Lobo

One of Leo's most popular videos is the one titled -How to stop caring what others think of you?- in fact that is the video that introduced me to his content. When I first watched that video one and a half years ago it re-energized me and I was ready to use this knowledge to better my life, but I was not expecting immediate results. I became icy and I really did not care about making friends with everybody. What I noticed was that most the girls paid more attention to me and more guys took me seriously, I kept that attitude going for a couple of weeks, but much later I fell back into being needy again. (It was miserable) Again another school year begins this time I decide to be extra nice (extroverted), care for everyone. This guise of mine didn't last very long because no one was paying attention to me. But one day I arrived extra icy, caring very little about what people thought of me. Again I got more attention and respect. This lasted for a couple more weeks and then I went back to my usual self. I know Leo emphasized on affirmations and how they help change the way you think, do they really work? Is there another possible technique I could apply? And whenever you guys are needy, how do you get back on track? PS -While typing this I noticed that my although my intention should be to stop caring of what others think of me, I am still using the technique to get attention from others. This is kind of contradictory to the purpose of this excercise, is this "need" deeply lodged into me psychologically changable?

I see ego as a refraction of how you interpret how other people see you. The development of a personality is a confusing process in which you yourself are looking for confirmation of who you are with other people providing it to you; with the way they look at you, interact with you, and what they expect of you. However the confirmation you receive from others could easily be misinterpreted by you. The way you are treated during childhood or during a prolonged period of time or even the way you are treated by someone you hold so dear could easily change your original personality.