Tancrede Pouyat

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  1. Sometimes, I just don’t want to do it. I just don’t have the motivation. But I just kinda push myself and do it anyways. I really love those days because it’s when I create my best stuff. It’s the stuff most people don’t like about themselves. It’s the stuff where I don’t think too much about how I’m doing. It’s when I stop following the rules. It’s when I eat chocolate. I have the motivation to do it, but I don’t have the motivation to follow the rules. It’s when I edit, and then de-edit the most. HAve peace my frieeeeeenndddsss.
  2. Composure I don’t know why but this word came up. Composure. Dear Sir, please pause your reading and think about what this word (composure) means to you. In my college, when you start your 2nd and your 3rd year, you come in to school 3 weeks before courses start, you group up with 2 other students (I partnered with the only 2 girls in my class), and you do a mini-project with them. Yesterday, I got in to school, I partnered with the 2 girls, and we settled on a project. The professor asked us to present the project to him this morning. He said it was too light. Not enough workload. Just too easy. So we changed the project. And the workload is much bigger. And it’s so different from what we had settled on yesterday. It’s funny how composed the three of us were. Completely calm and peaceful. Very basic. That’s what Composure means to me. Having a giant just appear right in front of you and still being calm. A lot of people like to challenge their comfort zones in little ways. Going to a Starbucks. Lying on the floor and making weird moves with your body. Then just leaving… Deliberately picking in your wallet to give the exact amount of change, but doing it soooooo fuckiiiiiiing slooooowwwwly, just to make the waiting in line longer… All of those are extremely useful practices to developing Composure and other valuable attributes. Have fun with them, it’s all harmless. Only good can happen to you.
  3. How does it sound like when you go deep ? One thing’s for sure : you can’t write that down. How does it feel like when you go deep ? One thing’s for sure : you can’t write that down. Most people dismiss direct experience as a valid way of arriving to Truth. They say it’s groundless. Yet that claim, is it grounded in direct experience ? Is it backed by any real proof ? “I know that I know nothing” — Socrates.
  4. No offense but anyone who creates a video with a story and some humor and that creates a change in someone is a writer, an artist, a director, an entertainer, and a storyteller. The "How" doesn't matter, only the "Why" does. Anyone can use porn responsibly, just do it responsibly.
  5. HUGE INFERRENCE HERE Seems to me like you've been working hard, money hasn't come, and now you're frustrated, so you put it on your goal list. If I'm right, then you probably shouldn't have it as a goal, because it would be reactive. But that's also a good thing, because it's a big challenge to overcome, which means you're gonna learn a lot from it. If I'm wrong, then you may have it as a goal, so long as you know why you want it (and also make sure it's not neurotically driven), and how you're gonna get it (male sure you're contributing massive value for that).
  6. ‘Sup Dawg ? I feel gooooooood. Don’t you ? Here’s a video that’s pretty funny. And here’s another one : Alright. Hope I made your day a little better. Peace ! PS : Come sign up to my newsletter here. It’s pretty cool.
  7. @ChimpBrain I'm not trying to get him out of it.
  8. What To Do When You Don’t Get The Results You Deserve !!! You learned about it. You got all fired up about it. You were excited. It was really the thing you should have been doing all along. But now, it doesn’t work. And, you know what, there’s this other thing more important over there, I’m gonna do that instead. I can’t be doing this first thing unless I’ve done this second one. This whole approach doesn’t work, does it ? It just doesn’t. You’re not making progress, here. You’re just not. And you probably know what you should do. Yet, you don’t do it. So, what’s going on here ? I’m gonna help ya out is what’s going on. I tell this story in such details because that’s exactly what happened to me. And, guess what, I figured it out, and I’ve built a system that guarantees results. Here’s the only theory that you need here : Stick with it long enough and you’ll get all of your results exponentially, not linearly. For example, a business is a system that you build, you grow, and that throws off value over time. In exchange for the value it creates, it gets money. And then you can take part of that income for yourself. But, see, you have to build and grow the system before making money. As a business owner, you have to be fully dis-identified from your business. You are not your business. Just like that thing that you’re trying to accomplish, you need to see it that way. Look at it in terms of it, not in terms of you. Build it, grow it, and then you’ll be able to harvest all of its fruits. Here are four practices to help you implement this in your life : 1. Spend some time every week thinking about the future, what you want it to look like. Maybe write it down in a journal, or even share it with like-minded people ! You can find great forums out there. 2. Do tons of research. Learn as much as possible about what you're trying to accomplish. 3. Take Fucking Action. Keep working toward your dreams. They're not just gonna turn real by themselves. You're gonna make them real. Be a Creator in your life ! It's one of the most rewarding things you can do, so be happy about that ! Quit your bad habits, and implement good ones. Spend 3 months working on quitting 1 bad habit and implementing 1 good habit, and then move on to the next ones. 4. Have FUN ! Seriously ! That stick you have up your ass, TAKE IT OFF ! Be a little more detached in your life, nothing is going to kill you.
  9. OH MY GOD How awesome is that one ! For those of you doing business out there. This is it. It's the ONLY business book you'll ever need to read. You DEFINITELY need to check that one out.
  10. Law Of Attraction “What you focus on expands” — Dan Sullivan When I discovered self-help, it was through a YouTube channel. There were tons and tons of free videos just right there, teaching me all kinds of stuff about life. It was pretty cool except I didn’t really take any form of action. None at all. I just used these videos as a sort of Inspirational Kool-Aid. It was useful for me. I needed it because I was in a pretty dark place in my life. And then, sure enough, I started taking action, seeing bigger results, setting bigger goals, making bigger changes, doing bigger self-help. “What you focus on expands” — Dan Sullivan If you feel bad about doing too much mental masturbation. If you feel like you’re not really doing self-improvement. If you feel bad when you think about telling the people around you about personal development. Just don’t. Keep focusing on Self-Actualization. It’ll grow bigger. Law Of Attraction takes time to work. And it only works for things you have control over. But it’ll work for sure.
  11. How The French Language Can Help You Understand The Human Mating Dance Hint : It’s not what you think “A determiner (also called determinative) is a word, phrase, or affix that occurs together with a noun or noun phrase and serves to express the reference of that noun or noun phrase in the context” — Wikipedia In French, nouns have genres. In German, they have three genres. And I think Finnish has 5. I like to look at the 2 french genres and say that they’re the two genders. Masculine. And Feminine. We haven’t logically and rationally thought through the whole thing before having assigned a gender to a noun. We just kinda slapped a gender because we felt like it. There’s something more primitive going on here. Just like the human mating dance. If we take a look at the genders of the nouns in the lexical field of the human mating dance, we have some deep realizations. Pursuit is feminine. Date is masculine. Relationship is feminine. Sex is masculine. Neediness is feminine. Mystery is masculine. Niceness is feminine. Status is masculine. Submission is feminine. Purpose is masculine.
  12. How do you handle a long distance relationship ?
  13. Taking Responsibility To The Next Level When we first learn about Taking 100% Responsibility for our entire life, it’s natural for us to go to the following place : My environment doesn’t matter, I’m gonna do it on my own. So we individualize ourselves, we become self-reliant. We become independent. And that’s awesome. We start growing ourselves, becoming more proactive, making things happen, gaining confidence in ourselves, building self-esteem, getting a sense of achievement in our life... But there’s another level. Taking Responsibility for our Environment ! That’s right. Voluntarily changing our environment in order to achieve what we want. Becoming interdependent. We re-care about our environment. Except that we don’t see it as something static that doesn’t affect us. We see it as something that grows with us, something that grows for us, and something that we help grow.
  14. That's right. It's a new comfort zone. One of the things I've found useful, however, is to appreciate your new comfort zone, and compare it to your old one. Also, don't confuse pain and suffering. Shinzen Young says Pain × Resistance = Suffering. The whole point of being aware of emotional labor is to reduce resistance and hence suffering. Thinking that you will have less pain actually amplifies suffering. It's not about how much you went through, it's about how much you want to go through. To me that's infinity, because I strongly believe that more pain = more progress.
  15. People are gonna hate me for saying this. Why shouldn't you ? There could be a valid reason for that. And if there is, then please don't take the Life Purpose course ! Or do, and then ask for a refund. I don't know if you're aware of Dan Kennedy's 80/15/5 rule. If you're not there it is : For any given self-improvement program, 80% of people won't get any results, 15% will get decent results, 5% will get extraordinary results. And it's simple : if you're not ready to take the program, you don't get results. Period. But, honestly, there's nothing better than having a definite purpose in your life. One Definite Purpose. It gives you something to work towards. It gives you a reason to be alive. If you don't have a purpose, a reason to exist, why shouldn't you kill yourself ? Seriously ! You seem like you would definitely benefit from this course, because you went out and asked us. That says something about you.
  16. "it's not about the money", by brent kessel. And some people like "Rich Dad, Poor Dad" by Robert Kiyosaki but it's not that great.
  17. What's a question more people should ask you ? What's the answer to that question ?
  18. All of the above responses are valid... ...But I want to add something here. Focus on growing yourself. A lot. People who have grown themselves would immediately recognize fear, and would immediately do some deep introspection to figure out what's going on here. Why are you scared ? This concept of dealing with your inner demons is something I've been really focused on recently. And it's brought some HUGE rewards. Most of your personal development should be this.
  19. Hi guys, I understand the importance of feedback when starting your own business, because it allows us to grow it. My only problem is that I don't have anybody to ask feedback to, except for you guys. I incur to be extremely honest, though. I will be able to take it, so don't be afraid. It's my life purpose, remember. Anyway, here's my channel.
  20. I believe that Leo is still discovering his life purpose. So it's kinda hard to pinpoint to a moment where you're like "THIS IS IT !". Passion develops with time, effort, and skill.
  21. Leo's course is not about making money. And you've taken the course so you know what I'm talking about. He doesn't teach us strategies and tactics for how to make money. He just helps us find what is most meaningful to us in life (although that's an understatement in my opinion). And then he helps us make it real.
  22. In the comments of The 3 Levels Of Personal Development, on the actual website, not on youtube. I saw this. And, to me, it pictures perfectly what that difference can do for you. For those of you who don't see it. Try to stop your thoughts for a sec, and try to see it
  23. I've never actually sat down and asked myself that question, but I still consider myself extremely socially intelligent. You may at least want to consider what I'm about to say because, from the inside, I've really changed. Which I think is something you're looking for (I can tell by the way you wrote). So here's the basic idea : pursue spirituality. What's holding most people down in the social cleverness scale is, in my opinion, the fact that people are constantly trying to GET stuff from other people. Everybody's in deficiency mode. Everybody is constantly getting and doing. And that is really the source of all relationship problems. When you pursue spirituality, you get centered in being, and you become more whole. You're not in deficiency mode, you're in being mode. You're not trying to get anything from anybody because you feel whole. If you want a concrete technique I recommend meditation for 30 minutes every day for the rest of your life. And, you know, pay attention to Leo's spirituality videos. I know it sounds counter-intuitive, and you might be resistant to it, but that's what really worked best for me. I have experienced real growth here, by doing this, I hope you will too.
  24. @Mal @charlie2dogs What I call the ego is simply the belief that the self is real. @Extreme Z7 Yes of course we can't control suffering. It's just that Truth isn't a doing, it's a being. Whereas sustaining a belief is a doing. @popi Actually I do think that that's about it. Take for example alcohol. Drink too much of it and you'll have a hangover. If you develop that awareness, your desires will change and you will drink less, or even not at all. But the solution becomes obvious as you develop awareness
  25. I've found in my life that great levels of fulfillment come from pursuing both life purpose and enlightenment. Granted, my life purpose is in personal development which means that enlightenment is my life purpose (in a sense). But still, I think anybody who wants to live an amazing life "should" be opened to spiritual work as well as whatever they're doing. My bucket list is simple : Fulfill my Life Purpose. Discover the True Nature of Existence (I say that because I already am enlightened, we all are).