Alba

Hhahah that example was hilarious!! I kinda have a similar situation. A trust thing (not problem) bc i had a few bad expiriences with really close friends that are no longer any kind of close. I think that in perspective and trying to take full ownership of my life and my past, i didn't put enough boundries and end up really mad for that with them. Maybe that will not happen to me again, bc i'm working on that boundries thing and now i'm more careful with everything, but it is still scary. I've been avoiding to get together with the few ppl i know. In spite of knowing i need to relate to ppl and knowing that they are not toxic or anything. It's just complicated, i preffer my paceful home but that feels like the old patern of isolation so well practice for me. And when i feel the need to relate is kind of compulsive...

I don't know if that could be a "personality", "ego" or "self image" thing but sometimes for us as women is important to have like a portafolio (idk why exactly) but is like to have a self-portrait that shows we're sexy and alive or something... I don't really know. @Epiphany_Inspired But i loved your wise words. Maybe talking they can compromise. Sometimes i find that kind of reaction as hipocrecy (when one of the partners love to watch things like that but hates that the other partner do the same thing publicly). Not only men tho...

I feel that there's a lot to talk around this topic. I've been kind of isolate too, since a few years ago, I don't think that self-development is the reason but I do feel the same things, like; a lot of ppl have really bad habits (talking too much,criticizing, drinking too much, etc.). But I was taking distance from ppl before I was on this path for various reasons, mostly for my relationship, then become a habit. The thing is I feel I need to at least talk to ppl, make some friends that I cherish, but I prevent that to happen, I think sometimes is just too scary to be around ppl. I fear ppl will ppl will hurt me with critizicism and stuff. I think i have to work harder to care less about those things bc i really believe that it will be nice to have a few friends i can count with and that bring something nutritive to my life. I have those but only in whatsapp, bc they where my friends when i was a teenage. This two vids are kind of a warring, one is a study on longevity and shows how ppl can live long when they have ppl to count with. The other is about a study on happiness that shows that the one thing ppl need the most to have a good life is to be sorrounded by high quality friends or something like that. Sorry for my english btw...