Ananta

@Mindfang413 I think at this point non-duality isn't going to help the situation. You are fully convinced you are a suffering person. So, I'd say, go get that suffering person some professional help, before you do something stupid. When in the dream, if someone's dream house catches fire, you don't tell the person the house isn't real, no. You hand them a pail of dream water.

Maybe the men you've experienced so far have been like this, but not "all" men are like this... that's all I'm saying. Any time ppl talk in absolutes about a group of ppl it's usually not accurate.

I'd be careful to try not to stereotype.

Actually, if I don't orgasm for 5 or more days, then I'm very capable of at least 3 orgasms in a row

Congrats! Just act normal and have fun. ?❤

I am an organ donor. When the physical body will no longer be used by you, why not donate it's parts to help fix other bodies? My dad was just telling me yesterday at Thanksgiving about a 17 yr old male who got a double lung transplant and survived. He survived because he had a donor that was willing to donate.

Your a pro at that...not me.

Exactly! ❤

Aww, ty so much❤ Hope it helps.

Me too, so clear and direct!

Here we go again... *yawns*

So, you speak for the "majority" of men here? And how many guys do you speak to on this topic? Well, that's just not true. My son's girlfriend is very muscular and he loves it. So, it's you that thinks its masculine, obviously. Stating its masculine, as if that's the truth for all men, when its actually just your opinion. You probably think this, because you've said many times on this forum that you are feminine and anything more than a tiny skinny girl must make you feel even more demasculated.

@Zigzag Idiot hm, interesting

What is a Victim Mentality? "Victim mentality is a psychological term that refers to a type of dysfunctional mindset which seeks to feel persecuted in order to gain attention or avoid self-responsibility. People who struggle with the victim mentality are convinced that life is not only beyond their control, but is out to deliberately hurt them. This belief results in constant blame, finger-pointing, and pity parties that are fuelled by pessimism, fear, and anger. Simply put, having a victim mentality means that you blame other people and circumstances for the unhappiness you feel. How Self-Victimization Develops No one is born with a victim mentality, just as no one is born clinically depressed or anxious. Instead, the victim mentality is an acquired personality trait, meaning that it is the result of early life conditioning and coping mechanisms. Most victims were victimized in some way as children, whether that was through physical abuse, sexual abuse, emotional abuse or psychological abuse. Self-victimization can also develop through the codependent relationships we had with our parents, or simply by observing and adopting the unhealthy victim mentality exhibited by one or more of our family members. However, although what happens to us as children is completely beyond our control, it is our responsibility as adults to step into our power and reclaim responsibility for our happiness. 9 Benefits of Being a Victim Playing the victim actually has a number of juicy perks. These rewards make it very difficult to break out of such a mindset, which is why most victims seem to be so emotionally invested in perpetuating this type of toxic behavior. Some of the perks include the following: Not having to take responsibility for anything Other people lavishing you with attention Other people feeling sorry for you Other people are less likely to criticize or upset you You have the “right” to complain You’re more likely to get what you want You feel interesting because you get to tell people all of your stories You don’t have to feel bored because there’s too much drama going on You get to avoid and bypass anger because you’re too busy feeling sad Can you see some underlying patterns starting to emerge here? Playing the victim actually gives you a lot of power: power to avoid responsibility, power to feel “righteously” sad and persecuted, power to avoid uncomfortable emotions, and power to manipulate other people." .......... "How to Deal With Self-Proclaimed Victims- 1) Don’t get sucked into their feelings (Remember that victims are unconsciously seeking attention and validation. However, when you grant what they want, you will become emotionally entangled with them) 2) Make it their problem (Victim complex sufferers will always find a way to pin blame and responsibility onto another person as a way of bypassing self-responsibility.) 3) Agree wholeheartedly (This practice uses a little bit of reverse psychology: go along with their resistance completely so that you completely blow the problem out of proportion) 4) Don’t give advice (The truth is that victims don’t want to solve their problems, because that would undermine their sense of being victimized!) (More in the article-https://lonerwolf.com/victim-mentality)

@assx95 I know you are hurting and grieving right now from your other thread, I'm sorry.

Sounds good, but what if you must talk to the person your mad/hurt/upset with? What do you personally do then?

Yes, its great ?

Absolutely, and since I very rarely have dream recall. I dont have that issue. It's either waking/relative state or deep sleep nothingness.

Great quote, its Jordan Peterson's I think, right?

"You are always the supreme. But your attention is fixed on things, physical or mental. When your attention is off a thing and not yet fixed on another, in the interval you are pure being. When through the practice of discrimination and detachment, you lose sight of sensory and mental states, pure being emerges as the natural state. By focusing the mind on "I am", on the sense of being, "I am so-and-so" dissolves; "am a witness only" remanins and that too submerges in "I am all". Then the all becomes the One, and the One yourself." Nisargadatta Maharaj

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Absolutely no problem! Take care of yourself ?

I hear ya, many can't stay just friends after a break-up. Hurts too damn much. It's often best to just grieve and move on. There are 5 stages of grief, you may be in the denial phase (ie, I don't want to close any doors I won't hear her knock, etc). The 5 stages of grief and loss are: 1. Denial and isolation; 2. Anger; 3. Bargaining; 4. Depression; 5. Acceptance. People who are grieving do not necessarily go through the stages in the same order or experience all of them. Hang in there❤

I searched, "folded in on itself meme"...lolol..then found it on the top of page with images