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Bed time: 22:30 Streak: 2

Bed time: 22:30 Streak: 1

Bed time: 22:30 Streak: 0, because I didn’t complete some tasks of my routine

I’m starting today as I just came back from holidays: Bed time: 23:00 Streak: 0

Daily completing my evening routine on time THE GOAL I have quite a specific evening routine for every day of the week. I am pretty good at going through it, but more often than not I'll start and end late with it, which results in me going late to bed, which in turn makes me lose sleep, or wake up late. My goal is to go through all the tasks on my evening routine every day of the week on time, ie. start and end on time. REPORTING FREQUENCY I will be reporting on a daily basis. EVIDENCE I'll post here every eveing before 22:30, which is my sleep time. EXCEPTIONS The only exceptions I will allow is if there are evening events that truly don't allow me to go through the routine on time, eg. a late work-related dinner; a travel schedule; an important family reunion.

Hi everyone! In my own experience I have set goals and made resolutions many times, but it was always when I did them in a group setting that I managed to stay consistent and achieve what I wanted, therefore I would like to start an Actualized.org Forum accountability group for all of you who have recently set up goals for the new year. The dynamic will be as follows: Select only your most important/meaningful/challenging 2025 resolution (only one! this is important, as more may overwhelm you). It will be allowed to add a 2nd goal Make a first post sharing here what it is, be specific (eg. bike every day to work; regularize my eating times by having dinner every day at 19:00; meditate 20 minutes every morning; call my parents every Sunday to catch-up; or something similar) In your first post also explain how often you will be reporting your progress in this group, whether or not you will allow yourself exceptions, and what evidence you will show. In other words, the idea is that you keep a streak, so you'll have to specify the frequency, what events would grant you a "streak freeze" (eg. being sick), and as evidence you may for example decide to share a picture or screenshot of something, a chart, or just say you'll rely on your own honesty to report that you did it. Report in this thread as often as you commit to, making sure to include your streak. If you miss an instance, re-start your streak. Please refrain from posting anything other than your progress updates, including replies to others. If you really want to make an additional comment, include it at the bottom of your update post, tagging people if necessary. Adding a 2nd goal to this accountability group will only be allowed once you reach 3 months of a consistent streak (if you're reporting daily this would be somewhere around a 90 day streak, if you're reporting weekly it will be a 12 week streak, and so on) See my first post below as an example (try to use a similar format). If you have any questions, it would be better to PM me to avoid cluttering this thread. Good luck everyone, and may we all reach our goals!

@Hojo And do you manage to do so consistently? because sometimes I manage to wake up immediately like you describe as well, but I fail in the long term. @Rigel Thank you, I'm not really into coffee, but I may be able to find something equivalent that I really look forward to (more than a bit of extra sleep). @BipolarGrowth Thank you, I never have breakfast hehe let alone breakfast in bed! But the shift in identity/self image may be good to explore...

@ExplorerMystic Thank you for your reply & book recommendation - I'll check it out! @QVx My job is not what is causing me to have lack of consistency in my sleeping pattern. I am supposed to work Monday to Friday full time, ideally this would happen from 9am to 5pm, but nobody is micro-managing me, and nobody cares at what time I decide to work as long as the work gets done, which means that if I start working at 11am, I will be done around 7pm, with no time left for much more than commuting back home, cooking, having dinner, and going back to sleep. If I woke up early and started early, then I would have much more time left during the afternoon to do things that I like. I would like to do that consistently, and not sporadically as I do now.

@ExplorerMystic My job is very demanding, but very flexible with working times, which makes it extra problematic, since I will often start late, and end late. Practically speaking, how did you go about creating "discipline" for yourself?

I've tried and failed many times to consistently wake up at 6am. Some times I succeed for a few days in a row, and then something comes in the way, and it isn't always insufficient amount of sleep. Some days I go back to sleep after putting my alarm off, some days I wake up and stay in bed for longer than I had intended distracting myself with my phone or whatever, reasons and circumstances vary, but at the end of the day, I fail to be consistent. I feel like this is one of the main hurdles that is currently keeping me from succeeding at other goals I have, to those who have reliably conquered the early mornings: how did you do it?

Traps in spirituality: Feeling superior than others / being arrogant because you are following a certain practice. Related: believing that a spiritual practice will make you "special" - no, it won't make you anything... if you're lucky it will end you. Being convinced that you're following "the right practice", and looking at other paths as inferiors (judging others). Underestimating the amount of work and level of seriousness required to be a sincere seeker. Turning spirituality into your identity, ie. picking only the superficial "cliché" type of behaviours (changing diets, outfits, ways of speaking - but no serious practice) Related: Going into spirituality to belong to a social group. Taking on a serious spiritual practice when you're too emotionally unstable, or don't have your basic needs in life figured out. Failing to question even your favourite teachers and gurus. Related: failing to seriously consider the advice you receive from teachers and gurus. Believing that a small progress on your path is the end of it. Imagining progress. Getting derailed in entertaining occult practices. Failing to recognise ego backlash for what it is. The devil is sneaky, and it will often convince you that you need a break from your practice. Related: overdoing things, brute-forcing whatever practice to the point that is damaging in whatever way. Half-assing any practice: being convinced that by reading a tiny bit on it or watching a YouTube video you totally know what to do.

SWAG

This is what you are fantasizing about looks like in reality. Is this what you really want? Be realistic about it.

@fridjonk nice! thanks

Thank you for your tips @fridjonk! Did you set an active intention for your trip before taking them? Or did it happen naturally for you?