I’m just so fucking fulfilled right now, so calm, I have so much peace of mind, I love being. This is really what my life has to become about, not success, not making money, not trying to get my family to do work they don’t want to do. Just being there, being happy, fulfilling my life purpose, learning more about life, meditating, being in love. Tiny Failure : Relationships Can we please agree on this definition for community : “Community = People who aspire to the same things” ? Because I’d like that. I’m taking all the effort needed to improve my relationship with my family but it’s like they want to be unhappy. They don’t aspire to the same things as me, they are not a part of my community. It’s like they want to get depressed. As you can see I got angry at my family a lot today, I’m being a huge victim here, needing them to do great work. Right now I’m feeling through my anger. I apologized for the things I didn’t do to my sister today, but I think she just likes being angry at me. This has been occurring a lot lately. Habits Meditation : I meditated for an hour today, it felt amazing. I was just smiling like fuck right after it, it was incredible. I remember not being so angry at my family when I used to do it for 1h/day, now I only do it for 30 min/day, and I get angry at my family. Correlation ? Definitely worth looking into. Visualisation : I need a process for it. I’m going to first set the context of the scene, get details about the people there, the setting of it, then my posture, and how I feel. Only then can I start running the film, but what I’ll do is that I’ll mostly focus on my feelings of the scene, not necessarily the action. Dinner : I really don’t have anything more to say about it. They’re just all running in individual dysfunctional circles, there’s really no point in caring about it. I can just practice being cognition. Still, I add meaning to their dysfunctions, I add anger, sadness, frustration, when they’re just normal.

Visioning : Minimalism When you clean up your house, when you clean up your body, when you clean up your diet, when you clean your brain up from negative thoughts, when you clean up your lifestyle. Basically, when your entire life consists of meditations, life purpose work, physiological work, a loving relationship, and just a lot of slow mindful action, you become happy again. There’s no need for doing this and that and also this other thing over there. There’s just being, happy. I look around me and I see people constantly doing, and doing ten thousand different things. Never stopping to contemplate, never breathing, never taking a walk. Never being. They’re just doing. Pause for a second, and enjoy the present moment, enjoy your life, enjoy your being. I can see my life being de-cluttered, no need to go to school, no rush to get everything done, just reading a lot, working on my next big project here and there, meditating a lot, visioning about the future, doing some strength training, taking a long walk, enjoying a meal, its texture, its taste, its freshness. Deliberately staying under the cold water, and feeling my way through it. Having a long, deep, powerful sex session with my girlfriend. Enjoying my green vegetable juice. Taking time to stop and smell the roses, contemplating my life, and myself. And just having lots of free time where I can choose to do anything, I can choose to meditate, I can choose to do life purpose work, I can choose to hang out with my girlfriend, I can choose to take a walk, I can choose to try to cook a new kind of meal, I just have time. Tiny Success : Bad Habits My state of mind about bad habits is just great. I don’t want to do stupid shit. I just want to do good habits, like meditation, visualisation, reading, working, cleaning up the house, etc. I remember a time where it would go like this : I’d ask myself “Do you want to watch TV ?” and I would answer “No, I don’t watch TV”. But now, I don’t even ask myself that question any more, which is great. I just get to work. I used to put off work, it makes me feel sick to do that now. Tiny Failure : Criticism I want to clean up my bedroom. I want to clean up my bathroom. I want to mow the lawn. Yet I didn’t do all those things. And I don’t want to get angry at the fact that my sister lies to me. I don’t want to get angry at the fact that my other sister keeps denying that she has a shitty life and keeps criticising everybody all the time. Yet I did do all those things. Ideally, I’d live alone. I’d make a habit of cleaning up around the house, and I would just accept the resistance. Habits Meditation : I want to do an hour tomorrow, I won’t be going to school so I have time. Also I got that great feeling today again. Visualisation : I’m running out of things to visualise about, I’ve been in on it for more than 120 days. I need to start visualising in a different time frame, like a year from now, or 50 years from now, just get variety going here. Dinner : I can turn dinner into something awesome by doing just one thing. And that’s just feeling happy without needing them to be perfect. And slow the fuck down as well, eat slowly, enjoy the food.

Visioning : Placebo Have you ever wondered why this visioning stuff works so well ? Because of the placebo effect. It tells what to look for, it teaches to see what we want to see, it turns the hustle into a magic pill, it’s almost a lie. In fact, if we look carefully, it is a lie. Thoughts are illusionary, they represent things, but they in and of themselves aren’t these things, just a representation. This is why the placebo effect is so powerful, it allows our thoughts to represent different things. We end up looking at the same thing, just adding a different meaning to it. Our lives may be viewed as extraordinary today, but maybe, 200 years from, historians will look back and say : “Ooh yeah that was normal” ! The placebo effect can amplify some thing’s power, and it can also diminish some thing’s power. You can use it to break a bad habit, you can use to maximize the power of a good habit, you can use to make bigger change happen in other people, you can use it to accelerate the growth of your business. It also comes with responsibility, don’t complain about not being able to do great things unless you’ve tried to use it. Put in place a habit of visioning, of making affirmations, and visualisation. And don’t complain that it doesn’t work unless you actually take action toward your goals, this stuff multiplies the effect, but 0*1'000'000 = 0. You need to turn that 0 into a 1, or a 2, or even, a 1'000. Tiny Success : Work I am detached from outcome. I am passionate about my work. I am not quitting just because I suck and can’t make a change. It is true that I haven’t worked a lot, but I have taken a baby step toward my goal. I feel that this work ethic is good, I think I’ve worked a good 2 hours. I want to read more, but I need money and amazon prime for that. And I’d want to inspire myself, maybe go get in touch with nature, spend time with my girlfriend, spend time with friends. But I’d work for a good 2 hours, maybe a little less, maybe a little more, whatever. Tiny Failure : Did not make a change Happen This article was viewed more than the last one, read less than the last one, and most certainly did not perform neither better nor worse at making change than the last one. I can’t make change. I understand that the biggest part of making change happen is for the person to be ready to be changed, aka. gathering these people’s (and there’s few of them) attention and trust. But then the question is, how do I get their attention and trust ? This Journalling stuff was my answer to it, it’s different, it offers a vision, and it allows me to make indirect promises to be fulfilled, and of course they do get fulfilled. Let’s vision for 37 seconds. In a typical day, I would read a lot of thank-you emails from people whose lives got better, I would read other people’s journals, and help them in their journeys, I’d feel grateful for those things. Habits Meditation : It was in sync with my vision. Visualisation : It’s a lot easier than I make it to be. I just need to be focused. Maybe I’ll do it in the morning, before breakfast. Dinner : I’m introverted, and the people around are willing to just make irrational noise to avoid 2 seconds of silence. It hurts me. Every time I open my mouth, my little sister responds to it negatively. Literally every time, I noticed it because I’m present, thanks to meditation. Every Fucking Time ! Sometimes it’s a sigh, sometimes it’s “I don’t care”, sometimes it’s “I can’t bear him”.

Visioning : Mastery The Mastery process is very simple. A small spurt of progress followed by a long plateau, and again progress and plateau, and again, forever. This is how we, human beings, the species with the biggest learning capabilities, learn. I love this concept. I love it because it allows us, the very small percentage of people who are fully and completely aware of it, to thrive in this world. We thrive because it’s rare, and it’s beautiful. People complain about no passion, because they’re not mastering anything. Because they don’t set out to develop expertise in anything. We, however, master Life. What’s more important to us than our own lives ? Nothing. I love it also because it detaches us completely from outcome, from whatever is happening to us, from however badly we perform. It doesn’t matter, because we’ll get better, just later. It allows to take our time, it allows to sit back and relax and enjoy the show, because it doesn’t matter, we’ll get better. I also love it because it creates so much passion, love, and clarity in our lives. “Ooh yeah this is something that I’m definitely going to pursue”. “Ooh yeah they’re going to like my work because I’m going to get better at it and I’ll end up being so good they can’t ignore me”. And then as we develop Mastery, we start really wanting to learn more and more, we love how the thing we’re mastering works, and how deep it is. I love learning about life, I love trying to understand how I can create my own successful business, I love trying to become a great leader, I love trying to understand how I can attract, date, and have amazing relationships with women, I love understanding how my thoughts, my emotions, my behaviours affect my life, I love feeling through an emotion, locating it in my body, feeling my breathing change, feeling my heart pacing, having a warm feeling in my throat, feeling my muscles tense up. I love. Tiny Success : Art ! Originally, I called it work. But it’s not work, it’s Art ! I’ve committed myself to be releasing one article a week. Hopefully I’ll be making a change. Tonight, an article is popping out. I think this instinct to write more stems from the failure of the last one, I realised I was procrastinating, I realised I needed to talk about something else, and I realised that I just had to write more blog posts if I wanted to make a change. I’m on the next plateau of the mastery process. This one is characterized by this instinct to produce writing. Hopefully I’ll get people’s attention and trust, allowing me to make this change happen in the world. “Art is a personal gift that changes the recipient” — Seth Godin, Linchpin Tiny Failure : Physiology I’m really not good at handling physiology. I need to exercise, and I need to sleep, and I need to take cold showers. A lot of great pleasure comes from having great physiology. You have energy, and you just have a feeling of freshness on your skin, and your brain functions much better, you have higher awareness capabilities. You’re more present, you feel your body’s serendipity, how each part of it allows the others to function and it all works toward making you alive and vibrant. You have amazing strength and vitality and endurance, the sex you have is great too. Habits Meditation : I welcomed back the feeling I used to get. I want more of it, I need to sit right to get it. Also I’ve been considering trying to do mindfulness meditation, maybe I’ll do it at the next 90-day project. Visualisation : I was able to focus really well. I’m getting really good at it. I think I just need to take a second before each exercise to centre myself in the exercise, and pay attention. Dinner : It didn’t happen while I was at dinner tonight but I just want to talk about it anyway. This morning my little sister got angry for no reason, that made me angry, I breathed and fully experienced it, and after 30 seconds, it was gone. And then I realised how good I was at feeling emotions.

Visioning : Growth It started when I learned that I could create my own World of Warcraft private server. I did it, and then I created some cool things in my private Azeroth. Then the people at my middle school asked me “What do you want to do in your life ?” and I decided I would create video games. I went on the Internet and started to learn the C programming language. Then I thought, let me shoot myself playing games and commenting on them. Then I thought I’d do video editing, and then composing music. And eventually, I went to college. I thought I’d learn about life. All of these years, it was entirely free stuff, not a single time did I buy any learning resource. I learned how to deal with depression, health, achievement, career, dealing with people, leadership, and growth. Growth doesn’t happen if there’s no Resistance. Growth happens when your psychology changes. Growth happens when your subconscious mind is de-printed of old beliefs and imprinted of new beliefs. Growth happens when your habits change. Growth happens when your emotions about a given subject change. Growth changes your life. Growth is like wiping the slate clean and re-building yourself, changing your entire world view in the process. Changing your Identity. Changing what you believe you can, can’t, will, and won’t do. Growth allows you to help others grow as well. Growth also allows you to grow even more, to experience more, to take in even more. Tiny Success : Slow Recovery, and Emotional Mastery So I really am going through some Resistance right now. I am slowly recovering, slowly getting myself back to work. Which is funny because technically all I “have to” do right now is Journalling, and I take it for granted. Also I call that “slow” when it’s much quicker than it’s ever been. But still, I’m not overworking myself, that’s good. My little brother got angry tonight. I was in the bathroom and I heard him talking “aggressively” to himself, being angry. I realised that my emotional mastery is huge. I’m able to notice my emotions really quickly, and then feel through them really quickly. And that’s the same with my thoughts. I’m really Great at Life :) Habits Meditation : I beat myself up for thinking today. I thought that I went into a specific state that was not good for meditation. I know it doesn’t matter now. Just noticing. Visualisation : I had a particular moment that was really great, that was perfectly in touch with my vision of what Visualisation would look like in my life. Dinner : They cooked something that I don’t eat. So I cooked myself an omelette (pasture raised eggs can be eaten in unlimited amounts with no bad consequence for health), I felt bad for not eating like them. Leo’s mother isn’t living an Extraordinary life, my family members might never live an Extraordinary life, I accept that.

Visioning : Being fit against the Resistance I can see myself giving a talk. I can see myself visualise my audience taking their seats, I can feel myself being scared, I can see myself visualise them being happy, and I can feel myself being happy. Then my girlfriend would be standing right next to the stage, so I can see her at any time during the talk, and I would use that Love energy to give an even better talk. I can see myself telling me that it might not work. I can see myself being criticized. I can see myself failing to create that amazing relationship. I can see myself failing to make money. But most importantly, I can see myself not getting too hung up on the What of it, but rather on the Why. I can see myself understanding that this is the Resistance. And I can feel myself using that awareness to empower myself, to be re-committing myself to my Project. I can feel myself being happy about the Resistance. Telling myself “Yes ! There’s the Resistance ! I’m doing Great Work !”. Going to my peer group and saying : “This is so great ! I’m doing Great Work !”, and then celebrating it like a Victory. The Resistance can’t be avoided, can’t be reduced. However, we can deal with it in a much healthier way. Most people quit. Most people don’t even know that they’re encountering Resistance. We don’t quit. We acknowledge it, celebrate it (because it means we’re doing great work), and keep going. Tiny Success : Being fit against the Resistance Last night, I worked late. This morning, I got up early. I slept 6 hours. That wasn’t enough. I was tired all day today. This is a form of Resistance. I’m surprised at the fact that it can even be physical. And I was fit against it. I was aware of the fact that it was the Resistance, and I accepted it. It empowered me. Also I realised that most of the tension that happens in our family is actually just the Resistance. They just don’t want me to change. I read about this in the Actualized.org Forum and a girl says to tell them they’re right. It’s interesting because it makes sense, this is the best way to acknowledge the Resistance. Because that’s all it wants, to be considered. Tiny Failure : Poor Decision Making My brain didn’t work well today. I decided to go buy some dark chocolate and ate it entirely. I decided to watch porn when I got home and I did. I did eat 3 bananas today, which is a lot of sugar. Anyway, poor decision making happened today. That is due to the Resistance. So while I’m aware and won’t quit, I still “under-performed” today. This is in sync with my vision. I like that the Resistance affects something different than my Project. That is perhaps the best way to deal with it. Acknowledging it, and having it affect something less important. Habits Meditation : I seriously need to sit well. Also I feel like I wasn’t really good enough due to lack of energy. Visualisation : I sat on a chair, not on my bed. It works better, I’ll do it that way from now on. Also I was really good at concentrating myself on it, and just good at visualising. Feeling emotions, feeling sensations, not thinking too much, just great :) Dinner : My dad reacted today. I’m writing another article, this time about The Path of Least Resistance, tonight was exactly what I describe as Least Resistance Mentality. This was great !

Visioning : Intent What if everything you did in life, you did it for a good reason. What if you stayed up until midnight, not because your boos makes you, but because you're so passionate about doing your art. What if you got up at 6 the next morning, not because commuting to your work takes so long, but because you want to give a gift that's going to change someone, and you need to work on that. What if you gave a compliment to someone, not because it's the right thing to do, but because you truly think that about them. What if you spent most of your resources not to get something that pleases you in the short term, but actually benefits you and others in the long run. What if everything you did in your life, you did it for a good reason. A deep sense of humility, abundance, peace of mind, generosity, growth, and just plain happiness, would dawn on you. You would feel all the pleasure in the world. And what if I told you the only thing you would have to do to get that is simply changing your answer to "What is it for ?". When your answer changes from "to avoid pain", to "to gain pleasure". Your entire life changes. Suddenly, you don't work late to avoid getting fired and then having your wife divorce you and then your kids going away and then you being a bum on the street and then you dying, but to create things that matter, that make a change, that move people. Suddenly, you quit TV because you realise that there is more pleasure in engaging in meditation. Suddenly, you don't lose weight, you become healthy. Suddenly, you don't go on a crazy diet to try to lose as much fat as possible, you start putting in healthy eating habits. Tiny Success : Work ! It's 11:05 pm as I'm writing these words. I've been working extra, and it was a piece of cake. When I was taking Leo Gura's Life Purpose Course, I had that willingness to work hard and late, like right now. I had lost that recently. Until now ! I see myself wanting to work late like that from time to time, when I get excited. It wouldn't happen too much, I still have to stay healthy. But still, at times. I want to regulate myself. If I have been de-motivated at times, I can just force myself to work late. If I have been over-motivated at times, I can just force myself to procrastinate, this will keep a balance. Tiny Failure : Gremlin Tonight, when I was cooking lunch for tomorrow, I realised that my gremlin spend most of my time making me non-present. My gremlin spends a lot of time talking to me about bullshit stuff. And making me completely unaware of my body, and the world around me. It's ridiculous ! I can feel pleasure when I notice gremlin behaviour. I'll keep doing it. Habits Meditation : I sat terribly tonight. I just got there and did not take any second to arrange my position. Visualisation : I want to have a picture with all of my affirmations. Dinner : I fasted lunch today. It made me feel good.

Visioning : What is it for ? As it turns out, the quality of your answer to this question directly correlates with the quality of your life, and of yourself. Why do people do what they do ? What’s that thing over there for ? And what’s this thing over there for ? People don’t do anything unless they have a reason for it. What are some great answers to this question ? Changing someone’s beliefs about what they can and can’t do. Changing someone’s beliefs about how to undertake a hard project. Changing someone’s view on a particular issue of their life (check this out). Changing someone’s quality of life, motivating them to create an Extraordinary life for themselves. When you do things that compel you. When you’re not complacent. When you don’t do things to avoid pain, and reduce discomfort. When you do things for their own sake, because they’re just too good not to be pursuing. Your life transforms. Your life becomes Extraordinary. When you accomplish Great Things, that Mean Something. When you have a reason to stay up late, and get up early in the morning, so that you can do the Great Work that you need to do. When you give your vision to someone, and it compels them. Your psychology changes. People start paying attention to you, they start trusting you more. So what is it for ? What do I mean by “it” ? Whatever. Whatever you’re doing. And is it important enough to work hard on it ? To fail at it ? To get ridiculed, rejected, ashamed, Resisted ? Is it ? Our society lacks people who frequently ask themselves this question. What is it for ? Tiny Success : Laziness I was fucking lazy today ! This was awesome ! This was remarkable. My vision of this world incorporates people being lazy. I think that people would make better use of their time visioning and dreaming up reasons to do great work and then let their subconscious mind do the work for them. That way they’re being really lazy. And today I was lazy ! Since I’m getting pretty good at journalling, I’m also getting good at visioning, and since I’ve been visualising for 120 days now, my subconscious mind is working for me. And today I made progress in my Complete Transparency series. And I made progress in Taming my Gremlin. this is cool ! Tiny Failure : Gremlin Bitch ! My Gremlin is an Ass hole ! I hate that bitch ! So tonight my dad told me “We’re omnivores so we’re going to eat pasta.”, he said that because he wants to reduce pain. When I don’t eat pasta, because it kills me, it causes pain inside of him. So he tries to reduce the pain by making it go away. What am I doing here ? Oh there you go my Gremlin again ! He’s tricky ! I’m going to change for a change. Let’s imagine once that I don’t get sucked into this, but I laugh at myself instead. Habits Meditation : I’m going to research some scientific evidence of what meditation does to the brain. Just so that I can get a clear sense of how powerful it is. Visualisation : I’m going to direct my visualisation toward giving a talk at TedxParis, I need to. Dinner : Journalling about dinner is about seeing how I feel about it. I see that I still expect things from them, like I’m the centre of the universe, which sucks. This is iterative of what I said earlier. Let’s change for a change. Let’s imagine that I don’t expect anything from them, that I am giving them the greatest gift they can get. And of course I am, I’m becoming Extraordinary, and hence they’ll become Extraordinary as well. They would never have gotten this chance without me.

Visioning : Growth It starts with an idea. It starts with a goal. It starts in the Mind. It starts as talking. And then you sit. You think about it. You start thinking about why you want to do it. You start pondering what it’s for. From that emanates the ways this idea could be realised. You started with a what. Then you gave yourself a why, and a how. What’s interesting is that most people will focus on the what. They think that a good what is what they need. But, as Simon Sinek points out in his brilliant book, you have to start with why, and then the how, and finally with the what. (little counter-intuitive). Growth only happens when you have a good reason for it. People don’t grow unless it’s hard. You do something that goes out of your comfort zone, that’s scary. And who would do anything hard unless they have a good reason for it ? Nobody. “I want to give a talk at TedxParis.”, “I’ll have a better chance at changing someone if I do.”, “I’m going to go to the Toastmasters club in Geneva every week to do it”, “I’m going to visualise about it every day.”, “I’m going to affirm about it every day.”, “I’ll get a massive chance at growing myself in this process.”. Tiny Success : Morning Routine I got up at 7. Ate breakfast. Showered. Did work that mattered for 40 minutes. Meditated. Visualised. Read. This was really close to my ideal morning routine. It felt good. I could have worked for a full hour. And today I realised I needed to do more than only one hour of deep work a day. I got interrupted during my Visualisation. Right now, as I’m writing this, I still haven’t visualised (did affirmation and contemplation, though). And I want to read more, later in the future. But still, this was really close to my vision of what a “good” day looks like to me. Tiny Failure : Work I didn’t work much. This afternoon, I could have been designing my course, or writing the Complete Transparency series, but did neither. I could have been reading more, but I didn’t. All I did was watch videos of 30 days of Genius on YouTube. This was lame. I did also help my family to do some physical labour around the house, so that was great. I want to work more. Even if it’s just sloppy work. Habits Meditation : I want to do 90 minutes of Meditation per day, ultimately. Visualisation : I’m getting really good at this. Like really really good at this. I even remembered what I was talking about yesterday, which is a first. Dinner : My dad told me that my big brother thought I could give a talk at TedxParis. He really liked my Great People Manifesto. Weirdly my brother didn’t come to me, I don’t know why. I’m also making a lot of progress with the Taming Your Gremlin thing. I’m becoming more aware of my negative thinking habit, I already enjoy myself more, just with the power of awareness. I put it here because most of my negative thoughts are directed toward my family and the people at my school.

Tell them you do Personal Development. Tell them you're really passionate about it. Tell them you're not going to stop just because they're not doing Personal Development. Tell them their reaction is perfectly normal, because that's homeostasis. And, most importantly, Do Great Things. Live an Extraordinary Life !

Visioning : Shipping I would decide on a Project. I would decide to get one expensive learning resource, five books, and two audio-books. I’d go through them as quickly as possible. I’d create a vision for the Project. And then I would decide on something to create with what I learned. I’d actually sit down a really brainstorm creative, new, weird, authentic (running out of words for basically absurd) ideas. And I would decide on a ship date. I’d actually mark my calendar — my physical, expensive, calendar — with it, and review it daily. And then I’d start designing, creating, doing. I’d go thrashing first. I’d go see close circles to get feedback, to modify the basic structures, to play with it (’cause that’s what it’s all about, right ?). And then I would pay close attention to detail, I’d value Excellence. I’d review it over and over again, even if the ship date is coming and some people don’t like changing things at the last minute because they fear they will decide to push the ship date to later. I don’t, because I made up my mind a long time ago for when I would ship. I would always make sure I’d understand what the product is for. This is why I do visioning by the way. Real Artists Ship ! This is all a game for us. We like to play with the world, we like to say “This status quo doesn’t work” ! It’s like poker, we don’t know which cards the others have, and it might not work. But who cares. It’s a game. The question is : “If I lose, do I still have enough chips to play ? If I win, how many chips will I gain ?”. It might not work, but if it did, that would be awesome, and if it didn’t, it wouldn’t be so bad. But most importantly, the thrill, the excitement, the stress, the Resistance, the Passion, the Curiosity, the Vision, those are the coolest things Tiny Success : I can’t believe I’m doing this ! I’m doing this ! I’m actually doing this ! This is it ! This is actually happening ! It’s getting out there in the real world ! Tonight ! On May 7th, 2016, at 12:00 A.M. ! Anyway, I scheduled the ship time for my article today. What impressed me as well was how Self-Regulated today. I just decided I could not be doing shitty stuff, aka. watching videos on youtube. I’ve found a hidden quality of Journalling, it makes us want to do great things during the day because we just have this vision of regretting it if we don’t when we journal that night. And in the end that’s what Self-Actualization is about, trying not to have any regrets when we’re on our death bed. Tiny Failure : Expecting things from the Universe. My family, who I have dinner with every night, doesn’t take responsibility. And of course that behaviour detains on me. I am aware of it. I simply notice it (btw, this comes from Taming Your Gremlin, by Rick Carson, which I am currently reading). In my ideal day, my relationships go much smoother because neither them nor I would expect things from each other, we wouldn’t try to get, we would try to give. Give. More and more. I think this behaviour is going to be reduced because the whole point of Taming Your Gremlin is about doing this, a simple method to reduce this kind of behaviour, bring more Peace of Mind (one of my Top Values). This reminds me I need to set a ship date for my “Complete Transparency” series. Habits Meditation : I want to do more of it. I really do. I just make time for Great Work. Visualisation : Went well. I might end up reading a book about how to do visualisations, but you know what it’s going well. Even though I’m running out of ideas for what to visualise about because I’ve been doing this for 120 days, and cycles supposedly only last 90 days. It’s fine. I’ll figure it all out. Dinner : I was really aware of the fact that I still “need” them to change if I want to have a smooth relationship. I was reaaaaally aware of it. It was there, I sensed it in my body. This will dissolve soon. Thanks to Taming Your Gremlin. Also I’m going to read more books about Emotional Mastery, like Loving What Is by Byron Katie.

Visioning : Buddies Today, I'm going to tell a story. 20 people had enrolled in the course. One of them went through it completely, and did it fully. She loved it. She actually loved my way of teaching, she realised that I truly wanted to make a change happen in him. And she wanted to make a change in herself as well. She emailed me. I remember that email like I received it yesterday. I just felt so amazing about it. So much joy came from that. I wrote her back. She loved my email. We started writing each other actual, physical, mail. We started mailing each other books. We started talking on Whatsapp. Our relationship flourished, we were Extraordinary-Becoming Buddies. Synergy was amazing. We were eager to tell each other about our visions, our successes, our failures, our projects, our habits, the kind of change we were making in ourselves. This helped me grow myself, the relationships I had with the people around, and my business, my life got Extraordinary. I moved to the US, we met, physically. And we took our relationship to the next level, we added sex, romance, and eventually love. We got married after two years, we had two children, a boy and a girl. Our buddies circle immediately grew to welcome them both, we synergized with them, our life grew to more Extraordinary. Being buddies with yourself, with your best friend, with your lover, with your children, all of those are different, and have different value. The question is, who are you buddies with ? Maybe you're not even buddies with yourself, maybe you don't have a best friend. Sometimes, we're just not there yet. Tiny Success : Work My work habit is getting deeply engrained inside of me. I feel that today's work ethic was perfectly in sync with my vision of what a typical day of work would be like. Things got done. Research was done. Excellent work was valued. Generosity was there as well, I interacted a bit in the actualized forum, people who needed help got help. This reminds me that the Manifesto's ship date is awfully close, 2 days from now. I am getting ready, however. I used some of the tools offered by Medium to outline some of the important parts. I do, in fact, value Excellence. I'm becoming successful Tiny Failure : Morning My vision of a great day doesn't start with me lazying out on the bed for a while, then eating breakfast with two eggs and two fruit. Nor does it continue with a long hot shower, and then doing some school work. Instead, I wake up at 7, sharp. I go eat a 6-egg omelette with some nice herbs on it, a big salad and some green juice, some nuts as well. Then a cold shower, something that hits you in the head real hard. Then right away the work that matters, for an hour. Then meditation and visioning, for 2 hours. Then eat lunch. Then read for 2 hours, then answer email and just do shallow work for a while. Then exercise, and eat dinner. A little fiction book, or something else, whatever. Then journal and sleep for 8 hours. Habits Meditation : Meditation is really giving me the results that I envisioned. It's helping me change habits. It's helping me be aware, and present. And it's helping my brain to function well. Visualisation : I think it's important I do it early in the day before I'm too distracted. Although tonight I was able to really focus in the end, even though the beginning was a little unfocused. Dinner : My dad never decided he would be healthy. Ever. He's eating shitty foods all the time. He's making himself fat, giving himself cancer. Even though he said himself that life is precious, and that one of these days it'd be his time. (I just got aware of the fact that I keep focusing on them, not on me, this brings frustration, I'll see you tomorrow).