Shunpei

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  1. This distinctly reminds me of the story of Arjuna from the Bhavagad Gita. Whether you do or don't, it'll be a choice you'll ultimately have to come to. I have to agree with egoimaei about forgiveness, not to say you need to forgive him now. Remember, if it does come down to it, and you do decide to give, there will be huge internal consequences on your part without confronting it first. How you confront it has to be up to you. Either way, whatever pain is born from this, this will be a learning experience for you and your brother. So whether you answer yes or no, you (probably) can't go wrong... probably. Another thing to also keep in mind is that you do not owe anyone anything, not even your own brother. If the relationship breaks down because you said "no, I'm not ready to forgive you yet" well, maybe the question then is: were the last two years of your relationship with him simply built on bullshit, ego-driven means of a "reconciliation"? It's expected he reacts angrily, or even hatefully. Most people, even those into self-development, don't really get the concept of love or forgiveness at a deep level. The question then is, are you willing to be okay with that? Would your own integrity be compromised by "giving in" to family expectations? Would that even be your own decision to give him your kidney? Good luck to you bro, hope you come to an answer.