Ananta

>>>Too skinny: unattractive. Too thick: unattractive. There's a quite narrow interval which is just perfect. <<<< Sure sounds picky to me! (From your thread) what I mean by pointing this out is that you called women picky. Well, you are also.

Omg @Mikael89 isn't this your thread about how "picky" you are about women's attractive or unattractive legs? Lol. Stop blaming women!!! You have social anxiety, you don't talk to women in-person and you're picky, that's your problem.

They are either not halfway decent looking, have a shitty personality or have social anxiety like you do.

A half way decent looking guy (average), with a halfway decent personality, without social anxiety or neurosis, thats not looking for a flippin super model "hot" chick. Can and do find girlfriends, all the time.

Or the emotional connection just sorta happens, then they freak out. Oh God, you don't have the perfect body or legs...shit, crap, I need to find a "hot" girl (a 9 or 10). Even though I'm an average Joe with social anxiety or some other neurosis!!! Lol I have absolutely no empathy for any of it. (I'm not really referencing the OP specifically now)

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Nice! thank you! I will definitely consider this. I usually count calories when trying to lose weight, but that hasn't (prior to my illness) been working too well lately. I like salads and fruits so I could do what he's saying. Guess what would be most difficult would be cooking for someone else what I cant eat.

@Rujan Mehar Bajracha >>>Am I too young for enlightenment<< I think it depends on the "apparent" person. Ramana Maharshi was just 16 or 17. Some say though that the ego must be fully developed, before you can transcend it.

If you don't feel deserving of this "hot" girl it will be difficult, not impossible, to attract, then if you get her it will take effort to keep her, because a "hot" girl is always getting hit on (even pumping gas). So, just be up for the challenge, that's all...or lower your standards a bit.

That came from his wordage..."attractive girls/hots girls" , not just GIRLS. But, girls obviously out of his league, otherwise this wouldn't be an issue!

Perhaps, even if not true. Carry on...

Well, actually, it's easy to spot. I'd say that if your not comfortable your aiming too high (out of your league). You obviously don't feel deserving and yes, it will show. So, simply stop aiming so high, problem solved.

@DrewNows Oh, okay

Well, he said, "I absolutely love her personality. She's perfect in that way."

@LordFall your not understanding that what I'm saying is going off what HE said about her looks. Why is she his GF if he doesnt think shes very pretty and looks are that important. See? I don't make looks equal to personality. I had a BF in junior high that was not very attractive (lol), but his personality was the bomb, so it didnt matter much to me.

Probably not a great idea and I think you know this, that's why you started the thread, so someone says, "for God's sake, noooooo!!!" He's an ex for a reason. Put yourself back in the emotional place you felt when it wasnt working and ask, do you really want to go through that again? Of course, you can try, but I will say the heartbreak you feel may be two-fold this time if it doesnt work. It's up to you.

And, what I think would be really wrong would be for you to string her along for months, because you love her personality, then eventually end it, because of something regarding her looks. Just my female 2 cents!

@LordFall I meant, if looks "over-ride" everything else, then....let her go She deserves a guy that will love her as a total package! If it's not him, so be it.

Looks fade... personality doesnt. You need to decide what's more important to you. If its looks, then let her go find someone that "will" think she's very pretty and love her the way she deserves to be loved. ...she probably wouldn't want to be with someone that doesnt think she is good enough for them or should I say, I wouldn't.

James Swartz

Don't be opinionated and judgemental yourself and the opinions and judgements of others wont bother you so much.

Correct! It just "feels" like it.

Just plaster your car with....

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