abigailwornesable

A lot of things in my life has changed I've moved house to a completely new area far away from everything I've ever known or anyone I know other than my partner... we are in the process of buying a house but ever since I've come here I got into a very good job that would have taken me into a go future path but I didn't feel mentally ready to take on all the pressure that came with, I because very unhappy and I left I then panicked to find another job in a completely different field and I hated it! I latest a week and I left. I have now applied for tones of jobs and have had 5 interviews in the past week and have had some job offers, I have to work to pay for the house were moving into but I've got to the point where I am terrified to go to work and to be stuck in a full time job for the rest of my life (I know everyone has to work to pay the bills ect but I've been in the education my whole life and now it's like is this it?) I feel so lost and understand I have to take a job but I'm terrified that I'm going to start and hate it like the others, waking up everyday with anxiety! This is a big commitment we're taking on and I just want it to be ok and me be content in a job! Please help because I'm really struggling to get out of this mindset!!

See_on_you Thankyou for the response and reading this back now I feel as if my vision is so clear so everything you said totally makes sense... I've only just seen this comment on my post and well reading back on my post I should have clarified further on my situation at the time, my partner and I moved into his fathers house while we was waiting to move into our own house... I am out of that situation and in my own house, I can now reflect back and see some of the reasons why I felt so stuck. The biggest reason was the environment I was in (practically living in a strangers house) which looking back that had a massive effect on the way I was feeling and how my vision was at the time because in some cases I felt trapped not only at work because I didn't feel happy in the job but I wasn't happy at home and also had no excape as the area was completely new to me which spiralled into a wave of negative emotions and energy which caused me to be stuck like you said and feeling like I had no purpose. On the flip side 3 months later despite having a house which is a big commitment I do feel like I am in a much positive and stable position because the environment I am in is my own... also I have taken a step back in my career to get my confidence up again and to do that I had to go back into my comfort zone. I have changed many daily habit to try and cleanse myself rather than focusing on the negatives. Overall I feel a much happier person and feel much better about going to work as I know this job is not forever it's just part of the process, again as I look back I feel as if the environment I was in unsettled me the most however i now feel as if I'm ready to take the first steps to the career I'd like to be in which has taken some time to figure out, but In someways I feel like a changed person and that I am finding my life purpose a little bit more everyday. p.s I have to say reading in these forums and watching Leo's videos have seriously helped me through this transition and continues to help my mindset.

Thankyou for the advise! My head feels so confused at this moment... I appreciate the fact that something has to give and well the house is something we cannot now back out of and in fact it's something that I feel will be a positive effect as i will see results and there will be some form of consistency where there hasn't currently been in my living arrangements. I've decided I need to take a step back and go into a job where im familiar and comfortable, with as little pressure so that's the type of job I've gone for... what the biggest struggle for me at the moment is dealing with that confusion of what's making me not want to go to work and why am I feel an anxious feeling everyday knowing I'm going to work and not being content! It really is frustrating as I want to work and can't stand sitting around but there something ( a trigger) that is making me feel those awful feelings and I don't know what it is! How can I narrow this down and understand these feelings?

My current situation I am 20 years old female, engaged and in a happy relationship. My partner and I moved 4 months ago from London to Manchester away from all family and friends, the purpose of this was to buy a house there as it is much more affordable and the quality of life is much greater in terms of the area. When moving up here I had to get myself a job pretty quickly as we would both be living under his fathers roof until we found a suitable property. I landed a job in a lets say prestigious company and a role that I would be able to progress quickly in whist being in the area I thought I'd like to be in (beauty Marketing) I quickly figured that the office job was not for me and I felt as if I was working a job with no real meaning or enjoyment which was causing me a great deal of confusion in what I wanted to do and want career is really for me? I left the office job and wanted to come out of work to find what my true purpose and career path is to follow something I'm passionate about and to contribute my skills to society. From this I done a variety of brainstorming on my creative passions, things I enjoy most, what I want my purpose to be but I am getting caught up on the fact that I don't know where my life is heading and I don't know what it is I want to do for my career? I feel lost and confused and relating to your confused video you posted a year ago I am embracing the fact that I am confused about the situation but I don't know what to do from this... Im young so should I need to know what I want to do with my life or will this come in time? Please can you give your advice on what I should do in my situation as i I'm trying to build myself as a person and I feel as if this has given me a big confidence knock. Dilemma 2 My partner and I have found a home that we are buying and in this case I have had to get a job as quickly as possible in order for us to split the costs of the legal fees, bills, ect. although I still haven't figured out the above I have got a new job in a new field (hotel reception) as I need to have an income. I feel as if this new job will be a new experience as I've never worked in the industry and the place of work is a nice atmosphere and colleges are pleasant, however I fear that this still isn't for me (Although I havent started) but have accepted the fact that I will have to continue in this job until we are settled into the house and I am again in a position to make a change based on my purpose and career path, although I still don't know what that is... any tips on how to figure this out? I feel so lost and don't know what Im going to do in my life... do you have any time on how to control this emotion also? Thanks, Abbie