Girzo

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  1. I would say the best option is to be serious and dedicated about achieving enlightment and at the same time to be fully aware of pointlessness of all these efforts. Sounds paradoxical at first, but it's totally attainable. These are the conditions in which I fell growth the most. And yeah, Osho's teachings are very much in that style, so if someone likes this perspective, I recommend reading some of his books.
  2. 19 Watching Actualized.org for 2.5 years.
  3. Finding a life purpose. Less doing, more being.
  4. Then I would suggest to make friends with people who ride to other cities on weekends to party and go with them, so you can do pickup in larger city.
  5. It is worth buying a self-esteem boost and going out into the city to cold approach. Why are you sticking so much to online dating? It's mainly used to only hook up and many girls there just play games, not interested in anything. Learn non-needy perception when it comes to girls, learn how to be funny and do the thing that is the most emotionally difficult (online dating vs. real-life pickup) <<< Leo has a video for every of these topics.
  6. I almost never talk about that in social situatations, for me it's lame and boring (it's called self-developmnet for a reason, you should keep it for yourself), but got the idea that this is what OP wants by seeking for a "wiser women", so I tried to discuss the topic from that angle. BTW, Antonio, how old are you?
  7. Develop yourself to the level where you don't mind going out with people who are less or even far less self-developed. Also, I wouldn't be so fast to judge girls who hang out at clubs and bars to be "simple-minded", in most cases it's just the setting and mood that makes them look like that, they are like that just because they are seeking fun that night. And yes, in the clubs you won't find many girls who are into meditation, personal development, etc., but it's not a fault of that place, they're hard to find anywhere. Also, a party is not a place to talk about such things, so many girls will show no interest in talking about personal development, just because they don't want to waste the night talking about life, they want to forget about their everyday life instead. Do you have a higher chance of striking "the right kind of girl" somewhere else? Probably. Is that chance much higher? Not that much. Have you ever tried cold approach during the day? I think this would work for you. This and patience.
  8. The biggest advantage of digital notes over handwritten ones is that you can just do ctrl + f and dig through them really fast. But I still prefer doing everything on paper.
  9. But why do you want to change country you live in? What new opportunities will it give you? Is that because you love learning languages or studying foreign cultures or maybe something completly different?
  10. Hi Leo and all the community there! I know that you probably don't have time for shooting that, since it's not an usual video format, but I think it's an interesting idea that's worth looking at it. To the point, what do you think about making a few short videos that cover briefly some topics like mindfullness, inquiry or creating habits? The idea is that you can watch those videos on the go on your phone from start to the end and then contemplate the topic that was discussed in the video. A video that is few minutes long and puts you in the right contemplative mood. Example ideas: video about dealing with strong emotions to watch right after harsh argument with somebody video about mindfullness to watch when you are waiting in long queue and getting bored video that contains few points about some difficult topic and provides a good start for a contemplation sesssion, when you're for example on the walk video with dating advice to watch when you approach girls on the street and the anxiety starts to eat you up etc.