Olafur Thorsteinsson

My emotional buttons: When I do not get enough sleep, then I tend to be lazy the next day and procrastinate. When my brother enters my room while I am learning personal development and start talking to me about some shit like he is talking with his ass makes me feel frustrated. When I meet a hot girl I tend to get inside my head and start thinking all the ways that I could do to not make her dislike me. When I am socializing with many people than I also tend to get inside my head and think of ways that I could do to not make them dislike me. When I think about doing meditation, it always makes me feel so bored. When I experience growth then I am in flow and super happy When I think about Master, the only thing that is boring to me about that are the 10.000 hours that needs to be butted put in here are few of them and there are many more. I am now actively working on my social buttons. I know that I have a negative believe there. My negative believes in social situation: What I have to say has to be perfect Every body needs to give me approval in order for me to feel happy For me it is really important to get approval (it feels like that) If some cool kid sees me talking to the weird kids than he will think that I am a weirdo I am not very funny I feel like I need to impress other people I am not that interesting because I do a lot of weird stuff that the other kids do not do. Things like meditation, yoga, learning personal development, pick up. The new believes and mindset that I want to be with: I am funny I am interesting I am here to give my opinion, not to impress others Trying to hard to fit in with the cool kids is a low conscious behavior I can have fun with anyone I don't judge people as cool or weird I say thins that I find fun. I say thins that I find interesting I am attractive If they like me, good. if they don't like me, good. heads, I win. tails, I win. I am here to have fun and talk about things that I find funny and interesting I love socializing

My emotions? I am feeling confident and congruent Where am I feeling these emotions? I feel the feeling of confident in my head. I feel energy going through my chest. I feel normal in my stomach. My thoughts? I have been thinking about girls and my life the past 1 hour with a powerful voice. I love feeling this way of confident and being able to be congruent with how I am. I was talking to my father about giving value today, and about enlightenment, which I have never done with him. I feel so alife rigt now. My Voice? the voice in my head is confident and powerful is my emotion pushing me in to some thing or dragging me away? it is pushing me into being congruent with how I am what is the signal from my emotion? I don't know. I am not aware of it

Thanks for the insight. I appreciate it. I am also 18 and just starting my life now

Here is exsample: I am afraid of the clubs. 2 I am afraid of talking to Jane in school. What if she dose not like me? 7 I am afraid of what other people think of me if I dance. 3 I am afraid of people thinking that I am a jerk. 8 I am afraid that my frend will think that I am stuppid if I tell them that I am meditating. 4 I am afraid that my parents will dislike me if I tell them that I don't believe in god. 5 I am afraid of what other people think of me. 9 I am afraid of having convertations with strangers. 6 I am afraid of other people thinking that I am weird. 8 I am afraid of what other people think of me if I tell them what I feel and why. 9 I am afraid of what that other people won't like me for me being me. 10 Next wright them down in order: I am afraid of the clubs. 2 I am afraid of what other people think of me if I dance. 3 I am afraid that my frend will think that I am stuppid if I tell them that I am meditating. 4 I am afraid that my parents will dislike me if I tell them that I don't believe in god. 5 I am afraid of having convertations with strangers. 6 I am afraid of talking to Jane in school. What if she dose not like me? 7 I am afraid of people thinking that I am a jerk. 8 I am afraid of other people thinking that I am weird. 8 I am afraid of what other people judging me bad. 9 I am afraid of what other people think of me if I tell them what I feel and why. 9 I am afraid of what that other people won't like me for me being me. 10 Next is coming up with a plan: I am afraid of the clubs: I will go with my friends to the clubs friday and sunday this week I am afraid of what other people think of me if I dance: This week when I go to the clubs with my friends than I am going to danse a little bit on the friday, and I am going to danse more on the sunday I am afraid that my frend will think that I am stuppid if I tell them that I am meditating. I am going to tell my friend that I am meditatiing and telling them from all of the benifits of meditation I am afraid that my parents will dislike me if I tell them that I don't believe in god: sit down with my parents alone when there is a good mood in them and tell them that I don't believe in god and why I am afraid of having convertations with strangers: next time whe I go to the clubs with my friends, than I will approatch some strangers and start taking to them and having fun with them I am afraid of talking to Jane in school. What if she dose not like me?: I am going to talk to Jane at school and ask her out with me I am afraid of other people thinking that I am weird. go to some starbucs and when it is time for me to order my coffy, then I am going to stand there as long as I can looking at the list of things they have and make every body get anoyed of me I am afraid of what other people judging me bad: next time when I go to the clubs with my friends than I will talk to strangers and once in a while I will make a animal sound while I am having a convertation with them I am afraid of what other people think of me if I tell them what I feel and why: if I am feeling angry, than I tell somebody from it and why, and I do not try to hide it. If I fell depresst, then I tell somebody from it and why. If I feel happy, than I tell somebody from it with a smile on my face, and why I feel so damm happy. I am afraid of what that other people won't like me for me being me: I am going to tell people the truth about me. I am going to tell the truth to everyone that I have ever lied to. I am going to tell people from the things that I find interestin and funny, not what I think they find interesting and funny. if somebody asks me a personal question, then I am going to answer it honestly. I am going to become honest and congruent person. If people like me, good. If people don't like me, good. heads I win. Tails I win. Now go and do your home work. You know that you will grow from it and that this is just what you want. P.S. It would be great if you would share your goals here

Great tequnique But excaly, it is the emotions that create your toughts, and you can change them beck with your thinking. What you see and experience travel first trough your emotional brain and that to the rational brain witch you think with. This means that you get all emotional be for you think., so the emotions addicts the thinking. If you think conciously, that you can change the emotion in your body. it is called "emotionsl buttons". The good think is that you can train you "emotional buttons" with things like vizualisation and affirmation. Meditation is also a good technique. I can prove it to you You have been scared because some one shocked you, right? Example. "you are in a room doing something. Sundently a lion enters the room and you get shocked and you start turning your head and you body to the next window or dor and you start runing towards the window or dor before the lable "there is a lion in the room" enters your mind. This means that you react before you think" You have experenced this Someone comes behind you and start screaming and your body reacts in shock to diffend itself against that person that is screaming, and then is calmes down when you see that it's just your friend.

I recomend you do meditation. Thats it.

Yes I thing self-esteem is realy important, and also it is attractive to girls. I recomand you read "The six pillars of self-esteem". I also have the same problems and I am working on them. Socializing often is the key. "The key to success is practice, practice, practice" Quote for Leo Gura. I had a insight this week in to my social skills. It that I am negativly motivated when I am socializing. Example with the negative motivation: "I meat a girl that I am realy attracted to and I start talking to her, but I am worried about that she will think negatvily about me, and think that I am some kind of a weirdo that has no confidence. I tell her a stroy in a way so she will find it funny, or at least so she does not think that I am weird. So the only think that I am doing is worring about that, and trying to find things to say to deffend myself from her thinking that I am a weirdo , or some kind of jerk". Now I am more focusing on being positive motivated wisch is somethig like this: "I meat a friend and I start to talk to him. I want to have fun, so I focus on enjoying myself with him. I tell him a story in a way that is funny to me. I tell him from a interesting thing that I heard of witch is meditation and I tell him from meditation in a way that sounds interesting to me. if I do not have anything to say, than I do not have anything to say, and I don't try to find anything to say unless it is boing to me and then I start to find some thing to say that is funny to me. So what I am doing is I am thinging about having funn for myself, and having this convertation interesting for myself" the prinsable her is "you have to find it funny first before you say/do it in order for the other person to find it funny. You have to find it interesting before you say/do in order for the other person to find it interesting". this is the rule of thumb. I don't think the one girl will help you much. Some times it works, sometimes not. if you look at the percent of divorces, then you will see that they are 50% What I am curently doing is pick up (I live in a 700 people town now, so I realy can't hahahaha. But I am going to move to a big city soon and there I can practice my social skils batter). Pick up is the Best way that I have found to batter the social skills, get rid of social anxiety and for me to find the woman of my dreams. It have experienced so mutch growth and fast growth from it, so I can't other that highly recomand it to you. But be careful, you have to do pick up with a lot of responsability. My goal is to move to Las Vagas for 2-4 years to practice my social skills and to have fun. P.S. Leo also did pick up for some years and experienced a lot of growth. He said that the pick up gave him the most growth that he had goten.

My emotions? This emotions is subtle. I do not have the word for it, but it is a victim feeling Where am I feeling these emotions? I feel normal evertywhere, but there is something strange about it. My thoughts? I saw that there was no one had answered, or visited. so I when in to a little reactive mode. I was aware of it, and I was aware of the voice in my head changing to voice of a victime. Now I have concioussly change my voice to more confident and assertive voice. I was righting a post where a guy was asking if he should do pick up or not. I writed that I would do it if I where him, because it will give a lot of growth and fast. I know that many people do not like pick up and thing that it's for rapists. so I was a little nerwous puting it out. I also know that if I train more pick up, than I will get rid of this people pleasing mentality. My voice? It is reactive and has a voice of a victem. I changed it to more of a confident and dominant voice. Is my emotion pusing me in to some thing or dragging me away? I don't know. I am not aware of it now What is the signal from my emotions? That I have a victim mentality I need to practice myself to stop blaming other peopl and specialy blaming other people for being joudging me.

I would do it if I where you, and it will get rid of your social anxiety. I have the same problem and a lot of social anxiety. I have seen my social anxiety be improving. I like to 100% congruent way in pick up where you are yourself, free from outcome, socializing with everyone, even the ugly old woman how is sitting in the corner (it scared the shit out of me when I did this the first time). it means that you do not fake how you feel or anything at all about you. Let say I go out and I feel like shit, I feel like no girls will ever love me, I feel social anxiety, and I feel approach anxiety. What I will do is that I go up to the next girl I see no matter how she looks and start talking to her "hey, I feel like shit coming here and taliking to you, I am so afrait of talking to girls and I have so mutch social anxiety". I do not try to change my voice, or my body language because I am not there to try to make her like me, I am there training myself to be myself, not trying to be someone eles to be liked. She might stay there and talk to me for few minutes or she might run the fuck away from me. Now imagen when you can be yourself, feeling the flow, feeling happy, feeling outside of your head, you don't need approval from girls because you are happy just the way you are. Then you wil start to feel people be drawn into your energy (not every body, you will almos always find haters, but you don't mind them) and then you are on the top of the pick up. pick up basicly is a tool to teach you that you don't need approval, that you can be youself around other people, and that you can be happy just the way you are. This is the things that self-help is teaching. It is teatching you how to gain core confidence, how to get more self-esteem, how to be more funny, how to be more social, how to deal with social anxiety, how to be more self-aware, how to be more happy, how to stop being a people pleaser, how to be better in realationship (pick up helps in realationships, it sets up the foundation of being attractive). You will learn all this with pick up and a lot faster. so it-s not just about getting the girl This approach to pick up gets me in the flow where I get out of my head, I can be me and say what is on my mind and do want I want to do and the girls tents to like it and be attracted to me (I am not a good looking guy) I use pick up as a tool to bettering my social skils, to get rid of social anxiety, to get more outcome independent, and to be myself with out needing to thing "will they like me". I also use it to get layd, yes (I know that it will not make me happy nomatter how many girls I sleep with). But what I want to do with pick up is to be more attracted to the opposide sex and when I find that smart buitiful women that I am looking for, than I can be confident that I can get her and that I can be a good boyfriend to her with out needing to be thinking in ther relationship "does she stil love me", "mabey she is sleeping with other guy right now", "what should I do if she brakes up with me, then I am screwed. how the fuck am I going to get other girl to love me". This is why I do pick up and I know that it is my ego that drives it all. it's your choose if you think it is worth your time

I have been masterbating to much these last days and that is probably whay I feel so lazy right now and whay I am procastinating I am comiting myself to not masterbat for a week now. I will tell you guys from my resoults and if I make it

Name: Ólafur Tryggvi Age: 18 Gender: Male Location: Fellabær, Iceland (a smal town of 700 people) Occupation: student Marital Status: Dating Kids: No Hobbies: Traveling, learning personal development, learning new languegs, meditating, reading, journaling, volenteer in rescueing people in the mountains and helping people out that realy need help, volenteer in AFS exchange program. I started 1.5 years ago. It all started with this thought in my mind "I am so horable with girls" and I was also bad at socialising in general. So I started looking for "what do girls want" on the internet. I found some hypnotizing bullshit first. I found RSD when I was looking for something on the internet and started learning from them and stoped this hypnotizing bulshit because it didn't feel right. The same week I found Leo. I was looking for the "law of attraction" movie on youtube, but it was alredy geting late and this moive was too long. So I found video from Leo on the side, shorter version about the movie. I watched it and it was so fucking boring to me. I was judging him as nerd how did never get laid in my mind, but I still keept whatching it to the end. In the end he sad something about "and come visit my webside, there I have some more stuff about pesonal growth..... ect" (you know what I am talking about if you have been whatching hes videos). And I was just like "whooo that is what I was looking for" and whent on his side and I have not stoped whatching hes video sense then and I have a great respect for him now and he is the reason why almost the only thing that I think about to day is self-improvements, my emotions, how I can grow myself, pelaning to grow myself, thinking about my thinking patterns and how they are stoping me from acctiving my best authentic-self. Personal challenges I've overcome: Shyness to other people (being other than myself) Over coming people pleacing mentality Socialising without being in my head all the time (am still working on it) Attracting girls Exchange student in Brasil Learn portugues Telling my parents from when I got so drunk in Brasil that I tryied to kill me (It was tharder to tell the truth to my parents then the experience becaus I could been send home for this. I am shamed of it) Over coming people pleacing mentality Telling other people from peronal development and meditation (It is so hard for me because nobody that I know does it) Better habbits The fear of what other people think of my mouth becaus it is awry when I smile abuse when I whas in my childhood What I'm working on now: Being authentic to others and stop all lieing (if I want to say something but I don't say it becaus I thing the person would judg me for it is a lie in my mind becaus then I am holding something from the other person or hidding myself and that is lieing and self-destructing) finding my life purpose Being funny better in socialising changing my negative motivations to positive finding friends how have interest in learnig personal growth