Sarah Marie

@carrotqueen it depends which platform you are using. I would choose 1-2 to start and focus on them. For instance if you have an Instagram account for your business and you are trying to connect with others in your area pick 4-5 keywords that describes your business/hobbies etc. Think about a niche market you want to appeal to. Then you create hashtags for that keyword. For instance mine might be Medium- #sprit #calltoheaven etc. Lake Tahoe- #tahoeliving Breast feeding Mom- #breastisbest Like this, but choose 30 for each keyword. Then, say when I post a picture of the Lake I would comment underneath with all 30 of my hashtags. Be mindful that you'll want to focus on hashtags that are not as popular so people who are talking about the same thing don't push yours right out. I will often also spend 10 minutes going to my chosen hashtags and liking others post within those hashtags.

What is "Whisy Whashy"?

@a e l i My therapist once told me, "It is not your job to fix people. Who are you to say where they should or shouldn't be on their own journey? You are not God, it is none of your business, you are intruding on their lessons they need to learn in life. It's not your business what others think of you, nor is it your job to change others thoughts." Thats all she had to say. I leave people to be.

it doesn't feel like any sensations I have words for. I can only explain it as pure contentment and no emotions. I'm not happy or sad. But when it's done I instantly get fear of what just happened. Then I feel guilty I just viewed my son as only energy and had no emotional connection to him when it happened. Then I go on a downward spiral feeling like I'm crazy, lol.

I always get this tingle on my forehead, I went to the doctor for it actually. He told me that nothing was wrong and he wasn't sure what could cause it. I am just now slowly going to a raw diet. I eat two raw vegetarian meals a day and with one meal I still eat lean meat. Another weird thing that happens is that when I ask a question in my mind I will feel a breeze past my left or right ear. I swear I have a spirit in another realm helping me because consistently when I feel the breeze over my left ear it means no, over my right it means yes. So I actually base a lot of my big life choices off of this. Hasn't lead me wrong yet. It does feel like I have an out of body experience, it feels extremely balanced. I am very content out of my body. My therapist did a lot of work with helping me feel like I am my body but we didn't make any big breakthroughs, I really just feel like a soul trapped in a body. Another time something really weird happened was when I got pregnant, literally the night I conceived I had a similar experience. I could see myself and my husband sleeping in bed (looking down from the ceiling) and my grandmother (who has passed) came into the room and I saw her holding a baby in a blanket (it was blue) and she leaned over and put the baby in my stomach. She was made up of millions of little atom looking energies, but I could tell it was her. The next day I told my husband I thought I'd been dreaming and didn't think anything else of it. When I found out I was pregnant I was amazed and now I don't think it was a dream. I have an 18 month old son. Whenever it happens I feel elevated, but not like in a separate room seeing through walls or anything. I feel like I can see things in other rooms depending on how high I am when it happens. During a group meditation it happened and I saw my entire town, scared me so bad I haven't told a soul.

The idea in doing this is not to erase trauma, it's to acknowledge it. Psychotherapist use similar techniques in conjunction to tapping methods which help move memories to different parts of the brain. Eventually after reliving the traumatic situations enough, you will learn take the emotion/feelings away from a trauma. I have done it with two separate therapist for childhood trauma, all which were extremely painful to relive. I am extremely resliant which is why a therapist would choose this method for me. However, like I said it can send someone straight to psychosis. More then likely, if you had a deep routed trauma like I did, you won't even be able to identify it on your own. I had no memories of any childhood trauma until we dug and then I could remember every single detail. It triggered an automatic respons (increase heart rate, pupil dialation, sweating, shortness of breath) when I was doing this work and there is no way I could have navigated my way through that without a therapist.

This can be dangerous without the help of a therapist to certain people, it can send them straight to psychosis. So just be mindful if you have experienced server trauma it might be best to do this with professional help.

Every single day I wake up and when I do my quick 5 minute mindfulness routine I try to figure out the best way to balance this out. How to be a wife, business owner, student, mother, work on myself etc. I feel like I do a pretty good job and I will say there are a couple things I have noticed that makes it easier to balance: Schedule- I seriously even pencil in "me time" Consistency- I notice that if I keep my schedule remotely the same I can add smaller things (like 10 minute meditations) that add benefits. Mindfulness- When I am doing something I am 100% focused on that not looking at my phone or day dreaming Listen to my body- I slow down at the first signs of feeling too tired, before I get full blown sick or worn out Overall, I feel like it's a huge challenge and always has been a huge pull on my heart between business woman vs. family woman. Somehow this far I have made it work. I do not think I want another child though. I'm to selfish and I'm okay saying that.

My toddler is 18 months old and he watches me meditate. He will mimic my breathing (he also does yoga too, and he's pretty good) but can only sit still for a minute or two. If you have older kids something I learned was to help them visualize grounding. Have them pretend they are on a boat and have them throw their anchor into the water and with every breath out have them visualize releasing their anxiety or energy (might have to call it their sillies/ wiggles depending on age) into the ocean (you can ask the what colors they see, etc.) talk them through it and talk about their hands, legs, breath etc. to bring awareness to their body. I have used this with many children who's parents have claimed they have ADD/ADHD and can't sit still. It works very well and it's easy for parents to do as well. Also, it is very helpful to help them identify their feelings. I always validate my son. Something along the lines of "I understand you are feeling frustrated at the moment and I'm sorry about that. However, you can not play with batteries because they are harmful, would you rather play with this ball or read a book?" 9 times out of 10 he easily redirects, the other times it's usually because I missed my window for nap time and he is overly tired.

@Leo Gura Fiesty

@lilacwest @Daphne From what I understand from my brief research it has to do with the idea of digging up repressed emotions that we have learned to put in our "shadow". Its really interesting to me because I think my repression of certain negative thoughts etc. are holding me back some. I also think my therapist did some type of shadow work with me, we would dig really deep into how certain situations made me feel (mostly I came up with worthless) and work through them. I'm super excited to learn more.

@Pyrrhocorax graculus Super interesting.

THANK YOU! I am going to look into this.

@abrakamowse Don't worry I'm sitting here asking myself questions too. LOL.

@Leo Gura Right, I'm going to do this. Seriously, thank you so much.

Yes it completely scares shit out of "me"!! Still trying to wrap my mind around the fact that the only thing real was this experience and not the other way around.

@Mia I haven't noticed any regularity at all. This last time it happened I was looking at a house my parents are considering buying. My husband was snapping his fingers at me asking if "anyone was in there".

@abrakamowse I have not really actively "wanted" any of this really. I often times actually find myself wanting to be like my husband who is totally content working 9-5, watching TV, etc. Haha, it seems a lot easier. But it feels like its in my blood like I said, to question and figure out things. My brain often wants something scientific, so learning about most of this takes work for me. I feel like I am open to anything, but then I need to understand it. Which is the part that is looking like I need to just let it *be*. Thanks again everyone.

First, thanks for not suggesting I need to go see my therapist like my family does, LOL. Second, thank you for your responses. I often feel like something is wrong with me because I look at my husband and those around me who seem to literally have nothing going on like this. Not even a little bit.

I try so hard to have this mind state but I swear it runs in my blood to search deeper. If I didn't search for answers I would have never known I could help connect people to another realm. Maybe that is what's best, to leave it. But it terrifies me, what if it happens while I'm driving!

I don't think this is enlightenment, I don't even fully understand what enlightenment means so I'm not sure that'd be it. That is something I plan on working towards in the future but right now I am still trying to figure out what my ego is. LOL.

@Kazman 50 shades of Grey fan here too. I like your idea of the helicopter ride. Make it as personal as you can. Pay attention to things like her favorite color, music on the car ride etc. Then take her back to the hotel, tie her up and blow her mind with some dirty sex!

Hi @Kazman I am here and I have an 18 month old and meditation is something I do every single day. I have to squeeze it on where I can. Usually while I am breastfeeding I do my grounding work. I also go to the gym everyday and at the end I will add 15 minutes of meditation. The first 10 minutes of his nap I use for meditation daily. Every Thursday I go to a meet up for group meditation which is the only time I have a full hour. I used to meditate for one hour daily, but this is the best I can do for now. Normally I can't get into a super deep meditation due to the short times I have, but at least it's enough for me to check into my feelings and draw awareness to my body. I really notice a huge difference if I stop. I am teaching my toddler to meditate too, he can sit still for 30 seconds while mimicking my breathing which I'm super proud of! My husband has never meditated and shows no interest in it, but he knows it really is important to me so if I need a full hour I will leave and go into the woods and reconnect.

I also used to struggle with addiction issues (drugs, co-dependency, etc.). I noticed how you mentioned genetics and environmental factors as the main reason for your addiction. However, if you are able to dig deeper I am sure you will find the real source of the addiction. For me, it was past traumas which once I worked through with a therapist I was able to move on. Although I also had genetics and environmental factors, it was important for me to take responsibility for myself and my actions. I highly suggest getting to a psychologist, there were problems I didn't even know I had she was able to help me with. Forever I was frustrated with why I couldn't just stop and I seemed to be replacing one addiction with another all equally unhealthy. Once she educated me and helped me work through them, I felt so free. Good luck to you.

Hi, I think perhaps you are confused. There is an entire sub forum dedicated to just this. You can see and post it here: http://www.actualized.org/forum/forum/6-serious-emotional-problems/ Please let me know if you have any further questions. Thanks, Sarah