Joseph Maynor

You're so loyal. So much so that it's become a trap for you. You need to apply the paradox of loyalty and independence. See how white-knuckle clinging to one side of this paradox to the exclusion to the other creates a lock for you and suffering for you and for others?

Yes. And it has to come out of you where you're living it yourself. You've done the practical work using the theory on yourself.

Only Stage Yellow and above people should be teaching doing Politics Work as an aspect of Personal Development Work. Otherwise, it just becomes another mental-masturbation away from other things that one should focus on first in this work. Keep first things first!

If you're gonna touch the subject of politics in my opinion you better show practically how Politics Work is an aspect of Personal Development Work. No frou-frou spouting off at the mouth about politics is gonna be enough. We already have enough of that. If you're gonna even talk about Politics Work as a personal development teacher, you gotta emphasize vision, strategy, and taking action in Politics Work as a very advanced form of Personal Development Work that one can do in my opinion. No mere mouthing off and dissociating into politics please, the Internet is already so badly infected by that meme. So, if you're gonna touch politics, do it right, don't use it to hide away or to further hammer in your own pet beliefs and theories about politics. Nobody cares about that. Keep it personal development focused with an emphasis on taking action to improve political systems such that the focus is on solving real societal problems rather than white-knuckle clinging to or spouting-off ideology.

Yep. Politics Work is for after you get your own life handled; then you go and do politics. Otherwise it just becomes another fertile ground for a person to use to mentally bypass and dissociate from working on their own actual, mundane life. You gotta become mindful that hiding-away into anything to avoid your own life tendency and pull it out by the root! I used to have this tendency too so I understand. This is hard to teach people because facing, fixing, and prioritizing your own mundane life can be very hard to get someone to do who wants to run and hide from their mundane, actual life.

Politics is too far removed from the practicalities on one's life where one should be focused on in the first instance. It's another bypassing from facing one's own life, another place to hide away in the mind.

Yep. And that's what personal development work is for.

You can also do it through personal development work when you wanna wire in sustainable relationships in your life that are actually collaborative and mutually satisfying to both people and to their individual life aims, nevermind your collective life aim as a couple. Monogamy is the best, but you gotta know what relationship systems you want to find in your life and then keep those once you get them wired in so they can flower and give you the results you're seeking through interpersonal collaboration in your life.

Leo if you're an INTP, look for an ENTJ female. This is hard because there's not a lot of ENTJ females. But then you have to find the right ENTJ female that you have the right compatibility with in Big Five and the right Instinctual Variant compatibility with in Enneagram Theory. This is why somebody needs to design a better online dating system. Maybe I'll work on that too. The intimate relationship selection process is much more profound than: "Hey girl, you look great, let's go f*ck at my place!"

I know a guy who never has a committed relationship but just sleeps around with lots of women. That's sad to me, but whatever floats his boat. I kinda think he doesn't have the capacity to relate deeply the way you have to do in a monogomous, committed intimate relationship. He doesn't have the tolerance you need either. You gotta be a big, mature person to manage a sustainable long-term, committed, monogomous relationship that's synergizing, collaborative, fun, mutually rewarding and beneficial -- and to weather the inevitable storms in the shifting-seas of interpersonally-relating.

I agree with that because most people suck at intimate relationship building work as an aspect of personal development work. And most people don't grab the selection process like a bull by the horns, they wanna sleep together after the second date and ignore all the interviewing that needs to be done and the slow moving unearthing and relationship building layers that should come before having sex. There's a reason why lots of smart cultures wait until marriage to have sex. They're making sure the foundation of the relationship is ok before the relationship is complicated by and intoxicated with sex.

It works if you have the personal development skills to make it work. Especially if you've executed the selection process for your intimate relationship well and you know why you wanna be in an intimate relationship and what function you want that intimate relationship to play in your life and in your vision for your life. When you wire in that system, you can make the monogomy commitment with pride.

We need to take sex out of our Shadows already. This is one of the cons of white-knuckle clinging to the asceticism end of the Paradox Of Asceticism And Hedonism which creates a lock and causes suffering for yourself and for others.

I'm not mistaking the map for the territory, don't worry. We use these maps to develop ourselves not to believe in them like facts about reality.

Definitely! White-knuckle clinging to seriousness It's a lock.

Hay man. Jokes are good. You need to learn how to joke. Joking* is a necessary skill for advanced persona development. *The Mechanics And Dynamics Of Humor

I'm gonna join Toastmasters ASAP and probably go for the rest of my life.

You gotta take a deep research dive into doing this. I'm doing it too. Great question. Good luck on your web development project.

Join Toastmasters dude. I'm planning on doing that asap. Maybe we can join the same club here in the City! PM me, we'll go together. Videos on point to watch:

Interesting

Can you every really transcend your intuition in the same way that you can transcend the mind, the heart, and the body? This is a perplexing open research question to chew on for me. It's not readily obvious to me yet how to come to any kind of interesting or useful determination on this issue.

Can you notice these archetypes in the way your personas express themselves? What shapes do these archetypes have? Describe. I'm having a hard time noticing and/or distinguishing these archetypes in my intimate relationship from the other archetypes that my and my intimate partner's personas express themselves through.

Nice. I need to work on 2 and 3. Thanks for the list. I'll make a note in my personal development journal.

Sure. I'm just trying to distinguish criticism coming from a good place vs. criticism coming from a bad place. But criticism coming from a bad place can still be useful, it's just gonna have shadier intentions and motives attached to it. I wouldn't cling to that distinction too tightly, I was just trying to draw a useful loose distinction. There are pros and cons to this distinction though, and I don't want the cons of it to outweigh the pros of it.

Sure, it depends on context, I agree. But as personal development students and teachers we should have the balls to be able to give and receive criticism if it's given in good faith with honest intent even if it's coming from a place of Ego. Ego is not bad, we all have Ego. Some of us deny Ego or have Ego in the shadow, but that's a different problem that I'm not gonna address here. We need to toughen up regarding criticism and learn to love it and to value it. Nobody dies when criticism is done. It often hurts, but that's what's needed to goose your Ego-Heartbodymind to change. Change has to be precipitated by some form of criticism, whether it's self-criticism or criticism by others. Otherwise we just stay in lazy mode and do what we're already doing -- jack shit. We need to re-frame criticism as good as personal development students and teachers. Criticism is the #1 value in personal development work.