Aakash Vijayan

Is it considered less masculine? I have a girlfriend currently and ive had only sex with one woman till now and im 25. I feel like maybe im missing out. Also i have insecurities about masculinity and feel like im a manchild. I have a lot more familial responsibilities now and i want to not focus on the "playing the field" matter anymore. Also i feel like 30s are too late to play the field.

I was rewatching one of leo's videos " 40 signs you are neurotic" and i had an aha moment that sort of explained everything that was going wrong in my life. But it feels extremely tricky to me now. Meaning i've been this way for so long that i don't know how to be any other way. My situation is sort of like this: Instead of the word "religion" mentioned in the video at any instance, in my version its "actualized.org video content". I have been watching Leo's content all the way from 2013 and have been watching it *drum roll* religiously till present . So while i thought i was advancing in my personal development i was just acquiring ideas and living in denial of reality/present moment for 5 years now. and I have gotten neurotic to such an extent that i've consulted a psychotherapist and she says i have "depressive traits/ episodes". i have almost 85-90% of the signs mentioned in the videos. (in spite of repeated warnings of not to take these ideas as beliefs in the videos, beause i thought it didnt apply to me). Now it feels clear as day to me, but i don't know how to go about it now. Any advice guys? @Leo Gura

I gave up by not going to an important exam (medical school) out of anxiety today. For the past 10 years of my life I've not been able to get shit done and have zero discipline in any aspect of life, and have been just getting by last minute efforts. All of that has cumulated over time and well.....karma. Most of my peers are 2-3 years ahead of me and I feel inferior to almost every human walking on the street. My parents seems to think my anxiety is voluntary and that I'm not "manning up"and I feel like they don't get it that's its sort of automatized now ( had my first panic attack one month back). I try my best usually not to give up on something and not care about what others think but currently its a 180° shift on those two aspects. I feel weak, inferior, being judged upon, being looked down upon by family and friends, incompetent and emasculated ( Im a 25 yr old male). I don't know at what point I got into this victim mentality and I'm just filled with self hatred. Even though I don't want to at all, I find that my willpower gets depleted very easy and I give up easily. Some part of me wants to tell myself that I gave up the exam to protect my sanity but my self judgement says that I'm being a chronic pussy. If I didn't fail so many exams I would've graduated 2 years back and had a job(doctor) by now. I want to able to get out of this even if my folks don't get it. My self esteem is at an all time low and my self respect is non existent . Also I know leo has many videos regarding matters related to this, but I find that I don't take any action based on it and just listen to it feel good, so that's another flaw Ive recognized that at this point of time I need to exert emotional labour , but I don't know what it means exactly and I had started a topic in the forum regarding the same (asking what it is essentially) Another point mentioning is that I realized like 3/4ths into the whole thing that I'm not in the field of my passion, but I'm doing it so that I can support myself and my folks in the future and make some capital to make a shift later down the line. Any advice?

@Elisabeth i ended up doing the same thing again today. im going to get some help, coz its fucking me up a lot now.

@DesertRat To make music.

What are the some of the pitfalls or deceptions( for the want of a better word) that one would encounter with knowledge of one's MBTI type? i guess in simple terms would be how much to sort of read into it and what aspects of it should be disregarded? Because I get the feeling that once one knows their MBTI type then change in some aspects becomes really difficult. Any thoughts?

Avideo on some basic stuff as what self inquiryy and introspection and setting up habits around these. ive seen there are advanced ones on these. but a dedicated newbie video would be a good start.

This term gets used in Leo's videos a lot. To exert emotional labour. Sometimes i seem to get it. But sometimes it seems to me like it means to suppress one's emotions to get something done. Can someone shine some light on this? Including any nuances associated with the term?

A Video on boredom

How can a male INFP take ownership of their life? My minds seems to go crazy and I get extremely anxious and stressed out in my life and im trying to find some solution to this problem? Please help. Feel like im stuck. Any other male INFPs who can shine some light on to this problem?

@Mad Cat It maybe an obvious thing to other people, but you have no idea what you've done to me with that reply. I realized ive been doing that for a year or two and have been consisitently failing in practical stuff in my life. Thank you

i am currently a medical student from India, and i keep failing classes because i don't think medicine is my thing anymore. Im consistently failing to get shit done in my life and i tend to live in dreamerland and conceptual land. I'm finding it difficult to take action be it in health, nutrition and especially in my school work and exams. I keep failing again and again and this gives me a lot of stress and anxiety. About a year back I had an insight that made me realize that all i had done up until that point in time for external validation. Validation from my parents, friends and women etc. Im drawn towards making music and being a musician but it would be unstrategic for me given my life situation to just drop my current endeavour in medicine. So i thought i should strategically make some money in my current field by first becoming a doctor and then probably making the shift some years down the line. which means i need to get shit done with what i have. I feel like i'm lacking the motivation and the energy to get anything done and now i'm in this vicious cycle of anxiety and emotions that keep from getting anything done and keep quitting and backing off when it gets too "scary" for the want of a better word. And following the "pinterest your MBTI type" has made find out what my MBTI type is and it feels like it describes me to a tee but the descriptions from different sources say that my dominant preferences are this way and "i have to accept and incorporate them" So last week i had my first panic attack in life because i feel really lost and i feel like getting stuff done, generating results are harder for me than most other people and im going deeper and deeper into victim territory

I usually watch Leo's videos and all the advanced stuff as well and grasp it on an intellectual level (not even close to embodying any of it by light years). With respect to the question if posted i feel like its related to his video titled "How to not be a victim- Part 2". I dont know how to go about it being an INFP male. Why i mention the whole MBTI thing is because it is pretty accurate at describing my personality. I arrived at this conclusion by trying out Leo's "pinterest your MBTI" blog insight.