Ananta

Exactly! ...and those are the ones my comment was aimed towards. *sighs* This is one of the issues I have with it. My issue isn't the approaching itself, it's the mentality, and how it seems it's mainly to put a notch in the bed post of how many hot chicks they can pick up and sleep with. For the ones really looking for a relationship, well great! Ain't that the truth! Also, for the guys on here saying women in general only want asshole, bad boys that treat them like shit, thats just not true. Its not true for me and I've known a lot of women and a lot of couples and like I said, its not true. I'd say it's a small percentage of emotionally damaged women that want that.

Yes, this is how I see it also. First there were mountains, then no mountains, then mountains again. ......... From the ox herding stages- "The practice does not stop at emptiness. If we attach ourselves to emptiness, it could lead to separation and isolation. So we have to go one stage further, reentering the world where “having forgotten ourselves, we are enlightened by all things.” https://tricycle.org/magazine/ten-oxherding-pictures/ ............... "Wisdom is knowing I am no-thing, Love is knowing I am every-thing, and between the two my life moves. Nisargadatta Maharaj

Lol!

Don't forget candles ??

Sweet! I did this too, just for a short time. I would've stayed, I worked in-patient and loved it, but went on night shift and my body couldn't deal with nights. I would like this I think, sounds cool. Ah, you like living on the edge, lol. I quit my first 2 nursing jobs without another job lined up, but quickly had another job, because I wasn't picky and i was a new grad so they didn't have to pay me top wages back then. How you managed not being out of work for 1 day though is very impressive. Human resource alone with all the red tape, usually messes that up, for me at least. Thanks for your reply?

Good for you, really, so many guys (this forum is proof) are clueless. That exercise may be eye opening for ones that are open to a new perspective.

@Shiva You betcha! @Nickyy This is true!

@Shiva Thanks! Here is the thing, this is new to me. The leadership stuff, because as home care coordinator, that I use to be, it wasn't really a leadership/manager job, just administrative. The administrator (top dog) of this company just came to me and offered me the job. I didn't have to build any skills, lol. I was actually a bit surprised. I have an extrovert, a bit perfectionist type personality, but like my alone time and can also go with the flow too. I don't know how this will turn out. I'm hoping good and that I'll like it, but that's yet to be seen. Good luck to you also!!!

Thank you! They have still been looking for a nurse to replace me, before a transition to my new leadership role, but I got a call last night that it might be happening soon. Fingers crossed.?

Haha. Yeah, the energy suckers. They will suck the life out of you!

??? I heard this song 50 million times when my son was little!

Yeah, there's a balance you need to find with the compliments, texting, etc. You don't want too much or too little, ...more like a happy medium. Pretty much all things that can be desired are like this... (ie, eat too much good food and get fat, smother your GF and she runs). Too much of a good thing, is a bad thing, eventually.

Yup! She might find it cute for, um, a whole 2 weeks, then she would get sick of it quickly. Women don't even like their own children hanging all over them constantly, let alone a grown man.

Yup, as a matter of fact, "everything" is spontaneously generated, even thinking one "does or doesn't" have free-will. Whatever spontaneously arises is equal to determinism, because as you rightly said, there is no-doer, but "maybe" one doesn't have to act on every thought that arises. Perhaps, that's where freedom may come in, if there is such a thing at all. The reason I say it like that is because, say I think, "I want ice cream", then I think, "no no, I will exert my free-will and not have the ice cream". Who's to say free-will actually happened? vs. Just a spontaneously arising decision which equals determinism, see? This knowledge doesn't get one off the hook for personal responsibility though. We still must always try to do the most appropriate action, speech, etc in the moment or suffer the consequences, why?? Because that's the way this universal manifestation with its physical/psychological laws and rules has been set up.

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Damn, I was going to post this! But, seriously, OP stop giving in to your every wim or you won't get far. Fake it until you make it! This means act "as if" you aren't needy and clinging. Don't give in to these insecurities and get a hobby to occupy your time, so a GF isn't your "everything" or she will run away from you.

Hehe, happens to the best of us, it's okay Humor is a good!

@Beginner Mind Yes, ok, I made an edit to my post. You must not have seen it.

He wasn't booted, he left. He wasn't banned I mean. At least, in his last post he said he was leaving. Edit: I just went back to read the exchange, guess the disagreement was such that he really couldn't have stuck around.

Oh no, what's that supposed to mean? Hope it's not what it sounds like.... Hey, I'm game for some hot tubbing and salsa dancing... well, I don't know how to salsa dance, you will have to lead. https://tenor.com/view/dancing-dog-gif-3985063

Hahaha! Gurrllll, yes, love em' ?

@Beginner Mind You're welcome

Hi @Beginner Mind, I'd advise you to not put it in your profile, once you are chatting with someone and if they already like you, then bring it up, if you still want too. Give yourself a chance first though, putting it in the profile would be like shooting yourself in the foot. Ppl are more apt to be understanding once they already like you/are interested in you. It won't be dishonest not to say that upfront, that's personal information and one isn't privy to that sorta info, until they earn the right to be...or that's my opinion.?

"Now" is all there ever is. When ppl refer to "no time", they are referring to the "psychological sense of time" that we create in our minds. We imagine the past (show me the past right now?) and imagine a future. We do this to solidify ourselves (small self, little me) in the mind as a separate entity.