TJM1959

I'll start...woman in front of me at the grocery store had eggs, milk, and a candy bar. As the cashier was ringing her up, I handed my money to him and said I'm paying for her. She turned to me with a face of complete be-wilderness, almost horror, as to why a stranger would do such a thing. After her initial shock and the "NO, NO, that's ok" subsided, her faced eased, she blessed me profusely and walked away smiling. The cashier looked directly at me and said are you a millionaire or something, I said only in LOVE mo'fo'! He looked at me again, shaking his head. Made my freakin day!!!

Random Acts of Kindness This is the shit! Everyone should do it, freaks the recipient the freak out. My observation of said acts...human beings do not know how to accept others generosity and kindness. Initially they freak, "OH NO, why would you do that, that's ok". No it ain't cause today I'm buying you your groceries, so accept it. Mind you it was like $5.28 but still, you all should try it and then report back. Yo Spiral, if ya do it fast enough, they can't "use you" for nothing! Be kind and run!!! HA, HA!

My favorite topic for discussion because, selflessness requires one to look outside of one self putting aside your assessments, judgments and opinions to serve another. This is a habit that most humans do not practice simply because they/we do no have the tools/experience/skills required to create an authentic deeper connections, a quieted listening and to look outward. We are consumed by what is most important to us(inward), what and how events and experiences serve our own interests(this ain't a bad thing, it's just something we do). Suggest...create a solid foundation within yourself. Invest yourself into facilitated transformational workshops/seminars, connect with those leadership folks who have developed sustainable results within themselves and others and get some real, hands-on experiential training under your belt. Very doable! Right on! This needs to be your top priority.

@The_spanish_guy You did go straight to the point and I appreciate that. You gotta take really good care of yourself starting now, start something, anything that will assist you in settling yourself down. You may be stuck in a cycle, even a body-producing chemical-reactive cycle that may be interfering with an ability to concentrate/focus other than what you are focusing on now. There are many therapies available that may give you relief so you can begin the incremental improvements, the small steps. You ain't broken, nothing needs to be fixed, you just need to break up the cyclical thought process you are in. Do whatever it takes to care for yourself. I've used meds to do exactly what I suggest, not as a cop out but more of an assist (note my profile pic). Stuck in my head. now get into my heart. So, get committed to yourself to get better starting today. Ok?

Here's the thing, you can and most likely care deeply but why we might have a sense of apathy is because we see no opportunity, events lie outside of our control, a sense of obstruction, because we cannot connect we then begin to show signs of not giving a damn. Not convinced it has a link to childhood trauma bit it may be symptomatic and a result of a social condition. We were taught to be apathetic, it is all around us. Myself, I sometimes just don't give a flying fuck, I care deeply but don't invest any energy or time into an event or situation. Maybe that's more resignation? Nah, I just don't give a fuck and I'm ok with that.

You may appear a big-cup-o-crazy doing this, but if it were to break up something that's got you by the throat, then go for it. There are specific ways to re-experience oneself around what one may have labeled as fearing or fearful. So this is what you want to create, awesome, but still looking for specifics from you about your fears. Why I ask is more about the "conversation" you made up that evokes fear versus a blanket experience of fear.

Why anyone would support or suggest to you go ahead with this is concerning. A "bad trip" could be an unexpected consequence regardless of setting yourself up with a puke bucket and an experienced sitter. If this is because leo shared some deep and profound insights resulting from his use, you may want to rethink if this is really what you want to do, you may have a completely different experience, could trigger some serious shit. Leo was very strategic is his use that may have contributed to him generating a profound experience. No guarantees. Hopefully hear of a positive experience from you. Dang, be safe.

We need to know what might be some of your fears, specifically? Give us some insight into you.

Not necessarily the truth. we can recognize behaviors in others by simply observing the behavior, being witness, does not mean we participated in it at any level or had some kind of first-hand experience. Life is messy. Freakin great idea! Way to connect, contribute, listen, and care for!

Does your question pertain more to the value of forgiveness("unresolved") or something else? Please explain the "unresolved" part.

Just because we are all human...the only way out is through.

Yikes, the internet is all about being bias, searching for "unbiased" is near impossible. Most of the replies here are right on when suggesting you create a connection to people. Expand thyself. Although you may not know of the originals of the beliefs, you need to bust up some stuff(beliefs) you have made up about people and create a powerful experience that says otherwise. There is a very toxic climate on this planet today that speaks to separation and superiority, feeding fears and reinforcing opinions and ultimately, isolation. You need to stretch yourself and maybe get a lil uncomfortable but the experience may prove powerful. Pick one, and go opposite, swing your internal pendulum is the complete opposite direction and then take action. Ask yourself, "what is the experience I want to create?" Ready, set, GO! Very achievable.

I just watched her video, some real tangible stuff re becoming aware of the internal conversations we can create...not sure I get the "vibrations" part tho. What she fails to do is speak about the profound power of a hands-on, all-in, balls-to-the-walls, take a risk, stretching yourself, "experiential" process to bust up limiting beliefs and conversations. Trying to sledge hammer a new concept or idea into our own brains can be exhausting and may not stick, may tend to be topical. One's experience has all our faculties in motion and at play, regardless of the actual experience. So here's a question to you Kimasxi, if you were to have unconditional love, support and you felt heard, what would you want people to accept about you?

Prob not, look at the source, the guy doesn't do any work(almost views mediation as a joke) to validate any of his claims, just quotes/links to outside sources to validate his article/opinion. Somewhat insulting and has no real substance or weight. I gotta ask you though, why would you seek out this kind of information? If you have developed a good practice for yourself, why question ANYONE? Please don't do that, keep working on you, regardless.

My 2 cents...this is a truth and spot-on! We are 100% responsible for everything in our lives, 100% of the time. If you can get your brain around this idea that you are 100% responsible for everything, it may ease some suffering and possibly clear up the idea that things are outside of you. Start with one thing, an idea like a "cold look" means something because IT DOESN'T MEAN A THING. You have put a meaning to it in the form of a judgement, assessment, given it weight/substance and you may have had experiences that validate what a "look" may represent. This "meaning" runs through many areas in our lives. I think the key here is to create new experiences that bust up the existing experiences that have us have what we have.

No, this posting goes against the posting guidelines..."this is not a political forum".

No, the problems won't get bigger, his fundamental belief has been stated in his posting and will most likely remain the same. I hear a request in his sharing, he believes he is imperfect, broken and wants to know how to live with this concern in his life. Asking specifics won't change his belief about himself but may shed light on a deeper context in which he holds himself, how he views himself in the world, so a deeper question could be...what exactly does he believe is wrong about who he is. There's power in sharing, full expression and being honest. That's all. Quote, "Awareness is Curative".

So, you have a base belief or beliefs about yourself...share some of them? Be honest and without reservation.

How do you know this to be true? Many of the ancient teachers and teachings say we are all god, if not god-like. How amazing would a God like existence be. I'm just gonna say this, your posting appears to be on the preachy side. I wouldn't find it preachy if you had replaced the word "you" with "I" resulting in a more powerful sharing or message. It's just me.

@Dan Arnautu Leo provides viewers with his insights, lessons, experiences, interpretations, etc. He also says that he has done extensive work in the domain of transformational work. If stumbling onto his videos without some kind of foundational work(having the "experience" of taking a deep, honest look into ourselves) a person could easily go into a tailspin, a mindfuck or misinterpret/misread the work he presents. There is real no danger to what he presents or speaks into and he clearly wants his message to resonate/impact the viewer. One thing I believe is missing is the human element. We can all sit back on our comfy couch, watch his vids and do what we do with the information, but it's 2D, the human component/connection is missing. A disconnect. We need each other...human beings being human with each other. Getting off my soapbox now.

@Phocus Got any examples...just curious.

@Akeberg Thank you for sharing. What I invite is that we are not in this thing called life, alone. We need other human beings, we need to be cared for, loved, honored and appreciated. This is not a "needy" issue, it's about our organic connections to our fellow humans. Turning inwards, creating isolation can be very unhealthy(speaking from experience). I struggle with the same issue, different circumstances, and have recently decided to seek professional assistance. We have blind spots that others may be able to see. I invite you to use every available process to work thru this. Now may be the time to break up the cycle. Here's what I say to you..."oh what the fuck, go for it anyway!" Not sure how it will reach you but sending good juju your way!

I share this in an effort to understand or maybe just to rant about the collective negative = toxicity of our mainstream culture. A newbie to awareness work, and because I believe that we are all organically connected somehow, I find it extremely challenging to not be sucked into everyone's negative, drama-driven, toxic bullshit. I find myself asking, "how are you really doing today" with the intent to connect with other human beings(being human), to be real, and I'm almost vomited on with victimhood, self pity, drama and narcissistic self absorbed responses. Are you fucking serious? Is this epidemic? Why would you not share with me the amazing shit going on in your life or don't you? A side note: I'm not a receptacle, I just ask the deeper question. I have watched Leo's vid on toxic people and now find an awareness to the depth and this somewhat depressing/powerless/life sucking observation. In closing, where do I get the hazmat suit?

Ok, I'll share...dig industrial.

@Loreena I completely get what you are sharing here. I have a personal contract within myself that says I will always be "honest, loving and caring", regardless, period. This contract/agreement with myself can be a challenge living on this planet but it allows for me to sustain what is most important, an agreement with myself that creates different action. For those of us who do care deeply and passionately about other human beings, like you, can often be derailed or hurt by the transparent/topicle actions of those around us. Could it be a belief about what it is to care deeply for another that would have us wake up in a sweat and saddened, maybe. Or could it be what we experience from others does or does not line up with our core values that may make us wonder if people really do give a shit about the person standing in front of them. On a personal note...based on your postings and replies on this forum, I really get that you care deeply, you are loving, passionate and human beings matter to you. Amazing contribution, you are.