Tightrope Walker

I am a musician, I play in bands. In theory, members of a band have as a purpose to make music and be great. But I had many problems, specially with the drummers, because of their other activites that undermine their performance. For example: the gym, sports. One time, the drummer would play in a slower tempo than usual (and with less energy and spice), because he had sprinted his ankle playing football earlier during the afternoon. That means that music is not your purpose, it's just one more activity, like football, the gym, etc. So yeah, you should definitely cut off anything that is not aligned with your purpose, once you've definitely figured it out, that is.

Eventually eliminate the distance... I don't know, I've never seen them work. However, I did meet a German woman who told me she was happily married for more than 20 years, and according to her, it was because her husband worked in a different city and they only spent the weekends together. Physicial intimacy is absolutely necessary, and if you're not going to have it at least once a week, I'm not sure it's going to be the relationship you truly want.

What if you still held eye contact, and by the time you pass by her side you're already having a conversation. Some time later, you're completely fucking the shit out of her. That would have been nice. Yeah, I have ignored girls hitting on me many times. But the reason is a pretty fucked up one: I'm too afraid. I get overwhelmed, I feel vertigo, I become this shy idiot that just hides away. So, I'm reading, studying and starting practice in order to fix this, so I can start having the sexual life I truly want

REVOLVER by Guy Ritchie. 5 years ago, I saw that movie, and the journey began. It was the first time I had EVER considered that the voice in my mind may not actually be my true self.

You still haven't watched enough videos by Leo. I don't know if he can tell you anything that he hasn't already said in his free videos. One thing I can notice is that you seem the kind of person who DOESN'T WANT TO BE HAPPY. In this particular case, you actually don't want to have sex. Your attitude is one of constant refusal. It feels as if you're already expecting that nothing will work. You will say something like "how can that be true, if I didn't want to have sex or be happy I wouldn't have done this and that" etc. Well, you need more information about how your mind, your psyche works, and how the subconscious work. There's a video by Leo called "You're Not Happy Because You Don't Really Want To Be". Check that one out. And don't come here with "I saw it, but it didn't help me beacause yara yara yara." Fuck man, if you really need help, you will be able to find it wherever.

I quitted porn for almost five months now. I used to spend quite some time daily on this. I can feel the change, my brain is in a better shape and I feel a lot more relaxed around girls. However, I still don't quite understand the need of nofapping, UNLESS, you are having regular sex.

I believe it can improve your success on anything, depends on what you focus on during the day.

From my own personal research I found that the key is this: EMOTION. Women are very emotional, and very receptive. Imagine that everything you are writting here is being perceived by these women you want to fuck. In more simpler words: you are transmitting your emotions to women, and it doesn't feel good, because you don't feel good. If you feel good, you make women feel good, if you feel desire you make women feel desire. But if you feel needy and desperation, you make women not want to fuck you. Study some emotional and social intelligence.

Then I guess the only difference is whether one can realize it or not. Thank you

At the time of writting this, I only read until stage 2. I feel agitated and I want to cry. I think that's where I am right now. It describes it so perfectly it aliviates my anxiety about not making enough progress. Thank you so much. Reading on...

I also experienced that "I don't want this to go away". So, what does it mean exactly when one wants to hold on to that state?