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He talks about it more from a materialistic point of view how you shouldnt focus on the negative thoughts etc. which is of course helpful. But he doesnt go into the metaphysical claim but are these even worth checking out?

@Emerald not much contact with girls growing up + low self esteem + a personality thats not compatible with most women But honestly, I can make female friends fine, I look decent, have friends. On paper I should have had a girlfriend, you would not suspect a thing if you knew me. So nowadays I like to think there is some kind of karma at work that makes it impossible for women to have romantic feelings for me, kind of like a curse. There are much much worse people than me out there doing fine, so I dont blame myself too much nowadays, it feels more like a cruel joke and I take it less and less seriously the older I get.

Yeah thats what I thought at that age too "it happens when it happens" then I was 25 and nothing happened. Than I started to take massive action and asked out and approached tons of girls. Now I'm 30 and still nothing happened.

Whats the purpose of Maha Mudra, Kriya Pranayama and Yoni Mudra? I only have the Santata Gamana books which only talk about how to do the techniques. But what is each of these technique really doing or what is their goal and how do they work? I guess you dont have to know to practice it but Im interrested.

@Leo Gura Good to hear, I bet once you are permanently awake a psychedelic like LSD will only give you the visual effects. I remember reading about eckhart tolles LSD experience and that it wasnt a big deal to him because it just intensifie the colors and sense perceptions, or that story about that one enlightened master that allegedly didnt feel anything on a big LSD dose. I think by that point you will only get the sense perceptions of psychedelics because the inner transformation is already done. its also a good indicator that you are on the right track with the states you get in psychedelics.

I often notice how I go into negative thinking about an issue in my life, and I can clearly see how thinking this shit through over and over brings me nothing, how you never arrive at a solution, how just making yourself feel bad enough about it wont solve anything. So then I try to stop but its still there in the background. Now other thoughts come up "What, you just gonna surpress this? This seems unhealthy" "You really believe by just not thinking about it it doesnt exist?" "So what, you are just gonna live in la-la from now on and delude yourself like some crazy person?" "You are afraid to face reality? You have to align with whats real. This situation is real, find a solution"

@Maccoy See the newest video on ego backslash. Sometimes when we are on our lowest it can seem like nothing changed, that gets us to freak out and we guilt ourselves because the low moods are back again. Just push through it and wait it out. Try the sedona method for help with overwhelming emotions in the meantime or leos video about how to deal with strong negative emotions. I wish you the best.

@DrewNows This is not the resistance we are talking about here, we are talking about resisting emotions not certain actions. @isabel Its possible to feel the emotional waves coming and not suffering them. But as I said you need a certain level of consciousness and the mind-body connection going for this. People here take it for granted, its simply not possible when you are too much in your head and neurotic. I dont know WHY it suddenly happened for me but I do kriya yoga daily for about 3 months and I think that might be it because I did nothing else. If it really was the yoga its really a miracle because I just did the practices more or less mechanically and one exact moment something just shifted and more or less stayed that way.

@isabel yes, been going through just that today. "It was all bullshit I guess", "Ive been deluding myself with this" and thoughts like that. The important thing is that you have a reference experience, that you know it can be otherwise, it was not delusion, it was real. Here are some instructions for these days. - Lay down alone in a quiet room, no distractions. - Think "On 3 I will double my relaxation.. 1. 2. 3." several time. On 3 go from head to toe, let go of tension as good as you can. - locate emotion in the body, imagine holding it in a tight fist. Then let go and imagine it flowing out of your body. Do it over and over, brute force it until something happens.

The idea is to bring all the information from the hard to read mega-threads about various topics discussed here together on pages. https://actualized.fandom.com/?wiki-welcome=1

Im struggling with this also. I think thoughts like "Im going to accept these emotions now" but its really just a monkey-mind thought in my head, it didnt feel like anything changes and thats how its been for the longest time for me and it still is. I found that relaxing my body visualizing the emotion and working more with mental images was a key for me. I was able to truly allow stuff and then you can feel it in your whole body but this is just on my best days. I think Im an outlier and more left-brained and neurotic than the average person so the usual advice did nothing for me. You need to get this mind-body connection really going and I think for a lot of people, especially women this is not as much of an issue.

@Elysian I doubt that. There are self-confident happy stage blue people and depressed stage green people. And I dont think these are outliers, it seems like a seperate issue. How am I going to get better by getting lost in these thoughts? On one hand I should not surpress them and on the other hand its clearly dysfunctional and I need to get rid of this type of thinking sooner or later. its a complete contradiction.

@Salvijus yeah but what are you gonna do? You are never going to think away problems. Whats the real solution here?

@Rilles Right but sometimes the thoughts are negative even though there is no obvious feeling. Your mind runs negative things but I dont feel bad about it. But the feeling is just very subtle, I think most of the time its depression and apathy which is very hard to detect for me. After looking again I found Its a light pressure in the chest.

What is it if I "feel" depressed without any feeling in my body. I'm not happy and I have neurotic thinking but it feels very analytical and in my head, my body feels numb and stiff. I cant locate it in my body but something just isnt right. What is that and how do you handle it?

I like kriya but these threads about dangers are really freaking me out a bit. The thing is I know nobody in real life or even in my country who is interrested or experienced in these kind of things and I also Iive alone. If something where to happen I would be all by myself. Is it true that some of these awakenings can physically kill you? Can you gain such control over your body that you can stop your heartbeat by accident or something like that? I know these kind of things are automatically regulated in the brain stem and it seems like you mess around with that when doing kriya and it seems dangerous. I also dont want to end up jumping from my roof because I become psychotic or something simmilar also. Can anybody who is experienced help me with my concerns?

@martins name dont worry it was a joke

To be honest Ive been doing kriya for 3 months daily now and I didnt have any kind of experience. Its literally what you expect to happen if you hold your breath and stretch your body. And you here are all talking like it is so strong it could physically kill you. Sometimes I feel really disconnected from this forum, are you all delusioned or am I the outlier? Also shouldnt it be possible to awaken kundalini also through hatha yoga by accident, why arent there people dying in yoga classes all the time then?

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Did anybody check the news? I think his home was raided by the police

Life gives you enough shit anyway, why make it harder? If you can handle it sure, but this is most likely a sneaky excuse to see her more often because you are addicted. I think your job is to break that emotional attachement, but dont be a dick to her or anything.

A decade without any progress. All this talk about not needing a relationship, my brain will not believe it no matter how true it might be. I tried telling myself that I dont need it and I dont even want it, but I'm just bullshitting myself and it always comes back to bite me in the ass. I would love to focus my energy on yoga and creative pursuits but its draining me so much. I cant transcend it and since I havent experienced it it will hold me back spiritually. I have so much love to give to someone, but I cant.

This is one of the lesser known methods of releasing from the Sedona Method and I want to share it and elaborate on how I do it, because if it resonates with you its really effective. 1. Lie down 2. Relax your muscles, especially stomach, chest, chin and shoulders. 3. Think about the situation that triggers the emotion or work with what you are currently feeling and welcome it into your body 4. Focus and locate the emotion in your body and how it feels. Remember to relax again if you tensed up. 5. Imagine yourself like a little version of yourself diving through your body diving towards the emotion. I imagine the emotion as a kind of ball of gas or light. 6. Keep your awareness on the emotion in your body. Imagine the little you diving towards the center of the emotion. Be curious about whats at the core of it. As long as there is no release the "diver" should not have reached the center. Just imagine him diving deeper and deeper into it. 7. While you do this the emotion can become stronger. Relax your muscles again if you tense up as you go deeper. 8. At some point there is this kind of "pop" where the emotion gets released in an instant. Thats when you have reached the center. Pretty pragmatic, try it out.

@Leo Gura If I would act on all my emotions and be needy as fuck with girls and people why does this repell people, and especially women? Shouldnt my emotions steer me to be accepted by the tribe and to reproduce? Why did emotions evolve in a way that they sabotage you in this regard? Why would not being accepted by people make you depressed and put you in a state where you have even lower energy and repell people. How does this make any evolutionary sense? Can someone please clear this up for me, I wondered this for a long time.

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