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And what if after sending the 'consent'' text, the man starts fucking the girl too hard, forces her into a postion she is not comfortable with or just just doesnt stop when / if she has had enough. IS there a consent form for the positions allowed, the duration of the sex, the type? You see - there is no 'easy' solution, Having sex with someone you dont know well or trust is risky for both parties. So just dont take any risks unless you trust them enough to not claim rape if you have not raped them.# To avoid being accused of rape, at any point, before or during the encounter - if the woman says 'no'. You stop. You get off. And you do NOT try and change her mind. It really is as 'simple' as that to not rape someone. The issues you are talking about are false accusations which will be highly minimised if you take consideration and thought into who you place your penis inside. The same applies if you dont want to get yourself or anyone else hurt - then you dont drink or drive... same applies to dont drink and fuck. Especially strangers. That is like driving some random car from a scrap heap and getting angry when and sad when it blows up on your face. ? Sex is risky as is driving. Take precautions… it’s really not rocket science. 1. Trust the person 2. Be sober enough to drive a car if you are going to shag, particularly in the early days 3. Be aware of how she’s feeling if she indicates she’s not interested or not enjoying it. You stop. This could be in the form of pushing you off, saying no, freezing up, crying. Use your brain and if it’s too complicated then just don’t have sexual encounters with anyone.

This is what is being alleged by a few women. But how can we know if it’s true? Impossible.

must just be for British viewers then. There was a 90 min documentary on it last night. It was horrible. I feel for the women but also a lot for him too as he clearly suffering from mental illness and sex / drug addiction and should not have been allowed to work in the tv industry when he was clearly so unhinged. I feel for his wife who is about to give birth and his two daughters as the media have portrayed him to be an absolute sex crazed monster in that investigation and why they’ve been allowed to display all that before even a trial has taken place, beats me. Very fucked up. don’t know why I feel so sad for him when if what those women are saying is true, then he’s raped them.

https://www.channel4.com/programmes/russell-brand-in-plain-sight-dispatches

@Something Funny Also - hope my response doesnt come across as defensive. I appreciate the challenges to my thinking. X

No, I totally agree. This is why I am putting so much consideration into this. I am trying to work out whether I do want one, but fear is stopping me. I am naturally a caring person, but I do not NEED to care and nuture. I am excited at the prospect of my life of being mid forties and being totally free. I am in battle with both. But there is no need there. And no, my daughter absolutely doenst owe me any grandchildren. She doesnt even owe me a relationship. She is her own unique person which I have had the joy and challenge of raising. I feel 'complete' as I in am not yearning for another... however, I am open and considering whether another would be a lovely addition for the family and of course. naturally, I dont want to have any regrets in my later years. I tend to be an over thinker and a worrier, and I convince myself out of my true desires through fear of fucking up. I am trying to work out what my true desires are.

@Bobby_2021 Thanks so much for shaing your experience. Are you the eldest or youngest?

Oh wow! Thank you so much for sharing your beautiful relationshps. I have heard countless time of littles one having a powerful effect on their older brothers. Let's hope same goes for sisters. Thanks again. I think I am just having confidence wobbles. Part of me worries I am not cut out for the task as I feel I have done so well with raising my daughter - I am scared I wont be able to do it all again.. xx

Do you mean motivation as in fear of regret and / or depriving my daughter of a sibling?

I am really sorry to hear what has happened. Be kind to yourself. Take care. Take one min at a time, one hour at a time, one day at a time. Allow yourself to feel everything you feel xxxxx

Thank you ?

just worked for me on Chrome x

I have been seeing my therapist for two years now and we now have a very solid, secure relationship which has taken a lot of money, time emotion to build. She is also an energy worker and does 'clearing' sessions' for those that have absorbed negative energy from the enviroment to rebalance chakras. During my therapy I have gone into explicit detail about a close friend of mine and issues between us, this friend evokes a lot of trauma from my childhood so has mean a main feature in helping me tap into root causes of my distress. This friend of mine had been going through a hard time so I recommended Annie (my therapist) to do a clearing for her, which she did. I am now surprised that they are having a proper session together on self care (not therapy) but still a 1:1 dynamic and communication. I feel very uncomfortable with it. The clearing didnt involve any interaction and is purely as distance thing, which is why I was happy to share her details. But I am quite put out that they have set up their own session, which will be an hour over Zoom. It may just be a one off, but I havent been given any details or approached as to whether I am comfortable for them to work together in that capacity. Now, I totally trust both of them but my issue is I feel that going forward I wont be able to discuss the details of my freind and feelings towrds her now I know that my therapist knows who she is! It feels unethical to me. I have sent a voicemail to my therapist explaining how I feel - to which she replied 'It is a teaching session!' I then further explained that i knew this but my concern was feeling uncomfortable about sharing anything going forwards, to do with them knowing eachother and it feeling wrong. She then said ' I can see your trust issue has been evoked, a good place to start the next session from' I feel she has been very dismissive. I also know this is nothing to do with trust and I have told her that. It is to do with my personal boundaries and who and what I am comfortable sharing explicit information and feelings to. Them working together has now affected this. By the time I see her for next session, it will have already happened. And obviously I can't stop them. But I do feel quite disrespected (not by my friend) but by therapist and am seriously considering not going back as this isn't the first time that boundaries haven't been properly considered. Any words of wisdom? Am I overreacting? Thank you!!!!

@puporing thank you for the heads up

Yes I would say this is best. I just needed to vent first and check my reaction Is appropriate as I so often doubt myself . Thank you ?

I gave my friend her details so that she could do the clearing, not realising that she would then go on to set up a 'teaching' session on protecting energy with my friend. And this friend is someone I have discussed in great length with my therapist over our period of work together. She is a retired therapist who now only does a small amount of work because she enjoys it and is very selective over her clients. She was actually recommended to me through another therapist, I wnt to her for enegry work originally to which we hit it off with a great rapport, she then offered her pyschotheraputic services to me, to which I thought long and hard over and then went for it, and here I am two years later. In all honesty, as blurry as she can be with the boundaries and distracting with the new age stuff. I have seen a fair few therapists who are by the book, but terrible at the work. And Annie(my therapist) and I do have a great relationship together and have got though some heavy material that no other therapist has been able to tap into. And because of this I have a lot of respect and turn a blind eye to some of her slughtly unconventional ways. She is creative and engaging and she understands me like nobody else. This why I am hesistant to let go of her. It's taken a good 18 months of investment and commitment before I was even able to be emotional around her, and she has been consistent and dedicated. I know I am a very tricky client as I resist all inteventions to the nth degree. And very cynical. A tricky one.....

Love this.

I just dont like the idea of touching or engaging in sexual contact. I prefer that with a man. I don't have to find something attrative looking to want to be fucked by it. It's about the person, the energy, the connection, the chemisty. I dont get any of that with a woman.

Yes, one is good for the viewing the other good for actual intercourse and foreplay. I wouldnt want to be sexually involved with a women but I think a naked female body and vagina is far more sexier than a man. Just on looks.

Hello, I am looking for life coach recommendations, I seem to be hitting a brick wall with psychotherapy. I am look for help with self esteem, confidence and general / social anxiety. Thank you!

I like the way it opens out like a flower, I like the lips, inner and outer. I like the colour. They are beautiful. No I dont want to go near it at all - nothing like that. Just prefer the look to cock. But would want touch / lick cock. Weird isnt it?!

I am a straight female but I prefer the look of pussies to cock... nothing is 'black' or 'white' when comes to sexuality.

Also The Alchemist