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My question is, what is love?? I mean is it what we see in movies and TV shows and is it something more and deep? And why people get addicted to their partners when they are in love? I know it's a stupid question but I really wanna know ?

"If you stick to your values , no distractions can stick to you " You are actually free then!

Guys I want you all to share your best moments of your life , it really feels great when you think about them right?, So one more reason to smile ? Share all your best moments . Love!

@The Monk sorry , you did not ask me but I went through your post and felt like to reply so I did. Why didn't you join your college( also you can join library ) yet , I mean if you join college so you can spend more time away from them and if it is possible Meditate everyday , atleast it would give you a mental strength to be strong enough .my point is try to spend your time more away from them because you are not financially independent yet so even if you leave your home , it will be hard for you. Try also to advice your parents and brother that don't do this kind of behaviour ( that I am sure you have tried ) , if they agree with you that's the best thing . You can also search for some organisations in your city which can help you , like part time jobs , shelters ( just suggesting because if you decide to go to them be careful , they might be fake so be careful). See friend, we all have some problems in our life and the only thing we can do is face them because we can't go away from them . So stay calm , you can do it . All the best.

Thank you @Prabhaker !!

I am little confused , I have gone through a video that talks about how to reduce Addiction, I did the same as it was told and I have reduced also to some extent but what I found is when again I came in contact with those things I found myself addicted , so I want to know , I mean how to make a balance between these things and normal life. My addiction is social media . And I am like if I use it , I use it like so much but if I don't , I don't even look for them ( totally cut off ).

Thank you @Michael569 and @Arkandeus ! @Arkandeus yeah , I just tried to keep myself away from these things like totally cut off nothing other than that.

Firstly ,you need to calm down ! See we all have problems in our life , some have little other have big but the main thing is how to solve them , I understand it's hard sometimes because you feel so tired and just wanna go away from them but at the same time we should know that solution lies in the problem itself. Do not try to be away ( I understand you must be fighting with it) . if you want to study maths and you are not getting good in it you must review your approach , I mean re- examine the way you are applying to learn maths because sometimes we do our best , work hard a lot but get nothing then there is two possibilities 1) you have lack of interest in that 2) you are using wrong approach So I think you should take a deep breath and think with a calm mind. Everything is gonna be alright , don't worry !! ?

You will have to make yourself financially strong , because that would be the first step towards your independency . Once you are independent , it would be easy for you to focus on yourself. As you told above about your family conditions , may be that is affecting your studies . Once you are separated , you can focus on your studies too.

If competition is healthy , it is not bad then . Competition gives us a spark or we can say encourage us to do better ( provided it is healthy , not affecting you much ), So you should not leave this . As far as I understood about the " creating your own resources " means you should try different-different methods to win the competition , make your signature moves , compete with yourself , be better everyday . I hope I helped you ! All the best!! ?

That feeling which you don't wanna share , That feeling which make you sometimes scared, That feeling which make you sometimes to give up on your dreams, Those dreams which found a home in you , or you can say, you made them to be in you Those dreams not only yours but all your loving ones have a vision about them now, But you scare to tell them that you got stuck in them , want to rise , finding a way!! But then you hear a voice deep down in your heart ,which makes you to believe in yourself , because you have no choice instead Which makes you not to give up, not to give up!! And you rise and shine ..... Follow that light!

Thank you everyone ☺ I will keep these things in mind ..but I am really glad that you all responded @Deep , @Morrtiz , @cetus56, @Spiral , @Prabhaker @CuteCornDog

I am little curious about my behaviour , whenever I meet new people I get a different kind of feeling like my heart beat gets little high and I get more conscious about my behaviour , about the way I talk , how I sit, even how do I walk . This makes me more uncomfortable , specially when I am in front of my opposite sex . How should I deal with it?

I am facing some concentration issues from sometime , whenever I study , my mind goes here and there and because of that I take more time in a topic that actually it should take .. How to deal with this ?

Wow! That's amazing ? , it needs guts to do this and that too in public place , if you are comfortable enough with this , I mean can do at any place then you should go for next like try something new that would take you to another level .. I have seen a video , in that a guy laid down at public places for 30 seconds and he did this many times at different places until he gets comfortable he realize that people do not care at all ,they just looked once and then walked away So it is nice that you are doing this , very good to boost up the confidence All the best ☺

you are the reflection of your surroundings , so choose your surrounding like it makes you reflect the best of you

hey buddy , just don't worry and keep calm! it is very natural to feel like this because as you told above that you have never taken these subjects seriously but you want to take it serious now ,so your fear is natural , you must be thinking "what if i would fail? " , i also feel the same (or i should say mostly people feel the same) , i tell you about myself , i am graduate in Maths(Hons) , although i was little good at Maths till my +2 and on that behalf i decided to take Maths further but when my semester started it was 75% different what i have studied before and there were 3 or 4 subjects(within maths) that completely used to go over my head , my condition was similar to you to some extent, i can say. i was depressed even i din't tell my family ( because i had chosen that) , my performance was very low, then i decided to do something because i could not see myself like this, i started form the base ,i wanna tell you what you can do for your better command on the subject ; 1) regularly attended my all lectures ( because that is quite important specially in maths and science) 2)revise everyday work when i come back to home 3)read notes which were given by my teacher and also from books because it is not necessary that teacher would tell you all in the class so you have to work on your own also 4) revision weekly(must) , write formulas on a sheet and paste it in your room where you study by this you would see them at least 3 or 4 times in a day it will help you. 5) give test regularly (if you do not get good marks , don't worry ,nobody gets perfect in few attempts) 6) do not compare with others , grow bit by bit gradually you will develop a confidence in you ,and the day will come when you will be a master of it. i also tried the same strategy and got good marks(highest marks) and gradually i started liking those subjects . there is nothing in this world which we can not do , you can master in maths also and in other areas also but it is up to you to decide . these steps i hope will help you and if still you are confused about what you have chosen , take a day only for you, talk to yourself and decide which subject attracts you more or which kind of work you wanna do in your future ,work according to that. wish you all the best ohh i forgot one step to tell you ,read some basic books related to your syllabus , this would make a better base so the foundation would be good .

i read some replies above and yes it is true that knowledge is power it makes you skilled , gives you confidence. you study for two reasons; 1) society(means you have no dream about your future and just studying to get a degree) 2) for your dream the first one is painful , i mean it is so boring and hurtful when you do something not for you but for no reason or you can say for the sake of family or society, it's like you are in a train and you don't know the destiny , no direction at all. the second one is for your dream , when you have a dream the study becomes your mean to get that and i should say it becomes a wonderful journey which teaches you so many lessons , skilled and the most important thing it never makes you to ask yourself " why do you study ?" . i hope you got your answer to some extent , if you are asking this question to yourself that means you need to talk to yourself buddy ask yourself and work on your dream and believe me you are gonna love it . all the very best!

self development is when these kind of things do not bother you at all , relationship occurs when two people meet and self development is a concept of individuality ( your personal development) , when you are sufficient enough for you that is the real self development as far as about girls , i have a question for you ; if any random girl approaches you and ask you to date her , would you say yes? even if you say yes this in not gonna go so far because if she approaches you the first thing will come in your mind that " this girl must be impressed by my appearance that's why she asked me out" (and this is not important in any relationship) now i think you can understand the mechanism . you should approach a girl(if you like her ) there is nothing wrong in that but spend some time with her , know her ,let her know you more , just be real do not try to impress at all then you can ask her by that time it would be logical too. now if she say yes , great!!! and if no , you should not let yourself affect by this more just think you both are not perfect for each other and something better is waiting for you (let it go) well, i believe in that if someone is in your luck , she will come one day you need not to do extra efforts( because you can not control someone , right?) and nobody can stop her to come in your life till then invest your time in you , love yourself, explore the world , make goals and fulfill them, develop yourself as much as you can . all the very best for your life

I am little confused about" the joy in the work even when you got failed", i mean when you have a broad vision about your life and you are working towards it, but there are times when you get fail so how to deal with this kind of situation i mean how to make yourself again to find the joy in that work? My case is like it will take two or three years to achieve my dream, i make little goals every day and try to complete them on time but sometimes i get fail and demotivate My question is "is it natural to feel like this?" and if yes how can i keep myself to love my work and motivated in these situations?

hey @Preetom , i have gone through your question and as far as i observed ,you have to work on two areas of your life 1) as you have told about your daydreaming , "that you like to be unique and better than everyone " my friend this comes in mind only when you underestimate yourself or may be your surrounding is affecting you, see there in nobody is better than anyone else everybody is UNIQUE ...remember EVERYBODY (including you) you can not compare yourself with anyone else. so the first area to work on is " completely accept yourself and believe me that is the best feeling " once you accept yourself then start knowing yourself that would help you to know about your strength and weaknesses , when your base will be clear about yourself only then you can make a better foundation of your life. 2) BELIEVE in you , once you accepted yourself the main thing is to do is believe in , make your short term goals(towards getting your long term goal) and start fulfilling them, if you fail don't worry try again ,if again you fail try again, this will gradually boost your confidence and you will start seeing in you A Perfectionist , these little little goals boost your confidence . remember one thing that do not compare yourself with others rather compare yourself with you , this would help you to grow better i agree that it is our human nature that we start comparing even i do this sometimes but we can reduce this to some extent and everyone has the different way to do the same thing so do not worry just be happy , i have a technique whenever you are comparing yourself with others just also think about both of yours conditions because these are circumstances also which are different . and yeah for more help you can watch Leo's video on personality development . " ALL THE BEST "

I am little confused about it , why do i feel bad when i expect something to be happen but that does not? , does it mean i should not expect anything from anyone? ,i know the thing that our happiness comes in ourselves not from the outside but still we start to expect from others . How to balance between these two things " expect and not to expect" ?

As we know that we all want to do something in life , and we work for that too, but is it fine to take a break when you feel like to have a break? I mean when it is long way to go but you want a little time for yourself .

I dont know this, This is always in my mind that how to react when People say/think bad about you. I mean i always try not to put my nose in anyone's Business even if she/ he is my close friend. But i dont know why they do this, commenting on me for the things what i do. how to tackle these kind of situation cuz i dont wanna be angry or make my mood off for these silly things?

Thank you friend But tell me onething , will this process take time?