Arkandeus

it's important to understand the process of thinking. when you're lamenting the past you might think you have valid reasons to feel bad, and that these reasons make you feel bad. What actually happens is, you feel bad, then your thoughts make up reasons as to why you feel bad. bad beliefs,lead to bad feelings, lead to bad thoughts. you can make your future a hundred times as good as your past. which is why you need to let go of the past. all I can say trust your higher self. Your higher self is in control of your reality and it's trying to teach you something. but I can tell you right now what it's trying to teach you. get rid of bad beliefs. isn't there any way you can phrase what's going on in your life but in a way that actually reassures you? Would you say this to a friend? Would you tell someone their past was amazing and that now they have nothing to live for and they have no hope? Would you actually ever tell someone that? If the answer is no, then why tell that to yourself? We think we can get a free pass to beat on ourselves, to be emotionally violent about yourself, but that's just a big no, it's not how this works. Do this and you will not advance. You need to see how you treat other people you respect, and treat yourself in the same way. It's a matter of practicing the basic decency that you shows towards others, also towards yourself. There's no way around it. Spirituality is exercising that positivity muscle. You don't want to do it. You're tired, you're in fear, but it's the only thing and it's the only thing that will make you move forward. It's shitty to start believing in yourself when you don't, it hurts, but as you keep it up, push through the pain of disbelief, you'll reap results. Treat yourself as you would treat your own kid if you had one. Would you constantly remind your own kid about his mistakes and regrets, and how he's not doing anything worthwhile? It's insanity right? What kind of parent would do that? we'd all hate such a parent. that's what bad feelings are in a sense, they're the result of you hating how you act toward yourself. good feelings are the result of you loving how you act towards yourself. Everything you say in your head is for reals. It's not a joke. we think we are good persons, but if you're in head beating yourself down ,telling yourself you'll fail, only pointing out your mistakes and regrets, you're an emotionally violent and toxic person towards yourself. And the result is shitty feelings all the time. It's hard but you have to learn to take your own side. So what if it might not work out, so what if it might fail? let the world try to prove you wrong, let the world try to point out your mistakes,let the world push you down, but never yourself. Always believe in your success,believe in standing up, believe in absolute victory, never back down. You always have to take your own side. be absolutely vicious in taking your own side, in believing in yourself, and the energy of life will flow straight into you.

Death is a human emotion. What do you feel when you think about death? Doesn't it bring up an intense feeling? An intense fear, sadness, feeling of destruction? We tend to view death as a one-time event in our life. But it's constantly with us, it's an human that you carry deep inside you, and the proof is that you can recall it at any moment. Just think about dying and you will feel the emotion. We are emotional beings. And I think death is the emotional translation of the valley between your spiritual identity and your human identity. You are an immortal eternal being. There's no death. There's merely a space between truth and illusion. Referring to this space, fear. Fear, I think is the emotional translation of misunderstanding. We view misunderstanding as an objective failure, a result of ignorance or lack of knowledge. We don't really view misunderstanding in an emotional way. But it is. Fear is literally misunderstanding. You fear, because you're not understanding something, you're not understand the truth behind what you fear. You fear death because you don't understand it. You fear the other because you don't understand the other. You fear the future because you don't understand what will happen in it. Misunderstanding is literally an emotion that hurts us, that feels horrible. I can testify that as soon as you actual understanding things, as you start gaining higher knowledge fear disappears. And I'm starting to get I was never ''afraid''..how can an immortal being be afraid? Fear is merely the signal button that is telling you that you're misunderstanding something. Feel fear towards something? you're not understanding that something. be open-minded to gaining a new insight about that specific something. Be ready to drop the idea that you think that you actually understand it and that fear is rational approach to it. Fear is never a rational approach as a result of an objective conclusion. Fear is misunderstanding. You don't need fear to know you're in danger and to move out of the way. you don't need fear to grow spiritually,shortly put, never believe your fears

What is spiritual growth? Deep down you are the infinite one, you are god and you know everything about the universe and how it works. You already know everything,deep down, yet you're on a level where you don't have access to your knowledge. so what is spiritual growth? It's merely being open to knowledge and new ideas. Genuine open-mindedness is spiritual growth. The more open you are, the more of your own knowledge will flow into you. But what is being open-minded? It's acknowledging that you'll never see the big picture. As soon as you think you see the big picture you're closed to new information. How can you see the big picture when the universe is infinite and ever-growing and you're a reflection of that? there is no big picture. No one will never know everything there is to know, because the universe is infinite. There's always more to know, more to discover. The sooner you get that you have to stop beating yourself down for not understanding the big picture, the quicker you'll start understanding the infinite picture.

You can't have everything you desire right now, so that you can practice an abundance of time and patience. I've been holding this investigation in my head about desires lately. What's the meaning of not receiving what we want right now, if our higher selves are in control of our lives, why would they not grant us our immediate desires? Isn't happiness the key to growth and love? But the thing is, we'd get what we want, but we wouldn't be able to savor it, to appreciate it to its full potential. Our inner time clocks are very short. We're not fully aware of our divinity, so we see life in a small way. We'd jump from desire to desire, consuming it without really getting as much out of it as possible. You'd say who cares about getting more out a desire? you simply want your desire. But look what happens if you have a desire and you're aware that you're eternal and that time does not exist. You could live in an average day the entirety of a week or a month. If you really understand the illusion of time, there's no such thing as hours or minutes or day you could fit what we now deem to be an ''hour'' an entire day worth of experience, beyond that an entire weeks worth of experience. How is that possible? it's only possible to understand when you really start to understand how time dissolves and how it really, but really does not exist. See how if you have that ability, you could savor your desire in a completely different and more fulfilled way, not only do you literally a hundred times more out of your desires, your experiences, but you can also move faster across your desires, the more time your pour into your life, the more time you have to enjoy a desire and get satisfaction out of it and move to an entirely new desire. Whereas before it would take you a year or 3 years to fully experience the extent of a big desire, it can now be done in a month for example. But that month, will be filled with 3 years of worth of time or even more if you can slow down your inner hourglass. In that way you can fit several lifetime's worth of experiences in one single lifetime. That is how you ascend as an immortal spirit in your reality, by stretching your time. And the sky is the limit, so I leave it up to your imagination. If you had all your desires right now, you wouldn't be able to practice an abundance of time, because you'd have nothing to wait for. If you have an intense desire and you long for it because you don't have it yet it's a perfect moment to practice an abundance of time. ''I am an immortal spirit, I live for billions of years, that desire will inevitably come to me in time.'' Then you might think : ''but I don't want to wait a billion years, I want it within this lifetime damn it!'' But then you're not identifying as an immortal spirit, if you have a billions of years to live, where's the rush? How can there be any rush? try to think about this. why rush yourself about any desire if you're immortal? The only possible hurdle is that you're not fully identified as being immortal.you don't fully believe yet you have a billion years to live. In order to realize that you are immortal, that can you live for a billion years, you need to be able to have the patience of a billion years. You have to be able to wait for something, as long as it takes. Whether it comes within this lifetime or the next. This doesn't mean your desires will come to you in the far future, on the contrary, the more patience you have, the more you're identified with your real identity, the more you ascend, the more powerful you become, so the quicker you will manifest what you what. that is what's so subtle about spirituality. The more you're willing to wait for something, the faster what you want will come to you. so that's what amazing about not receiving what you want right now, you actually get to reconnect with your immortality by practicing patience. but again, it doesn't mean you won't get what you want, the quicker you understand the lesson your higher self is trying to teach, and that is be patient,be immortal, the quicker you'll get what you want What helps is to see it in a concrete way : you're already immortal, what is simply is...so what is actually going on, what is the higher self trying to teach you? I think it's the constructs that we made in our mind. You're not going to change from mortal to immortal, but from a fake sense of time to your original divine sense of time. If we're already immortal what is identifying with a human lifetime? It's being aware of what a 60 or 100 years feels like. We're aware of it because we practice and base all our decisions around that amount of years. In order to reconnect with our immortality we have to be aware of immortality, aware of a million years, of billions, of infinity. You can only do that by practicing that sense of time with your decisions in your life. If you shift your view from a lifetime to a million years you'll reconnect with your immortality. So whenever you ''rush'' to do something, to get somewhere, to attain a desire, to catch a bus, whenever you feel rush or you rush yourself you're practicing a fake sense of time. Ask yourself this : 'Is this worth rushing for?is this worth stressing over'' ''How is this going to change my life over the course of a billion years?what makes it so important, that I, a being that lives for that long, have to rush myself at this moment?'' There's never ANY reason to rush for anything, ever. If you manage to practice this the next time you feel rush, in any sort, towards a desire, a destination a person, to simply calm yourself, get back at your own pace, you will rise spiritually very fast. Your 'own pace' , where you don't feel any stress, is your divine sense of time. When you feel like things go too slow, it's a distortion between your divine sense of time and your fake sense of time. Things feeling slow is very good, it means you're literally slowing down your inner clock and pouring more time into your life. The feeling of things going too slow is exactly what you feel when you're stretching your sense of time, just stick with the feeling, it will pass, and before you know it your days will feel longer.

We've all heard it before. ''You're perfect just the way you are.'' Well that doesn't change what is right? You're suffering, and you want it to stop right, being perfect doesn't change the fact that you suffer and that you're unhappy. So for those who like to be real let's see enlightenment in a concrete way. Why do you suffer? Because you do things that feel bad, things feel bad because they do not bring you closer to enlightenment, they not do follow the guidance of your higher self. Why do you do things that feel bad? Because you misinterpret your own feelings, you think you're doing something which makes you feel good, but in reality it's making you feel bad. It's not common for people in this society to not know what feeling good actually means anymore. And that's why so many people are lost. They think what they strive is making them feel good but it's not, it's making them feel like shit. So how do you know if something will make you feel bad or good? How do you get back in touch with your good feelings? First of all, anyone who is not enlightened is like a drug addict. Yes, a drug addict. It's time to get your ego's out of the way. Just like an alcoholic, or a drug addict, when they drink alcohol or take drugs they feel good. Is anyone going to deny that? They wouldn't be addicted to those substances in the first place if they didn't get a 'good feeling' out of it. Everyone who's not enlightened has their own form of drug addiction. It's confusing pleasure with actually feeling good. It's like the difference between the climate and the weather. You can live in a cold climate but have sunny days, but that doesn't change that you live in a cold climate. That's what pleasure is, it's like the weather, it comes and goes but it doesn't change the climate. Are you trying to change the weather or the climate? If you do something that makes you feel 'good' for a period, but it doesn't have permanent lasting effects on your mood long after the activity is done or worse you feel bad or crave it, then it's pleasure. It's addiction. It's not a good feeling. It's the weather. Do you want a sunny day in a cold climate or a entirely different climate altogether. A climate of joy and magic? Recognize when you're chasing the weather. And recognize those activities that change the entire climate. It requires paying attention to how you feel all the time. Let's say you visit a good friend that you love much. It goes well. You feel energized after the visit. That's a good vibe activity. Or you follow your passion, dancing or making music, programming, whatever it is, if you feel like the activity is having lasting-effects on your life and your mood long after it, positive lasting-effects then that's a real good feeling.

love the joy in your post! what better way to evolve spirituality then to do it with fun!

id like more discussion on this, to be no-thing. to not be a thing, well what is a thing? an object, a form, a body, a thought, I think what describes a thing is that it can perish. Temples get destroyed ,bodies age and die, emotions pass, thoughts pass,people come and go...I think the nothingness is what remains unshaken throughout all this. Our perception, our awareness is the only thing that is persistent. We've never not been aware. It's who we are. So to identify with simply being aware of things is to be nothing. To identify is to be content, to feel completely fulfilled just being aware, which requires the emptiness of ideas and desires we think are a part of us, but are not. Desires are an outward motions, ideas are expressions of ourselves, both are creations of ourselves,but if one wants to be happy he should not identify with his creations, but with himself, the creator. The awareness that creates. Ironically to ascend you have to let go of the creations you love and desire so much. It's sort of counter-intuitive because we want to create, we want to fulfill our desires. But perhaps before we can do that, we should first realize our identity as a creator, and that means putting ourselves before any sort of outward desire. To be nothing.

and you're still here after all that. you have to give yourself props, you're very powerful and wise, it's time to stand up and be who you really are.

There was once a gigantic titan, made completely of darkness, a darkness so deep and infinite. This giant desired one thing. To know itself better. So it created an eyeball, and placed it in the center of its being. This eyeball was made out of light. It started exploring and looking around. Discovering itself. The Titan created many more eyeballs and different types,because he wanted to see himself in new ways. So many eyeballs of light floated around in this gigantic being of darkness. the eyeballs explore in isolation but also together. At some point they start forgetting who they are. They look at the other eyeballs, and tell themselves ''well I must be an eyeball, just like that eyeball'. Then they look at the dark body and get scared. ''If I'm an eyeball, who's that?'' The eyeball forgets who it is. Keeps traveling with all it's other eyeballs in a quest not to explore, but to survive it's amnesia. Although they are lost, they are never alone, the organs of the Titan keep guidance over the eyeballs. Keeping them safe in the best way they can. For the eyeballs were never in a hostile territory. Merely an hostile perception. And they will keep being guided, till they find their way home, and start exploring once again.

children and babies are a tons more enlightened then their parents. If children prefer to play on their tablets then talk to us then we should take a look at ourselves. Do we have enough love in us when we talk to them?or we do talk to them merely to get something out of them? Children love nothing more then to play but if there's no one round that wants to play with they'll do their own thing. It's yet another ego thing to look at the state of our children, and dare to blame them. ''this generation is awful'' , how long has this stuff been sprouted been? Since the time of Plato. children are exceptional learners, they pick up on every idea and condition, the deepest subconscious beliefs of their parents. There are no secrets. Children are educated with your entire view of the world. If someone thinks they can keep a secret from a child they are ignorant. your kid will know exactly everything you think about the world through your energy waves.That's real education, education is done on energy level, not rules and punishment. everyone's heart is naked to those who are enlightened. Babies come to this world they are the most enlightened beings, so pure, so innocent, full of happiness and love, pick up on all the awful stuff in society and the world and grow rebellious, grow different then their parents, because they have to overcome the pains of their parents. But this is all ok, it's how it's supposed to play out. But one has to be able to not fall into the ego-trap of looking at the most innocent beings in the world and blame them for how they adapt to the mixed energies of society.

I fully believe you are right. I think over time when your spiritual vibration grows you'll be able to understand your plants more. But you noticing their presence shows that you're already in communication with them.

one of my vulnerabilities was my appearance, I used to think I was ugly.Nobody really attacked my self-esteem on that but I guess I was my own attacker. But people did use to shake me on one thing, not being very talkative. I'm not a talkative person, and that's not very ''normal'' in society, so people would point that out to me.6 years ago someone telling me I was silent would not only ruin my day but sent me right into an inner panic state where I felt completely rejected. A few months ago it would shake me, make me feel very uncomfortable and still rejected. Nowadays I realize not only is it fine, being not very talkative is who I am, it's my uniqueness, I don't care about talking to anyone if I don't feel like it, I speak all the time just with my presence and vibration. So you were bulied?

playing video games is an empty circumstance, if you feel fresh, if you feel better after playing a video game,if you feel like you learned something about yourself playing that game, then that video game is the right path to take. I used to have an intense connection to a game in this way when I was younger,I was learning about myself while playing the game. If you merely feel distracted, like you managed to find a way to pass another hour and not be bored then it's not really productive. but the video gaming in itself is neutral. Your higher self may want you to be playing video games or not, it's up to you to trust and accept the wisdom of your highest self and be honest with yourself about how you feel while playing

the path to enlightenment is infinite...what works for one may not work for another. If you have a good feeling listen to that good feeling

Have you ever seen the way another person seen the world? Have you ever heard the way another person hears sound? Have you ever perceived any meaning beyond your own? You are the one assigning meaning to everything in your own unique way. Your meaning is your unique energy. It's hard to get if you think we're all living on the same plane of reality. There's no such thing as a static ''common'' reality that we all share. Ever since getting on my spiritual path the way I see and hear the world has changed enormously, I live in a world that is a thousand times more divine then the one I was ''born'' in. The essence of reality changed, so I realized I'm the essence of my reality and I have no idea how others perceive the world. Your very own essence paints the 'empty world' in an unique way no one else does. We do not share the same vision of the world yet we can manage to live in the same world in complete harmony, it is when you see this, that you start to recognize the infinite intelligence in creation. You are here to assign meaning to things in a way that has never been done been before, with your unique energy and essence. An agent of infinity. A Branch of the tree of life. That's what we're all about. New things. Exploration. For me that is the meaning of life beyond self-actualization. It becomes very fun when you realize that you are creating your reality, everything you see is your creation, literally.

relationships can be completely devoid of expectations. your path on self-love is not ended yet. It's possible to live without any sort of expectations. That's called state of being. Being happy just to exist, to be you, that's self-love. There's nothing to receive. You can never experience the energy of someone else. You can only experience your interpretation of the energy of others but it's still your unique interpretation. Our unique energies are all-encompassing and gigantic, your own energy is all you can experience because that's all you are. You can't experience what you are not. all form of love is a an extension of self-love, all 'outside' love is a flavor of your state of being. This becomes very obvious to people that get depressed, the opposite of enlightenment, the void of self-love. Nothing feels fulfilling, not even other people, no circumstance...because there never was anything to receive. The more you love yourself, the more you get out of this world. You only get out of it what you put into it. You are the world, love yourself and the world will feel full of love. You are a being of unconditional love, how you can be unconditional if you expect to receive something? You cannot be yourself if you're expecting anything outside yourself to fulfill you. How can one function without expecting anything?It's a long process. empty all expectations one by one. Practice your state of being. Boredom is a feeling of state of being. When you feel bored you're feeling your state of being.But in a distorted way. You should be able to completely happy and fulfilled by yourself without any circumstance. You could be sitting on a chair if you wanted for an hour doing nothing and not be bored one bit. Boredom is exactly that, it's the expectation for the outside world to fulfill us. If you feel boredom in your life you still have a lot of self-love to give to yourself. Tell yourself it's alright, you don't need to do anything to be completely happy.Not single thing. Just 'being' should be enough to feel complete. That's the real self-love.

the path is very long, you still have many steps to take that will blow your mind at every way...life is meaningless. Not really, everything but you is completely meaningless yes. circumstances are empty. But you are the one assigning meaning to these things. You are the creator. So life is not completely meaningless, it's just that you have to assign the meaning to it. It's a big responsibility, but once you get it it's very freeing.

Hello I want to share what helped me get more in touch mental work on the level of beliefs. How does one change beliefs?When trying to get more enlightened there might be certain concepts we have a tough time believing in, letting sink in our reality. I'd like to share how I see it. Belief cannot be fabricated or altered, a change of belief is a change of focus of your entire being. One will not believe in something that he/her does not consider is beneficial for them. One will only believe in something that will bring positive change in their live. So belief is automatic, effortless. When you recognize a belief that will actually help you advance, you will automatically start believing in it. It's not something that can be controlled. Knowing that belief is effortless is the key to believing. Let's say you get in touch with a belief and you feel like ''hm, I want to believe in that''... the change already happened. You're believing. Why would you desire believing something if you didn't already believe in it? That's the way you can detect you're believing something. Thoughts are the product of belief, the second your thoughts change to ''how should I believe in this'' the belief change was already made. So that is how I recognize my belief changes. If you desire to believe in something, you're already believing in it. But we do long for something. We think we long for us to start believing in the belief. But since we already believe what we actually long for is the belief to take root in our reality. To manifest inside our reality. That's when the understanding of what believing is gets more subtle. One should see belief as a gradient. It can start as a small flame, and the more you kindle it, the bigger it grows, till it takes root in your reality, till it becomes 'knowing'. Which at that stage has huge effect on our realities. It's important to recognize this gradient and what we actually want. The mistake I used to make and that I know many others do as well is to misidentify what's going on with their beliefs. They desire to believe more and think they're actually not believing yet. They immediately want to feel this ''switch'' to knowing, they want to immediately feel the effects of believing or they will doubt that they're actually believing. This doubt that you're actually believing makes the belief process very slow or can even corrupt your belief, since you could be constantly introducing negative thoughts to yourself that you're not actually believing. When you are, but it's just a small flame, and you might have not realized that belief grows across a gradient, it's not a switch. So when you realize that your very desire to believe in something is living proof that you're already believing into that something, you can relax and let the process unfold. There's nothing to do, you're already believing. And the more you let go, the more you will believe. it's wonderful how effortless believing is. it's very comforting to realize you can change beliefs this easily. just sit back, watch the flame grow, till it overtakes your reality

terrific, people are beings of energy, they're connected to their higher selves, connected to their lower selves. There are infinite levels to a being, that's why each time you grow spiritually you see people in a new light. and you start to realize there's no end, there never was such a static thing like ''people'', they are not absolute ,static, they are incredible energetic beings bursting of infinity. and the more your clarity grows, the more new things you'll discover about people.the more you know yourself, the more you know others. they are not a body, that's ridiculous, they're beings that span across entire dimensions, people are infinitely interesting

physical laws exist because we allow them to, so that we as spiritual beings can explore infinity in a certain context. We are not bound to anything, we are infinity. There are dimension where civilizations live with different laws. That's the point of a dimension. In the dimension itself there can be rules and laws. But that doesn't mean these laws are universal. If the collective consciousness agrees to change a certain law, that law will change. When we dream we have access to dimensions that are more fluid, where you can fly, appear ,dissapear.dreaming is being in another dimension

Even bad advice can be interesting...I've watched teachings where I felt like ''nope this is not for me''...so did I waste my time? Not really,I discovered more about who I was, by discovering who I am not. One needs to keep a wide view. You may have heard bad advice, but did certain words make you remember something, did it bring up a certain feeling or memory? The ''bad advice'' can be act,and behind the acts there can be things at play that are actually helping you. Not a single second of life is wasted or devoid of meaning. That's how powerful our journey is. there are lessons to be learned in everything, in every moment. it's up to us to be open to this meaning, even in things we consider 'not worthy'' , like hearing bad advance or seeing a trashcan on a the street. What's the point of seeing a trashcan on the street?how does that help one in their spiritual journey? you'd be damn surprised. Infinity is infinity, it's magnitude is just so....that's why it's important to keep an open mind at all times. Be noble, there are infinite ways in which life can teach you something, do not stop at the surface.

wonderful,that's exactly what I'm doing lately. Surrender to the higher self...the moment we stop looking for what we want we're leaving the task of bringing our desires to us to our higher self. It's a matter of huge trust in your higher self. Your higher self, you, you can attract anything you want in life. The word 'attract' is very interesting, it doesn't imply grasping, reaching for something.... Things literally come to you. And it's a hard thing to understand because we lack the imagination to understand how every single one of our desires could come to us without us having to think or do a simple thing. That's where the trust in your higher self comes in, the belief in your own power. When you're not looking, you're letting the higher self go to work.That's why she talks about being ''directionless''. To grasp or reach for something is to go in a direction, when you do that you're not attracting, when you're thinking about a desire and trying to find ways to get to it you're letting the desire overtake your state of being, you're literally being attracted to a desire. That's not the point, doesn't work. It's important to realize when you do such a thing so that you can go back to being ''directionless''. When you're like that you're attracting every single desire you want at the same, all of your desires are being attracted. That's why she talks about 'directionless' direction, when you're not looking for anything, you're pulling everything you'll ever want in your direction. If one can realize and see the enormous..the absolutely gigantic inefficiency of trying to go by in your life reaching for one or two desires at one time, focusing on a few desires,trying to get there by yourself, if you could see that by doing that you are ignoring all the thousands of desires you do not even know about, you cannot even imagine yet, but you're also not using the powers of your higher self, you'd have to spend enormous amounts of energy and time just to achieve those few desires by yourself and that's not even guaranteed...you'd simply stop. It's absurd. It's not about conceding our desires. I guess it's about being patient and releasing the gratification of thinking about our desires.When one starts to practice this, you can feel how real imagination is, because letting go of the thinking about a certain desire can be very hard.Like getting rid of an addiction. One could say that the message is to ''stop looking for what you want''. I prefer to see the message as ''start looking for everything you'll ever want''. directionless direction - or - attraction , don't settle for a few desires, settle for everything you'll ever want, attract things inside and also far beyond this reality, work with your higher self

your very presence is healing to people, people understand you perfectly but the communication happens on a deeper level, the higher you raise your vibration, the more you're able to help the collective consciousness advance, in a sense we're all helping everyone just by being ourselves. What's also important is to not look down on the exploration of others. I've been struggling with that a bit, so I appreciate this topic. Others are on their own way to spirituality, at their own pace. One does not need to actively practice spirituality, most people try to know themselves better in their own way. They'll advance slower and over multiple lifetimes, there are infinite ways to enlightenment, do not get trapped in thinking we're better because we found this way. It's important to keep the ego at bay at all times. We are beings of love, and we do not look down on someone else because they are slower. In a sense accepting the slower pace of others is accepting who you were,it's accepting the suffering we went through. I've found that when I had difficulty accepting how general society actually is, it wasn't about the state of society, it was about the suffering that I went through when I lived like society, I had difficulty to accept my own suffering. it all points back to you when people feel you really have zero issues with them, that you accept them in every single way they are,the good and the bad, they will be overflowed with love, they will willingly listen to your words, but they have long been listening to your love already