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I would say to focus on intensity. Doesn't matter what you feel, just make your experience intense. Like in anger or extasy, put all you have into it. Sit focused like you would want to kill a man right now. Sit in a so intense manner that people are afraid to come by.

I am amazed that it has triggered you guys and can't disagree more with what you are saying. I think you are misunderstading what this list is. It's not a set of rules that one has to neurotically comply with, but guidelines that make you aware where your interaction is going and how to alter it's direction. It's a basic chimp stuff and it will happen to you whether you like it or not. People do these things unconsciously. Knowing the tricks, you can act in adequate manner when someone is using them on you. It's not only an offensive tool, but also defensive.

@Ilya Ego tries many different things to avoid getting hurt. I think you are lying to yourself. If you didn't want a girlfriend you wouldn't be here asking this question. Drop the narration and see what's left. That is what you really want. Don't tell me what it is, don't write it here, but answer for yourself.

No sugar, no processed foods - that's what you aim for. How to know if something is good for you? You put it into your mouth and observe your body's performance during whole day. You see good results, you repeat and observe effects over the course of weeks. That's the best option imo, to do it mindfully. Research Dr. Gregers Daily Dozen or yogis' diets to get the idea of what is good food.

Thanks for pointing out. I have used wrong word here, changed to "permission", now it has a slightly different meaning.

You know, the moment that desire to have a girlfriend is wasting more of your time than actually getting one is the moment you take action and go for it. Having a girlfriend is fun. If the self-development journey is not giving you enough fulfillment yet (and it's not as I see it from the very fact that you are asking this question), then a girlfriend is exactly what you need. There's no point in making life a torture, so if your life is dull right now I would say go and find yourself a partner. As to how, I find old materials of Leo very useful. He points out there the most common problems guys have: being needy; not going out and being social; not approaching women; difficulty talking to women; not being immediately sexual enough; not taking the lead; not closing the deal; and having a bad text game. Contemplate and work on those and everything will turn out naturally. You don't need to perfect at all of those, but the more, the higher your chances.

Drop the narration and stop creating problems.

Yes, I want to become a millionaire. Not to have a fancy lifestyle, but to be able to live distraction-free, not to worry about a crappy job and being able to execute on my life purpose, whatever it turns out to be.

@Ilya That's what I do. Self-inquiry > meditation. Distinction between them isn't sharp for me, it feels really like I am (not)doing both at the same time. Maybe you can relate. I think self-inquiry IS meditation, it's just more demanding than mindfulness, so it's hard to do it 8 hours straight, that's why I believe there are other techniques. 1 hour Strong Determination Sitting is easier than 30 minutes of Self-inquiry IMO.

I vouch for endmyopia.org. It feels more legit than other methods. Obviously in the beginning it was a lot like a scam, but that's how you do it, people are lazy and constantly distracted, so you need to cheat them a little bit, promise too much, so they start taking action. It's called marketing. The truth is that the field of treating myopia is seriously underresearched, because other methods are kind of working and profitable, so there is no incentive. Get used to a lot of bullshit when looking for a natural solution. It's a field full of dogma, stupid ideas and trickery. Almost like spirituality, so a lot of people here is already used to that. Rule of thumb is to test everything yourself, after you check if it's safe. I see many analogies between curing myopia and other illnesses. I think it's possible, but very demanding, like cleaning up a diet to reverse heart disease, you need to change your daily habits to improve vision. That's why only a few people succeeds. It's hard to achieve in our modern times. Myopia is just an adaptation to closeup environment.

Learn how to make them interested in what you are going to say. It's possible to manipulate people (and I don't mean that in a bad way), but you need to ask yourself: is that really what I want, or is it just a neurotic behaviour?

Man, you are contradicting yourself. Contemplate.

In my experience 75ug is almost like nothing. Like a cup of coffee. It's not even comparable to higher doses. I would only take it if I wanted to meditate all day, but not trip and needed that extra boost of awareness to start off.

@Orange I just ask myself how do I feel compared to the day before. Better or worse? By how much? It's totally biased, but fun, so I do it anyways

Weekly update: 20.11.17 #38 = I am ok mood-wise, but feel somewhat unproductive. But it's improving. Diet is ok. I get angry at people for now reason. I feel more and more energy flowing through the body. Whatever it means. NOTE TO MYSELF: I would like to contemplate more. 19.11.17 #37 = I am feeling weird today. More conscious, less productive A lot of neurosis is like coming out. I focus on stiffness of my body and try to let it go. I also try to allow everything as it is. 4-HO-MiPT is interesting to research. But I have a few lysergamides to go. I will start doing maths. My mind gets clear sometimes. It's cool. I keep on eating healthy stuff. 18.11.17 #36 + Did some work. Ate healthy. Longest and deepest talk with Stefan ever, over 5 hours of talking. 17.11.17 #35 + I over ate on vegies and fruits. It seems to still be below recommended calorie intake. 16.11.17 #34 + Got rid of plaster. Today is a great day! I am happy to start training again. Slowly. Ate pretty clean today. I will take injections for a week more. 15.11.17 #33 = I am feeling anti-social today, still I have a willingness to talk with people. I have become kind of neurotic, a lot of uncontrolled behaviour and nervousness. Today I have eaten: one yoghurt, one sandwich, one mincemeat cutlet, one portion of rice, one carrot - I am starting cleaning up my diet. 14.11.17 #32 + I have had this cool feeling of meditation passing by super quickly I ate fatty sweets and felt bad. Body tries to teach something the mind. I started The Natural pua course again. I think I will go more private and post only interesting stuff here from now on.

Why has this conversation even started? It's so stupid. What I mean: to have a couple you need a man and a woman, right? So when a girl finds a guy easily isn't it also the same for the guy she's with? Woman to man ratio is close to 1:1, so for every @Hardkill that has dating hard, there's also a girl that feels the same. It just can't be the other way.

You did like shit. Is that what you wanted to hear? But it's cool that you write it down. I actually regret not having written a report after every night I went out on. Because I suck now more than in the beggining and there were times when I was doing pretty good. You know, the thing is to feel that magic of approaching, then it becomes like a breeze. Good mood and setting are a must if you are not extraverted. I recommend doing a warm up and training game everyday in front of mirror, it will help with fear of approaching and not knowing what to say later on in a conversation.

@sgn This website works. Just select American IP and you are good to go.

And mastery and success comes from having a meaningful life purpose. Searching for a life purpose is not sitting on a butt, waiting for a miracle to happen, but taking focused action towards this goal. We are talking about the same thing.

Most people haven't even started, so what do they have to stop? Any approach to finding life purpose is good as long as it brings results. I would say don't search for passion, but look for a life purpose that can eventually make you passionate about life the most. Stopping pursuit altogether isn't the brightest idea, because then you can simply fall into default postion and waste even more of your life.

I have noticed that when I try to eat slower and more consciously then I eat less and feel more full. Not mindfull, but full in stomach Bringing consciousness into eating is worth it. The same goes for conscious pooping, conscious sex and any other basic need, because they occupy a hefty portion of our lifes, so bringing awareness into them gives a solid foundation to mindfullness practice. If you are living like that a profund insight can struck you any time, even during taking morning poop or brushing teeth.

Yup, that's it. No wonder you feel dead inside. When you build an armor around you, then not only no one can hurt you, but also you can't absorb any emotions you need to thrive. Emotions are like food for the soul. I feel the same as you, my whole body is stiff. I try to work on it by using psychedelics, trying to clean my diet and reading books about different forms of theraphy. Nofap is useful, but doesn't solve this problem at all. I am still figuring out what works, so I can't really tell you any practical advice. Just sharing a few words to let you know you are not alone.

@Shanmugam in my opinion you are just afraid that people treat Sadhguru's words like someone on blue level of Graves' Spiral would do. That means treating it as an absolute truth based only on authority and desire to know better than others. That's not the case, most people on these fofum are either on level orange or higher. On the other hand, your opinions are totally orange-biased, you are acting like this stereotypical indian IT guy, who came to america and now calls bullshit on spirituality, because bussiness is what runs the world, reality is material and meditation is only a relaxation exercise. You know, it's not about believing if Sadhguru is saying truth or not, but being open to those paranormal phenomenas being possible.

@Elisabeth Creativity is important in almost any career. You wouldn't develop a damn thing without a spark of it. No iPod, no iPhone, no breakthroughs in Math. Every scientist needs to be creative in his or her research in order to discover something profound. Also, I believe so many people want to become PD teachers, because that's what the world lacks. On the otherside it can be an excuse for lazy people to avoid learning some useful specialized skills and just say: "Ohh, I will stick with personal development", so I get your point. But the average can be WAY higher.

Fruits. All kinds of fruits.