Valach

It is limiting beliefs of yours. If you are struggling with finding woman in a city of population above 1 mil, that is on you. I know guys who run regurarly daygame in cities under 100k and they make it work. You have no excuses.

Prague.

How is tbilisi a small city??? I live in the city of same size and I can't spend 5 minutes outside without seeing attractive woman.

Limiting beliefs are stemming from trauma. Most people do not realize how common a "normal" trauma is. You probably have it as well. Just like 95% of population.

Yeah, I find this fascinating. It is not so much about the trauma you carry, but about how the trauma manifests in you. Almost everyone has a lot of trauma from childhood. But you can have 2 guys with the same childhood, one will turn out to bill shut in introvert and another will be player who can not commit. Both unhealthy, but one of them will have "game".

The issue with man that really struggled even after putting in a lot of effort is simply due to lot of unresolved trauma they carry in their bodies all the time. You are not gonna out-approach that shit.

Yeah, that is my issue as well.

I often share my critics on the forum about cold approach pickup. But a somewhat experienced guys gets results that are unimaginable for an average guy.

I have the same confusion as well brother to be honest. I would say I am partially natural, partially learned game. But I found it's limits and it was not really something I want to pursue deeper. I also found out I have some deep seated traumas that prevent me from building healthy relaationships, so I am focusing on that. At least for time being. But yes, I have done some cold approach. But not as much as @Zenterus or @Miguel1 Becoming more conscious actually was the thing that hindered my progress the most lol

Its always amusing how they come up with the most boring questions ever 😀

Yes. And I am relaxed, that is the most importatnt part. The core of this "exercise" was that there was a lot of akward silence, obviously. And I had to get okay with that.

Yeah, I am also fan of simple "lines" like @something_else I remember one time when I was with my "pickup coach", I was approaching with the rule of me not allowing to say anything except to answer questions I got. So I would just walk up to a woman and say "hi" and then we would stare at each other for 20 seconds before they would say some question I could answer. It sounds quite weird, but it was unreal to see how many woman literally melted from this.

This is an excellent question and I hint on that often as well. However if people answered to that truthfully and really fulfilled that for themselfs, they would probably stop gaming. Or at the very least went out way less. So again, a catch 22 in a way.

People are very complex. It is just about cultivating your own intuation and healing yourself so you can see them for who they truly are.

Yea. There is a middle ground for this in my experience. Some experience is nice, but constantly seeking new highs does not correlate with the most stable people.

I think if I told my younger self how fast you get "used to" the hotness of the woman you are dating, he would not believe me. But after you realize that, you start screening for diffrent things.

Those are things that I said in multiple places in multiple different contexts. I am not dating as of now for unrelated reason - it is not like platonic relationships are my focus now. I had friends even when I was dating/cold approching obviously. But building on deeper friendship is quite nice compared to shallowness of casual dating. What I said about cold approaching is that it is not the most reliable way to get good with woman for most guys. Not that it is not a reliable way for meeting woman. I would say the same about any social circle game or any other route. Most people have way deeper issues than that. In my personal opinion most people should not be dating at all and rather focusing on healing their traumas and inner world. But I am bit radical with that. I know that is not happening.

I never said I am burned out from dating. That is your assumption.

Yes, but I am not interested in that. That is the point. Yes, but I am not interested in that. That is the point. I do have my own social circles. But they are aligned with what I want and that does not really connect to woman or meeting woman. And you definitely do not need some super cool social circle to date attractive woman. That is your limiting belief. I have done that. I have seen guys do that. I have literally dated gorgeous woman while playing video games in most of my free time. Not saying that you should be doing that, it was an unhealthy pattern for me. But you do not need any of that. Many of the woman I dated I met as they were going to or from the social event some guy planned for them.

Sure, but why would I put so much effort into building a social circle I am not that interested in building in the first place when I can just go out and approach a woman on the street and take her on date/start relationship, whatever. It kind of depends on the city you live in but european cities are amazing for this since they are so walkable. I think I saw at least 3-4 hot woman on my way to grocery shop yesterday (and it is like 5 minutes away from my place).

Yes, that is asuming the social circle game is aligned with your interests and values. While it might be good for you, that is not feasible enough for most people simply due to most hobbies/interest/value/circles not attracting enough attractive woman. And it still has to be something you naturally want, which is not everyone. I would even dare to say it is not most people. Btw. The study you linked is refering to students. Obviously they meet via school. But I think on here we are more ambitious than that.

Woman are just as bad about screening characteristics suitable for long term relationships as guys are.

So that is kind of the PUA (and to large degree the mainstream stage orange society) paradigm. There is nothing wrong with that. But that is why I was pointing out that it is limited. By any means go through the journey and exhaust it. I have just found it quite limiting and not fullfilling at all.

You go on a date with a woman you are attracted to. There are 2 fictional outcomes: 1. You get the "success", be it by her getting physical with you or wanting to go on another date or wanting to have a relationship. Whatever you are after in the moment. 2. You express yourself fully. But you get rejected. Perhaps in painful way. Which outcome would you consider as bigger success?

Have you tried being congruent and authentic? Even when it means you will not appear attractive? Have you tried connecting to that part of yourself?