Joseph Maynor

Join Toastmasters dude. I'm planning on doing that asap. Maybe we can join the same club here in the City! PM me, we'll go together. Videos on point to watch:

Interesting

Can you every really transcend your intuition in the same way that you can transcend the mind, the heart, and the body? This is a perplexing open research question to chew on for me. It's not readily obvious to me yet how to come to any kind of interesting or useful determination on this issue.

Can you notice these archetypes in the way your personas express themselves? What shapes do these archetypes have? Describe. I'm having a hard time noticing and/or distinguishing these archetypes in my intimate relationship from the other archetypes that my and my intimate partner's personas express themselves through.

Nice. I need to work on 2 and 3. Thanks for the list. I'll make a note in my personal development journal.

Sure. I'm just trying to distinguish criticism coming from a good place vs. criticism coming from a bad place. But criticism coming from a bad place can still be useful, it's just gonna have shadier intentions and motives attached to it. I wouldn't cling to that distinction too tightly, I was just trying to draw a useful loose distinction. There are pros and cons to this distinction though, and I don't want the cons of it to outweigh the pros of it.

Sure, it depends on context, I agree. But as personal development students and teachers we should have the balls to be able to give and receive criticism if it's given in good faith with honest intent even if it's coming from a place of Ego. Ego is not bad, we all have Ego. Some of us deny Ego or have Ego in the shadow, but that's a different problem that I'm not gonna address here. We need to toughen up regarding criticism and learn to love it and to value it. Nobody dies when criticism is done. It often hurts, but that's what's needed to goose your Ego-Heartbodymind to change. Change has to be precipitated by some form of criticism, whether it's self-criticism or criticism by others. Otherwise we just stay in lazy mode and do what we're already doing -- jack shit. We need to re-frame criticism as good as personal development students and teachers. Criticism is the #1 value in personal development work.

Can one change without criticism in some form, including but not limited to self-criticism? Can one do personal development work without changing? Criticism is the life-blood of personal development work. Criticism is the #1 value in personal development work. When you pooh-pooh criticism, you cut your legs out from under you in your personal development work and you spread a counter-productive idea to others like a virus. Criticism is what gooses you to change, otherwise you'll just stay in your current state. So we should embrace and honor criticism (self-criticism and criticism from others) as personal development students and teachers. When someone takes the time to criticize you in this work, instead of saying fuck you, you should say thank you. Video on point to watch:

Do you see that you're taking a corrective attitude towards others with this post? You're doing what you're criticizing. I'm flabbergasted as to how common this blind-spot is. It see this all the time on here. And I point this trap out all the time on here and it never seems to sink in. How can we better teach this trap on here? Do I need to write an essay on this topic in my Journal for the 100th time? Maybe I need to stand on my head with funny pictures moving behind me and speak in a robot voice with flowers next to me to make this trap sink in. This is a case of: your attempt to control is bad and my attempt to control is good. Well you can't have it both ways if you're putting taking a corrective attitude as a whole on trial. You're gonna go down with your own conviction which is unsustainable for you and for everyone else. It's an unsustainable standard you're proposing. It's a case of do what I say not as I do. Now that's a controlling attitude that's not only unreasonable, but dictatorial and lacking in full awareness. This is a common Stage Green trap that's really annoying and frustrating to me because it comes up so often and it's hard to teach someone out of it. You gotta get to Stage Yellow to really fully realize this blind-spot for what it is. Stage Green takes its morality as the truth rather than just another perspective among perspectives. This causes a trap and a blind-spot that unfortunately one has to get to Stage Yellow to fully see through.

Bach was on a whole 'nother level wasn't he. He's like the Miles Davis of Classical Music. Progressive as f*ck. Ingenious.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Structures_from_Silence

Learn to find your authentic will which is buried under a lot of "oughts" and a lot of conditioning. This is called your "True North". You gotta uncover this authentic will and honor it.

Can I offer you something? What can I offer you? I want to give you something truly valuable.

Yes. But don't let your ideas blind your observation.

Why are you telling me what I can observe? What I observe is what I observe. I don't need anybody to tell me what I can observe. That's a bit pretentious and obviously incorrect.

But I do know. I'm a keen observer.

I see a lot of arrogance in people who claim to be Enlightened actually. The humility is a front. Behind that facade of humility is a desire to be significant usually. Enlightenment is not about "being humble". Enlightenment is about fidelity to truth. And truth includes the huge Egos that many so called Enlightened people have in their shadows. There's an energy of arrogance to many so called Enlightened people. And that's fine, it's just these people don't realize it. They've dissociated from their Ego, so their Egoic expressions are functioning a lot from their shadow.

Do a 30-day challenge on it and see if you can make it through that first. Nice avatar by the way. Great album. Actually, do a 7-day challenge first and see if you can make it through that.

Turquoise has a characteristic metaphysical big-picture of view reality that they cling to that Yellow doesn't, among other things. Turquoise believes something like everything is one and that all perspectives are me. Yellow is generally still operating in what I call the set of Egos paradigm where they really don't see themselves as one with everything else metaphysically. Turquoise sees themselves roughly as a network of perspectives including their own perspective, whereas Yellow generally thinks of themselves as a finite perspective among a sea of independent perspectives. "Everything is one" from a metaphysical perspective makes perfect sense at Turquoise. It's not just a neat idea for Turquoise, it's what they actually believe they are. The idea that "everything is one" is embodied at Turquoise. Now, this isn't the only characteristic of Stage Turquoise but it's a major one. Turquoise is clinging to and embodying metaphysics and truth in a way that Yellow generally isn't.

Careful.

Good. You're thinking. That's what we want. Why do you think that? Does INTP capture the energy of Orange more than any other type does? That's what I'm doing is trying to find the one Myer-Briggs type that best captures the energy of each Spiral stage. That's the task that I was working with.

Here's some work my accountability partner and I did. Personal development models are just connections, don't make more of them than they are. It's good to make connections, just don't white-knuckle cling to them. But don't be so stubborn that you fail to make connections. These are just models. That's all they are. Your life is not gonna fall apart because God forbid you applied some model. In fact, you'll open your mind up by so doing -- so long as you don't start to take your own bullshit too seriously. Have fun and use your mental genius to see connections that most people don't even care to make. Every Spiral Stage does sort of resonate with a MBTI type. That doesn't mean that people at that MBTI type are gonna be that color though. You gotta be able to have an open enough mind where you don't stop yourself from engaging in this kind of outside-the-box thinking. This is exactly what you should be doing with all your models, looking for connections and ways to integrate them. So what if you're wrong! Nobody is gonna die if you're wrong about how you re-wire your models. And they are your models because they're in your head. Experiment with everything! Beige - ESFP Purple - ESFJ Red - ESTP Blue - ESTJ Orange - ENTJ Green - ENFJ Yellow - INTJ Turquoise - INFJ Coral - TO BE DETERMINED Teal - TO BE DETERMINED https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Myers–Briggs_Type_Indicator

Make whatever connections you want to. They're your models. You don't need anybody's permission to use your models in any way you want to. Anything in your mind is yours to experiment with how you see fit. You tell us what connections you see between your models. Hopefully you get what I'm trying to communicate to you here. Don't let anybody tell you how to think. If you're wrong, so what, you'll learn that if it's important. But you'll learn more by taking full ownership of your mental models. This requires being independent-minded. I don't particularly like the idea that the Spiral applies to multiple axes or dimensions of life. To me that's B.S. But the point is I have my own ideas. I don't care that someone sees things differently except to see if their model is better than mine for me. See, it all comes back to for me for me. I don't need to ask anybody's permission for anything. I don't seek that. Everybody else is making shit up just like you are and they wanna be right, but that's their trip not yours. It means nothing to you that someone else wants to feel right in their own mind about the appropriateness of inappropriateness of your models.

I would love to. Shadow Work is all about getting to know your own wiring. Shadow Work is like Life Purpose work; it's getting to know yourself better. That work is right up my alley.

Somebody should so a Shadow Work course. A course where you're made aware of what's in your shadow and then given some exercises to work on that.