Valach

I kinda of get that getting validated from attractive girls will boost my confidence with other girls. I am not sure however if that will help with other people in general. You know, big part of the reason I started with pickup is to able to be myself around other people in general and to express myself fully. To not walk in this stiffled state all the time. Other thing with this approach is, what happens once I stop with approaching girls? When I get a girl friend or a wife? I would expect my confidence will go down quite a bit. Thanks for the tip. Unfortunatly I believe psychadelics are illegal in my country, so I am not really able to get them.

Thanks for the tip. I already have a decent size circle of friends, although I would like to add maybe some female friends and cooler people in general.

Hi, I do agree with you. Could you give us some tips how to get rid of such blocks or filters? Thanks in advance.

TBD

Hi, I've got a problem that has been holding me back in my life for a long time and that is I have terrible self-image when it comes to my teeth. They are not really good looking (quite yellowish, slightly crooked). My issue makes me not smile and have this weird, stale expresion in my face, which kinda creeps people out. Has anyone dealt with such an issue? How do I overcome this?

I got braces and that partly fixed the issue. I am planning onto going to dentist regarding whitening, but I am still super concious about my teeth and feels I just can't relax about this.

@Kalki Avatar What is your opinion on Julien's TenGame product?

Hi looking for czechs, especially Praguers, who would like to meet up, talk about self actualization and maybe support each other in the journey. Are there any of those?

Hi, I was wondering, why there is quite high suicide rates in countries that would be considered to be higher in spiral dynamics? For example scandinavia is quite known to have a high suicide rate? I though maybe, because people don't have to worry about their survival that much, they time to realize their own suffering? Anybody got any insights into this? Thanks

@outlandish Yes, Indeed scandinavian countries are not that high for developed countries. However I was comparing them to underdeveloped countries in africa, south america and so on. Also how is according to you scandinavia socialist? They have free market with strong welfare system.

Hi, Me and my friend are planning on doing a 2 day retreat in nature, however we have never done this, so I am asking you, guys, for some tips. We both practice meditation daily, but have never meditated for longer then an hour. What sort of meditation techniques would you suggest? Also what kind of food do you usually eat when on retreat. I imagine, that heavy food is probably not so good. Thanks in advace.

Hi, Recently my diet was not the best and I decided I want to get back on track. Should I clean my body first by fasting or something like that? If so what type of fasting would you, guys, suggest? Anyone with experience on getting your diet in shape would be much appreciated. Thanks.

Hi, I would be really glad if someone with experience could help me with this. Throughout the last year I noticed that big chunk of my (male) friends are very unhappy with their lives or straight up depressed. The problem is not a living condition for them as they are all upper middle class europeans, but I just can't figure out how to actually help them. Because what I found is that even though things like meditation, or just self developtment in general could help them very much, those people usually do not react well, when I introduce them these ideas, so they are kinda stuck in this cycle of feeling poorly but because they feel that way they don't resonate with anything higher on the spectrum and thus they keep being depressed. Has anyone of you either helped friend overcome this or anyone who used to be depressed and could me navigate how to actually help? Thanks in advance for your answers

Thank you so much for all the answers. I've written him that I am here for him and that I am willing to listen to him, but he responded with refusing help in a "You don't really care anyway" way. So I will leave it at my offer and see how things go.

Hi, I have a friend who is highly inteligent and quite sucessful in academia, but is deeply into orange stage (materialistic, rationalistic). I was reading a book from the booklist the other day and when he noticed it, he spoke to me, that all those self-help books are bullshit and so on. I wouldn't be suprised if he bashed something out of spirtiual or esoteric category, but the book i was reading was actually about career building, which i would assume is an primarily orange value (when i was full orange i would go for such books, now i resonate more with 'higher' teachings). Why do you think orange people like him refuse a self help. Is it because of sheer cynicism or is it something else?

Probably none, or close to that

Hi there, I am currently dealing with a petty problem. A friend of mine is studying at a university and currently is preparing for exams that are coming up. From what I understood, they are quite important to him by which I mean, he would get kicked out off school if he failed them. At the start of the week he was complaining to me via facebook that it is too much for him and he is super stressed, which I accepted, since most of my friend who are student's deal with this during exams. But today he started writing to me on facebook about killing himself and this kind of staff, which I am affraid is not meant in joking manner. Normally I would just suggest going out and just try to be present with him and listen, but since I am sick, this is not possible for me at the moment. Could anyone please give me advice on how to deal with this? thanks

Thanks, I will keep that in mind. Sadly i got only 3 days for this retreat

Hi there, I have been for past year or year and a half into self-actualization and meditation. I have decided that before my next semester at the unversity start, I want to do some sort of a meditation retreat, where I take a tent, build it somewhere in nature, where there are no people and distraction and just meditate there for 2 or 3 days. Do you guys have any experience on how to go about this? What sort of a meditation is good for this or just any advice in general? Thank you in regards

Hi there, I would love to get advice from someone more experienced then me, which yoga to choose. I have been meditating twice a day for ~ 20 minutes for quite some time now and I wanted to include a yoga into my practice. I would love to improve my concentration and discipline with yoga (currently kinda struggling in university ), which one do you guys think would help me with those things? Thank you in advance Valach

Hello, I am not sure how to describe my problem but I will at least try to do so. I will be grateful if anyone could tell me his opinion about this. About a year ago I got into a pickup (specially RSD) and started to practice it. Throught that I found out about personal develptment a spirtiual work, which I started to practice. Since then I recognized improvements in almost every area of my life (I am more healthy, happier, joyfull, calmer, school is suddenly easy and so on). What concerns me though, is that I cant really tell that I have improved with women or in socializing in general, although, I have tried quite hard. The weirdest thing for me is this self sabbotage that is going on with women. If I get a date, I usually cancel it, because I kinda of a dont want to go there. Or if I sleep with a girl that I find really attractive both on the inside and on the outside I just like step back. I just feel that like I am pushing against some 'higher power' of myself a I just cant break it :D. I would like to hear if anyone has some similar experiences and could share his opinion with me. Thank you Btw. I am not a native English speaker, so I hope I have explained myself sorrowfully :).

Oh, I can see. I have had similiar problem, that I cant really engage with people and I prefer to stay distant from them. So I guess I have to wait for those moments when I again start feeling like not doing what I want and start feeling powerless and then sit with the feeling and explore it? Right? I might have some ideas why my childhood could be a cause of this, but I am not quite sure about this yet :).