Sarah Marie

Did you get your thyroid checked in conjunction to the cholesterol?

I am a medium and connect people to their passed loved ones on a daily basis, so I believe in some sort of reincarnation, but don't really believe in the teachings of Buddhist view on the timing. If I remember right they believe that you come back after 7 days on the other side. I've connected to spirit who has been on the other side for decades.

Were you married? Kids?

I guess If the core values are the same it makes it easier for sure. Common interests too. For me, my interests have changed completely in the past 5 years so it's hard to predict.

Yes, I totally agree. Which makes me wonder how marriages even work long term.

I just started a topic about this search "Personal Development In Relationships" I got really interesting suggestions . I have given it much thought lately because it's starting to feel like my work is a lifestyle even more than just work.

@AlexB Thank you My husband doesn't even know what self actualized means, we are totally opposite. He is more traditional wanting the stay at home wife who cooks and cleans. Which is like opposite of me. It's pretty interesting to figure that out.

They are out there, I promise.

Yay, someone remotely close to me! Lake Tahoe area

Thanks for sharing with me your views. I agree with the suggestions above. Suppressing isn't the answer.

Instead of approaching it as I am better than him, consider buying into the idea that everyone is exactly where they need to be on their own journey. If you can really grasp this idea, you will learn to respect everyone. Everyone is exactly where they are supposed to be in their own journey, just as you were before you picked this path.

Why do you view this as toxic?

Thank you for this, it does explain it very well. I haven't really brought it up because I wasn't sure how to approach it without sounding like I want to control this situation or I was mad/jealous. So I just observe it.

Oh okay I understand. I think it depends on the female and where she is personally at. I'd say it's a fair assumption that for 90% of females today in our society, if friends approve its a turn on. Perhaps something about being accepted. I'm sure someone can explain some sort of theory or psychology behind this. But that's just my observation.

I want to make sure I understand the question clearly, do you mean how important is it to females how man acts around other people including females and males?

I agree with Leo 100%.

Good question. I don't get jealous at all. I feel like jealousy is caused by something within that needs to be worked through if it keeps popping up. My husband is the biggest introvert you have ever met so you'd never know on the surface he is a wild man. He doesn't have that natural flirtatious personality like I do so whenever a women hits on him he is hilariously awkward. Usually, I actually try to help him out a bit with how to at flirt or accept a compliment from a women. All my friends on multiple occasions have mentioned how they wish their husband was like mine (one actually said she wishes she could "sit on his face" LOL). I don't find it attractive nor do I get jealous. I kind of just think it's natural. I got married really young so way before I ever questioned what my personal beliefs of marriage were. Now, I don't really feel like it feels natural for me to be with one person forever (although I'm currently questioning if this is from my ego or inner awareness). Maybe I'd feel different if it was with a different person? I am not totally sure. But I don't ever really get jealous of someone. I can appreciate attraction on any level. I will say, he has a coworker who has has some sort of sexual energy with. I can feel it in the room, so can everyone else. It doesn't make me jealous, insecure, or turn me on, but it is a different type of energy then I'm used to. I might have a better answer for you if you ask in 6 months because this is something I think about a lot. What is this energy I feel? Is it my Ego? Are we supposed to have one sexual partner for life?

I can relate to your feelings. I have never actually felt like I have made a meaningful connection with anyone my age in until after college. I always felt not that I was better, but I was different. I wasn't interested in getting smashed every night or talking about the latest celebrity gossip. I found most of my friends (and they still are) about 4 decades older than me. I never really understood why until I got older. Here is my suggestion to you, find a different crowd. One way more knowledgable then you. A meditation group? Keep an open mind with those your age too, you can still learn very valuable things from them. Check out Leo's video to see what I mean here:

I'm 25 years old and I can tell you what attracts me to a man if it helps. Intelligent Confident Good Work Ethic Either knows his life purpose or is working toward it Takes care of himself (food, gym etc.) Integrity Honesty Good in bed (and can handle me) Openminded Humble Good at communicating Positive attitude Shares my passion for knowledge Shares my passion for personal development, self-mastery, etc. Resliliance Driven Shares my family values and non traditional parenting views Can appreciate I like to be completely independent in a relationship (finances, personal time, education) Compassionate Here are some things I am not attracted to or don't care about: How much money a man makes What type of car he drives How big his dick is How big his muscles are Drinking/Drugs Sits on the couch watching TV for hours or playing hours of video games Excessive neediness Not being humble- I'm just going to touch on this twice because nothing turns me off as much as a man speeding in his lifted truck, lol. Is engaged in uncessary drama (Facebook, friends business, etc.) Is into fighting people to make a point. Yells or gets angry If you have questions ask me, I'm an open book.

When I do my readings (I am a medium and connect with those who have passed over) I see spirit with my third eye.

Well I mean I definitely watch all his videos. Up until this forum I literally only had Leo who spoke my "language". Now I have a bunch of people to connect with, who make me feel like I have so much to learn, it's humbling. I guess I have never thought of it this way.

@Rita this is such an interesting approach. What if your boss were female? Does it have to be a man?

Thanks for this suggestion, I'm going to take the time to do this. I'd say we're really good team except maybe our hobbies don't match up? But I view my passion the same as my career. Out of the three you mentioned I'd say the only "need" not being met would be intellectual/spiritual. But I also and not sure I feel I should ask this of him.

Check out a sensory deprivation tank. It may only help for an hour or two but I'm sure that will be welcomed relief!

My husband seems to be supportive. Our relationship is definitely healthy. He always supports my (never ending) continuing education, meditation time, etc. He has mentioned on more then one occasion how he's never seem anyone as determined and focused on their passion as me. His passions are different then mine, he really loves sports (which I totally respect, but naturally we see each other less and less). In all other aspects we seem to make a great team. Our parenting styles are similar, we both split chores/income, I am more "book smart" while he can literally build anything. Ying and Yang would be one way to describe us in general. Perhaps I just needed a new perspective to change my state of mind, thank you all for replying.