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carlos flores, sorry for your loss of a loved one. Everything you know and experienced about your grandmother is not lost because there are within your memory and heart. What is lost is further connections with her if she lived longer. So hold dear to your heart the love you both had shared in the past. My whole family, and extended family that I know of, are no longer alive. I am the last card in the deck. I often reflect back at all the love and funny times I had with them. For that I am grateful to have those memories and experiences in my life. It has enriched me to remember those times. One day you too will be a grandparent, and the most important role of a grandparent is to pass on the family history, after all, they are the only ones with such extended memories of the family. Your grandmother's story will hopefully be passed onto to your grandchildren. In this way, your grandmother will still be with the family (so to speak).
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Visitor replied to egoless's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
The most potential danger of enlightenment, or any other state, is to claim anything for self. This claiming can be so subtle, yet so blinding, that a person claiming to be enlightened becomes so obviously ignorant to others but themselves. -
I show the symptoms of type-2 diabetes. Awaiting blood test results. If positive results then a change in lifestyle needs to take place, though it should not be too difficult to adapt and monitor. Anybody here with type-2 diabetes? If so, please feel free to share your experiences in making the adjustments to a new way of living.
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@emind Practice things that will expand your imagination, such as creativity. Then apply your knowledge to new imagined ideals.
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Visitor replied to Natasha's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
Very funny. I heard a similar one about thirty years ago. It went something like this: Q: How many sociologists does it take to change a light bulb? A: None, because illumination is a social construct. -
@Joseph Maynor Leo's post is true. I have noticed a strong need for getting all your ducks lined up in a row before you feel you got it under control. But there is ALWAYS a duck which will duck it and go off course. And what happens then, is all the controlled ducks behind it will follow off course too. They were too busy following the duck in front to see the bigger picture of what was going on (truth). The fear behind this need for rigid steps-type control will break your resolve whenever the course changes. Accept accept accept is the key to "change". You CAN control the steering of your attitudes and open-mindedness by accepting the changes, and challenges (adapting), that present themselves.
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@Joseph Maynor The first thing I looked for was not on the list, that is to laugh at yourself. You got to take yourself lightly. Have fun at your own ego expense. Use all your so-called mistakes and failures to make a joke about yourself. My friends love it, because it helps them too to face their fears of exposure and vulnerability. Much like that movie "In & Out" where some elderly women sit in a circle confessing their secrets and laughing about it.
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Visitor replied to Visitor's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
Unless and until ignorance is removed and Knowledge is gained (the Knowledge whereby the divine life is experienced and lived) everything pertaining to the spiritual seems paradoxical — God, whom we do not see, we say is real; and the world, which we do see, we say is unreal. In experience, what exists for us does not really exist; and what does not exist for us, really exists. -
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If your life purpose is to live in nature, then go there now. If it is your life purpose then nature will accommodate you to live there. You will learn and know how to survive there, and you won't be afraid to stay there. If not, then maybe the call for nature was more of a dream of evading the responsibility of being you in relationship with life.
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@SimonH Market yourself. Imagine someone, exactly like yourself, coming to you with the exact question of how to start. Since you already know about marketing research, targeting clients, and promoting, it ought to be easy to get started.
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@onilsson Relate to others as yourself (past and present). Then you can see the funny side of both the ignorant and not so ignorant side of yourself with others. Live and let live is always a good motto when dealing with others. However, if the other is suffering and wishes to not be so, then a bit of humor about yourself, being in a similar situation to them, can bring some fun into the relationship with others. In this way the so-called serious side is supplemented with humor (the joke being on yourself). To be able to laugh at yourself is a very good way to create self-acceptance. So while having fun at yourself, you are growing towards authenticity.
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Some people are visual-based, others are hearing-based, and others are feeling-base. Some say "I see what you mean"; others say "I hear you", or others may say "I feel what you mean". Find out what you normally refer to when you respond to others. Visualization is not just seeing. Images (symbolic impressions) created by the mind also include hearing images, and feeling images. I am sure there are others. So when you are asked to visualize something, imagine it with your particular reference base.
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The best way to make yourself funny is to laugh at yourself. This will invite others to laugh at, and with you, because it is not them you are making a joke of. The best comedians make a fool of themselves. To visualize that is to simply remember your most embarrassing, or 'doh' moments.
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@Max_V Forget about being loved. You won't accept it if you can't accept yourself. When you do except yourself then you won't need love. So the only thing to do is to be loving, and while you are loving you won't need love because you ARE love.
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Visitor replied to How to be wise's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
Why do you think that you have to be constant? People basically feel either love or fear. Or in other words, true or untrue. Neither are constant while one still has a mind that wishes to identify itself (the ego), which it fears to lose. So self-inquiry is either about ego-self and/or Being. The first is untrue, the other is true. Both are inevitable. To know what is not constant is to access memory of what was beforehand. What sensation in the past is not constant because it is not now. What we feel 'now' is as constant as we feed it with either fear or love. If you wish the stay serene, then love is the fuel to keep it going. -
Community Ethics.
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Greed for validity is the problem Solution is to get in touch with your okayness regardless of what is happening. In that okayness there is no more need or want, or else you won't feel okay until those needs or wants are fulfilled. So in that okayness, anything else you wish to explore, create for yourself, such as a Life Purpose (LP), is done without greed, want or need. It becomes an experiment to play with and learn new stuff. Fears we have harbored in our life have fueled our wants and needs. Why not have a LP, for the time being, to overcome the fears that block the full awareness of one's own okayness.
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1) The ego is claiming your improvement and has labelled itself as superior. To uphold that self acclaimed status, it creates biases (stories of self-favoritism) for itself. 2) Were you never in the same boat. 3) Every person has the potential to improve. Sometimes slowly, sometimes quickly. There will always be somebody more actualized than yourself. Do you expect them to not have any respect for those less actualized like yourself. I am sure you do not hope so, or else there won't be anybody to help you along when you need it, or ask it.
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I just came back, alone, from cycling with old friends. This cycling group, like so many other groups, are so fearful of each others disapproval that they will compromise themselves to appear loyal. Many times, this group of ten or more, have started a ride to eventually either changed route or turned back because of two or more have changed their minds. This behaviour is similar to sheep or ducks following each other; as soon as one veers off course, those behind follow. Conformity has bonded this cycling group from the start, but it has also alienated those without fear of being alone. Conformity has its negatives, and these oppose my authenticity, truth, and integrity; and I am willing to lose friendships because of it. I am not afraid of how others judge me, as they fear it themselves. I will keep in tough with some of these old friends, but I had enough of their fearful ways when they come together as a group. Today they veered off course and I was left alone to follow the agreed route and rode it alone. They knew what happened when it happened but could not make themselves admit to the error and correct their previously agreed ride route. They also know that I am my own person and not a sheep. I've been told by them before that they find it too difficult to not compromise their own integrity in case they will lose face by the others. Because of this, I have not lost their friendship on an individual level, but as a group, they are not who they are when alone.
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Knowledge uses language. A knowing is intuition (as such). The knowing is transcended knowledge. All knowing is doubtless and true.
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Visitor replied to momo's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
The truth will set you free. Find the truth behind all your fears which has manifested into ocd, etc. In facing those fears, and finding your truth about them, will not only demythicize your ocd, etc, it will also contribute to your enlightenment. -
@Shin Cold turkey, is the best quickest way. Don't worry, it won't kill you. Get rid of everything to do with accessing a video game. Not by relocating the game so you can access it later, but in the rubbish bin just before the garbage truck comes to pick it up. Gradual reduction methods don't work so well because each time you play the game (on a limited amount) the game becomes more meaningful and therefore harder to give up.
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Sounds very deceptive (untrue) and exploitative of others (to fill the void of being untrue). Tip: Your truthful self is unconditionally loving. Love is the expression of truth. To be deceptive and exploitative is both unloving and not true to yourself. Fear causes deception, in this case it is the fear of not being lovable, so you falsify yourself as lovable to others. Being a true person is not only your true self, but it is most loved by all, because it is reliable, trustworthy, unchanging, consistent ... in other words, unconditional. If you create a conditional self, it will always be found wanting (unsatisfactory) because deep down you know it is a fraud, a deception and enslaved to your ego-self. A life of suffering. So find your true self, get in touch with that unconditional loving bit in you. You know, that part that is gentle, soft, forgiving, tolerant, fearless, patient, listening, self.
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Sitting for hours on end can swell your feet.