lostmedstudent

if it doesnt happen naturally, how can we work together to achieve that? could you please offer more practical advices ? is there a book i can read? a video that me and my partner can watch ?

if you moved to a new country to start a new life, better to leave things behind. you mean shes staying back or going with you?

@Leo Gura i am a woman, do you have advice for me? i didnt find any books in your book list regarding sex. i really need to rewire my repressed sexual self but i dont know where to start.

how can i come this many time ?? im a woman. i never came multiple times

@KingCrimson greaté thank you so much for sharing !

@Espaim you just have to stretch a bit everyday and you will get there

Can easily touch my toes for more than 5 seconds at the end of stretching ! day #37 30 min of stretching / yin yoga!

Good marketing strategy

@Elisabeth sorry you didnt have a good experience with you psychiatrist! thank you for your inputs

@Nahm <3 <3 <3 needed to hear that, thank you i have not, and i will thank you leo <3 <3 <3

@Elisabeth yeah but psychiatrists have more of a leadership role. we are physicians. we can prescribe medications, we can help people in acute crisis, in psychiatric emergency, severe inpatient management, etc. we have more decision making and power compared to other mental health workers involved in the therapy. psychological issues are dealt in multidisciplinary fashions and psychiatrists are like the conductor in the therapeutic orchestra.

thanks best of luck in your endeavours too. interesting .. thanks ill check it out nope, your neighbor up north . good luck in your match

see those 2 questions i am not able to answer with certainty. i am not clear-visioned and i am in doubt. are you saying i should just bite the bullet and "choose" a vision and stick with it , because there is no right or wrong choices anyway? (in this case, pursue psychiatry VS. just be happy and be the best family doc i can). how to deal with doubts and uncertainty?

i like its fluidity. theres so much creativity involved. in contrast to other branches of medicine, where we rely a lot on evidence based science, algorithm, guidelines. psychiatry is more open to new paradigms. you can carve your own approach with patients and it changes the therapeutic relationship. theres also the possibility to get involved in psychedelic research and help advance that field. theres a great emphasis on human interaction. we spend way more time per patient than any other specialty doctors. we dont have to rush the patients. and i find being able to help people go through psychiatric and psychological difficulties is the most rewarding thing.

thank you for your advice! i basically tried to sit with the failure for the past 2 months, i did contemplation, cried a lot, tried to accept it etc

my dad used to jump jobs a lot too. its probably not ethical but what he did was, lets say you have 2 jobs in similar field, each lasting a few months, he would combine the 2 and add the duration. yes its lieing but you are still competent. it is not a good sign to have very short terms jobs on ur CV. worse case, can you remove some from there ? instead of having 6 short term jobs. put just 1-2 there and say you did souls searching or something else during that time . you are not REQUIRED to put every single job in ur CV. do it in a way that plays in ur favor.

agreed @Leo Gura sorry to change this topic, but leo, could i please have your words of wisdom on the last topic i posted in the career section?

From a very young age, i wanted to be famous. I wanted to be on TV and become a celebrity to get the attention. I told my parents i wanted to be an actress (not that i was into acting, i just want fame), they slammed that idea down. Then over the years, i Put that thought aside and did other stuff with my life (school). But deep down, i still have this desire to have the attention and approval with a fan base. Back in 2013, when Vine was famous, i was really jealous of the teens who rose to fame in a few months. I wanted to do something like that , but i was too shy and self conscious to post vines. I follow a lot of creators on Youtube who grew a successful channel from nothing and it inspired me to do that too. Ive always enjoyed taking pictures and filming things or myself, so i thought this would be a good way to unleash my creativity and maybe become famous. In the past few years, i struggled a lot with the desire of being famous and the harsh reality. Only a handful few will stand out , and tbh, im not talented in those areas. I didnt put in the time and energy to master the art of YouTube or content creation, so i posted very few videos in the past few years. But i feel like im always daydreaming about my channel getting lucky somehow and me getting famous. I have a fulfilling career (being a doctor) ahead of me, but a part me doesnt want to let go of the idea of being famous. I just want it so bad. Recently, i thought of maybe using TikTok as a way to get attention, and yesterday i tried it out. it consumed all of my energy and i got nowhere. By the end of the day, it left me feeling unproductive, depressed and pretty hopeless. Not to mention, i am currently studying for an exam, So its some time that could be better spent. I just feel really lost guys... ive struggled with this desire ever since i can remember. Is this an authentic manifestation of who i am , or is this some needy parts i need to do shadow work on? A part of me doesnt want to just "forget about it and move on". But another part of me does forget about it when life is going well.

@The Monk i think there are a few things here. like others have said 1. dont feel ashamed or scared of what happened. it happened and that is it. you dont have to hate that part of yourself. by hating it, you dont make it disappear. 2. the fact that you despise is so much could mean you need some shadow work, like @Rilles said. 3. i think its normal that we get turned on by different things. theres no right or wrong thing that arouses us. as far as your concern for pedophilia, did you read the DSM V diagnostic criteria? i will DM you and you can read and see if it fits you overall i think its more of a fixation that you have on the idea that you might have it, and you hate that idea. it could be compulsive thinking. again ill send you the DSM diagnostic criteria for OCD i think you are fine. you have to understand that by hating it or not wanting it , it doesnt make it disappear. you have to accept that part of yourself and understand where its roots are.

@Nahm why did you ask that question? what is the point you are trying to make?

You cannot. How you feel is as true as it gets. But then what to do about that ?!?

thanks so much for everyones input i pondered about my conflictual feelings further and i came up with the following points 1. i want to create something out of my life, have fun creating it, and be known for it. i envy and look up to youtubers who have their own little community, not super famous, but with enough audience and support to know what their doing is meaningful. So theres a part of me who wants to create my highest self. this means it takes time and energy. 2. i have a rewarding career of becoming a family doctor. i cannot say i am profoundly passionate about it because i wanted to become a psychiatrist. unfortunately, i did not match in psychiatry (it was a very competitive process). i matched in family medicine and had to face a lot of rejection , it was a brutal 5 months period, where i worked hard on my file (CV, extracurriculars, spent 100s of hours drafting my motivation letter), then i got rejected by 10 programs even before the interview, travelled across the country to attend 10 interviews, and ended up in my 7th choice. it was a big slap in the face. it was the shittiest feeling ive ever felt. its the one thing where i can proudly say i work my ass off for, and i only get this one shot to choose my specialty. i am still recovering psychologically from this huge "relative" failure. i have a few options ahead of me. i could try to match in psychiatry again (chances are slimmer), or i could accept and move on. so far i have tried to accept to move on, but i dont feel happy. but deciding to try again means i have to pour all my energy and time into it. 3. i have both endeavours. but i dont know what i really want and how much i want it. both takes tremendous amount of time and effort to achieve, i dont know which one to pick, or how to balance both. a lot of my resentment towards medicine these days simply come from the fact that the system beat me to the ground. i did not get what i wanted out of it. while i dont hate family medicine, i just dont feel good about having to do something because my first choice didnt take me. so @Nahm, i think dreamboard is great, i will start it . also @mmKay life purpose course is good. contemplation, meditation, psychedelics all will help me. but ALL OF THOSE THINGS TAKE TIME, how do i do all of those things, do i want too much!??!?!?

thank you for sharing. just beautiful

@Chakra Lion thank you

@mmKay i appreciate your food for thoughts its a great idea , i will purchase the life purpose course! how long did it take you to finish the course? also what did it do for you? did you have an unexpected career change afterwards ?