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Well, start by being honest, so she can get far away from you (more than the distance you already have). She will wonder how her looks can now over ride the feelings you supposedly had for her, she will be confused. She will be heartbroken. Looks fade, ppl gain weight, their shape changes over time.... it's just the way it is. Some women can hold on to their beauty longer then others. Anyways, good luck

Oops, never mind

@orpheos Did u read my post? You can do what I said while undressing him slowly.

@MAYA EL OMG, LOL....? Anyways, the one tip is you can try to remember: kiss, lick, suck, then start with kissing his lips and work to the ear, neck, chest, abdomen, etc, etc... using one or more of the combo: kiss, lick, suck!

@Shakazulu I don't agree that society has made things awkward between men and women, that's why I asked, how so? Btw, I'm not here to purify my life/personal development. Anyways, just do you. If you don't jive with someone, then just move on. Why force it? If you make it all about looks, you will probably miss out on some great women.

How so? How can anyone tell you why you started? Yep, on one level or another. So, just move on.

Okay, in that case, they are in a mutual agreement for just sex and you'd be using each other. So, that's fine to me. Imo, if they aren't aware of your "just sex" motives, yes. Detrimental to their emotional well being if they thought it was more then just sex. All your other examples of using are mental, not physical, so not the same to me. Theres a vulnerability to getting naked and having sex that doesnt exist in the strictly mental realm. What I meant by immature was that using others physically strictly for sexual self gratification, that isn't mutually agreed on upfront , is not too mature in my eyes, regardless if you're 17 or 37.

Hm, for you to have sexual abundance means that most likely you will be just "using" high school girls for your own sexual pleasure. Perhaps they want more? Then what? You just wanting sex? Sounds immature and potentially hurtful for girls that you hook up with.

I rarely read long posts, but I read yours and it was interesting. I think you need to stop the energy drinks (which you know), diet pop has less caffeine, maybe switch to that? If you have a tendency to anxiety, then high caffeine is no good (I'm a nurse too). It can also cause moodiness in my opinion. Also, maybe there has been too much in life grabbing for your attention for you to have a clear, calm mind to be able to focus on spirituality fully. It's okay, just figure out what is the major distractions and work on them in such a way that it gives some peace of mind, less agitation is the goal here. I don't pretend to know what's best for you, but good job on the sobriety. Keep up the good work and make other changes that will allow you to focus better and have peace. Sometimes things just take a little while to work themselves out and when they have run their course they die out. Good luck.

Unless, his mother is verbally abusive over the phone, then distance doesnt matter, unfortunately. This was my case.

Hi, I didn't read any other responses. I have first hand experience with this as well, except the verbal/emotional abuse I suffered happened when my alcoholic mother would be drunk, not when sober. Regardless, it sucked and I also got tired of it. 3 times I cut her out of my life for several years, but something always made me go back (for example, her spouse had a massive stroke and became quadriplegic). Anyways, at the end, I cut her out again and 2 years later she got very sick (I won't go into what happened) and I had to talk to her again, which I did. She had a turn for the worst and died 3 days later. It's been a complete relief to not have to think about her anymore. Only someone suffering at the hand of their own mother will understand that comment. Good luck.

The "apparent" person is the required apparatus needed to have any experiences. You can not see, smell, taste, hear, feel or think without it.

Yes!

That's good, keep it up. The realizations will come, when they come. Practice helps. If the mind gets too busy, just know you are the witness of the business, not the business itself. Ps, im also a Gemini.

A million years ago, my very first job when I was 15 was at a McDonalds. The nice thing about it is they are very good with training ppl and as long as you pay attention and follow the rules you will be just fine. One person got fired when I was there but he got caught giving away free food to his friends, so don't do that! Good luck!

>>>What's wrong with living an unconscious life?<<< Not a damn thing. Many even awaken and go back to sleep for awhile...or lifetimes, but once your head is in the tigers mouth it's only a matter of time until there's no turning back.

Interesting!

The beauty of meet-up groups is that many ppl will talk to you and try to get to know you, even if just a bit, because you are doing the meet-up also. Especially with the smaller scale activities like the one I did. Think there were approx.12 women that went on that day. What ethnicity are you? If you want to say? Anyways, white ppl are no better, or worse really, then anyone else. I wouldn't worry about the whole white/not-white thing.

Cool beans! I tried one once last year, it was a meet-up for women to meet friends or just meet-up with other women to do a fun/interesting activity. It was fun. Anyways, my sister did a few of the singles meet-ups before and liked it. There's everything from doing a bar "crawl" with others, to hiking, painting, outdoor activities of all kinds, etc, etc depending on your area and what groups are established.

Ever try a meet-up group? https://www.meetup.com/cities/gb/

There's nothing wrong with meditation, so long as you don't expect it to do something it can not do. If you like it and want to keep up the practice, then either split the time or do one practice one day and the next day the other. Im not a meditator, in a decade I've probably meditated 10 times, maybe.

Haha!? Thanks. Id rather not get all involved answering anything else in this thread. No offense, but posting takes a lot out of me and I have to work in the morning. Plus, have a newish job, so won't be posting. See ya peeps!

Hm, I go back and reread and see you've added this insult. Again, you DO NOT know me.

@Leo Gura It's obvious you think you're right. I don't agree with you, so it is what it is.